Shyness
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Is This Battle Worth It?
Posted on 12/29/2021
Q: I have six-month- and thirty-two-month-old boys. The older one—well-mannered, easy going, very affectionate—attends a preschool program three mornings a week. This is his second year there. ...
Read MoreShy Child? Don’t Fret About It
Posted on 2/16/2021
Researchers have found what many personal testimonies will confirm: most shy children, even the most painfully shy of them, are not shy adults. The progression from introversion to extroversion...
Read MoreSociability for Shy Child
Posted on 3/24/2015
Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our 7-year-old is very shy. He doesn’t enjoy the sort of social activities, including sports, that other kids his age are generally involved in and...
Read MorePersonality Issue, Not a Behavior Problem
Posted on 10/7/2014
Q: My 7-year-old son does well in school and sports and has a good number of friends. However, he often allows himself to be intimidated by other boys. He is a rule-follower and is more...
Read More32-Month-Old Girl Shyness
Posted on 7/26/2011
Shy toddlers Q. Our 32-month-old daughter has always been outgoing and loves to be around people ... until recently, that is. All of a sudden she has started lowering her head when we get...
Read More4-Year-Old Boy Not Socializing with Other Children
Posted on 5/31/2011
Boy doesn't like playing with unfamiliar children Q. My son will be 4 years old in a couple of months. He is having problems playing and relating to groups of kids in social situations. For...
Read More3-Year-Old Son Social Development
Posted on 7/20/2010
Lack of playmates worries mom Q: My 3-year- old son has been at home with me since day one. I'm worried about his social development. He loves being around other children his age, but that...
Read More4-Year-Old Boy Not Very Social
Posted on 10/6/2009
RELAX AND LET AN INTROVERTED CHILD DEVELOP Q. My 4-year-old son is not fully engaged when he has a friend over. His twin sister makes friends easily and the difference between them is glaring....
Read More4 - Year - Old - Girl Does Not Like Compliments
Posted on 12/4/2007
Too many compliments? Q. Our 4-year-old daughter doesn't like it when we compliment her for a good job or anything else she does well for that matter, including using good manners. We've...
Read More6-Year-Old Does Not Make Eye Contact with Others
Posted on 9/3/2002
LAY DOWN THE LAW ABOUT 6-YEAR-OLD'S LACK OF EYE CONTACT Q: My daughter is 6, and I am concerned because she rarely makes eye contact when speaking to anyone. Stacy is very bright, listens well,...
Read MoreRecent Questions
Boy is Dr. Jeckyl Sometimes, Mr. Hyde at Others
Posted on 10/17/2022
I have a 10 year old son, who when at school is completely shy and reserved to the teachers concern. At home around his siblings, especially his older brother (12yo), he is a different kid....
Read MoreShy 7 Year Old
Posted on 12/31/2021
My 7 year old first-grader has trouble joining into social situations. He plays well with his 5 year old brother, but with peers, he goes off on his own, and will tell stories to himself (I...
Read More2 year old Hair Cut Anxiety
Posted on 5/21/2021
Hello, my son is 2 years and 3 months old. He has not had a full evaluation for autism yet but is showing signs and is nonverbal. He is in desperate need of a haircut but anytime we have taken him...
Read MoreShyness Not A Character Defect
Posted on 12/13/2020
My daughter (age 16) is extremely shy and always has been. Recently due to my divorce situation, we had to relocate and so making friends has been a struggle. However, I have observed her...
Read MoreEmotional Intelligence Begins With Good Manners
Posted on 6/14/2020
Are you familiar with the term 2e kids? Or twice exceptional? Our 10 year old son appears to fall into this category. He is at above average intelligence, but his emotional iq is lacking and a...
Read MoreHelping the Shy Child
Posted on 4/2/2019
Hello! Our oldest daughter is going on 4 next month. She has always been on the quiet side. The last week few weeks I have noticed that when we receive company or we go visit others that she...
Read MoreShould You Worry About a Shy Kid?
Posted on 1/3/2019
My 10 year old daughter is shy and has trouble making friends. She can handle one on one situations, but she shuts down in a group. (and one on one is rarely the case as she has two sisters near...
Read MoreShy at 3 is ok.
Posted on 4/19/2018
I am concerned about 3 years old daughter. She is in preschool twice a week. She likes to go to school very much But there is a problem- she is quiet and never talks in school. The teacher says...
Read MoreGreetings from a two year old.
Posted on 3/16/2018
Hi there, my 30 month old does not like saying hi to others. When someone says hi, hello, what a cutie, etc. he reacts with a loud NO and then turns away. Any advice on how I can civilize him on...
Read MoreShyness not a problem
Posted on 1/29/2018
I am concerned that my 20 year old son, who is a sophomore in college, is having trouble making friends. He has roommates but doesn't really hang around with them. He tried a fraternity but it...
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