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Shyness

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Sociability for Shy Child

Posted on 3/24/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our 7-year-old is very shy. He doesn’t enjoy the sort of social activities, including sports, that other kids his age are generally involved in and...

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Personality Issue, Not a Behavior Problem

Posted on 10/7/2014

Q: My 7-year-old son does well in school and sports and has a good number of friends. However, he often allows himself to be intimidated by other boys. He is a rule-follower and is more...

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32-Month-Old Girl Shyness

Posted on 7/26/2011

Shy toddlers Q. Our 32-month-old daughter has always been outgoing and loves to be around people ... until recently, that is. All of a sudden she has started lowering her head when we get...

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4-Year-Old Boy Not Socializing with Other Children

Posted on 5/31/2011

Boy doesn't like playing with unfamiliar children Q. My son will be 4 years old in a couple of months. He is having problems playing and relating to groups of kids in social situations. For...

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3-Year-Old Son Social Development

Posted on 7/20/2010

Lack of playmates worries mom Q: My 3-year- old son has been at home with me since day one. I'm worried about his social development. He loves being around other children his age, but that...

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4-Year-Old Boy Not Very Social

Posted on 10/6/2009

RELAX AND LET AN INTROVERTED CHILD DEVELOP Q. My 4-year-old son is not fully engaged when he has a friend over. His twin sister makes friends easily and the difference between them is glaring....

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4 - Year - Old - Girl Does Not Like Compliments

Posted on 12/4/2007

Too many compliments? Q. Our 4-year-old daughter doesn't like it when we compliment her for a good job or anything else she does well for that matter, including using good manners. We've...

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6-Year-Old Does Not Make Eye Contact with Others

Posted on 9/3/2002

LAY DOWN THE LAW ABOUT 6-YEAR-OLD'S LACK OF EYE CONTACT Q: My daughter is 6, and I am concerned because she rarely makes eye contact when speaking to anyone. Stacy is very bright, listens well,...

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8-Year-Old Has No Interest in Making Friends

Posted on 7/30/2002

INTROVERSION ISN'T NECESSARILY A PROBLEM Q: Our 8-year-old daughter has almost no interest in making friends. Her behaviors are not anti-social, but she seems perfectly content to play by...

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7-Year-Old is a Loner

Posted on 6/5/2001

IF SON'S AN INTROVERT,JUST LET HIM BE HIMSELF Q. Our 7-year-old son is turning out to be a "loner" in that he isn't really interested in socializing with other children unless they're at least...

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Recent Questions

4.5 Year Old No Longer Social With Adults

Posted on 9/4/2016

I have a 4 1/2 year old girl who was open and friendly until about age 3, and has become increasingly standoffish. No major family changes, so I'm wondering if this is an ages/stages thing....

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15 yo Social Skills

Posted on 6/8/2015

Our dilemma is regarding our 15 year-old son. He has become withdrawn over that past 2 years and more stoic. He has mastered the skill of suppressing his emotions when it comes to situations...

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OK to be a follower?

Posted on 6/3/2015

My almost 6 1/2 year old is a very observant and always has been. Instead of jumping right in- it takes her awhile and she like to watch first- which I have grown to love. I have always known she...

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4 yo won't respond to adults

Posted on 5/2/2015

My 4.5 yr old son often does not respond to adults (and often children) when they greet him or ask him a question. I will ask him a simple question (what do you want to eat at a restaurant) and he...

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8 year old Standing Up for Himself

Posted on 8/28/2014

This is a question about our 8.5 year old boy. I have read you recognize 'boy behavior'-boys not keeping their hands to themselves,etc. and that it is normal. My boys experience this at Sunday...

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4 YO...Shyness?

Posted on 4/22/2014

Hello, Would you please give me some insight in to this latest odd behavior coming from my four year old daughter. Lately, she will exhibit this odd assortment of behaviors in front of people...

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sensitive 3 yo anxious around rowdy kids

Posted on 4/16/2014

HI John, Have you any advice for a child of 3 years, with a sensitive, cautious temperament, in dealing with more rowdy, active children? She has never been to childcare. However many kids out...

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Solitary 13 YO

Posted on 11/6/2013

In "Teen Proofing" it mentions a balance of how teens should spend spare time. My 13 y/o son prefers solitary activities (drums, lifting weights). He does participate in church youth group (we...

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5 year old : starting friendships

Posted on 12/20/2012

At 5, my daughter loves to play with kids close to her age, but has not yet asked that any of her kindergarten group of friends come over for a play date. According to the teacher she plays well...

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8 year old : Looking Adults in the Eye

Posted on 8/24/2012

Our eight year old son is a relatively well behaved boy, but one thing that irks me is he doesn't look adults in the eye when he is introduced to them. No matter how many times I tell him to shake...

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