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The Greatest and Most Painful of Gifts

Posted on 6/2/2020

In 1972, a Stanford University psychologist conducted a study in which young children, individually, were offered either a small but immediate reward (a marshmallow or a pretzel) or a doubled...

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The Value of a Reward

Posted on 5/19/2020

Psychologist B. F. Skinner, the formulator of behavior modification theory, was attempting to prove that the same principles that govern the behavior of amoeba, planaria, rats, dogs, and monkeys...

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Helping Kids Develop Good Habits Without Nagging

Posted on 4/14/2020

My 7 year old has a habit of leaving lights on when he leaves the room, leaving the toilet seat up, not flushing the toilet chain, leaving rubbish out, not putting his laundry in basket etc. How...

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7 year old craving constant attention

Posted on 4/14/2020

My 7 year old struggles to play by himself. He wants me to play with him all the time. For example he is always complaining he cannot find a Lego piece before he has actually looked, he needs help...

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2 Year Old Doesn't Respond When Name Is Called

Posted on 2/6/2020

My 2-year-old does not respond to his name at all 99% of the time when he is called. He doesn't even glance in my direction. We have had his hearing tested (it is normal) and we're pretty sure...

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When Normal Becomes a Disorder

Posted on 11/6/2019

My son is six years old, and he started kindergarten this year. Somewhere around week three or four, I got a call from his teacher stating that he has "impulsivity issues". I did a quick google...

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End Micromanagement of Grades by Lowering the Boom

Posted on 10/15/2019

I have two sons (13 and 14 years old) and one step son (12 years old). They've gone to a Christian school their whole lives and are all saved. My issue is with my 13 year old. He is very smart as...

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Dinner Time Battle of the Wills

Posted on 9/16/2019

My 3 year old daughter has developed a bad habit at dinner time. Although she’s usually pretty good to try new foods, every now and then she will - for some unknown reason - hold a bite of food in...

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Rewards or consequences?

Posted on 9/5/2016

Hi Ms. Fawcett, Thank you so much for your prompt reply to my question about my shy daughter. I actually could use a little clarification, since you asked. If we are out and about running...

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Rewards at school.

Posted on 8/25/2016

I'm having another problem with my kids' school. I have a 10 yr old and 7 year old. The teachers use an excessive amount of candy and full size cans of soda as incentives. This is already...

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Dad Rewards Freshman College Student

Posted on 6/7/2016

Our son just finished his first year of college and earned a 3.8 GPA. My husband and I pay for all his college expenses and he lives at home with us year round. He works a part time job on the...

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3-Year Old a Big Challenge

Posted on 4/19/2016

Our 3 year old son is a challenge and needs a lot of discipline. He regularly pushes the limits and continues to test, doing things he well knows are not tolerated in our home. I feel that we (my...

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