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Rescue Yourself and Your Child With Bedtime Routine

Posted on 5/11/2016

Q: My daughter, who just turned three, has a surge of energy after dinner and can take hours to fall asleep. I try putting her down around 8 o’clock, but there are nights when she doesn’t fall...

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Occasional Tantrums Don't Indicate Bipolar Disorder

Posted on 1/27/2016

Q: Our 3-year-old son is very sweet, loving, and generally well-behaved. Occasionally, however, he breaks into a huge tantrum during which he becomes uncontrollable. The word “possessed” comes to...

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3-year-old Preschool Issues

Posted on 11/10/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: My just-turned 3-year-old daughter has started biting other children in her preschool program. I put her in for three mornings a week thinking she...

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3 year-old Tantrums

Posted on 9/8/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our first, a girl, just turned three and has suddenly started throwing tantrums. She can begin a tantrum when she’s alone in her room if something...

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Newly Academic Nature of Most Preschools

Posted on 11/25/2014

Courtesy of my friend and parent coach Janet Carter (www.ourchildishways.com), comes an interesting story: The parents of a 4-year-old girl went to a preschool parent conference to...

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"The Doctor" Makes House Calls

Posted on 4/28/2014

Shortly after I finished graduate school, a friend of mine shared with me a book called Indirect Hypnosis, written by Milton Erickson, a most unorthodox psychiatrist if ever there was one....

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Who cleans up?

Posted on 2/4/2014

Q: I have 3 kids ages 8, 6, and 4. I need help solving the "pick up the playroom" dilemma. When an area in which they've been playing needs to be picked up and straightened, the 8-year-old always...

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Toddlers in Restaurants?

Posted on 6/25/2013

Q: Help! We find it almost impossible to finish a restaurant meal when our 18-month-old twins are along, which is always. We give them toys to keep them busy, and they do well for about 30 minutes...

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Authority

Posted on 5/28/2013

Q: My 3-year-old started preschool 3 days a week (private sitter other two days) about 2 months ago. He did great. However, this week he began being defiant, not following directions then kicked,...

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3 Year Old has bedtime problems

Posted on 1/22/2013

Q: For the past several weeks, our just-turned 3-year-old has been waking up and coming into our room at all hours of the night with the usual excuses. He's scared, hungry, thirsty, lonely, can't...

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Boys goofing around

Posted on 1/1/2013

Q: Our son is in Kindergarten at a small private school. Most of the children in his class are boys. From the beginning, he's been somewhat of a behavior problem. Each time we get a notice from...

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Kindergarten Behavior

Posted on 12/18/2012

Q: Our son started full-day kindergarten in September. For the first three months he had no problem with his behavior at school, but for the past few weeks he has gotten in trouble for talking,...

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Chores: Start Early

Posted on 8/21/2012

Q: I know you think children as young as 3 should be doing chores around the home. That seems awfully young, but can you recommend several age-appropriate chores I can try with my 3-and-one-half...

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3-Year-Old Boys Bedtime Issues

Posted on 10/18/2011

How to quiet down boys' bedtime antics Q: My twin boys will be 3 next month. They sleep in the same room. They've recently taken to getting out of their beds (together, although one seems to be...

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3-Year-Old Boy Regressing After Birth of Second Child

Posted on 9/6/2011

Show your natural authority Q: I gave birth to our second child a few weeks ago, so I'm sleep-deprived and running low on patience. In the meantime, my 3-year-old son has become another person....

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3-Year-Old Girl Biting Brother

Posted on 8/30/2011

What to do when a toddler bites a sibling Q. Our 36-month-old daughter has started biting her 22-month-old brother, usually over toys. My husband says I should put her in her room until he gets...

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3-Year-Old Boy Being Raised by Grandparents

Posted on 8/16/2011

Q. My 3-year-old grandson lives with his grandmother and me. He sees and speaks to his mother on the phone only occasionally. His birth father has never been in the picture. In fact, we don't know...

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Telling 3 YO about real parents

Posted on 8/15/2011

Q: My 3-year-old grandson lives with his grandmother and me. He calls me "Poppa" and his grandmother "Nanna." He sees and speaks to his mother on the phone only occasionally. His birth-father...

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3-Year-Old Girl Missing Dad

Posted on 8/2/2011

Tot's distress isn't about missing dad Q. My daughter will be 3 years old soon. Her father was primary caretaker until she was around 20 months, then he left and she hasn't seen him since. I...

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3-Year-Old Girl Tantrums

Posted on 7/26/2011

Q. My 3-year-old's tantrums are becoming worse. She is also becoming "passive-aggressive" (whining, arching her back on the floor, refusing to stand or talk) when things don't go her way. When...

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Passive-aggressive Three Year Old

Posted on 7/25/2011

Q: My 3-year-old's tantrums are becoming worse. She is also becoming "passive-aggressive" (whining, arching her back on the floor, refusing to stand or talk) when things don't go her way. When...

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3-Year-Old Girl Disruptive Behavior

Posted on 6/28/2011

Discipline bad behavior - don't psychoanalyze it Q. About a year ago, my husband and I underwent a major move with our 3-year-old. Six months later, I gave birth to twins. Needless to say, our...

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4-Year-Old Boy Not Socializing with Other Children

Posted on 5/31/2011

Boy doesn't like playing with unfamiliar children Q. My son will be 4 years old in a couple of months. He is having problems playing and relating to groups of kids in social situations. For...

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Meal Time Circus

Posted on 2/8/2011

Don't let kids run family food circus I must, in the interest of full disclosure, begin this column with a confession: I am a voyeur; more specifically, a parenting voyeur. In the words of...

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Preschool Education Programs

Posted on 10/12/2010

Preschool without shame? What a pity The National Association for the Education of Young Children and I don't see eye to eye on many things - maybe anything. We don't even agree on a definition...

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3-Year-Old Son Social Development

Posted on 7/20/2010

Lack of playmates worries mom Q: My 3-year- old son has been at home with me since day one. I'm worried about his social development. He loves being around other children his age, but that...

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3-Year-Old Hospital Stay

Posted on 5/18/2010

A child's hospital stay Q: My daughter, who is going to turn 3 next month, is going to have her tonsils and adenoids out in a few weeks. Because she is so young, they are admitting her to the...

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3-Year-Old Boy Does Not Like Play Group

Posted on 4/13/2010

Skip the play group Q: When our play group meets at a home other than our own, my nearly 3-year-old wants to leave within 30 minutes. When I try to persuade him to stay, he becomes very...

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3-Year-Old Boy Disrespectful Actions

Posted on 3/30/2010

Don't overreact to toddler's actions Defiant words don't signal problem, unless parent turns it into one. Q. My almost-3-year-old has started saying things to me that border on...

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34-Month-Old Girl Controlling the Family

Posted on 3/9/2010

Toddler always wants her way Q: Our 34-month-old daughter is trying to control everyone else in the family, especially us. When things don't go her way, the result is an instantaneous and...

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3-Year-Old Girl's Messy Room

Posted on 10/13/2009

A QUIET RIOT? HOW TO RECTIFY IT Q. Our 3-year-old daughter makes a complete mess of her room whenever we confine her there for misbehavior. She has very few accessible toys, but will take books...

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Toilet Training: Just Do It

Posted on 4/28/2009

THIS GENERATION'S WAYS OF POTTY TRAINING HAS GOTTA GO What's it going to take for American parents to realize that just as it's far easier to house-train a 4-month-old puppy than a 1-year-old...

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3-Year-Old Girl Not Wearing Clothes

Posted on 1/20/2009

CALL ON 'THE DOCTOR' TO GET A TODDLER TO WEAR CLOTHES I never cease to be amazed at how easy it is to solve potentially large behavior problems with just a little imagination. Case in point: a...

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Early is Better Than Later For Toilet Training

Posted on 10/7/2008

EARLY IS BETTER THAN LATER FOR BABY'S TOILET TRAINING I've said many times that letting a child older than 30 months soil and wet herself several times a day is an insult to the child's...

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Toilet Training: Lose the Diapers Early

Posted on 9/2/2008

LOSE THE DIAPERS ASAP From the Great Suggestions Department: Amanda from Illinois shares a great idea concerning night-time "potty" training. She writes: "When my first daughter was day-time...

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3-Year-Old Girl Afraid of Elderly Neighbor

Posted on 8/5/2008

CHILD'S SUDDEN FEAR IS NOTHING PERSONAL Q: My 3-year-old daughter is suddenly acting afraid of our elderly neighbor, who has been a constant presence in her life since day one. Admittedly, he...

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PreSchool-Age Kids' Tantrums

Posted on 6/10/2008

TAMP DOWN TODDLER'S TANTRUMS EARLY An Atlanta pediatrician sent me an article from the February issue of Pediatric News describing research on tantrums in children ages 3-6. Intrigued, I spent...

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3-Year-Old Boy Putting Hands in His Pants

Posted on 4/1/2008

Washing hands of problem A 3-year-old's mom was horrified at his habit of putting his hands in his pants. One day, at day care, he exposed himself to the rest of the class. (To which a...

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3-Year-Old Boy is Rough with 10-Month-Old Baby

Posted on 1/29/2008

Separate 3-year-old from baby Q. Our 3-year-old son is very tall and strong for his age. When he tries to "play" with his 10-month-old sister, he often ends up on top of her, putting her in a...

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3-Year-Old Boy Urinates But No Bowel Movement on Toilet

Posted on 1/15/2008

TRY THIS SIMPLE TACTIC TO GET PAST TOILET-TRAINING IMPASSE One of the consequences of postponing toilet training until well past the second birthday (per the bad advice of most post-1960s...

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3 - Year - Old - Child Controlling Parent

Posted on 11/20/2007

Don't let child control you Q. My 3-year-old is a control freak. She's usually agreeable and obeys the first time more often than not. However, she often attempts to control her...

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3-Year-Old Girl Having A Hard Time Falling Asleep

Posted on 9/4/2007

LET 3-YEAR-OLD TAKE HER SWEET TIME FALLING ASLEEP Q. It's 10 p.m. and my 3-year-old daughter just fell asleep. She used to sleep 12 hours a night, from 7 to 7, but she hasn't done that in...

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3-Year-Old Boy Has Fun With Chore

Posted on 8/21/2007

3-year-old has fun with chore Q. I have recently assigned dish washing in the evening to our 3-year-old. He's quite capable of doing the job, the only problem being that he gets easily...

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3-Year-Old Boy Having A Hard Time Saying I'm Sorry

Posted on 7/24/2007

Q: My 3-year-old has a terrible time apologizing for wrongdoing. We generally send him to his room and require him to apologize after he calms down. He will say he's sorry, but he doesn't want us...

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Youngsters Don't Need To Use Computers

Posted on 7/3/2007

YOUNGSTERS DON'T NEED TO USE COMPUTERS Q: The first time our children visited the grandparents this summer, Grandpa began asking the oldest if he was going to computer camp this summer, if he...

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3-Year-Old Girl Naptime

Posted on 7/3/2007

Q. My 3-year-old daughter still takes an hour nap in the afternoon. My husband's parents keep telling me that their children stopped taking naps before age 2. My daughter is a mess if she doesn't...

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Ticket Method for Discipline

Posted on 5/1/2007

WANT A WAY TO TRAIN CHILDREN TO BEHAVE? HERE'S THE TICKET Q: John, several other parents have told me about your "ticket" method for dealing with misbehavior, but I wonder if I can get it...

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Aggressvie Children

Posted on 4/24/2007

STOP AGGRESSION WITH SIR METHOD Last week I promised to provide a tried-and-true solution to a problem that is increasing in both frequency and magnitude: children who are aggressive toward...

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3-Year-Old Tantrums

Posted on 4/10/2007

EARLY LESSON IN GOOD BEHAVIOR TAMPS DOWN A TEMPER TANTRUM I had a conflict with one of my grandchildren the other day during which I was insensitive to his feelings, used my size advantage to...

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Unstructured Play for Preschoolers is Beneficial

Posted on 3/27/2007

MICROMANAGING YOUR KIDS ROBS THEM OF MANY BENEFITS UNSTRUCTURED PLAY LEADS TO SOCIAL SKILLS Several months back, I answered a question from a parent who was bemoaning that in her community,...

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