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Free to Disagree, Not Disobey

Posted on 11/13/2017

My 4.5 year-old-son has whining meltdown 3-5 times a day, usually when he 1) is told he can't have something, 2) it's time to stop doing something, or 3) there is some representation of...

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Perfectionist 10 Year Old

Posted on 11/3/2017

My eldest daughter is a perfectionist. She is a very organized person and is doing well in school. However, whenever she can't solve a homework problem or she struggles with new song on the piano,...

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19 month old Screaming, 4 y/o Bothering

Posted on 10/23/2017

I need help!! My 19 month old has recently found her "voice". She is screaming this horrible high pitched scream when she can't communicate. Like a typical toddler she is quite bossy and gets...

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Taming the Toddler Tantrums

Posted on 10/9/2017

Hi there, my 25 month old son is starting to have more tantrums at home and especially in public. I have heard of a tantrum spot where they can express themselves, alone. My question is- how long...

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post nap crankiness with 2 year old twins

Posted on 10/8/2017

What is the right way to handle 2-year-old post-nap tantrums/crankiness? My 29 month old boy/girl twins often are extremely out of sorts when they wake from their afternoon nap. Today my daughter...

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3yr old out of control

Posted on 9/14/2017

My husband and I are struggling with finding the right disciplinary action for our 3 year old daughter. She has many meltdowns and tests our authority on a regular basis. We have found that taking...

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Same problem, same directive.

Posted on 9/2/2017

How do I get my 6yo boy to stop the constant whining/crying when he doesn't get his way, gets frustrated, and fighting with his 2 sisters. Help.... It's driving me nuts!!

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Being consistent.

Posted on 8/21/2017

Our 9 year old daughter has a legion of home and school misbehaviors (primarilly tantrums/hitting at home and agression/defiance at school) that have been occuring for years. After reading "The...

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Toddler training

Posted on 8/6/2017

My husband and I are looking for advice on how to discipline our 16 month old. He is a very energetic toddler, running around and getting into everything he can. We have a baby gate up to stop him...

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Terrible Transition to Three

Posted on 8/3/2017

My 3 year old is a bully. She is starting 1st pre-school soon, Picks on 2 year old sister (sleep in same room, in cribs but climbs out) uncontrollable screaming when not going her way, snatches...

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5 yo disrespect must be nipped in the bud

Posted on 7/31/2017

My 5 year old son is willfully disobedient, defiant and enters into a rage when disciplined. He will hit, kick and throw things at me and tells me he hates me and threatens to "cut my face off"...

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2yo testing limits

Posted on 7/16/2017

Hello, my 22 month old is testing his limits- hitting me, screaming when he needs help (he has a speech delay), spilling water from his cup and doing it again after being told not to, etc. I've...

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Morning Mealtime Meltdowns: Four-Year-Old Edition

Posted on 7/11/2017

I'm afraid we've created a mealtime monster. My daughter just turned 4. She is not a morning person. She's also a suspected hypoglycemic. This has not been medically confirmed because when I...

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Aggression and the Ticket System

Posted on 6/15/2017

My son will be 4 next month. The 2s and 3s were fairly uneventful for us- nothing beyond your typical discipline issues that were quickly nipped. Several weeks ago, however, he began getting angry...

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New baby=tantrums for Big Sister!

Posted on 5/22/2017

We just brought the new baby home and it's full-blown, almost constant tantrums from our 30-month old. We used our 'tantrum place', but her tantrums are 15-20 minute, full-on bloodcurdling scream...

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Angry Outbursts from a 3-year-old

Posted on 5/21/2017

Every time I tell my 3 1/2 year old to do something (ex: put your cup up on the table more instead of on the edge, don't jump around in the kitchen, etc.) she crosses her arms and grunts. Or she...

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Toddler Tantrums

Posted on 5/17/2017

I have a 2.5 year old and a 13 month old. My 2 year old has started to throw tantrums in public if things don't go his way. He will start crying and throw himself on the floor. How should I handle...

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Teaching your child who is the boss.

Posted on 5/13/2017

My almost 3 year old daughter has developed the habit of using my breasts as a soothing tool. She was weaned well over a year ago, yet I still can't seem to get her to stop touching, cuddling and...

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The Twos, Doubled

Posted on 5/10/2017

I have boy/girl twins that will be two years old in 2 weeks. We are experiencing an increase in several behavior issues that seem to be compounded by a very recent move (last week) and also...

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Who is really in control?

Posted on 5/9/2017

My daughter turns 4 next week and has been using the potty since she was 23 months old. However, she loves to pee her pants about 4-5/wk. This is either done out of spite (her way of throwing a...

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5 yo Tantrums

Posted on 4/23/2017

Good Afternoon, Our five year old has changed since starting school this year. He used to be for the most part a quiet, compliant and cheerful soul to have around. If behaviour got out of hand,...

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2 yo Tantrums While Shopping

Posted on 4/22/2017

What should I do when I am out shopping alone with my 2 year old and he decides "he wants out of the buggy" and starts to throw a terrible fit?

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Here Come the Terrible Terrific Twos!

Posted on 4/19/2017

My usually pleasant almost 2 year old daughter just started throwing violent fits this week, kicking, screaming, and trying and sometimes succeeding in banging her head into my face. A few times...

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9 yo boy needs boom lowered

Posted on 4/13/2017

My youngest son is 9 years old. He has an older brother who is 11 years old. My 9 year has always had a temper/anger problem when things don't go his way. He reacts by having a tantrum. He has...

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A Blustering 3-Year-Old and the Ticket System

Posted on 4/5/2017

We have four children. Our third child is a 3.5 year old boy. He is our most "spirited" child and has the vocabulary of a 6 year old. Our 2 older children (6 & 8) are more reserved. He is so...

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Split personality of a 4 y/o

Posted on 3/30/2017

4 year old girl who is disobedient and throws tantrums. She has privileges taken but that has no effect. At school she behaves perfectly.

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Whiny tantrums.

Posted on 2/9/2017

I feel kind of ridiculous asking a question now when I thought I had the Rosemond-style discipline stuff nailed. At the moment, my kids are upstairs in their rooms for the remainder of the day...

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2 yo Screamer

Posted on 2/9/2017

Recently our 2 year old daughter has been screaming No at us when we tell her she cannot have something or generally not give her what she wants... we have tried simply ignoring, time out, and...

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Help With Ongoing Tantrums

Posted on 1/21/2017

Our 9-year old daughter has been prone to tantrums all of her life. The trigger is usually not getting her way--not getting to do what she wants, wear what she wants, etc...and these have usually...

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6 yo Won't Stay in His Room

Posted on 1/11/2017

We are having problems knowing how to deal with our 6yo foster son (1 of 4 foster children) who has tantrums (yelling, throwing things, kicking, defiant and sometimes laughing as he disobeys,...

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One Little Monkey on the Bed

Posted on 12/18/2016

Hello... We have two daughters...one turned two in September and our youngest will be one in February...within the past couple of days, our two year old has stopped listening to us.. After telling...

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28 mo and "tantrum pees"

Posted on 10/26/2016

Hi there - This is more information regarding my son's pee on the floor or pants habit when he tantrums or whines - I tried another tactic. Make the potty bell ring when he whines and get him to...

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More on 28 mo issues with toileting and tantrums

Posted on 10/26/2016

HI Kaye, thank you for your answer. I have tried that approach from day one, and actually he keeps right on whining, lying on the floor and kicking..no matter what I do or what I say, or how I...

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Whining Toddler

Posted on 10/24/2016

Hi there, I'm needing help with my 28 month old. We are focusing on whining and tantrums at the moment. I'm not sure where to start. Sometimes, he whines because he is unhappy about something...

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16 mo Tantrums

Posted on 10/4/2016

At what age do you recommend starting the tantrum place? My son is 16 months old and has a bad habit of screaming when he doesn't get his way, which happens 10+ times a day. I'm not sure whether...

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2.5 Year Old Tantrum Troubles

Posted on 10/3/2016

Hi! I'll be quick and to the point. Our 2.5 year old daughter has started throwing tantrums a couple of months ago, and they have been getting more intense and more frequent. She has an older...

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3 ½ year old Bedtime Battles

Posted on 9/15/2016

Our 3.5 year old is suddenly refusing to go to bed. She threw a few violent temper tantrums last weekend, and since then we have been able to avoid the crying, but have not been able to get her...

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Rambunctious Toddler Woes

Posted on 9/4/2016

Hi there, I am having multiple problems with my 27 month old boy, which I cannot seem to solve. He is very active and is constantly on the move. He whines and throws tantrums when he does not get...

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8 YO's Tantrums

Posted on 8/16/2016

Dinah - another follow up question. Our plan, although a good one, is not working. Our daughter is now throwing temper tantrums. We send her back to her room (at 9pm, 9:30 pm) and she is screaming...

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Jealous 16-Month-Old

Posted on 8/3/2016

My husband and I have a jealous 16 month old. She is the 4th child. The oldest are (twins) 4.5 yrs and one who is 3.5 yrs. Whenever I am holding one of the other children she begins pulling at...

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3-year-old drama when "injured"

Posted on 7/31/2016

Our 3.5 year old son cries and completely melts down when he is sick or hurt. He mostly only does this at home, and it is a scream and cry at the top of his lungs as if he has no control. We have...

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Pre-schooler bed wetting at night and defiant behavior

Posted on 7/19/2016

My son is 41/2 years old. I have not been able to night train him. I finally put him back in pampers after trying underpants since he was three. At two he wore pullups to bed and was day trained....

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Is it working?

Posted on 6/11/2016

I have been working for some time with the ticket system, mostly targeting listening to adults. The exception being he loses all tickets for hitting. My son is not responding well. I expected it...

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Autistic child and chores.

Posted on 6/8/2016

My son 9 yo who has autism shows big tantrum when I ask him to do the recycling. It's hard for him to break down the boxes. He says it's not fair that he has to do it. I tell him that it is his...

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2 Year Old Obedience Issues

Posted on 6/1/2016

When I tell my two year old son what to do, eg. "It's time to sit at the table for dinner now. Come and sit.", he regularly runs to his room and hides under his covers. In fact, it happens...

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4-yo resumes 2-yo tantrums

Posted on 5/30/2016

My nearly 4 year old son has suddenly become (seemingly) unable to regulate his emotions (even a little bit!!) It's like he's 2 again but this time he knows better. 2 was indeed a rough go for him...

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3 yo grumpy getting up & dressed

Posted on 5/26/2016

My almost three year old (in July) follows in my footsteps and is what I would call "not a morning person". I wake him up every morning and he is immediately grumpy (doesn't want to get up, wants...

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14 month-old Tantrums, Revisited

Posted on 5/26/2016

My fourteen month old is having all out tantrums when she doesn't get her way. It's over things like not letting her have more Cheerios (and I'm offering plenty of other options of foods I know...

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9 yo Tantrums

Posted on 5/24/2016

My 9 year old son throws fits. Sometimes they look like panic attacks and sometimes they are because he bumped into something, and others he clearly is having a tantrum. He has loads of anxiety...

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14-month-old Tantrums?

Posted on 5/23/2016

Our 14 month old daughter has been having some all out tantrums for the last month or so. I'm not sure what to do about it since she's so young. Sometimes it's clear that she just wants her own...

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