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Adjusting to a New Pre School Can Be Hard

Posted on 9/25/2020

We are struggling with our 3-year-old at school. She started in PK-3 this year at a new school. The past 3 years she has been in daycare/pre-school. Where to begin... and by the way all of these...

Toddler Tantrums and Disrespect

Posted on 7/23/2020

My three-year-old is extremely disrespectful, yells, "Noooooo!" says, "I can't," when told to clean up toys, and will kick and bang on the back of his bedroom door when placed in time out. I...

Pre-Teen: A Lingering Fever

Posted on 3/24/2020

We are having some trouble with our 12 year old son. I can see how things have progressed and how we haven't quite followed the Rosemond plan. He is very rude with his sisters, he talks back a lot...

6 Strikes in 1 At-bat

Posted on 3/15/2020

Hi John, my 9yr old daughter has taken to raising her voice, screaming, arguing, sarcasm and just downright disrespect when things aren't going her way. We have a target misbehavior chart and she...

The Truth Is, 2-Year-Olds Have Tantrums

Posted on 2/11/2020

My 2 1/2-year-old daughter throws a tantrum while in public - not at home (or at least less severe at home). As an example, we spend time on Sunday mornings encouraging her to behave during Mass...

Too Much To-Do From a Toddler

Posted on 11/14/2019

My daughter is 21 months. She constantly wants me to hold her when we are home. I cannot keep it up. If I don’t hold her when she wants, she cries and cries. Help! What should I do? Also, she’s...

Toddler Tests the Limits

Posted on 11/13/2019

My son is 11 months old today. When I tell him not to touch something, he will almost immediately touch the item. When he does, i remove the item from his hand and tell him that he is not allowed...

Mom looking for Plan B to make Toddlerhood easier

Posted on 11/3/2019

I have a perhaps unusual question. We are about to embark on toddlerhood and toilet training, and want to be prepared in case things don't go smoothly. I think we will need an alternative to...

Resetting The Dial Can Be Best Bet

Posted on 10/21/2019

What are the suggested number of target behaviors and daily tickets for children of the following ages: 1) boy age 5 - generally a low-misbehaver, main problem is tantrums, sometimes disobeys or...

Be the Alpha Female

Posted on 10/10/2019

Our 5 yo son is very well-behaved at school (he just started kindergarten 6 weeks ago) but his behavior has worsened by extremes at home. Especially at bedtime, if I don't snuggle him in his bed...

Teach Tweenager How to Manage Anger

Posted on 10/8/2019

Hi There, My daughter will be 11 yo on February, she is such a sweet/sensetive girl who likes to please others, but when she becomes angry she can not control it , she melts down for a while then...

Too Many Expectations for 9-Year-Old

Posted on 9/25/2019

My daughter is 9, she is very respectful (although disobeying and arguing are not respectful) and has great manners ("yes ma'am", "yes, sir"). She has given me a run for my money her whole life...

Odd Behavior is Normal

Posted on 9/22/2019

Hi there, our son just turned 4 in August. Recently, when we scold him, he begins to slap himself. He does this in public too. Is there anything we can do about this? Thank you!

Don't give up!

Posted on 9/7/2019

Few days ago, I posted a question regarding my 23 month old who is strongly refusing to sleep on her own, and Kaye Wilson answered my question under the 2-yo Bedtime Tyrant title. I have been...

"Doctor" Makes House Call for 5 YO Preschooler

Posted on 9/7/2019

My 5 year old girl is strong willed, defiant and disobedient. She throws frequent tantrums when not getting her way. At school she is fine but anywhere else she acts out (screams, rages, scowls,...

Wrestle Mania

Posted on 9/3/2019

We started the ticket system with our 3 year old a few weeks ago (along with working on changing our language to Alpha language). I think he gets it. He can verbalize the basics of the system and...

No Toddlers Allowed!!

Posted on 8/29/2019

I am currently reading Making the "Terrible" Twos Terrific and in Q&A section of Chapter 3, a mom asks about her son who throws things, even in restaurants. In his response to the mother, Dr....

Tantrum Thrower Wants Her Way

Posted on 8/29/2019

My daughter is close to 19 months and she has been doing tantrums when she doesn't get her ways for the last three months now. Lately, it has been getting worse. She does the back arching,...

Wild Child

Posted on 8/17/2019

We recently started he ticket system with our 3 and 5 year old children. It has worked well with our 5 year old but our three year old has lost all his tickets multiple times. Often, the loss of...

Trouble with Transitions at Preschool

Posted on 7/10/2019

A follow up to my previous question... we have had several informal conferences with the director of my 3 y/o son’s preschool. It seems like everything is fine until he is asked to do something...

Adjusting to Preschool Can Be Tough

Posted on 7/4/2019

My almost 3-year-old son has been attending the same Montessori-based preschool for the past year. 90-95% of the AM drop-offs have been difficult for him resulting in a meltdown. His teacher...

4 and 5 year old brothers tag team Mom

Posted on 6/12/2019

My older boy, age 5 has been on the ticket system for about 9 months. He starts the day with 3 tickets and his misbehaviors are screaming at us and not obeying us. My younger boy, 4 has recently...

2.5 year old won't share Grandma

Posted on 6/11/2019

2.5 year old only wants Grandma when she is around. Grandma lives out of state, so when we see her we are together for day/night at least a week. 2.5 yo only wants Grandma to take care of, play,...

Will the Terror Ever Stop?

Posted on 5/30/2019

Our son who is almost 5 went back to throwing tantrums and have started hitting on a few occasions again. We're wondering if he'll ever stop. We have put him back on the 30 sticker program with a...

Strike a Balance

Posted on 3/26/2019

I’m having a difficult time with my nearly 6 year old son. It feels like we are butting heads all of the time. He has become increasingly more sensitive lately. Throwing huge tantrums, crying over...

Battle Weary

Posted on 3/21/2019

I have 18 month old twins, a boy and a girl. They haven't yet developed verbal skills; they don't recognize "no", or even their own names. I've been told that this is common among twins at this...

Put Tantrums In Their Place

Posted on 3/2/2019

We have a 3 year old who throws temper tantrums but we can’t send him to his room because he won’t stay and goes on & on with no way to keeping him put. How do you deal with such high emotions and...

Transition From Servant to Teacher

Posted on 2/20/2019

Three year old temper tantrums, what is the resolution? When he doesn't get what he wants or disobeys, he goes off on a tangent only to calm down when he gets what he wants or is distracted.

children not listening

Posted on 12/23/2018

Hello. A tiny bit about us: I had 5 children in 4.5 years: 3 girls then twin boys, now 6, 4.5, 3, & 18 mos (x2). I stay at home and do not work. The 6 yr old is in Kinder and other two girls...

Doctor Makes House Call for 5 yo

Posted on 12/3/2018

My 5 year old son Dane is currently enrolled in Pre-K at a Catholic elementary school. He loves school once he gets there and has great behavior in the classroom, High praises from his teacher,...

FOMO=NOMO

Posted on 12/3/2018

4 year old boy with FOMO (fear of missing out) Our 4 year old son melts down any time it’s time to leave somewhere fun (school, tennis, friends house, etc) is there anything I can do to nip this...

Longing for a peaceful home

Posted on 11/23/2018

What is your advice for a child who refuses to stay in their room? Up until recently we had been locking our daughter’s door when she had lost all her tickets on the ticket system. This last...

6 year old's Target Misbehaviors must be concrete and specific

Posted on 10/29/2018

We have been doing the chart system for a week now with our 6 year old son targeting disrespect/defiance and disobedience. We started out with 8 squares a day. There have only been a few days when...

Out of Control 7yr old

Posted on 10/27/2018

Hi, my husband and I would appreciate some advice on our situation with our 7 year old daughter. Her medication has become ineffective recently and we are at our wits end with what to do with...

5 yro tantrums

Posted on 10/7/2018

Hi there. We have an almost 6 year old girl who has horrific tantrums. They occur about once every two weeks. Is this normal? Our other kids tantrums were never this awful (even worse than the...

5 year old boy behaves better at school than at home

Posted on 10/4/2018

My 5 year old son is in preschool, and we are working very hard on his behavior and manners. He still has tantrums which I am working hard to end. Lately, when he has a tantrum or is disrespectful...

Use John's ABC or DRC Method for Issues at School?

Posted on 9/24/2018

My son is currently in the 4th grade. At the beginning of the school year, we implemented the "ABC's of Effective Homework Management" and as expected, our son has been slacking on his homework...

Tantrums in 4 YO boy

Posted on 8/27/2018

I’ve read many of the tantrums questions - how to deal when the child is 4-5. My child is 4 and throws multiple tantrums with plenty of disrepect - and demands that he needs to pee, he’s scared,...

6 yo Throwing Wits Ending Tantrums

Posted on 8/17/2018

I am at my wit’s end. My 6 year old is making life miserable for our household. She is very strong willed and gets very angry easily. At school she gets certificates for her “model behavior”....

taking back authority over 7yo

Posted on 8/12/2018

I recently discovered Mr. Rosemond's books. My husband and I are now implementing his ideas with our 7 year old son who gets easily frustrated when he doesn't get his way, ignores our demands,...

Preschooler with an Attitude

Posted on 8/8/2018

Our 4, almost 5 year old has developed a very strong attitude problem lately. Everything that my husband or I tell her turns into her talking back. We have always told her “because I said so,” but...

Overwhelmed Mom wants to take back her authority, but can't stop yelling

Posted on 8/7/2018

My son is extremely defiant and NOTHING we have tried thus far has made a difference. Spanking him has to be done several times over, and is always accompanied by screaming, blaming, back-talk,...

4 yo behavior more important than emotions

Posted on 8/1/2018

I regularly read your newsletter, books and read QandA's on your website. You often talk about expecting our kiddos to control their emotions. I totally agree!! I regular tell my kids that if THEY...

Three year old adapting to changes

Posted on 7/25/2018

Our daughter turned 3 in May and it was around that time that we became aware of John Rosemond's books. We learnt that we were not authoritative in our parenting style nor did we use alpha speech,...

9 YO Daughter In Need Of Wake Up Call

Posted on 7/14/2018

My 9 year old daughter is defiant and refuses to go to her room when disciplined. She is too big and strong for me to carry her and she won’t stay even if I manage to get her there. She feels...

How to effectively delay consequences for 5,6 yros

Posted on 7/7/2018

I’m struggling to understand how to enact delayed consequences as described in The “Nipping” Principle and could use some suggestions. It’s easy enough to do while on errands as both my 5 and...

Screaming, and Crying and Tantrums, Oh, My!

Posted on 6/23/2018

4 year old daughter suddenly having 30-45 mins tantrums when she doesn’t want to do something. Kicks, screams bloody murder, throws herself around to the point of hurting herself or me, will not...

Toddler tantrums at the store

Posted on 6/18/2018

Hi there, how do I tell my 33 month old no at the store. Is there a way to avoid a tantrum? Do I just snatch the item away and exit the store as quickly as I can? It has been a lot more difficult...

6yro pouts

Posted on 6/18/2018

My 6 year old son is generally well-behaved. He does have one behavior that I‘m at a lost to correct. He pouts when he is disciplined – by pouting I mean the skin around his eyes turns red, he...

The Terrible Three's

Posted on 6/15/2018

My 33 month old has recently begun yelling all of his responses. He gets frustrated very easily and says, “Stop! Stop it, mommy!” and “Goooosh!” "No!" is his favorite word, and now he yells it....

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