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Just Do It

Posted on 5/29/2018

Have wanted to start training my now 20 month old for a while now, the problem is 90% of the time when you tell her to go on the potty she throws a fit. I have read toilet training with out...

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Get Along or Get Away

Posted on 5/13/2018

Hello! My 6 and 3 years old sometimes play well together just perfect, but sometimes it is just horribly. 6 years would do something that 3 years doesn’t like or they just can’t share one red...

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3 yro crying uncontrollably

Posted on 5/3/2018

My 3 year old daughter sometimes cries so hard and long that she stops breathing for a few seconds. She usually does it when she is having a little tantrum, but it has also happened after hurting...

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2 yo Tantrums

Posted on 4/21/2018

Hi again, I am the mother of 3 children whom I love very much. A delightful 6 year old girl, a wonderfully compliant and sensitive 4 year old boy and a 2 year and 9 month old girl who is what...

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4 yo Tantrums

Posted on 4/16/2018

My four year old son has, much to my embarrassment, been a very demanding child who screams, cries, or yells with a tantrum. This happens when he doesn’t get the toy he wants, cereal he desires,...

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Tantrumming 5 year old

Posted on 4/14/2018

My 5-year-old, who is an otherwise happy, well-behaved child, cries at the drop of a hat if she perceives something has gone wrong or may go wrong soon (especially if she can't find something)....

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2.5 year old tantrum must be contained and not punished

Posted on 3/25/2018

What is the appropriate reaction/action or punishment for a 2.5 year old that is throwing a tantrum and then it escalates into hitting or pushing myself or his nanny or his 5 year old...

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Mr Cranky Pants

Posted on 3/25/2018

Our 2.5 year old son is having tantrums a lot more frequently. And he consistently does this before naps and bedtime the last week. He states that "he isn't tired." I explain that he needs to rest...

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It's Only a Phase!

Posted on 3/21/2018

My 3 year old child started the ticket system with 5 tickets in October of 2017. By January of 2018 we had a changed child on our hands and we were able to put away the ticket system. All of...

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Two Year Old Throwing Fits in Public

Posted on 3/8/2018

Hello, I have a two year old foster child who is usually very well behaved. Lately, he has been throwing tiny fits (usually in public). For example, today at the gym he was playing in the kids...

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Craving mom

Posted on 1/21/2018

My almost 3 year old girl has seemed to have anxiety/fear since a very young age and it's building to unhealthy limits. At a young age, I would try to drop her off at church nursery, but she would...

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Disobedient 4 YO

Posted on 1/17/2018

Our oldest continues to not listen when we instruct her to do something. She either does not do what we ask, complains that it is too hard, or screams. She is four. We typically reprimand by...

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Family sick of 4 yo tyrant

Posted on 1/3/2018

My four year old son is ridiculous at home. He is constantly taking mean to all of us, does stuff on purpose he knows he not supposed too, is loud, annoys our dog constantly. We have done the...

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3 YO "Catching" Whining Bug from 2 YO

Posted on 12/31/2017

My 2 year old boy has really developed a whiny attitude. I know this is normal for a 2 year old based on what I've read in Rosemonds book about the transition from 2 to 3 but it has also started...

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Toddler throws items and hits things when frustrated.

Posted on 12/25/2017

Hi there, my 27 month old throws items when he gets frustrated. He also attempts to hit something when he doesn’t have anything to throw. We’ve taught him not to hit us or others, so now he hits...

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How long to allow a screaming toddler to scream.

Posted on 12/25/2017

In regards to the "tantrum room", how long is it okay to leave a screaming toddler in there? And how do you get them to stay in there? Should I be locking my daughter in or should I just...

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You've Tried Everything. Now What?

Posted on 11/22/2017

I have four kids, ages 5, 4, 3, and 2. My 4 year old is having terrible fits. He is also regressing in his potty training and wets his pants several times a day. The things that he throws fits...

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Free to Disagree, Not Disobey

Posted on 11/13/2017

My 4.5 year-old-son has whining meltdown 3-5 times a day, usually when he 1) is told he can't have something, 2) it's time to stop doing something, or 3) there is some representation of...

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Perfectionist 10 Year Old

Posted on 11/3/2017

My eldest daughter is a perfectionist. She is a very organized person and is doing well in school. However, whenever she can't solve a homework problem or she struggles with new song on the piano,...

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19 month old Screaming, 4 y/o Bothering

Posted on 10/23/2017

I need help!! My 19 month old has recently found her "voice". She is screaming this horrible high pitched scream when she can't communicate. Like a typical toddler she is quite bossy and gets...

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Taming the Toddler Tantrums

Posted on 10/9/2017

Hi there, my 25 month old son is starting to have more tantrums at home and especially in public. I have heard of a tantrum spot where they can express themselves, alone. My question is- how long...

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post nap crankiness with 2 year old twins

Posted on 10/8/2017

What is the right way to handle 2-year-old post-nap tantrums/crankiness? My 29 month old boy/girl twins often are extremely out of sorts when they wake from their afternoon nap. Today my daughter...

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3yr old out of control

Posted on 9/14/2017

My husband and I are struggling with finding the right disciplinary action for our 3 year old daughter. She has many meltdowns and tests our authority on a regular basis. We have found that taking...

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Same problem, same directive.

Posted on 9/2/2017

How do I get my 6yo boy to stop the constant whining/crying when he doesn't get his way, gets frustrated, and fighting with his 2 sisters. Help.... It's driving me nuts!!

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Being consistent.

Posted on 8/21/2017

Our 9 year old daughter has a legion of home and school misbehaviors (primarilly tantrums/hitting at home and agression/defiance at school) that have been occuring for years. After reading "The...

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Toddler training

Posted on 8/6/2017

My husband and I are looking for advice on how to discipline our 16 month old. He is a very energetic toddler, running around and getting into everything he can. We have a baby gate up to stop him...

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Terrible Transition to Three

Posted on 8/3/2017

My 3 year old is a bully. She is starting 1st pre-school soon, Picks on 2 year old sister (sleep in same room, in cribs but climbs out) uncontrollable screaming when not going her way, snatches...

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5 yo disrespect must be nipped in the bud

Posted on 7/31/2017

My 5 year old son is willfully disobedient, defiant and enters into a rage when disciplined. He will hit, kick and throw things at me and tells me he hates me and threatens to "cut my face off"...

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2yo testing limits

Posted on 7/16/2017

Hello, my 22 month old is testing his limits- hitting me, screaming when he needs help (he has a speech delay), spilling water from his cup and doing it again after being told not to, etc. I've...

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Morning Mealtime Meltdowns: Four-Year-Old Edition

Posted on 7/11/2017

I'm afraid we've created a mealtime monster. My daughter just turned 4. She is not a morning person. She's also a suspected hypoglycemic. This has not been medically confirmed because when I...

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Aggression and the Ticket System

Posted on 6/15/2017

My son will be 4 next month. The 2s and 3s were fairly uneventful for us- nothing beyond your typical discipline issues that were quickly nipped. Several weeks ago, however, he began getting angry...

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New baby=tantrums for Big Sister!

Posted on 5/22/2017

We just brought the new baby home and it's full-blown, almost constant tantrums from our 30-month old. We used our 'tantrum place', but her tantrums are 15-20 minute, full-on bloodcurdling scream...

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Angry Outbursts from a 3-year-old

Posted on 5/21/2017

Every time I tell my 3 1/2 year old to do something (ex: put your cup up on the table more instead of on the edge, don't jump around in the kitchen, etc.) she crosses her arms and grunts. Or she...

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Toddler Tantrums

Posted on 5/17/2017

I have a 2.5 year old and a 13 month old. My 2 year old has started to throw tantrums in public if things don't go his way. He will start crying and throw himself on the floor. How should I handle...

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Teaching your child who is the boss.

Posted on 5/13/2017

My almost 3 year old daughter has developed the habit of using my breasts as a soothing tool. She was weaned well over a year ago, yet I still can't seem to get her to stop touching, cuddling and...

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The Twos, Doubled

Posted on 5/10/2017

I have boy/girl twins that will be two years old in 2 weeks. We are experiencing an increase in several behavior issues that seem to be compounded by a very recent move (last week) and also...

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Who is really in control?

Posted on 5/9/2017

My daughter turns 4 next week and has been using the potty since she was 23 months old. However, she loves to pee her pants about 4-5/wk. This is either done out of spite (her way of throwing a...

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5 yo Tantrums

Posted on 4/23/2017

Good Afternoon, Our five year old has changed since starting school this year. He used to be for the most part a quiet, compliant and cheerful soul to have around. If behaviour got out of hand,...

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2 yo Tantrums While Shopping

Posted on 4/22/2017

What should I do when I am out shopping alone with my 2 year old and he decides "he wants out of the buggy" and starts to throw a terrible fit?

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Here Come the Terrible Terrific Twos!

Posted on 4/19/2017

My usually pleasant almost 2 year old daughter just started throwing violent fits this week, kicking, screaming, and trying and sometimes succeeding in banging her head into my face. A few times...

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9 yo boy needs boom lowered

Posted on 4/13/2017

My youngest son is 9 years old. He has an older brother who is 11 years old. My 9 year has always had a temper/anger problem when things don't go his way. He reacts by having a tantrum. He has...

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A Blustering 3-Year-Old and the Ticket System

Posted on 4/5/2017

We have four children. Our third child is a 3.5 year old boy. He is our most "spirited" child and has the vocabulary of a 6 year old. Our 2 older children (6 & 8) are more reserved. He is so...

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Split personality of a 4 y/o

Posted on 3/30/2017

4 year old girl who is disobedient and throws tantrums. She has privileges taken but that has no effect. At school she behaves perfectly.

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Whiny tantrums.

Posted on 2/9/2017

I feel kind of ridiculous asking a question now when I thought I had the Rosemond-style discipline stuff nailed. At the moment, my kids are upstairs in their rooms for the remainder of the day...

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2 yo Screamer

Posted on 2/9/2017

Recently our 2 year old daughter has been screaming No at us when we tell her she cannot have something or generally not give her what she wants... we have tried simply ignoring, time out, and...

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Help With Ongoing Tantrums

Posted on 1/21/2017

Our 9-year old daughter has been prone to tantrums all of her life. The trigger is usually not getting her way--not getting to do what she wants, wear what she wants, etc...and these have usually...

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6 yo Won't Stay in His Room

Posted on 1/11/2017

We are having problems knowing how to deal with our 6yo foster son (1 of 4 foster children) who has tantrums (yelling, throwing things, kicking, defiant and sometimes laughing as he disobeys,...

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One Little Monkey on the Bed

Posted on 12/18/2016

Hello... We have two daughters...one turned two in September and our youngest will be one in February...within the past couple of days, our two year old has stopped listening to us.. After telling...

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28 mo and "tantrum pees"

Posted on 10/26/2016

Hi there - This is more information regarding my son's pee on the floor or pants habit when he tantrums or whines - I tried another tactic. Make the potty bell ring when he whines and get him to...

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More on 28 mo issues with toileting and tantrums

Posted on 10/26/2016

HI Kaye, thank you for your answer. I have tried that approach from day one, and actually he keeps right on whining, lying on the floor and kicking..no matter what I do or what I say, or how I...

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