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It's Only a Phase!

Posted on 3/21/2018

My 3 year old child started the ticket system with 5 tickets in October of 2017. By January of 2018 we had a changed child on our hands and we were able to put away the ticket system. All of...

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Emancipation Proclamation

Posted on 3/18/2018

My 22 year old son graduated recently with excellent grades and a degree in computer science. He’s moved home but shows no signs of wanting to find a job. He’s never had a job except for cutting...

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Set the standard and hold them to it.

Posted on 3/18/2018

Hi there, Thank you for all the advice you have given me re: my out of control 3.5 yo son. He’s been kicked out of the garden for hitting mum - and successfully strung together 28 days of not...

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Self Control?

Posted on 3/12/2018

Thank you for answering my question from earlier in the week. I appreciate Parent Guru & the role of the doctor in my life. My sons 3 qtr report came home on Thursday of course I knew he had...

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Sticky Fingers

Posted on 3/10/2018

Our 5 year old has been having a problem with thinking he can take things that belong to others in the house. Recently we found a pack of gum that we do not remember purchasing. We are pretty...

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Two out of Three

Posted on 3/5/2018

My 9+ year old talks back to teachers and classmates, calls other students names, won't follow directions of teachers and refuses to do what he's been told (one teacher captured it perfectly...

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Parent leaders regulate their emotions.

Posted on 3/5/2018

John Rosemond and staff, We recently got placed with a foster child in our home, 5 years old. We realized she isn’t as good at the ABCs as she should be, so I sat down to teach her. I wrote...

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Should parents intervene in 8yro friends

Posted on 3/1/2018

Hello- For the past 2 years, our 8 yo son has been in the same classroom as another boy and they have become friends (at school and play sports together). Our son has recently told us that this...

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Costly behavior

Posted on 2/28/2018

My 9yo son has broken household items in fits of anger over the years. Most recently a kitchen chair that he threw and a window that he punched. We have kicked him out of the garden and he has...

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Solitary confinement

Posted on 2/23/2018

What do I do when I kick my kids (6, 5, and 4) out of the garden and the LIKE it!! All three of my girls are upstairs in their room laughing and jumping on their beds. I took their bed frames...

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Tumultuous Trio

Posted on 2/23/2018

Where do we start? We have 3 girls age 6, 5, and 4. They are ALL out of control. Reading through the Well Behaved Child I'm overwhelmed with all the methods. My husband and I have started...

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Time for a coach.

Posted on 2/20/2018

Dear John, our 7 yr old son has been masturbating since he was 2. In the beginning we told him he was only allowed to do that in his room, but then he started doing it in front of anyone including...

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Indulging an adopted son.

Posted on 2/6/2018

Hi There. We have a 12 year old son whom we adopted at birth. After many years of waiting, we just adopted a newborn girl. Our son loves her very much and is very loving towards her. But, he...

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12 year old yelling regarding punishments

Posted on 2/1/2018

This is a follow up to the question on 10-17-17 concerning "yelling" from our 12 yr. old. I have thought over your response and realize my question was rushed and unclear. We have all the...

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Mom was right to override tickets

Posted on 1/24/2018

HI there, Thank you for your prompt responses on my questions including taking back control and being a parent-centred family. The children have misbehaved so much (during the holidays) that I...

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Mom lost in daughter's orbit

Posted on 1/23/2018

My daughter is five years old and while she has many wonderful qualities. She bright, articulate, and funny. There are certain behaviors however that drive me crazy! I have read the Well Behaved...

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How to Create a Parent-Centered Home with Young Children

Posted on 1/19/2018

I'm needing clarification on what it means to be a parent-centred home, rather than a child-centred home when we have youngish child of 3.5 and 6.5. Could you direct me to resources for guidance...

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Identifying the real problem.

Posted on 1/19/2018

I have a 15 year old son who makes really good grades in school. But he also is getting in trouble at school for various things with his "friends", one of which I do not like. My son has been...

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3.5 year old boy hitting his mother

Posted on 1/16/2018

Hi there, thank you for your response on my previous question re: out of control 3.5 year old boy. We have now started to move him OUT of the centre of the family but it's not been easy. We...

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Daughter choosing Dad

Posted on 1/13/2018

Now my daughter is with her biological father who rented an extended stay for himself and her close to school, so she can finish school now. It's her last year and she needs to start applying for...

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5 year old table manners

Posted on 1/10/2018

We have a hyperactive, strong-willed 5-year-old daughter (and we are learning to get on with this). We would like to know how to approach what we call “multiple offenses”. For instance,...

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Moving Towards Leadership Parenting

Posted on 1/10/2018

I'm a single mom of three. 14 yr boy, 11 yr boy/girl twins. My daughter seems to do everything to NOT do what I ask her to do. She eventually does it, but not before struggling to stand up or...

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Difficulties of divorce parenting.

Posted on 1/9/2018

In a recent column Dr. Rosemond mentioned that respect is something which is claimed by parents, rather than something that is earned or entitled. I would like clarification on this point as it...

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Parental Rights and Decisions

Posted on 1/8/2018

I had a big fight with my daughter, she snapped and started hitting me. My husband, who's her stepdad, was trying to stop her by grabbing her hands and pulling her away. I called the police...

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Family sick of 4 yo tyrant

Posted on 1/3/2018

My four year old son is ridiculous at home. He is constantly taking mean to all of us, does stuff on purpose he knows he not supposed too, is loud, annoys our dog constantly. We have done the...

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Pre-Schooler Stuck in Season 1

Posted on 1/1/2018

Hi there, i have a little 3.5 year old who is completely out of control. I admit we have let him run the house a little bit as he is a little spitfire and makes things unpleasant(ie screams as...

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3 YO "Catching" Whining Bug from 2 YO

Posted on 12/31/2017

My 2 year old boy has really developed a whiny attitude. I know this is normal for a 2 year old based on what I've read in Rosemonds book about the transition from 2 to 3 but it has also started...

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Disrespect from a 13 y/o boy

Posted on 12/29/2017

My 13 yr old son is disrespectful to his Dad! My son knows how to push his buttons to the point my husband says hurtful words like "you're a bad human" and loses control and starts to yell. I do...

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Revisiting Sleeping Dilemma with 9 Year Old

Posted on 12/21/2017

Hi. Can I use the ticket system for a 9yr old boy who won't sleep in his own bed? And can you tell me how the ticket system works? Thank You

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Time Out With Tickets?

Posted on 11/28/2017

We just started the ticket system with our three-year-old and five-year-old. We have done this with our five-year-old in the past and we appreciate how it works and how effective it can be....

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To Medicate, or Not

Posted on 11/20/2017

I've wrote to you a year ago, now I need your advice on this situation. My 17 yo daughter was upset a lot, cried for an extended period so I took her to a psychologist. My daughter likes her...

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Mornings with a Grumpy Toddler

Posted on 11/20/2017

We have a 27 month old boy who wakes up grumpy every morning. He sleeps well all night long after going to bed around 7:30pm and wakes up at 6am. It takes him 20-30 minutes for him to be happy in...

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Time to Toughen Up with Teen

Posted on 11/17/2017

Dear John, you answered my question about my 14 ye old being kicked out of garden for 6 months now and she may be a rebel and we shouldn't start zig zag but stay the course. I'm a wimpy guilty...

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Teens and the Telephone

Posted on 11/15/2017

I have noticed that parents writing in about problems with kids and phones are repeatedly told to take the device away and the child can have it when they can purchase their own device. I don't...

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Five year old uncooperative, and more

Posted on 11/13/2017

I am a preschool principal, I have a 5 year-old child who has problems. He has been with us since he was 4 (we have used many ways to discipline him but it doesn't work). He is able to...

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Follow up about Disobedient 5 y/o

Posted on 11/13/2017

I am referring to my previous question about a 5 years old student in my preschool. The boy is not my son. I don't think that he has ADHD or Autism. When I spoke to the mother, she told me that...

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Create Daily Reports with Meaningful Consequences

Posted on 11/7/2017

My 10-year-old son, who is in fifth grade, is having some trouble at school. At this parent-teacher conference, his teacher expressed he is too talkative, rushing his work, and has poor...

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Potty Time is No Party

Posted on 11/6/2017

HI there - I have another question about my 6 year old - she has been allowed to develop some sloppy hygeine habits. Perhaps this is my fault for not supervising properly. Following on from not...

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Online School is a Privilege Not a Right

Posted on 11/3/2017

We have homeschooled our 3 kids for all of their school years. Last year we enrolled our son (now 16.5) in online public schooling because he refused to be cooperative with school work. Online...

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Shift Your Focus

Posted on 10/23/2017

I need some guidance with my two youngest children. I am a stay at home mother of four children. I currently have two in full time elementary school and two at home. The kids at home are 4 and...

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Screaming can be extinguished.

Posted on 10/17/2017

So, we have a twelve yr. old daughter who has begun to yell about anything and everything she doesn't like. Yells at her siblings, yells at our instruction/decisions...etc. At what point do we...

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Little Meanie

Posted on 10/6/2017

Both sets of my 3 year old's grandparents live out of state. When they come to visit they typically stay for several days at our home. Last time his grandmother was in town my son sternly told her...

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The Phone is Not the Problem

Posted on 10/4/2017

So, in response to the answer to my question I have a few other questions. In the past few days a lot has transpired and my husband and I really had it out over my son. I understand a lot of his...

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Lower the Boom on 18 year old son

Posted on 10/1/2017

My son has just turned 18 and is a senior in high school. He had his first job this summer doing construction work with some people we know. He did well getting up early and they said that he...

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11 yr old lost all her blocks on chart!!!

Posted on 10/1/2017

My wife and I have an 11 year old and 9 year old daughter. We kicked our 9 year old out of the garden several weeks ago for school and home behavior issues. Our 11 year was put on weekly charts...

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6-Block Chart Program

Posted on 9/29/2017

My son is 9 1/2. Over the last few months we have implemented the daily 6 block chart program after reading The Well Behaved Child in response to the defiance and attitude we had been seeing...

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First Time Offender

Posted on 9/28/2017

Received a call from my 5th graders school today he and another boy were making and folded paper craft (ninja star) at lunch. My son turned it into an inappropriate conversation about a private...

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6 year old boy with an attitude

Posted on 9/20/2017

We are having a hard time with our almost 6 year old son. This summer we started him on tickets for whining and not listening. Quickly the focus became on not listening only. It worked for a while...

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Excessive Complaints from Teenage Girl

Posted on 9/15/2017

Hi. My question is about my thirteen year old daughter and her constant complaining whenever shes asked to do something that she doesn't want to do. She will get all.emmotional and complain and...

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Calm Down Please!

Posted on 9/12/2017

My daughter is now 8 1/2 - through the years I have written to you about her personality - last year she was diagnosed with Dyslexia - which has explained where the low self esteem has come from....

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