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15-year-old doesn't like being "un-hinged!"

Posted on 8/4/2017

We have an adopted son, almost 16 yo, who has been with us for 2 1/2 years. He spent most of his earlier life in an over-crowded orphanage, with very little male influence and little supervision....

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Terrible Transition to Three

Posted on 8/3/2017

My 3 year old is a bully. She is starting 1st pre-school soon, Picks on 2 year old sister (sleep in same room, in cribs but climbs out) uncontrollable screaming when not going her way, snatches...

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Mom has authority - needs follow through.

Posted on 8/2/2017

How do you "make" your child listen? I have 3 year old twins boys that when I say "pick up your toys" or anything of the like they say "no, i will not pick up my toys". How do I make them? If...

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5 yo disrespect must be nipped in the bud

Posted on 7/31/2017

My 5 year old son is willfully disobedient, defiant and enters into a rage when disciplined. He will hit, kick and throw things at me and tells me he hates me and threatens to "cut my face off"...

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Challenges of the two parent home.

Posted on 7/24/2017

Hello, I have 2 boys, 14 and 16 years old. I am divorced from their father. Their father and I have a civil relationship regarding the boys. We have always disagreed in the general rearing of the...

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Too young for consequences?

Posted on 7/18/2017

My 20 month old son is doing typical 2 year old behaviors testing limits. More and more often he completely ignores my instructions. The past few days I have put him in his tantrum spot, his old...

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How to Stop Mommy-Hitting Toddler

Posted on 7/18/2017

Hi there, my 22 month old likes to slap/hit me when he's upset. At home I've started using timeout, which helps. What do I do when I do when he does it in public? I've read Making the Terrible...

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Diagnosis and parenting.

Posted on 7/17/2017

Our 8-year old daughter was psychologically evaluated upon a request from her school and pediatrician. This was done for a determination of possible ADHD or Autism Spectrum issues. The results of...

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Require respect from college-age daughter

Posted on 7/16/2017

Our college student, who holds down a full time job in the summer and a 20-hour part-time job during the school year when she lives on campus, seems incapable or unwilling to follow through on the...

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Never argue with a 5 year old.

Posted on 7/16/2017

My one and only gives the vibe she is superior to her classmates by contradicting them, telling them they are wrong or having show off behaviour. I'm afraid she will not have any friends, but am...

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Chaos ensues when a 3 year old is in charge.

Posted on 7/10/2017

Hello Dr. Rosemond- I am a mother of two boys- age 1 and 3 (almost 4 on the 19th of July). It is the 4 year old I am writing to you about. I know much of his behavior is typical toddler...

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Shoplifting teen blames Mom

Posted on 7/2/2017

I'm feeling guilty. In the last couple of months my son has been in trouble with the police,(for shoplifting) and at school. Home life has been very difficult. I have made him take responsibility,...

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A 3 year old with too much control.

Posted on 6/30/2017

Two months ago, I started staying home with my 3.5 year old son. Since then, he has started refusing to poop. This makes the entire family miserable - he's extra difficult, only wants to lie on...

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11-yr-old tummy troubles or just seeking attention?

Posted on 6/17/2017

Our 11 year old daughter began expressing stomach discomfort in early spring (i.e. VERY frequent complaining). In the absence of obvious illness (diarrhea, pain in night w/disrupted sleep, etc..),...

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Teenagers, Technology and Life

Posted on 6/13/2017

With the deluge of technology in children's lives today, once the children reach their teens, including late teens, what would you consider to be fair usage rules in the home for both computers...

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A blip on her radar?

Posted on 6/4/2017

Hello- Last evening, I caught my 16 year old daughter who came home from a graduation party (with adults present) very intoxicated. She was throwing up in the bathroom w/ 2 girlfriends who were...

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Parent leadership comes first - manners follow.

Posted on 6/3/2017

I have been trying for 10 years to get my kids to use manners. My kids are 6,8,10. I thought of getting jars & whoever uses manners gets a dime or quarter for the day. Do u think this is a good...

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New baby=tantrums for Big Sister!

Posted on 5/22/2017

We just brought the new baby home and it's full-blown, almost constant tantrums from our 30-month old. We used our 'tantrum place', but her tantrums are 15-20 minute, full-on bloodcurdling scream...

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Angry Outbursts from a 3-year-old

Posted on 5/21/2017

Every time I tell my 3 1/2 year old to do something (ex: put your cup up on the table more instead of on the edge, don't jump around in the kitchen, etc.) she crosses her arms and grunts. Or she...

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8 y/o Containment?

Posted on 5/11/2017

We've restricted our 8 yr old son to his room with only essentials and early bedtime until he has 15 consecutive days without hitting or pushing anyone. How exactly do we keep him in his room?...

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Hard Rocker

Posted on 5/9/2017

Our 5 year old adopted child was born drug addicted, had a trach and gtube for first 4 years of her life. In NICU for first 6 months. To comfort herself she rocks back and forth, slams her back...

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Co-sleeping?

Posted on 5/6/2017

how to address the issue of a child sleeping in bed with mother and father.

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School Problems for a 7 year old

Posted on 5/3/2017

7 year old son smacked a classmate's hand while walking by their desk. When asked why by the vice principal his response was he "thought it was funny". Need to nip this in the bud, this is his 3rd...

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Wild Monkey at Naptime

Posted on 5/1/2017

I try to make a regular one hour quiet time for my 3 year old daughter every afternoon but things usually end negatively. She has, from birth, been a high needs kiddo and playing by herself seems...

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Pre-Teen's New Found Rigidity

Posted on 5/1/2017

My 11-year-old boy will some days be extremely legalistic. This morning he said he needed to read the Bible for 13 million hours, look up a YouTube video to know how to make his bed perfectly, not...

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Dressing an Alligator Toddler

Posted on 4/29/2017

Do you have any advice for parents when trying to dress a toddler starts to resemble gator wrestling?

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Beware of TMI!

Posted on 4/28/2017

Hello, Our 7 year old son asked me last night at our family dinner, "what does the word that is spelled F U C K .... mean? When he asked, it was just me at the table, as my husband, had...

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Time to Throw out The "Time-Out"

Posted on 4/27/2017

What approach is best when a 27 month old gets up and giggles when put in a time out chair? I have put him back in, but he keeps laughing.... I'm only putting him in time out for a very short...

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Brothers don't have to be friends

Posted on 4/26/2017

I have a 7 year old boy and a 4 year old boy. They complain/compare: 'he got more apple juice than me', 'how come he got to watch t.v while he was home sick and I had to go to school?' They...

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The 14 year old rules.

Posted on 4/25/2017

This is in reference to my last question regarding my 14 year old stepson. I couldn't agree more about the parents being on the same page. Plus I have read Johns" book Teen proofing. I have...

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Authority Issues with a 12 year old

Posted on 4/19/2017

My 12 year old girl has a real issue with her authority, she talks back when asked to do anything that she does not want to do. My mother-in-law, My husband and I are continually having to talk...

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Here Come the Terrible Terrific Twos!

Posted on 4/19/2017

My usually pleasant almost 2 year old daughter just started throwing violent fits this week, kicking, screaming, and trying and sometimes succeeding in banging her head into my face. A few times...

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Grumpy 11 year old woes.

Posted on 4/17/2017

We home school our 11 and 8 year old sons. Have done so all the way through, except for one year of Christian school. We have been having problems especially with our 11-year-old, being grumpy,...

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Jekyll and Hyde almost 4 y/o boy

Posted on 4/7/2017

Please help. My son is 3 years old and will be 4 in three weeks. His behavior is getting out of hand. He doesn't behave like this anywhere else but home. He has three older sisters and he hits...

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A Blustering 3-Year-Old and the Ticket System

Posted on 4/5/2017

We have four children. Our third child is a 3.5 year old boy. He is our most "spirited" child and has the vocabulary of a 6 year old. Our 2 older children (6 & 8) are more reserved. He is so...

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Ending a soothing bad habit

Posted on 4/4/2017

My son has had a habit of chewing on his knuckle fairly regularly (and has a big callus on his middle finger to show for it), but recently it's become more frequently and has extended to other...

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Single parent struggles.

Posted on 4/3/2017

I could probably be considered guilty of putting my kids in the center of the family. Giving too much consideration to their feelings... I'm a single parent of boy/girl twins that are 10 and...

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The 3 year old is in charge.

Posted on 4/3/2017

We have an almost 3 year old whom we are having trouble with tantrums and defiance recently. I dread bringing him out because in a moment's notice, he will be screaming and kicking when told no he...

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No parenting authority produces chaos.

Posted on 3/31/2017

My stepson is about to enter high school. He will be 15 in September. Last May he vandalized his "friends" house and fathers" car to the tune of 12,000.00 which we payed. He wrote foul language...

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Adult child's negative influence on minor siblings.

Posted on 3/29/2017

Dear John, What is your solution to this? We have an older, out of the house child (30 years old), who is sowing seeds of discontent with his younger siblings (teens) who still live at home. He...

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What's a School Counselor to Do?

Posted on 3/13/2017

Hi John, I'm a K-12 School Counselor and schools today have many challenges. One of them involves working with kids in junior high and high school who are failing, school is not working for...

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No, No, No!

Posted on 3/10/2017

I have a two and half year old and 13 month old. My concern is I always feel like I am correcting the oldest, no yelling no hitting no throwing etc and I am beginning to feel like I fuss all the...

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5 and 3 1/2 yo boys over the top silly

Posted on 3/8/2017

I have a five year old son and 3 1/2 year old son. I am very familiar with and have read several of Rosemond's books, most recently, The Well Behaved Child. I use the ticket system with both...

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Shocking Discovery

Posted on 3/5/2017

I recently found marijuana paraphernalia in my 18 year old daughter's room. She is a senior in high school and, up until this point, a very responsible and trustworthy child. She is an excellent...

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Sticky Fingers

Posted on 3/4/2017

Our five year old (foster) son has begun stealing things from other children's book bags (or toys that are left out) at his after-school program. He's a curious little fellow and has a hard time...

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Please?

Posted on 2/28/2017

Can you give me your advice on the use of the word "please" when addressing our children? Should we be avoiding this word when issuing instructions to the children, but otherwise it is fine? ...

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Playing with children - this mom gets it.

Posted on 2/22/2017

My daughters (currently 5 and 7) ask me to play with toys with them (specifically) every few days. I have told them that they don’t need me to play and I have things I need to get done around the...

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Note to self - don't leave this 5 year old alone with friends.

Posted on 2/16/2017

I have a 5yo boy who is not respectful of other people's things. During a party at a friend's house with lots of children, he tore the thumbs off of oversized "Hulk hands". At his sister's...

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The doctor says...

Posted on 2/14/2017

Hello, I have a 6 (7 in May) year-old daughter who is the oldest girl of three. She's very bright, articulate, caring, giving...you get the drift. As she's gotten older, she has started to...

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