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Children, Vitamins and The Doctor
Posted on 3/11/2020
Any tips on getting 12 and 8 year olds to take supplements? We’ve tried everything to mask the taste but it seems more of a power struggle. Thanks!
Read MoreThe Terrible Twos Part II: The Teen Years
Posted on 2/27/2020
my daughter is 14 years old and she thinks she is crazy in love for a boy in her school , same grade. She doesn't have a smart phone . But she bought an old phone from a friend for 80 dollars and...
Read More10 Year Old Testing Boundaries
Posted on 2/8/2020
I have been using the alpha speech. I make mistakes sometimes, escalating my voice because I'm frustrated. On the most part I'm pretty consistent. I noticed in alpha speech you do no use...
Read MoreChanging schools in high school
Posted on 2/1/2020
Our 15 year daughter has been in catholic school since she was 3 years old. Our intention was to put her in a public school for high school. We live in a middle to upper middler class...
Read MoreLaw enforcement in school settings
Posted on 1/28/2020
What is your opinion on the use of School Resource Officers and how children and teenagers are now being arrested and/or prosecuted for both major (fighting, assault on staff, vandalism, drugs,...
Read MoreIs Child's Threat of Suicide a Cry for Help or for Attention?
Posted on 1/9/2020
My oldest is eleven and started middle school this year. Overall it has been a smooth transition. She has a great group of friends and likes school. She does not have a phone and has very limited...
Read MoreShould we cancel Christmas?
Posted on 12/16/2019
We are a family with 4 kids (13 year old boy, 13 year old girl, 11 year old girl, 4 year old girl). None of them have any electronics (since October 2019). The three older ones did have cell...
Read MoreYoung Teenage Boy Has Problem To Solve
Posted on 12/2/2019
Finally: school and studies. Being in junior high now we are trying to encourage better study habits for our son. He has always found school easy and not brought work home to review while still...
Read MoreHow Much Allowance Should I Give My Kids?
Posted on 12/2/2019
I have a few questions: In Teenproofing there is talk about allowance not connected to chores. I love the idea of teaching the kids about money responsibility, budgeting, etc., as discussed. Our...
Read MoreGrounded means...
Posted on 11/13/2019
My son is 13. He has been lying fairly often. He got a detention at school but told me he was getting help from the teacher with his work he didn’t understand. Of course I found out when the...
Read MoreThe Struggle is Real
Posted on 11/6/2019
We have struggled with our child being ashamed to be seen with either of us (her parents) in public, to the point that she acts in a way that hurts us. She is now in middle school (7th grade);...
Read MoreEnd Micromanagement of Grades by Lowering the Boom
Posted on 10/15/2019
I have two sons (13 and 14 years old) and one step son (12 years old). They've gone to a Christian school their whole lives and are all saved. My issue is with my 13 year old. He is very smart as...
Read MoreTeach Tweenager How to Manage Anger
Posted on 10/8/2019
Hi There, My daughter will be 11 yo on February, she is such a sweet/sensetive girl who likes to please others, but when she becomes angry she can not control it , she melts down for a while then...
Read MoreConsult with your spouse first.
Posted on 9/5/2019
Hi, I am having trouble dealing with my step daughter that is 15. My husband and I have 5 children together. He has two and I have three. My husbands daughter has severe anger and behavioral...
Read More14 YO Boy Looking For Friends
Posted on 8/28/2019
My son is 14 years old. He is having a lot of issues around relationships with friends/girlfriends. He seems to be struggling with feeling secure in his relationships. He needs a lot of...
Read MoreField Trip
Posted on 8/22/2019
My son is 13. He is in 8th grade. The school he is attending goes on an intercession trip once a year. We did not allow him to go last year because of immaturity and he has stomach issues and has...
Read MoreBeating the Bullies
Posted on 6/20/2019
Here’s a topic I’ve been struggling with that I just saw John address in a Facebook post – mean kids. My oldest son (9) was complaining about some kids at his summer camp saying things like...
Read More15 yo Daughter and Foolish Friends
Posted on 6/15/2019
15 year old daughter has been vaping, possible drinking & lying. She has put inappropriate photos referencing vaping, getting high and raiding our liquor cabinet on her Instagram only seen by...
Read More13yo struggles
Posted on 5/29/2019
My son is 13. He will be starting 8th grade this year. He got 5 detentions and two phone calls to the school from other parents saying he was bothering their kids. The detentions were for...
Read MoreHomeschool Blues
Posted on 3/19/2019
I homeschool my 13 year old son. We are fairly new to our current city and have recently made friends by joining a local co-op. My son was asked, by his new friends, to join an additional co-op....
Read MoreStanding up to a Bully
Posted on 3/15/2019
My son is 7th grade and at a new school. Middle school has been hard. Today a very big boy in his class who he normally is friends with pushed him in the hall because he was trying to show out in...
Read MoreTechnology Addiction
Posted on 3/13/2019
I have a 13 year old son who has had a smart phone for one year. He is an academically hard working, popular kid who enjoys being with his friends and playing baseball and football. However, his...
Read MorePrevailing not Travailing
Posted on 3/9/2019
My 14 year old daughter was mad at me about a consequence I gave her after clearly telling her what the expectations were. She knew what the rules were and broke them so I gave her the...
Read MoreTrim Teen Talk Time?
Posted on 2/22/2019
My son will be 16 In a month. When he was younger, he and I (his mother) would have 'talk time' - when we would lie in bed before he went to sleep to talk, share, etc. We stopped doing that a...
Read MorePuberty and Lingerie Continues to be a problem
Posted on 2/21/2019
We are continuing to have a problem with my son, now 14, and girls clothes. I noticed some of my items missing recently, black camisole and a black slip. I found a bag in his closet filled with...
Read More7th grade boy and school tech use
Posted on 2/15/2019
My 7th grader boy is at a new school. He has gotten a detention for looking at baseball videos on his computer during class. So I grounded him and took everything away..once off being grounded he...
Read MoreTeenage drama
Posted on 2/5/2019
My 14 year old son had a very rough transition to high school this year. Although he has the ability, he is not performing well and has failed two classes last semester. This semester is not...
Read MoreFlowers for V-D for wife and daughter?
Posted on 1/31/2019
I buy my wife flowers for Valentine's Day and I'd like to buy some for my daughter as well, as an annual tradition. Are there any concerns with that, such as putting her on the same level as my...
Read MoreSome problems require more intense attention.
Posted on 1/6/2019
Hello, My question involves a 15 year old with a tragic story. She lost her father at 2 and a half to a freak accident on the job and then three years later she lost her mother to skin cancer. ...
Read More14 year old farmer's son is disrespectful to Mother
Posted on 12/31/2018
My son, who turned 14 in November, has become very disrespectful to his mother. We live on a farm and the place is not clean to his liking. He thinks his mother is lazy, won't pick up after...
Read MoreMom frustrated with resistant 13-year-old daughter
Posted on 12/14/2018
My 13 year old daughter has always had an issue with team sports .She is having self esteem issues and wants to lose weight .She participates in horse riding once a week as the distance is usually...
Read MoreFitting In
Posted on 12/5/2018
Hi have a soon to be 13 year old. He is in a new school, his old school was a Christian school. It has been somewhat of a struggle in middle school. From being the new student and being exposed to...
Read MoreJunk Food Junkie
Posted on 11/6/2018
We have made some nutritional changes to the family diet at home. We are limiting sugar and providing healthier snacks and fruits and veggies for all of us. However, I have reason to believe...
Read MorePeers Will Make or Break 15 YO Girl
Posted on 10/24/2018
15 year old daughter confessed to me last night that she went to the park before school and had sex with a boy a few weeks ago. She has had her period, so she doesn't believe she is pregnant. She...
Read MoreThe Pestering Teen...
Posted on 10/22/2018
We are struggling with my 14 year old son. He constantly pesters sister dad and myself. We take away all electronic devices and that does not solve the problem. He is getting more stubborn every...
Read MoreWhat to do when households have different rules for teen stepson?
Posted on 10/19/2018
My husband and I follow your columns (my mother quoted you regularly growing up, sometimes to our dismay) but now as a stepmother and father to a teenage boy, we find ourselves in a tough spot. We...
Read MoreIs Mom Micro-managing?
Posted on 10/15/2018
I just found my 14 y/o daughter has been hiding an electronic tablet in her room. She uses it "for homework and to talk to friends via instagram". She brought it from her dads house. She says I...
Read MoreAh, the promises of a 13 year old...
Posted on 10/15/2018
What is your opinion on a 13 year old having an Instagram account? My son has promised he will keep his account private, share his password with me and only follow people he knows personally if I...
Read MoreSticks and Stones
Posted on 9/27/2018
I have a 12 year old boy in 7th grade. He started a new private school this year. He used to go to a Christian private school. When kids argued and treated each other badly at the other school I...
Read MoreStrive
Posted on 9/26/2018
My step-daughter 14 has been telling her mom and dad on and off for years that she does not feel part of our household and wants to stay at her mom's house. This conversation usually starts up...
Read MoreEstranged Teen Son
Posted on 9/25/2018
I am recently divorced, my ex had two adopted children(her sisters kids, given up and taken away because of drugs/prison)....the children(girl 8, boy 13 now) were very undisciplined which caused...
Read MoreEntitled, Self-Centered 14 YO Boy
Posted on 9/17/2018
I have a question re. how to handle my son's awful behavior. He is 14 years old. His Father and I switched custody 6 months ago through mediation, following a lawsuit that my son requested because...
Read MoreTeen Proofing with Cell Phones
Posted on 9/12/2018
I am currently reading John's book Teen Proofing. In chapter 3 he discusses the six C-words, curfew, cash, car, cohorts, conflict, and consequences. He gives detailed explanations of how he and...
Read MoreParenting Teen on Autism Spectrum
Posted on 9/7/2018
Currently raising 5th 13 year old, other children’s ages 18-31, have read Teen Proofing several times and purchased book for friends. What Teen Proofing publication can John recommend to help me...
Read More13 year old abusing computer privileges
Posted on 8/28/2018
I'm having a technology issue with my almost 13 year old. We have placed guidelines and restrictions on her computer use but she continues to abuse her privileges. She went all summer with no...
Read MoreMiddle School Behaviors
Posted on 8/23/2018
Is there a section on this site for teachers? Where can I find information about dealing with behaviors in a school setting specifically middle school?
Read MoreUnmotivated Teenage Boy
Posted on 8/12/2018
My teenage son is not interested in engaging in anything that requires effort. He gives up on everything he tries after just one attempt and after much coaxing and prodding, refuses to try again....
Read MorePuberty/Lingerie
Posted on 8/2/2018
I found young girls bras and panties in my 13 year old son's closet. I then noticed some of my clothes were missing, bra panties, camisols, tops. I attempted to talk to him about this but he won't...
Read MorePull the Plug on Social Media
Posted on 7/19/2018
Hi, I have a 15 year old daughter that has a SnapChat account. She recently went to camp for a month that doesn’t allow cell phones. While at camp she asked a friend to keep up with her streaks...
Read MoreThe magic wand of threats
Posted on 7/18/2018
I have a 13 year old step son. He's threatened suicide for 2 years now and now he's threatening to hurt others, including his mom, his father and me. We have him talking to a therapist and...
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