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Nixing Negative Talk

Posted on 7/11/2018

My 13 year old son is Negative Nellie and complains about everything. And by everything I mean everything. This behavior really started in February of this year when we sold our home but has...

15yro defiant, angry,

Posted on 6/19/2018

I have a 15 year old son who has extreme fits of rage when he doesn’t get his way, which is entitlement. When he is in a rage he throws and breaks my things, curses me violently and threatens...

Teen Awakening

Posted on 6/19/2018

Hi--I am hoping John will answer this question--I reread Teen Proofing, and you talk about kids experimenting/using drugs can be a great opportunity for you and for them--for them to make mistakes...

Tattling

Posted on 6/12/2018

We are still using the ticket system with our children (ages 10, 13, 13, 15) even though we want to eventually move away from it and begin to think along the lines of parenting teens. For now, do...

Masculinity

Posted on 6/11/2018

My husband and I I have a 14 year old son. We have raised him in a Biblically centered home. My husband is a wonderful father to our son. He has always made it a point to try to take him on...

Time to implement the Rosemond information.

Posted on 6/6/2018

Dear Parent Guru, My daughter, thirteen now, is our only girl, and she has 3 brothers. She is by far our hardest child to parent. She is strong willed, argumentative, lazy, and completely...

It's Really Not Personal

Posted on 6/5/2018

I am having a respect issue with our son, 14. At his 8th grade graduation celebration last night, he ran way ahead of us to meet his friends. He has done this several times, and we have told him...

Husband files for divorce after wife takes a stand with teens.

Posted on 6/1/2018

Dear John Rosemond, I wrote in a while ago on putting the marriage first. I was never able to get my husband on board which indeed caused a great deal of strife in our family, especially with...

13 yo Food Fights

Posted on 5/30/2018

My child’s doctor wants her to be gluten free and sugar free. Super difficult, but seems to make a huge difference In her brain fog/memory. She’s much easier to talk to, gets her stuff done...

Keep PDA to a Minimum

Posted on 5/27/2018

My son is almost 15 and has become friends with a girl in his homeschool co-op. What is the best way to communicate boundaries regarding public displays of affection at this stage of his life?

Mom Needs Legal Advice

Posted on 5/19/2018

My 13 year old daughter and my ex-husband are currently a problem. My ex has taken her to a therapist without telling me for the last 3 years and we have joint legal and physcial custody. Our...

Chore In-completion

Posted on 5/7/2018

Our son will not complete any chore he asked to do. He will start a chore, (cleaning fish tanks and cleaning horse stalls) after being told many times but he doesn't complete it thoroughly after...

Let Son Choose His Own Extracurricular Activities

Posted on 5/1/2018

My son is a great student and a talented athlete. He is in 8th grade and during middle school I made him play soccer, take band, run track and just this past year he decided (on his own!!) to try...

Teacher took the Book of Chrome----off the hook at home??

Posted on 4/28/2018

My 14 year old son Is about to finish the eighth grade. His school issues each student a chromebook for classroom use. Today, I received an email saying that my son had been caught watching videos...

Rude Teen Needs Wake-Up Call

Posted on 4/20/2018

My son just turned 13. Since he started 7th grade in September he has been rude, disrespectful and mean. Its like he goes out of his way to make me, my 11 y/o son and 8 y/o daughter upset. Every...

14 year old boy with food issues

Posted on 4/16/2018

what resources do you recommend for the parents of a 14 year old boy who is engaged in an eating pattern which is headed to anorexia. we have a medical doctor, dietitian, and a sports trainer...

Teen Resists Mom's Parenting; Chooses to Live with Dad

Posted on 4/6/2018

I have a 13 year old who lives primarily with me (mom and stepdad and half siblings.) She visits with her dad, stepmom, and other half siblings every other weekend. For the past several years, she...

Power struggle with a teen.

Posted on 4/1/2018

Hello my 13 year old daughter pierced her ears at home after I told her I thought she was too young to have a second piercing. I have stripped her of all electronics and taken away her jewelry. I...

No Clear Cut Answer for When to Blend a Family

Posted on 3/27/2018

hi there I have been dating my BF for about a year. I have never been around his kids yet although they do know of me and our children used to be friends before they moved away. My bf has spent a...

13 year old Fighting in School

Posted on 3/26/2018

Our 13-year-old son is getting in trouble regularly at school, he is constantly arguing/fighting with a class mate he’s had problems with for 3 years. His classmate is very convert in his daily...

15 YO Mean to Sister

Posted on 3/21/2018

15 year old son is saying mean things about his sister at school and to boys in her grade.

Adjusting to new family system

Posted on 3/21/2018

My son Carter is 13 and in 7th grade, he is suffering from anxiety and depression. I have recently gotten married, one year ago this month, and my husband has 3 other children (16 boy, 12 boy,...

Sass in the Second Stage

Posted on 3/12/2018

Hello, I'm confused about why in the second stage of parenting, ages 10 to 13, it appears that if a child yells at their parents or is disrespectful, there is an immediate consequence. For...

Reconciling Lost Relationship with Teen

Posted on 3/1/2018

My husbands 15 yo daughter has cut off all communication with him. She was living with us but moved to her moms full time for the past year and a half, he has been blocked from texting, messaging,...

Help With Teenage Bedtime/Curfew

Posted on 2/20/2018

I have a 15-year-old son who thinks he should be able to stay up until midnight during the weekday during school and have NO bedtime (curfew) on weekends! I totally disagree. His hours now are...

13 yo Not Responding to Effective Discipline

Posted on 2/12/2018

13 year old daughter seems to not care about anything at all. we have grounded her according to John's book, we have done "tickets", she is extremely moody, mean and nasty to family and calls her...

Three Angry Teens, One Frazzled Mom

Posted on 2/6/2018

I have a 17 year old, a 15 year old and a 13 year old all whom believe life completely and utterly revolves around them. the 17 year old boy refuses to look for work, he has let his learners...

Sibling conflict

Posted on 1/20/2018

I've reviewed my questions, and see that I have asked this already. I really believe our son is more to blame for the situation. He ALWAYS starts it. This is not a matter of them fighting, with...

Siblings are Both to Blame for Fighting

Posted on 1/20/2018

Our 13-year-old, soon to be 14-year-old, son teases his 9-year-old sister to no end. It causes our family a lot of strife. He teases her, she yells, lashes out, and then cries. I usually punish...

Identifying the real problem.

Posted on 1/19/2018

I have a 15 year old son who makes really good grades in school. But he also is getting in trouble at school for various things with his "friends", one of which I do not like. My son has been...

Persistent Lying

Posted on 1/14/2018

I am having a continuous issue with my daughter lying about going to boys' houses. She always tells me she is going to a girl friend's but is really going to a boys. Our rules are 1. Be honest...

Moving Towards Leadership Parenting

Posted on 1/10/2018

I'm a single mom of three. 14 yr boy, 11 yr boy/girl twins. My daughter seems to do everything to NOT do what I ask her to do. She eventually does it, but not before struggling to stand up or...

Difficulties of divorce parenting.

Posted on 1/9/2018

In a recent column Dr. Rosemond mentioned that respect is something which is claimed by parents, rather than something that is earned or entitled. I would like clarification on this point as it...

Disrespect from a 13 y/o boy

Posted on 12/29/2017

My 13 yr old son is disrespectful to his Dad! My son knows how to push his buttons to the point my husband says hurtful words like "you're a bad human" and loses control and starts to yell. I do...

...but she's an "A" student...

Posted on 12/14/2017

How should I punish a straight “A” student who accessed Netflix without parent permission. She has to have some access to google classroom for high school so I can’t take away her electronics...

Teen Misuses Cell Phone Privileges

Posted on 12/14/2017

I recently found a nude picture of a boy on my 15 year old daughter's phone and one of her chest. I assume they are exchanging pictures. I am horrified and am thinking of the best consequence to...

Manipulation or Depression?

Posted on 12/7/2017

Manipulation or True Depression that needs help? My 15 year old son has for the last couple years been not very happy and lately very depressed. We assume because he's losing his electronics...

You are trying to do what?

Posted on 12/4/2017

Hi. My 13 year old daughter has asked to speak with a counselor for her anxiety issues and depression issues. She has made statements of doing possible self harm. We are looking into someone...

Teens dealing with "a constant barrage of negative things"

Posted on 11/18/2017

Hello! This is not exactly a child-rearing question but it pertains to everything about being a parent. How do we keep from drowning in the pain we witness our children going through? I have a...

Time to Toughen Up with Teen

Posted on 11/17/2017

Dear John, you answered my question about my 14 ye old being kicked out of garden for 6 months now and she may be a rebel and we shouldn't start zig zag but stay the course. I'm a wimpy guilty...

Teens and the Telephone

Posted on 11/15/2017

I have noticed that parents writing in about problems with kids and phones are repeatedly told to take the device away and the child can have it when they can purchase their own device. I don't...

Kicked Out of the Garden... Now What?

Posted on 11/14/2017

Dear John, 14 yr girl. Generally respectful and responsible and obedient. However, long history of deception and manipulation. Homeschooler who is presently kicked out of garden for numerous...

15 yo boy "running off"

Posted on 11/13/2017

I have a fifteen year old son who likes to run off for hours at a time with no notice as to where he is going when he gets in trouble or mad. Unfortunately, my wife and I struggle with "should we...

13 yo daughter needs to leave 'The Garden"!

Posted on 11/9/2017

Should there be consequences if my 13 year old step-daughter refuses to do her chores (clean up her room and door her laundry), leaves notes on her door telling me/us to STFO, refuses to eat when...

Disrespectful , Thieving Teen

Posted on 10/24/2017

I am a Mom of 4 kids ages 15 girl, 13 boy, 10 girl, 8 boy. My oldest, at around age 9 stared eye rolling and disrespectful behaviors & it has only gotten worse. I limit electronics/TV/social...

High School Freshman Vaping

Posted on 10/10/2017

Hi! My 14 year old freshman has been telling me how he vapes in the high school bathroom with friends. My husband and I do not smoke or vape and we have made it very clear that he needs to wait...

Teen Prefers to Live with Daily Pot Smoking Dad

Posted on 10/9/2017

My just turned 13 year old son wants to see what living with Dad would be like after living with me and Stepdad (and visiting Dad and StepMom) over his childhood. Dad has a stable career and nice...

Old School Blues

Posted on 10/5/2017

My daughters were homeschooled, public schooled, homeschooled again, and back in public school right down the street. They were pretty happy with school but the oldest was always hard to get out...

Micromanagement Out, Mentoring In

Posted on 9/24/2017

Our 15 yr old comes in and out of moodiness and maturity. He is doing well in some school classes amd not so well in others. Your advice has been very helpful to me. There is a girl that he is...

Bedtime for a teen.

Posted on 9/19/2017

I have a 9th grade stepson whose bio mother passed when he was 2. I married his dad when he was 5 and consequently raised him. About 2 years ago he became a problem. He committed an act of...

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