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Podcast Question

Posted on 2/10/2024

My husband and I love John’s materials. We introduced all our kids to John’s approach. Our daughter is having great success Just wondering, is John playing the intro to the “Because I said...

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Teaching Manners to a Five-Year-Old

Posted on 2/7/2024

During a recent visit to a private school we are considering sending our daughter to, I found it difficult to have a conversation with the school staff due to my daughter's constant whining and...

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11 GIRL ACTING BRASSY

Posted on 2/5/2024

My 11 year old daughter has recently been in trouble for swearing at a teacher, saying “f*** you” because she was embarrassed after her own disobedience to requests to be quiet resulted in a more...

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Fostering Responsible Decision Making

Posted on 2/3/2024

Our 11 y/o son is in 5th grade at a private Christian school and we pay for him to have weekly trumpet lessons. He doesn't really practice though. I told him that if he wants to keep having mom...

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Lying 2.5-Year-Old??

Posted on 1/30/2024

My 2.5 year old daughter has started lying and it is quickly becoming a big issue in our home. I know that John says something like, “Ask no questions, they’ll tell you lies.” So I have tried to...

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Mom and Grandma Working Together

Posted on 1/30/2024

My 26 month old granddaughter whom I watch 3x a week is pretty well behaved, naps without fussing, picks up toys. She has occasional outbursts when is refused something , but a very short 2-3...

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Figure out how to not take it personally.

Posted on 1/29/2024

Hi, we have 4 children. Our oldest is 9 and adopted through foster care. Has been with us since a baby. She has had intermittent food issues like eating until she throws up as a toddler, but that...

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Keep the Joy, Lose the Chatter

Posted on 1/25/2024

I have a 7 year old daughter, she should have been named Joy. Always happy, loves people. However, she has a tendency to talk incessantly, and never wants to be alone. She has friends, and cousins...

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The Doctor Comes to Call

Posted on 1/24/2024

I have twin three-year-old girls (& a 6yo girl). For many reasons I have co-slept with the twins (husband’s 48-hour shift work, breastfeeding, etc.). I have slowly worked up to the point where we...

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Help for HIgh Self-esteem Seizures

Posted on 1/24/2024

Six-year-old daughter has been kicked out of the garden twice for nighttime issues: screaming, throwing things, manipulating us to try to sleep with her or give her x,y,z. She was “kicked out” at...

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Delusions of Grandeur Quickly Eliminated by the World

Posted on 1/23/2024

Hello, I am concerned about my son. He has delusions of grandeur. He thinks he is going to be some kind of music star, but his skills do not match up to his aspirations. I try to advise him...

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End the Games

Posted on 1/22/2024

First, to start, my 14-year-old son has no behavior issues and is a good kid, good student and a contributing member to our family life. We have a rule about video game usage (I believe video...

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Tickets

Posted on 1/19/2024

At what age can I use the ticket method or “three strikes, you’re out”? With kids 2.5 & 1.5 I don’t know of very many consequences that make sense at this point. I make them go to their bed if...

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Road Trip & Potty Training

Posted on 1/16/2024

My daughter (2.5) is potty trained and we are working on potty training our son (19 months). We have a long road trip coming up in April when we have to travel from South Dakota to...

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Teaching manners and respect to toddler

Posted on 1/16/2024

We are working on teaching our kids manners and trying to teach them to be respectful. They know excuse me, please, thank you, and yes ma’am/sir. Recently when I’ve been feeding them my daughter...

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How to use charts/tickets with 3 kids

Posted on 1/13/2024

How to decide to use chart or ticket system for 3 kids? 11 y/o and 9 y/o sons would have same misbehaviors #1 Do things 1st time asked #2 Clean up after yourself #3 Aggravating sibling (Sibling...

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Responding to opposing viewpoints

Posted on 1/9/2024

A while back my kids had done wrong and so I spanked them, prayed with them, hugged them and told them that I love them. That’s how my parents did with me. A person I am close to said I should...

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Posted on 1/9/2024

My mother always lived in fear of the CPS taking us away and she continues to live in fear of it happening to her grandchildren. She did her best to rise my brother and I right. I feel like she...

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Avoid Pushing Toddler Too Early

Posted on 1/9/2024

My daughter is 2.5. I don’t plan on starting homeschooling for quite a while yet but my husband feels like we should start working on letters. He started working with her on numbers when she was...

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Toddlers are stubborn and sneaky - really?

Posted on 1/7/2024

We live in a rougher part of town and our front door is close to the road. Because of this and because of my kids being very young (2.5 & 1.5) I don’t want them outside without me. We lock the...

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Victimhood by a 10 yro

Posted on 1/6/2024

Our son regularly makes excuses, assigns blame elsewhere, etc. when it comes to taking responsibilities for his decisions. He often plays the "poor me" or victim card. What are your best...

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7 YO BEDTIME SOAP OPERA

Posted on 1/5/2024

Working on independent sleep 7.5 yo daughter. Follows bedtime routine and falls asleep in own bed. Is waking between Midnight & 5 am constantly. 2 years ago, I gave in and have been sleeping with...

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How to Use the Ticket System for Misbehavior at Home

Posted on 1/2/2024

Hello, we have 2 adopted kids (9yr boy/12yr girl). Our son was diagnosed with ADHD by his school at the age of 6. He has an IEP. He is well-behaved at school. However, at home is a different...

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Time for a Visit From the Doctor

Posted on 12/29/2023

I'm at a loss for direction. I tried lumping my kids together with a chart just to find how different they are. My 4 y/o loves to relentlessly antagonize my 5 y/o whiner, and my 7 y/o loves to...

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Don't Play with a 14-Year-Old

Posted on 12/29/2023

Long story short, after finding out my nearly 14 yr old daughter tells her stepmom how much she hates me and her stepfamily from my side and how much she wants to live with her dad I conceded and...

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2.5 y/o refuses to poop

Posted on 12/28/2023

My 2.5 year old is potty trained when it comes to pee but not poop. She is a stool holder, she constipates herself and I have to give her mirlax daily. I believe they are painful because of how...

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How to space kids?

Posted on 12/27/2023

From previous questions you know that our two kids are very active and often very naughty. God is helping us and we’re trying to follow your advice. Some weeks are rough. Others are better but we...

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Big move Big changes

Posted on 12/15/2023

Since our move my daughter has started having accidents again. She was day potty trained (only a couple accidents a week so staying dry and clean 98% of the time) but after the move she started...

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Toddlers Acting Up After Moving Across Town

Posted on 12/12/2023

Recently we moved to an apartment across town from where we were. My kids (2.5 & 1.5) are really struggling to adjust to the new place. They are used to seeing their grandparents every day and...

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We have been duped.

Posted on 12/8/2023

Are sensory issues a real thing or a made up physiological thing? Growing up if I didn’t like the texture of my food or certain clothes I just had to deal with it and eat or wear it anyways. One...

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FOUR YEAR OLD PEE ISSUES

Posted on 12/7/2023

Lately our 4 year old seems to have some issues surrounding going to the bathroom. He will say things like “I saw the picture and it made me have to pee.” Or he sees something “girly” and it...

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Words of Appreciation

Posted on 12/5/2023

My daughter (2.5) has heard me listening to John’s podcast, heard me talk about what he teaches, and seen me reading a couple of his books. She’s even tried to “read” them a few times. She’s heard...

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How much to expect from toddlers

Posted on 12/5/2023

How do I know where to draw the line between what to expect for proper behavior and what is too advanced for the kids (girl 2.5 and boy 1.5) to learn? My husband and I have high standards of what...

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Strut and Fret your Hour upon the Stage--when dealing with a 5-year old NAG

Posted on 12/3/2023

When my son (5) gets sent to his room for time out, he goes into his room and begins throwing demonic-style tantrums. He hits the door and screams at the top of his lungs. When he’s done, he comes...

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Focusing on the right things

Posted on 12/1/2023

Our 8 y/o son (almost 9) was diagnosed a few yrs ago with ADHD and has an IEP. The interventions are not working - I'm not surprised. They say he lacks quality of work/effort and is easily...

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Toddlers struggle with rules.

Posted on 11/30/2023

How do I teach my little people (2.5 and 1.5) to have respect? Often the baby will scream and yell for what he wants and doesn’t use much English yet. My daughter talks clearly but often demands...

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Scary movie crisis.

Posted on 11/28/2023

My 7 year old son is afraid of a scary movie (Five Nights at Freddie's). Until 11/17, he had only seen the movie poster at a theater and some kids discuss it at school, which scared him enough as...

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Night training continued

Posted on 11/27/2023

My daughter (2.5) that I mentioned in an earlier question seems to be a very heavy sleeper. Because of our current housing situation she sleeps in our room but is in her own bed. I have considered...

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Night Training

Posted on 11/26/2023

1. My daughter (2.5) is day potty trained other than occasionally having accidents. But at night or nap time she still wets the bed. We stopped doing diapers totally with her quite a while ago but...

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"Fit Places" for a two year old

Posted on 11/26/2023

At what age can I start using tickets? I tried for a while with my 2.5 year old but she just chewed/folded/tore them up and thought they were toys. So far time out and pictures taped to the fridge...

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Turn to Tickets for Sibling Conflicts

Posted on 11/23/2023

I have 3 children (7, 5 & 4) who play very well together. They don't always get along well, and I'd like to do the chart system for them for the same behaviors (whining/tantrums, misusing...

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FOMO in ISO, and Bud-Nipping: Consequencing an 11-yr Old Bully

Posted on 11/18/2023

My 11 year old son frequently hits, pushes, his younger siblings, ages 6 and 5, when no adult is around. It is very much intentional in trying to hurt the others. He will provoke his siblings...

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Overspending Lunch Account

Posted on 11/16/2023

My son's school is using a new foodservice company. There have been some bumps as they navigate how to configure it. As of now 5-12 grades are allowed to bill whatever they want to the family...

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Be careful how you share info

Posted on 11/16/2023

Son, age 11 I think inadvertently we have created a bit of a boogie man- when we don't permit our son to watch certain things we have been open about why- which has opened the door to the...

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Social Anxiety or Low Tolerance for Frustration?

Posted on 11/8/2023

How can I help my 12-year-old son deal with social anxiety when he is in large crowds of people? He is fine in setting with a small number of people but in large crowds he gets very stressed to...

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Perfectionism and Kids

Posted on 11/7/2023

I have a 4-year-old son, 6-year-old daughter and 4-month-old. We are part of a homeschool co-op group that meets once a week. It isn’t a drop off co-op, so all parents stay the whole time. My...

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Cutting the apron strings 3yo

Posted on 11/5/2023

Our daughter is an only child, and I am a stay at home wife. She turned three in June and we are starting to have some difficulties separating her from our interactions as husband and wife during...

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Tickets. I’ve got your tickets!

Posted on 11/4/2023

Hello - we have been using some form of the ticketing system with our 5 year old daughter for about a year now. It doesn’t seem like we have made much progress. She is still consistently...

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Potty training readiness

Posted on 11/3/2023

Day 4 of training my 22 month old girl, and I'm at a loss. Naked, potty bell, reinforcement of expectations with mistakes. She almost always runs to the potty the minute she starts peeing herself,...

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Climbing Toddlers

Posted on 11/1/2023

I have two very busy little people (2.5 and 1.5). They are very curious and love to explore but can also be naughty at times. Christmas time will be coming soon and I love to decorate for it. But...

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