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Fifteen-Year-Old Screen Addict

Posted on 4/18/2022

Our 15-year-old recently threw a fit, including punching, cursing and breaking things during the following incidents: 1) Took away make up after sneak purchase of $200 worth of make up without...

TEENS AND SMART DEVICES

Posted on 4/18/2022

I will be sending your books to my daughters on their wedding day. If we hadn’t raptured yet and still have enough ink supply to have your books in print. Teen proofing didn’t address...

FIFTEEN YEAR OLD SCREEN ADDICT

Posted on 4/15/2022

Our 15-year-old threw a fit, including punching, cursing and breaking things during following incidents: 1) Took away make up after sneak purchase of $200 worth of make up without our...

Out of Sorts with Sports--the Angst of a 7-year Old

Posted on 4/14/2022

Our seven year old son wanted to sign up for soccer this season. He played soccer once a few years ago but hasn’t played organized sports in a few years. So far, he has yet to go to a practice or...

Parents Need To Be on The Same Page

Posted on 4/14/2022

In order to apply garden kick, should both parents sit down with the child and go over all the consequences for breaking family rules? One issue with my daughter is phone, I had asked her phone...

ROSEMOND RECOMMENDED COLLEGES

Posted on 4/14/2022

Dr. Rosemond, Do you have a list of schools which you recommend to kids going to college? I am looking for a university that focuses on inspiring intellectual, academic and spiritual...

PARENT ALIENATION

Posted on 4/14/2022

What are the best ways to deal with parent alienation? To help the teenage child in the middle? Any specific podcast? Books? Any advice on this topic would be appreciated. In this situation the...

SEATING ARRANGEMENT AT DINNER TABLE

Posted on 4/13/2022

Mr. Rosemond, We eat dinner as a family most nights and I have a question about the proper seating arrangement. We have four children, 12b, 8g, 6b & 3b, and we sit at a rectangle table. ...

Not within a parent coach skill set.

Posted on 4/12/2022

I feel like my mind can be very sensitive to my surroundings, like every cry, every whine, every complain goes straight through my tired head and I feel it in my body. I don’t even know what I’m...

Dealing With Teenager's Attitude

Posted on 4/11/2022

My 12-year-old daughter is not motivated to do school anymore. She is in 6th grade and has always been homeschooled. But now, she is just "dead in the water" and paddling no where. She constantly...

Derailed potty training

Posted on 4/8/2022

Hi, my son is 25 months. I potty trained him at 23 months with the "oh crap potty training" method. In the 4 days we took, he was doing fine, having only 1 or 0 accidents a day. Except for poop,...

Don't bite off more than you can chew

Posted on 4/8/2022

I have a tickets question. Is it still workable to use tickets on three different children and use two target misbehavior issues? I could even reduce it to two children, but I was thinking it...

Self control for an 8 year old.

Posted on 4/8/2022

My 8 year old likes the ticket system! But he still gets frustrated when he gets angry and asks, "What do I do when I get angry?" We bought the books, A Sibling Survival Guide and What To Do When...

12 Year Old Daughter Unmotivated to do School Work

Posted on 4/6/2022

My 12 year old daughter is not motivated to do school anymore. She is in 6th grade and has always been home-schooled. But now, she is just "dead in the water" and paddling no where. She just lays...

30 minute time out for the marriage

Posted on 4/5/2022

I’m currently reading Six point plan , and need guidance. My husband I play The Who’s more tired game, and I want to stop. However, our work hours vary, and I’d like to implement the 30 min rule...

Exhausted and Longing for Peace

Posted on 4/4/2022

Discovering your books has put us on a new trajectory in our family after years of struggle with our "high misbehavior" 5 year old. For several months we've used the ticket system and "kicked him...

8-Year-Old Needs the Ticket to Self Control

Posted on 4/4/2022

My 8-year-old has a severe temper. He is the third out of six children, and we are homeschooling the other five. He will spend a week at my mother's house and is calm there, but when he gets back...

Co-parenting has its challenges

Posted on 4/1/2022

I share custody of my 2 year old daughter. Her father has a 5 year old from a previous relationship. We are on good terms and spend time with the girls together when possible. The issue is the 5...

Resistance precedes change.

Posted on 4/1/2022

I’m trying to tame the emotional outbursts in my home, among ALL its inhabitants. All I have found here and in Rosemond’s books is that this is a worthy goal. Can someone give me some hows please...

Sometimes there is no more time.

Posted on 3/31/2022

Hi, I have a 17yo son that we discovered last year was sneaking out at night. Once grounded and electronics taken away he began vaping. Got a girlfriend and grades began to drop. Got his first...

Don't Make a Mountain out of a Molehill--Part Two

Posted on 3/30/2022

Hi Lisa, Thank you very much for your answer to my question. Just thought I should also add what he told me few days ago when we spoke about his playing with his penis, he admitted that he...

8 year old needs the ticket to self control

Posted on 3/28/2022

My red-headed 8-year-old has a severe temper. He is the third out of six children and we are homeschooling the other five. He will spend a week at my mother's house for a week and he seems calm...

Total Lack of Motivation

Posted on 3/27/2022

My 15.5 year old daughter is not under any form of care. She has a lack of motivation and general malaise. I have had her tested in the past, she has no issues. The major issues started with...

Parenting Season Transition: From Service to Leadership

Posted on 3/22/2022

My daughter just turned two. She's a good little girl but most definitely a typical rambunctious toddler. I'm having trouble getting her to listen and obey without telling her multiple times. I...

Tickets and Three year olds

Posted on 3/21/2022

We have a three-year-old daughter and have started using the ticket system. When the tickets run out on any given day and we must implement the agony principle by sending her to her room for the...

It's Not About the Makeup: Time for a Garden Kick

Posted on 3/20/2022

15-year old daughter very obsessed with make-up. Used our Amazon account to buy makeup Products without our knowing till I looked up order history. Took away all her makeup products, went...

Wake-Up Call Needed ASAP

Posted on 3/20/2022

Our 9-year-old is perfectly functional in a school setting (no issues with socializing, is meeting most benchmarks, is polite and caring). At home and when we are in public as a family, it is...

Middle of the Night Snacks Prolonging Mealtime Battles

Posted on 3/20/2022

In September I asked for advice on my picky 2-year-old. For 6 months, I have consistently tried the methods recommended. I didn't fuss over meals, just gave him small amounts of whatever I made,...

Don't Make a Mountain out of a Molehill

Posted on 3/18/2022

Ten year old son plays with his penis at bedtime. I go to his room at night time and finds him asleep with his hand in his pants. I've told him how wrong this is. Hoe can I get him to stop? He...

Season transition: Service to Leadership

Posted on 3/13/2022

My daughter just turned two. She's a good little girl but most definitely a typical rambunctious toddler. I'm having trouble getting her to listen and obey without telling her multiple times or...

How to Stop Toddler From Hitting Younger Sibling

Posted on 3/11/2022

Hi. Our oldest daughter is 3yrs 2mo old. Our youngest daughter is 11mo. Within the past month or so, our oldest daughter has started hitting and pushing our youngest daughter. Oftentimes this...

Parental Leadership is Critical

Posted on 3/10/2022

Good afternoon, My 5, almost 6, year old son is struggling, in school and at home, with impulse control and tantrums. Today, he got in trouble at school for spitting on the carpet and another...

Five year old Frustration

Posted on 3/5/2022

We care for our five year old great grandson and his three year old sister four days a week. He will break down tearfully when he doesn’t get what he wants or is frustrated. It’s improving but...

Deconstructing the Monster: the 3D's at age 10

Posted on 3/3/2022

We are ready to reset with our 10-year-old son so that he understands we mean what we say and even more, understands consequences. How do we do that in a way that will work (sort of feeling like...

Focus on Ability

Posted on 3/1/2022

Do you handle children with high-functioning autism differently than siblings who are also on The Program (daily/weekly charts)? We find we are having to "overlook" certain behaviors that would...

Au Pair Problems

Posted on 3/1/2022

Hi - We have a 2, 5, 7 and 8 year old. Three months ago we had a 25 yr old girl come live with us as an au pair. She helps with the children here and there and watches them when we have adult...

Difficult parenting can be remedied.

Posted on 2/28/2022

My 5yo son, with whom we have long worked to correct certain behaviors (chiefly rule breaking, obeying, executive functioning, outbursts, needy attention), has begun to bang his head on the floor,...

Saying "Bye-Bye" to Binkie

Posted on 2/25/2022

What age should children stop using a binkie? Our 3-year-old still loves his for night only. Any ideas how to approach taking it away?

Child Abuse? I Think Not.

Posted on 2/21/2022

My 9 year old homschool son cries and freaks out when we mention he does school at my mother's house an hour away. The children usually stay a week or a few days. Is it child abuse if he doesn't...

Teenager Refusing to Go to School

Posted on 2/21/2022

We have transferred our 14-year-old son from his high school of 1500 students to a charter school which has under 300 students. Now, he's refusing to go to school, and we don't know what to do....

Should We Let Newborn "Cry It Out"?

Posted on 2/21/2022

We are new parents of a three-week old girl. As we've been reading the "New Parent Power!," we've been focusing on "Part 2," which gives guidance for the stages. For infants, it seems that John...

Six Year Old Loves to Scream

Posted on 2/20/2022

My 6 year old has screaming fits nearly every day usually related to being told to do something he doesn't want to or when he is mad at his brother. We have gone back to making him go to his room...

Corporal punishment dilemma

Posted on 2/18/2022

Hello. We have three boys. They are 6, 10 and 11. We adopted them out of foster care about 3 years ago. When necessary as a tool to discipline our kids (and train them to make better choices next...

Smartphones and "Smart-mouthed" Teen

Posted on 2/18/2022

Mr. John: We need your advice. My son just turned 15 and never had video games or a smartphone. He had a flip phone, and watches Tv on weekends. This school year we gave him a Smartphone for him...

Avoiding a checkmate requires change.

Posted on 2/16/2022

We have transferred our 14-year-old son (9th grade) from his high school of 1500 students to a charter school which has under 300 students. His grades were declining rapidly, we noticed he found...

Parent vs. Grandparent Relationships

Posted on 2/15/2022

My husband and I love the John Rosemond way of parenting. We set rules and expect our kids to follow them. When my parents come around, they completely baby them because they "feel bad" and think...

Be a Long-Term Parent

Posted on 2/14/2022

Our six-year-old is not getting her responsibilities completed on school nights. She is in school all day and then goes to an after school program for a couple of hours (we both work). In the car...

6-Year Old Fit-Pitching: Stay Strong, Mom!

Posted on 2/12/2022

Our six and a half year old is not getting her responsibilities completed on school nights. She is in school all day and then goes to an after school program for a couple of hours (we both work)....

Little Runaway

Posted on 2/10/2022

Our 11 yr old son has been spending a lot of time in room due to behavior and losing tickets. He decided yesterday after losing his tickets that he had enough and was running away. He has said...

7 year old Talking too much in school

Posted on 2/1/2022

Got a note from my seven year old's second grade teacher. She took a day off and the sub told her that Billy refused to stop talking and would not do his work. His regular teacher talked to him...

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