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Life After College is Too Comfortable- Time to Adult

Posted on 3/11/2019

Hello, My stepson in 23 and a recent college graduate with a communication degree. His father and I have been married 2 years ago. His parents are concerned about his seemingly lack of...

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In Control Without Controlling

Posted on 3/11/2019

We seem to be stuck on screen time issues in our house. Our kids, 11 and 7, are allowed 20 minutes a day after they have completed all their chores. This is markedly less time than many children...

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Better late than never

Posted on 3/11/2019

Our son is 3 1/2, and we are way late to potty training. Today we started the N75 plan. He went this morning in the potty. Later, after a little pee in his underwear, he sat on the potty for quite...

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Airplane anxiety

Posted on 3/11/2019

Our 10-year-old child has difficulty with air travel. Her nausea, primarily caused by anxiety over her past nausea during air travel, starts in the car on the way to the airport. She gets very...

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Prevailing not Travailing

Posted on 3/9/2019

My 14 year old daughter was mad at me about a consequence I gave her after clearly telling her what the expectations were. She knew what the rules were and broke them so I gave her the...

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Parental Reason is a Dish Best Served Cold

Posted on 3/8/2019

What do you recommend for two little ones ages 3 and 4 for not wanting to eat what I fix for meals? This has just started and we want to nip it as soon as we can. Do we make them sit until they...

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Odd "Girl" Out - 6, 5 and 3 Year Old Struggle to Play Together

Posted on 3/8/2019

When my 3 girls are together (ages 6, 5, 3) they will often only want to play 2 at a time,and leave the third one out. Also, because of this the 3 year old wants to follow them around to get...

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How much is enough?

Posted on 3/8/2019

I am wondering what you would say would normally expect to be included for a schedule for a 3 year old staying at home. I have my older 2 in school for parts of the day, and I have my younger...

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Kindergarten Homework Hassles

Posted on 3/7/2019

I have a young kindergartner (won't turn six until this summer), although he is doing good enough in kinder, he is very easily distracted - bright light distraction. During school and homework at...

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Bullying at Preschool

Posted on 3/6/2019

My almost 5 year old boy is in preschool 2.5 days a week. Last year, he was always enthusiastic about going to preschool but this year, he has encountered 2 boys (one of them is his cousin) - who...

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15 Month Old Hitting

Posted on 3/5/2019

Our 15 month old daughter has started hitting about a week ago. It started with our dog. We show her "gentle" with the dog and she gets it initially but eventually will hit him. She will hit us...

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In Control without Controlling

Posted on 3/5/2019

We seem to be stuck on screen time issues in our house. Our kids, 11 and 7 are allowed 20 min a day once they have completed all their chores. Markedly less than many children are allowed (as my...

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Preschooler learning to be a real friend

Posted on 3/5/2019

My 4 year old son is in a 3 day a week preschool. He is in the same class with a girl that he has been friends with since he was born. Apparently he has become very possessive over her during free...

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The terrible twos!

Posted on 3/4/2019

Hello! Our youngest daughter is 19 months old and for the past weeks she has not been a happy camper at all. She used to play nicely but now she is crying for literally everything! Whenever...

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Potty Training Consistency

Posted on 3/3/2019

We have started back with the potty bell/timer since I got the response below (a little over 2 weeks) and have made no progress. He hates the timer and every time it goes off he says "no potty!!"...

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Put Tantrums In Their Place

Posted on 3/2/2019

We have a 3 year old who throws temper tantrums but we can’t send him to his room because he won’t stay and goes on & on with no way to keeping him put. How do you deal with such high emotions and...

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Ask them no questions, and they will tell you no lies!

Posted on 3/2/2019

Dear John and team, almost 2 years ago I posted a question about my daughter lying about this and that and just generally not wanting to give a straight answer. We were advised to "ask no...

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Meaningful or Logical?

Posted on 3/1/2019

Having a hard time with my 3.5 year old boy and what would be a logical consequence - every morning and after nap time he struggles with getting out of bed reasonably. He usually wails and...

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Higher Level Thinking Skills

Posted on 3/1/2019

My 7 year old son has a problem solving problem. Any task he performs can make him melt down. I am sure that when he was younger I would jump in and solve his problem, but I have been very...

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Lowering the Boom

Posted on 3/1/2019

I have been seeking help from this site for a long time and would appreciate you looking through our history for insight and understanding. My now seven year old son is still having behavior...

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Hitting 2 year old

Posted on 2/26/2019

My 24 month old is having a huge problem with hitting and throwing tantrums. He has hit me in the face multiple times and hits others when he does not get his way. He is potty trained and hits...

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Two Year Old Can't Get Enough of Mom

Posted on 2/26/2019

My two year old wants to sit on me all day. If I'm sitting down he climbs on top of me. If I'm doing the dishes then he tugs at me to sit down or climbs up to see what I'm doing. Is there a way I...

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2 year old confused about bathroom routine when visiting family

Posted on 2/24/2019

Hello, We potty trained our daughter 3 weeks ago (using your methods) right after she turned two. She caught on immediately, within 30minutes of us all going through her room getting rid of all...

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Sometimes kids are weird

Posted on 2/24/2019

My 6 year old still puts things in his mouth, toys, icicles from the bottom of the car. We've explained why he needs to stop this behaviour, but don't know how to effectively stop the behaviour....

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Difficult Conversation Must Happen

Posted on 2/23/2019

Dear John, I've been a follower of yours for almost 20 years now. You have helped me to see that I can strike a balance between the "new psychobabble" and God's Truth. I am forced to balance...

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Trim Teen Talk Time?

Posted on 2/22/2019

My son will be 16 In a month. When he was younger, he and I (his mother) would have 'talk time' - when we would lie in bed before he went to sleep to talk, share, etc. We stopped doing that a...

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Picky picky picky!

Posted on 2/22/2019

My two year old grandson will only eat yogurt and cheese at my house and is picky at his grandad's as well. He does drink milk and juice. If I put out fruit or other foods, he won't even try...

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Grandma needs answers for 6 year old who won't stop to use the potty

Posted on 2/22/2019

My 6 year old grand-daughter still has accidents because she doesn't want to stop playing. Thankfully, it's just #1 and not poop. I only have her and her sister occasionally and can not discuss...

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Grandmother's standards.

Posted on 2/22/2019

My two grand-daughters live with their dad now that my daughter is dead. Their dad is a pathological liar and my daughter would get very upset when the girls "exaggerated" or out right lied to...

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Toying With Grandma

Posted on 2/22/2019

My six-year-old granddaughter is terrible about helping her sister put up toys. She always has been. Before my daughter died, she was trying hard to get her to obey without all the drama, and the...

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Puberty and Lingerie Continues to be a problem

Posted on 2/21/2019

We are continuing to have a problem with my son, now 14, and girls clothes. I noticed some of my items missing recently, black camisole and a black slip. I found a bag in his closet filled with...

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Transition From Servant to Teacher

Posted on 2/20/2019

Three year old temper tantrums, what is the resolution? When he doesn't get what he wants or disobeys, he goes off on a tangent only to calm down when he gets what he wants or is distracted.

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Putting Night Terrors To Bed

Posted on 2/20/2019

My 7 year old daughter is scared of dying, similar to the story John tells of his daughter, Amy, when she was young. The fears come at bedtime. I don't know if Amy did this, but our Irene says...

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7 year old boy needs leadership to solve the problem

Posted on 2/20/2019

We are using the Strike System with our two children. Our seven year old boy often receives all of his strikes as he is a High Misbehaver (currently) and is sent to his room. However, he will not...

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Night Time Accidents

Posted on 2/20/2019

Background: We started training my daughter at 20 months and she was quickly and easily trained, lucky me. At 24 months we stopped diapers and naptime with great success. Issue: In November, at...

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Diagnosing the Problem

Posted on 2/20/2019

My 6 year old son is currently undergoing a neuropsychological evaluation to help identify root causes of his recent struggles to keep up academically in 1st grade due to difficulty in paying...

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Sibling Rivalry

Posted on 2/19/2019

my daughters, age 5 and 2, constantly fight. I agree siblings need to settle their own quarrels; however, my 2 year old is still physically agressive (pulling hair, hitting), and sometimes I...

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Liar! Liar! Six Year Old's Pants on Fire!

Posted on 2/17/2019

My 6 year old son has begun being very sneaky and constantly lies. When we catch him in a lie, he responds that he forgot or he didn’t know it was wrong. Also lies. I’m not sure what to do. I’ve...

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Concerns from a Grandmother

Posted on 2/17/2019

I would like for Dr Rosemond to respond with his advice on a question I have already submitted 3 times concerning my 4 year old granddaughter. I understand the first two responses I received but...

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5 Year Old Decides to Revisit Tantrums

Posted on 2/16/2019

My 5 year old son has started throwing tantrums again out of nowhere. For some of them he will throw himself on the floor. He did this during a playdate yesterday. It was so embarrassing for both...

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Grandparents navigating parenting.

Posted on 2/16/2019

My daughter was killed in a car wreck 6 months ago which left her two year old an orphan. His dad is not involved at all so my son, my ex-husband and I are helping raise him. He has been very...

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more consequences or more attitude?

Posted on 2/16/2019

Do you all have a list of different types of consequences for young kids? Currently we use a combination of the following for our kids (6, 5, 3, 20mos): spankings with a wooden spoon (sometimes...

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Youngsters 3.5 and 5.5 yo disturbing the peace

Posted on 2/15/2019

I have three boys, 5.5 and 3.5 years old, and an 8-month-old baby. The older two share a bedroom and are homeschooled. When they are not doing an instructed activity or chore, they disturb the...

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7th grade boy and school tech use

Posted on 2/15/2019

My 7th grader boy is at a new school. He has gotten a detention for looking at baseball videos on his computer during class. So I grounded him and took everything away..once off being grounded he...

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Half Accidents

Posted on 2/13/2019

We started potty training my son at 23 months. He is now 26 and has been "mostly" trained for at least a couple of months. We still have a couple of issues. He sometimes has accidents at...

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Strategy for Grandparent involvement.

Posted on 2/13/2019

Our son left his wife and child soon after she gave birth. We've remained close to her and our grandson and we've gotten even closer since both of her parents have passed away in the past 2 years....

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Early Bird Turns Cranky

Posted on 2/12/2019

Good Evening, Our seven year old son has always been up with the birds (in WA that is anywhere between 4.30am-5.00am). On the plus side, he goes to sleep at 6.30pm without any trouble. We have...

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Prepare to lead before leading.

Posted on 2/11/2019

My 11-year-old son tells lies and avoids the truth even when he knows he's been caught, he will argue every point he disagrees with, he will disobey punishment by simply walking away. We do not...

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Why Should Children Listen?

Posted on 2/11/2019

I received a response from Sarah Hamaker, thank you. I'm writing in response to your response. As I said in my 1st note, this situation has been going on since our 14 year old was probably about...

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"Poop" de Gras Needed on 2 Year Old's Antics!

Posted on 2/10/2019

Just turned 2 year old son will use the potty all day long without accident but saves his poop for nap time or early morning. He quietly takes off his diaper/pull up and pants and smears his poop...

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