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Posted on 10/3/2023

I have an 8 year old stepson in 2nd grade, he has equal time between both households. He has had behavioral issues in school on and off since preschool (hitting peers and teachers, destroying...

Classroom Management

Posted on 10/3/2023

Hello! Your straightforward, old-fashioned approach has been a big blessing to me as a children’s minister/teacher! Do you or your team have any classroom management resources for Sunday...

How to Tame Constant Complaining and Whining

Posted on 10/2/2023

Our 5-year-old is incredibly contrary; he argues or complains about everything and it's gotten out of control. I've had success taming his tantrums by being more firm with telling him to go in his...

13-Year-Old Pickleball Pouter

Posted on 10/1/2023

Hello Parent Coach - I play pickleball with my 13 year old son every so often on the weekends. I am a better player and he is a beginner, learning at school in PE. After we rally to warm up, we...

5YO Testing the Limits

Posted on 9/25/2023

Our 5 year old is incredibly contrary; at times he argues or complains about everything. He'll say he doesn't like what's for dinner before he knows what it is, for example. His tantrums have...

You're Going to Learn to Use the Toilet Today

Posted on 9/22/2023

Today I have started potty training my almost 16 month boy. I’m a little overwhelmed but felt that the time was right. Am I supposed to still use diapers when he sleeps and just focus on day...

Stay The Course

Posted on 9/19/2023

A while back I had asked a question about potty training my daughter (2). She has the idea down but often gets too busy playing and then has accidents. I have been making her wash out her...

To Lie or Not to Lie...

Posted on 9/18/2023

Our 5-year-old son has been telling lies. Most of the time he admits to them when we are questioning him. How do we punish him for lying without dissuading him to confess the truth as he has been?

Moving adjustments for teen

Posted on 9/13/2023

Our family has just moved to a new town where we don’t know anyone. My daughter has just started 8th grade. She is quiet/shy at school so it has been hard for her to make friends. I’ve...

Wrong Place? Wrong Time?

Posted on 9/13/2023

My grandson is 32 months old. He’s been in a Christian preschool for the last 3 weeks. The teacher often sends texts and reports to my daughter (mom) about the grandson shoving, hitting, and...

When will sharing 'click'

Posted on 9/12/2023

When I hear my two little people (2 and 15 months) arguing, fussing, yelling, etc. at each other in the play room, should I go investigate and discipline whoever is in the wrong (if one sibling...

6 Year Old Boy Can Put Bully To Bed

Posted on 9/12/2023

Good afternoon, my 6yr old son is being bullied in kindergarten. Day 1 a little girl came up to him, randomly and said she didn’t like him, the following week she did the same, and also said she...

7 YEAR OLD HAS NO DESIRE TO LISTEN TO REASON

Posted on 9/12/2023

We have a 7.5yo son with a habit of yelling/screaming/whining at us when we attempt to talk to him at times when he is misbehaving or breaking family rules. We can barely get the first words out...

10 YO BOY AGRESSION AT HOME AND SCHOOL

Posted on 9/11/2023

Per the answer to my previous question, I started the picky eating program with all my kids a about a week ago. Where I need clarification is that my main concern is my 10 y/o son. He is a...

2YO's Fascination with Fido's Bowl

Posted on 9/11/2023

My son is 2 weeks away from turning 2. He plays in the dog bowl of food and water multiple times a day. We have told him not to and have calmly put him in timeout but he’s not seeming to get it or...

3/4 yr old hitting/scratching

Posted on 9/8/2023

My (just turned) 4 year old has been hitting and scratching for a while now. It first began when she was at a day care that we think she may have had some physical/verbal abuse, but we're not sure...

7 YEAR OLD "FLASHER"

Posted on 9/8/2023

My 7 year old grandson has pulled his pants down 3 times in the last year and showed his penis. The 1st time, it was while his great-aunt, her grown son and daughter-in-law, and their 7 year old...

DISCIPLINE WITH A TODDLER

Posted on 9/5/2023

We have followed your advice and most of the bad behavior (throwing food, bully little brother, battles over picking up toys, being a tattle tale) have cleared up. But we are still struggling some...

Cannot serve two masters

Posted on 8/30/2023

Things are going better and God is helping us. I want to continue to stay on top of things and be a good leader for my kids. The issue is after a while, because of how life goes, I start letting...

WE GIVE MANY THANKS FOR THIS UNSOLICITED TESTIMONIAL

Posted on 8/29/2023

Thank you SO much for your advice. Things are going much better. A lot of the drama and stress has cut down. Both kids (2 and 15 months) are happier. I have been praying about it and seeking Godly...

PICKY EATING AND OTHER STUFF

Posted on 8/29/2023

My children are 4 (girl), 8 (boy) and 10 (boy). All of them are picky eaters and I want to start what John recommends in his book on how to "cure" that. My question is that I'm starting the...

How to Implement Chores With Young Children

Posted on 8/28/2023

Do you have any recommendations on what tasks that my 3 and 5-year-old can do and how to implement the routine of doing these tasks efficiently? I think they are old enough to start doing small,...

How to Purge the Toys

Posted on 8/25/2023

I have 2 boys aged 5 and 3 and a 1-year-old girl. We are trying to reduce the number of toys we have by gifting the toys we don't need anymore. However, I am finding it difficult to decide which...

Chores, chores YES

Posted on 8/25/2023

I'm not good at consistently requiring my son's aged 5 and 3 to do any chores around the house. I think they are old enough to start doing regular small tasks but I'm not good at holding them to...

TODDLER REPEATING HIMSELF INCESSANTLY

Posted on 8/24/2023

I have 3 kids- 4, 3, 10 months. The current struggle we are having is with our just turned 3 year old son. Come to think of it, this has been an issue since he could speak. Our son will ask a...

FETAL DRUG SYNDROME?

Posted on 8/23/2023

My granddaughter, who is 9 years old, was adopted as a newborn. Her biological mother used drugs (heroin, cocaine, and methadone on board at delivery). My granddaughter was in NICU for detox for...

Toilet Training in the mean time

Posted on 8/22/2023

I have temporary custody of my just turned two granddaughter. Her dad works out of state and isn’t with her as much as he would like to be. Her Mom has supervised visits every other weekend. I...

2 YO having occasional accidents

Posted on 8/21/2023

We began potty training our daughter (2yr) when she was 16 months old. Now a year later she can take herself to the bathroom and sometimes stays dry all day. Other times she has accidents but I...

How to Get a Child to Understand the Value of Things

Posted on 8/18/2023

How do you go about your child working off a debt? Our 6-year-old has an old iPhone that he uses like an iPod. it basically only has music on it (and he loves music). He changed the passcode,...

Testing 1 2 3

Posted on 8/17/2023

My children (2 and 1) are very used to having their grandparents around all the time since we currently live together while we try to find a house. My parents are away for about 10 days and the...

TODDLER TESTING ANXIOUS MOM?

Posted on 8/16/2023

My child (2) has suddenly started testing all sorts of areas that I thought we had conquered. She started purposely peeing on the floor, throwing food out of the high chair, pulling her hair...

Family spiritual beliefs are foundational.

Posted on 8/10/2023

We have three boys, ages 14, 11, and 7. We recently started attending a new church. I would like the older two to attend the Wednesday night youth group but am unsure how to approach it with them....

Value systems call.

Posted on 8/10/2023

My nephew just turned 9. He is the oldest of 4 and they live four houses down from us. The youngest is a boy the same age as my son. He has been painting his nails along with his brothers nails...

No Need to Rush Transition from Crib

Posted on 8/9/2023

Hello, I have a 22 month old. He is starting to get to the point where he is going to be able to climb out of a play pen on vacation. Should we transition him to a toddler bed at home before...

2-Year-Old Would Rather Play Than Eat

Posted on 8/9/2023

We need help with meal time, breakfast seems to be the worst. We have two girls ages 4.5 and 2. Every day I make breakfast and the girls sit down to eat. Breakfast usually starts well, and I’m...

Terrible twos

Posted on 8/9/2023

My daughter (2 yr.) has suddenly started undressing when she is supposed to keep her clothes on. She will be in the middle of playing with her brother while I do house work or cook supper and she...

Tattletale Two-Year-Old

Posted on 8/9/2023

My daughter (2 yr) has trouble with being a tattletale. Off and on all day she tells me what her brother (1 yr) is doing. It’s true that a lot of the time when she says he is doing something wrong...

15 month doing what 15 months do

Posted on 8/9/2023

My son (almost 15 months) is having anger issues. If I (or some other adult in his life) set him down in the play area so we can go get things done, he often will get very angry. He will roar with...

Parenting in Public

Posted on 8/9/2023

What do I do about disciplining and training bad behavior in public? In this confused world I don’t want people to think I’m being too strict, abusive, or unloving. But I have seen John’s stuff...

Balancing Adult Responsibilities and Quality Time with Young Children

Posted on 8/9/2023

I hear so much about how kids grow up so fast, how we need to enjoy them when they are young, how they need more one-on-one time, etc. I agree that they grow up fast and that it is important to...

Happy and Active, With A Little Quirkiness Thrown In

Posted on 8/8/2023

My 6 year old daughter has little routines that seem to be OCD. She taps the furniture before going to bed. She goes to the bathroom several times. She tells me that her brain tells her to do...

6-Year-Old Pitiful Pouter

Posted on 8/8/2023

My 6 year old son has a big problem losing any type of competition. He cries, pouts, leaves the room. At tennis he will pout and look at the ground etc. How can I motivate him? How do I teach...

Defiant 7 year old needs a visit from the good old Dr.

Posted on 8/4/2023

We have a 7 year old girl who has the strongest will I have ever encountered. She is defiant, she is physical towards her older sister(who is her polar opposite) and I am at my wits end. We have...

On Psychiatric Diagnoses and Psychiatric Drugs

Posted on 7/31/2023

Just finished listening to John’s latest,’Because I Said So,’ entitled—The Politics of Psychiatric Diagnoses. Does the diagnosis of Schizophrenia which my son-in-law has received also fall under...

An Adult-Centered...

Posted on 7/31/2023

My son is 22 months old, is it too early to start telling kids to wait while adults are talking? If not how should I go about correcting him when he interrupt adults?

Treasured Times--Dating your Daughter

Posted on 7/30/2023

Hi, I am wondering if you would consider one on on child and parent dates a privilege or necessity? If you have a planned one on one child date but the child is misbehaving do you cancel the date...

PRIVATE COACHING IS SOMETIMES THE WAY TO GO

Posted on 7/29/2023

Our middle son, age 7, has been a challenge since he was a baby. We met a few years ago with a John Rosemond Parent coach about him and it was helpful, but we still have some areas where we...

Many discipline problems require a coach

Posted on 7/28/2023

As I'm sure you can see, we have submitted many questions over the years. Some things have improved. We have been more consistent with offering consequences and following through. However, we...

Help! My Son Plays With "Girl" Toys!

Posted on 7/28/2023

Our son is about to turn 7. We have implemented all of John’s suggestions in getting him to play with boy toys. Our son is doing much better BUT he is still gravitating to wanting to play with his...

5 yo girl obsessed with sweets

Posted on 7/23/2023

Sugar/Candy Crazy! My daughter is 5 and she is fixated with sweets. It’s all she talks about (donuts, cakes, cookies, candy anything) and she’s old enough that we talk to her about healthy food...

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