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Single father distressed by John's new book

Posted on 10/8/2014

Dear Mr Rosemond, I just bought your book on how to help your kids through school and I have to say I'm not done with the first two pages and I'm distressed. See, I'm like a million fathers...

14 yo living with irresponsible dad

Posted on 9/18/2014

To Mr. John Rosemond: I have a 14 year old by my first marriage who told me, my current husband, and my ex-husband that he "hated our rules, our house, everything!" and wanted to move out of our...

Moms/StepMoms

Posted on 8/27/2014

My almost three year old son lives with his mother. He visits overnight once a week and every other weekend... I cannot say this to my husband, but the little guy's "mommy" is trying to make "her...

Blended family freedom

Posted on 8/26/2014

I need advice. We have a blended family, he had two, I had one, and we had two together. Tonight, my stepson (14) said he no longer wanted to come to our house. He's "done with us and our house"....

7 year old weight problem

Posted on 6/3/2014

My 7 y.o. grandson already has a weight problem. We are very concerned. Our biggest problem is his dad, who is also obese. His dad has unlimited access to the child and is very good father. The...

16 yo disrespectful after visits with dad

Posted on 4/28/2014

My 16 year old daughter came home from weekend visitation with her father (diagnosed sociopath). As usual, upon return she is very cool and distant. When I went to the living room to visit with...

Teens and Spirituality

Posted on 4/26/2014

Dr. Rosemond: I have an eighteen year old daughter who has lived the last five years (approximately) with her mom and step-father and she is getting ready to graduate. On one level or another I...

ABC's of Homework Requires Stay the Course

Posted on 4/10/2014

We have been implementing the ABC's of homework for about 5 weeks now. There were four weeks before report cards came out and when report cards came out, her grades had slipped. Now we have...

4 yo doesn't want to go back to mom's house

Posted on 4/9/2014

Our 4 YO grandson rotates 4 days with us, then 4 days with his mom. He says he misses his mom and he has no complaints of his treatment when he is with her. However, recently, he cries...

Shared Custody Problems

Posted on 4/1/2014

Dear John, My husband and I have 2 boys,ages 3 and 7, and 2 girls from his 1st marriage, ages 12 and 14. The girls are generally very pleasant and cooperative at our house and we have no major...

7 yo drama queen in the making

Posted on 3/18/2014

My 7 year old daughter has a 160 IQ but has been cleared of ADD, Asperger's etc. She is characteristic of many children in the Q & A, defiant, disrespectful, angry, a screamer etc. and...

teens and divorce

Posted on 3/13/2014

My son and his wife of 18 years with children; girl, 16 and boy,13 are just beginning discussions of divorce. She has been the primary bread winner for 7 years while he has been under employed. He...

15 year old multiple problems

Posted on 3/11/2014

My husband and I have 50/50 custody of his first daughter & son (14 & 11) and have for 6 years. Within the last 2 years, we've seen a decline in the daughter's grades. She won't do her work. Her...

15 year old back and forth between parents

Posted on 3/10/2014

A follow up question to go with my last: After the recent conflict I relayed to you with my son, my son was very angry at me and thinking he was in the right and I was in the wrong with how I...

13 yo decides to go back to mom

Posted on 3/4/2014

Follow up to the follow up to problematic 13 yo My husband and I are finishing your books and have registered for your webinar this Sunday evening. Looking forward to talking with you...

Dad mishandling visitation

Posted on 2/24/2014

My husband and I are separated and we have four kids, ranging from 5 to 11 years old. My "husband" has moved in with his girlfriend and he takes the kids to his house two nights a week. My oldest...

custody and stepparent issues

Posted on 2/21/2014

My husband and I have asked his ex-wife, and mother of our two girls, 12 and 5, to meet with us to talk about the 5 year olds school next year and the schedule. The first question I have is that...

Divorce and custody arrangement

Posted on 1/29/2014

Dear John, I have great respect for your parenting advice and would like to hear your thoughts on what is best for children in a divorce. What are your thoughts on 50/50 custody. I have great...

Stepson pulled between custodial/non custodial parents

Posted on 1/20/2014

This weekend, we had an out of trip with my 5 yeard old stepson for a family event. We had a great weekend overall. On the last day, he had a toy he was playing with that he kept waving in my...

15 yo wants to live with dad, then mom, then...

Posted on 1/10/2014

Hi John/everyone! Thanks for sharing your advice and wisdom and making so available a great resource like this for us parents! I would like your perspective and counsel on a recent event with my...

Grandmother raising 14 yo behavior problems

Posted on 1/2/2014

I am guardian of my 14 year old granddaughter who was abandoned by her emotionally abusive birth mother. Recently my granddaughter began to "hate all mothers" and has been unresponsive to me as...

13 year old with pre-sociopathic behavior

Posted on 12/19/2013

We have had custody of my niece (13) and nephew (11) for 2 1/2 years. We also have two kids, a son (10) and daughter (7). My sister is an alcoholic, abusive, has organic damage and personality...

13 year old misbehavior during Dad's visitation

Posted on 12/13/2013

We are a blended family with 5 children. However, I'm having a very hard time with my 13 year old step-son. He is awful at our house. Not in public. Not at school. And not at his mother's. Kicking...

Followup to how to handle teenage son's attitude

Posted on 11/7/2013

To go along with the question I just submitted: My ex-wife and her family believe that I was the cause of the divorce (which I will accept to some extent) and in part because I was...

15 year old pregnant, defiant

Posted on 11/6/2013

Good morning! I am working with a single mom whose divorce has been bitter. Many problematic areas have been addressed. However, I need counsel for a new problem. The 15 year old daughter now is...

15 year old's dad is in turmoil

Posted on 10/30/2013

Yes it is me again. Sorry if I am asking too many questions at the "get-go". Would you mind addressing the "fear" (?) I expressed in one of my last questions about not wanting to be too...

15 yo son girlfriend and cell phone

Posted on 10/26/2013

I have a couple questions (at least), since this is my first time doing this on your site: 1) my 14, almost 15 year old, has been in a serious relationship with a girl (almost 15 year old). My...

Divorced parents losing control

Posted on 10/24/2013

I am a single father of twin girls that are 7 yrs. old and are in the second grade. They are doing fine in school. One of my daughters is developing a fear of me being out of her sight and...

Divorced parents disagree on handling child's misbehavior

Posted on 10/18/2013

We are having some behavior issues with our kindergartener. He lives primarily with his mother, who is choosing to handle the situation in a very different way than we would. He loses privileges...

5 year old : Differing values

Posted on 5/14/2013

My husband and I have a 5 year old stepson. We recently found out that his mother (the ex-wife) is having her boyfriend move in with them. To say that we do not approve of this arrangement is an...

Teenager : How do I keep her safe?

Posted on 4/18/2013

My fifteen year old daughter hangs around with a girl who is a grade older and bad news - lies, manipulates, cuts her wrists, etc. It is one thing for John to tell his son that any trouble his...

Teenager : Is It Too Late?

Posted on 3/5/2013

I am divorced from a diagnosed sociopath who is manipulating our 15 year old daughter. I have physical custody but her behavior deteriorates after each visit with him. She is addicted to her...

4 year old : Emotional and Behavioral Disruption in a Divorce Situation: Normal or 911?

Posted on 2/11/2013

My ex-husband and I have been separated for 3 years. My son is 4. Our visitation schedule has changed several times over the past 3 years.I have battled his strong will that gets even stronger...

9 year old : dad and new girlfriend

Posted on 11/26/2012

I am a divorced dad of a 9 yr-old son, divorced for 5 years. I have always been careful about introducing my son to anyone that I date. I have a girlfriend now that he has met already. I want to...

3 year old : How to create a parent-centered family as a single mom with a dad who has a child-center family style?

Posted on 9/24/2012

Was your biological dad present with visitation and such during the 7 years your mom was a single parent? My reason for asking is because I have a parent-centered family style with my 3 year old...

Teenager : Expectations

Posted on 8/28/2012

I have two teenage daughters and am divorced. They have one set of expectations at my house (no name calling, no rated R movies, no "Family Guy", no bad language, etc.) and another at their Dad's...

3 year old : Default Excuse when wants to get out of something

Posted on 8/2/2012

I am recently divorced and my 3 1/2 year old son has started whining, saying, "I miss Daddy!" whenever he doesn't want to do something and/or gets in trouble. He also often throws a fit and will...

Teenager : Should you assign household chores differently in a blended family

Posted on 7/13/2012

My wife and I are having a serious disagreement and it is causing us a lot of difficulty. We have a blended family of 2 girls (her daughters from a previous marriage)and my son. We are of opposite...

3 year old : Discipline in a divorce situation

Posted on 7/6/2012

Thank you Susan! I'd love some specific examples/direction if possible? When I get son back from Dad and he disobeys, should I right away apply the ticket system, even if it means son spending...

3 year old : Discerning when to extend grace and when to discipline in a divorce situation

Posted on 7/2/2012

My ex has our 3 year old son every Thursday night until Saturday night, every weekend. Most weekends I hand our son over to his dad he is in good shape. When I get him back a few days later, he is...

4 year old : Explaining divorce to a young child

Posted on 5/15/2012

My 4 year old stepson recently asked my husband why mommy and daddy don't live together (they separated when he was 18 months). His father responded that when he was a baby, they did live...

3 year old : Shared Parenting 50/50

Posted on 4/2/2012

John, I am considering 50/50 shared partenting. One week I have our 3-1/2 yr. old daughter and the next week my ex girlfriend would have her. Currently, since my ex moved out I had to get an...

Teenager : Ex-huband and I not agreeing on parenting issues

Posted on 3/18/2012

My ex-husband and I do not agree on parenting discipline measures. She is 14 and lives with me. He lives out of town but is constantly disagreeing with my discipline measures. She loves horses and...

Teenager : Issues about visitation with dad

Posted on 3/5/2012

My 14 yo daughter has been developing some upsetting signs after the weekends when she visits her fathers house. She has insomnia where she literally will be up all night long until it is time to...

Teenager : BM undermining punishments

Posted on 2/23/2012

13 YO SS is at my house 50% of time, at his mother's 50%. At our house, there are rules and consequences. At his mother's there are none. Currently my step son has failing grades. Instead of our...

RE: 3 year old : Child Custody Issue

Posted on 2/6/2012

Susan, I guess I will have to disagree with your answer. What do all of the other millions of split parents do when they separate with young kids involved? I think my daughter is old enough 3-1/2...

3 year old : RE:3 year old : RE: 3 year old : Child Custody Issue

Posted on 2/3/2012

Thanks Susan. So, when I get my a a court order for visits and it says that I can have her for a weekend, do you think it is best to take her back to Mommy's house on Saturday night and then pick...

7 year old : Morning hassle

Posted on 1/27/2012

I help Son, his wife filed for divorce 7 mo ago, w/ two girls 1 afternoon and morning a week, also some every other wkend. 7 yo is angry, defiant, uncooperative and very slow in the morning, but...

3 year old : RE: 3 year old : Child Custody Issue

Posted on 1/25/2012

Sorry and Thanks for the answer John, but I did not explain myelf very clearly. What I meant to say is that our daughter has never slept at another family members house since birth. She has always...

3 year old : Child Custody Issue

Posted on 1/10/2012

My girl friend and I are separting (maybe a chance for reconcilation - not sure). We both want the best for her. What is best when it comes to custody at 3 1/2? Shared parenting? - I have her 2 or...

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