Question
A follow up question to go with my last: After the recent conflict I relayed to you with my son, my son was very angry at me and thinking he was in the right and I was in the wrong with how I handled the situation (as his mom and her parents thought too). I talked to my son about the situation but he got escalated, was yelling at me and finally I agreed that we would have to table the conversation for later. The following evening I attempted to talk to my son more about the previous incident, however he continued to be angry at me, was being disrespectful and on the way to a school concert I was driving him to he got more escalated and got verbally abusive. I finally pulled over, stopped the car and told him we were not going to the concert until he stopped "running his mouth", said sorry, etc. He ended up calling his mom and she came and got him/rescued him and took him to the concert. I told his mom to not bring him back to my place and that she would be responsible for him, since she continues to interfere and undermine me, until he makes things right with me and until her and I can agree to some things and she will not undermine me as his dad. Long story short. She has had him stay at his Grandparents in town since then and he continues to be resentful. I still want him to live with me as long as he will work out things with me, however he says he can't live with me, that it is stressing him out, etc., versus owning his behavior, and after the school year his mom is tentatively planning on him moving back with her and finishing school there. I don't think this is what is best for my son or healthy for our relationship. Thoughts?
