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Smoking Weed

Posted on 12/4/2017

I have heard that it is so common along kids in college to smoke weed, it is absolutely normal for this generation. How to react if i know my child does smoke it and has find it as her relaxing...

Ramifications of saying "no" to school santa activity.

Posted on 11/29/2017

Dear Parent Guru, I received the below e-mail this afternoon from my daughter's teacher and was hoping to obtain your thoughts on the matter. Last year the same teacher started the secret...

Did my child really do that?

Posted on 11/28/2017

I just got a call from the Kindergarten counselor. Apparently my 5YO son touched a female classmate inappropriately on the playground before the Thanksgiving break. She told her mom, mom called...

parents and 12 yo boy in conflict over choice of school

Posted on 11/15/2017

My children 12, 11, 8 have gone to Catholic school since Kindergarten. My 12 year old son is in 7th and we are starting to think about HS. There are only 3 in our area. #1 is an all boys college...

Five year old uncooperative, and more

Posted on 11/13/2017

I am a preschool principal, I have a 5 year-old child who has problems. He has been with us since he was 4 (we have used many ways to discipline him but it doesn't work). He is able to...

Follow up about Disobedient 5 y/o

Posted on 11/13/2017

I am referring to my previous question about a 5 years old student in my preschool. The boy is not my son. I don't think that he has ADHD or Autism. When I spoke to the mother, she told me that...

Create Daily Reports with Meaningful Consequences

Posted on 11/7/2017

My 10-year-old son, who is in fifth grade, is having some trouble at school. At this parent-teacher conference, his teacher expressed he is too talkative, rushing his work, and has poor...

Online School is a Privilege Not a Right

Posted on 11/3/2017

We have homeschooled our 3 kids for all of their school years. Last year we enrolled our son (now 16.5) in online public schooling because he refused to be cooperative with school work. Online...

Stay the Course with 9 yo's School Issues

Posted on 10/23/2017

We are concerned about our 9 year old son (3rd grade), who is having problems doing work, staying on task (wonders around the room bothering classmates) and blurting out answers for the other kids...

College students and control.

Posted on 10/16/2017

Our 21 year old son is on a full ride academic scholarship at an out of state university. When he was born, we set up a UGMA account for his college education, but he hasn’t needed it. He has...

Ten Year Old With Anxiety

Posted on 10/12/2017

Hello! My daughter is 10 years old. She has quite a bit of anxiety (inherited I believe). Recently, she has been confronted with the task of working on a project with another, very difficult...

Old School Blues

Posted on 10/5/2017

My daughters were homeschooled, public schooled, homeschooled again, and back in public school right down the street. They were pretty happy with school but the oldest was always hard to get out...

Lower the Boom on 18 year old son

Posted on 10/1/2017

My son has just turned 18 and is a senior in high school. He had his first job this summer doing construction work with some people we know. He did well getting up early and they said that he...

First Time Offender

Posted on 9/28/2017

Received a call from my 5th graders school today he and another boy were making and folded paper craft (ninja star) at lunch. My son turned it into an inappropriate conversation about a private...

Ill-Behaved Grandchildren

Posted on 9/25/2017

My 4 yr old grandson is already in trouble in school for bullying. A classmate didn't want to go to school because he was afraid he was going to get hurt by my grandson again, who has apparently...

Kindergartner frustrated by new immersion class

Posted on 9/11/2017

My 5 1/2 year old boy is having a hard time transitioning into a spanish immersion kindergarten. He's acting out by being very disruptive and sometimes "play hitting"/horsing around. We had...

Should Mom address home behavior or Math grade first?

Posted on 9/2/2017

Our 11 yr old daughter (6th grade) has some small/medium behaviors at home we would like to get under control with a Weekly Chart, but also is having trouble in Math at school (C)...other subjects...

Daily Report Cards Help School Behaviors

Posted on 9/1/2017

I have a 7 year old who has been having problems at school and just recently we received a form from school saying that the school is requesting for social worker intervention, that is "the next...

Off to a rocky start at Kindergarten!

Posted on 9/1/2017

For the 3rd time in 8 days my 5 year old has come home from Kindergarten with a bad report from the teacher. She's at a Catholic school, which we are very happy with, but she just can't seem to...

AP Classes and Motivation

Posted on 8/31/2017

Hi! My son started high school a couple of weeks ago. He was placed in an advanced program where they start taking some AP classes in 9th grade. He has been against the program since we went to an...

When a Child Chooses the Wrong Friends

Posted on 8/29/2017

My 14-year-old son started in a new, academically-driven private school for high school. He became friends immediately with his peer group on the football team and we've allowed him some new...

Pay Your Way

Posted on 8/28/2017

Hello, I've been asking questions for a few years now about my daughter. I've read John's book "The Well Behaved Child." My question regarding my now 7 year old daughter is this: How do I...

Diagnosis and parenting.

Posted on 7/17/2017

Our 8-year old daughter was psychologically evaluated upon a request from her school and pediatrician. This was done for a determination of possible ADHD or Autism Spectrum issues. The results of...

8 yro hurting others using ticket system

Posted on 7/11/2017

Our 8 year old son has had some instances of badly hurting others. He's aggressively hurt kids at school twice and the school has intervened. In both instances, we have punished him at home as...

When mean children say mean things.

Posted on 6/8/2017

My 7 year old son has been saying that kids at school say he's fat and that he has "big fat thighs". The truth is he's a bit husky but he's very active, eats a well balanced diet, and is shaped...

11 yo, Depressed, Won't Do School Work

Posted on 5/15/2017

We read him the riot act and lowered the boom. It's the first time our son (11) has been grounded. He has been refusing to do his school work. He sits and stares at his math book for hours, even...

School Problems for a 7 year old

Posted on 5/3/2017

7 year old son smacked a classmate's hand while walking by their desk. When asked why by the vice principal his response was he "thought it was funny". Need to nip this in the bud, this is his 3rd...

15 yo Slacker

Posted on 5/1/2017

My son (15) will be 16 in August; I'm a single mom he has 2 other brothers, 8,13; I juggle extracurricular activities for the 2 (15 & 12) with others peoples help; acquaintances, friends helping...

4 yo Doesn't Want to Go to School

Posted on 4/23/2017

Hi Gurus, Our 4-year-old has been very upset about going to school (pre-k) lately - tonight she was crying and saying she doesn't want to go to school, ever ever ever. She attends an after-school...

9 Year Old Playing Instead of Learning

Posted on 4/3/2017

My 9 year old son is getting in trouble at school for playing games he is not supposed to be doing. He has also started missing assignments. He went to his room at 4 last Friday and Saturday...

Finances and the Bank of Mom and Dad

Posted on 3/28/2017

We have our first child in college. We are giving her a monthly stipend to pay for incidentals. Room, board and tuition are paid for both with money we saved and a scholarship she earned. She also...

College student lessons.

Posted on 3/21/2017

Against our advice, our college student chose a roommate known to be prone to histrionics. Before the decision was made, we outlined all the potential ramifications but let her make the final...

Half-Hearted 14-year-old student

Posted on 3/16/2017

We have a 14 year old son that is a freshmen in high school. We have been long followers of John Rosemond and have done our best not to mircromanage our son, especially when it comes to school and...

Should I Proofread My Child's Work?

Posted on 3/14/2017

We have a 14 year old son who is in the middle of writing a research paper. He is generally responsible, does his own homework without being told, and gets good grades. We do not hover over him,...

Mr. Negativity, 9 year old stepson

Posted on 3/10/2017

My 9 y/o stepson seems increasingly negative and anxious. We thought it was due to our move (still within a half hour of the mother) but his mom mentioned he complains he has no friends at school...

Disobedience or Addiction?

Posted on 3/1/2017

Dear John, Our almost-15-yr-old son has been disobeying our rule of no Xbox on school nights but last week was a doozy. When we were away for the weekend, he got his 16-yr-old sister to drive...

10 yo Autistic Trouble with Abstract School Assigments.

Posted on 2/22/2017

My son is in 5th grade. He has autism. It's really hard for him to talk about him and to express ideas when come to write ideas and team work. It's more and more hard at school. They have to...

Motivating Better Grades

Posted on 2/16/2017

Hi! I am working on consequences that will "motivate" my 13 year old son to put in more effort at school. I am ready to take away everything (cell phone, electronics, tv, time with friends, etc)...

12 yo Social Life Taking Over Grades

Posted on 2/13/2017

My 12 yo daughter has gone from straight A's in elementary school to C's & D's in middle school. It's not because she can't do the work, she chooses not to. Her friends and social life seem to be...

Teenaged son not making the grade

Posted on 2/7/2017

My 13 year old son is bright but very lazy when it comes to school work and grades. Even though he tested as gifted, he does not want to put the time or effort in that is required to do well. We...

Explaining to 8 yo about Transgender Classmate

Posted on 2/6/2017

The elementary school where my 8 year old 3rd grader attends, just sent home a letter stating that a classmate has chosen to come out as transgender. The letter further states that the school will...

7 Year Old & School work

Posted on 1/23/2017

My 7-yr old/1st grader has gotten a 2 (does not meet district standards - a 3 is the goal w/ a 4 being the best one can get) for penmanship/writing the past two quarters of 1st grade on his report...

Three year olds and daycare

Posted on 1/16/2017

Just newly 3 year old at daycare not minding teachers running around Not minding when in time-out About 15-18 children in room with 2 teachers Mother had taken away privileges at home later....

15 Year Old Grades Slipping

Posted on 1/15/2017

Dear Parenting Guru, I have a soon to be 15 year old son, a ninth grader. He is in a scholar program at a private school, and he has earned a partial scholarship based on his academic...

How to Handle Frequent, Unnecessary Calls From the Nurse's Office

Posted on 12/21/2016

My 6 year old daughter frequently calls me from the nurses office/clinic from her school saying she does not feel well and needs to come home. I spoke to the nurse and told her unless my daughter...

Grandparent's concern.

Posted on 12/10/2016

Dear John, we lived in ---- our church First Presbyterian had you as a speaker and my husband and I followed every column of yours in the (local newspaper). We moved to --- and 21 years ago used...

7 yo Boys Daily Reports Not Working

Posted on 12/7/2016

We have twin 7 year old boys (8 in February) who are in 2nd grade. They both struggle in different ways at school with staying on task. We have used daily report cards with their teachers since...

Is the Boy Autistic?

Posted on 12/7/2016

My son's teacher is concerned about him being autistic. She says he is having trouble staying focused in class, stares into space and sits quietly laughing to himself and talks to himself. Is this...

Homeschooled 15 yo Follow Up Part II

Posted on 12/3/2016

Following up on homeschooled 15 y.o. So another week has passed & my son has not kept up with his work so as agreed I went to get his phone from him & he wouldn't give it to me. He refused...

Micromanaging 15-Year-Old Follow-Up

Posted on 11/17/2016

So I just had my epiphany. Even though this child is homeschooled he does one class online & 3 classes at a co-op, 1 day a week. I guess I should totally butt out of those, is that...

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