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Where Lego Ends, Tickets Begin
Posted on 10/28/2018
We just started using the ticket system on our 6 year old son yesterday. Following is an example of this morning, which we're not quite sure how to handle. Our son is busy playing with his Lego...
Read MoreThe Pestering Teen...
Posted on 10/22/2018
We are struggling with my 14 year old son. He constantly pesters sister dad and myself. We take away all electronic devices and that does not solve the problem. He is getting more stubborn every...
Read MoreThe High School Experiment
Posted on 10/22/2018
I feel like I ask the same questions all the time. My 12th grader is stressing me out, he is barely making his grades in school coming in at B, C, D's and E's. He's a good kid but I suspect...
Read MoreClash of the "Tot"ans
Posted on 10/17/2018
I have a two year old and four year old who are constantly bickering! I have limited toys to one bin a piece. They start imaginary play with each other which is great but that turns into she...
Read MoreTaming the Class Clown
Posted on 10/15/2018
My son is 8 years old and I'm trying the "out of the garden" to correct some behaviors. He's already corrected two of them but having trouble with his 3rd misbehavior which is having a good day at...
Read More3 year old can “obey all the way, right away, everyday”!
Posted on 10/4/2018
Hello! Our daughter is on tickets (3.5 years) and she has been doing pretty well the last couple of weeks. The only behavior that is on the tickets system is that she needs to obey us when we...
Read MoreForgetful Schooler
Posted on 9/24/2018
Hi there, how can I discipline a 7 year old girl who is always forgetting instructions to be completed? I would giver her 2 or 3 instructions and she completes 1 or 2 of them, or completes all but...
Read MoreUse John's ABC or DRC Method for Issues at School?
Posted on 9/24/2018
My son is currently in the 4th grade. At the beginning of the school year, we implemented the "ABC's of Effective Homework Management" and as expected, our son has been slacking on his homework...
Read MoreTickets for "Dis"ing
Posted on 9/19/2018
I would like to start using the ticket system (again!) with our older 2 kids who are 5.5 years old and 4 years. How can I effectively explain the behavior of disrespect to our kids so they have...
Read MoreBook Trouble
Posted on 9/2/2018
My almost 4 year old tears books, as in the covers off or page(s) out of books. We have removed all books from his room. We have found that when we do find a book that is torn it is a result of...
Read More6 yo Throwing Wits Ending Tantrums
Posted on 8/17/2018
I am at my wit’s end. My 6 year old is making life miserable for our household. She is very strong willed and gets very angry easily. At school she gets certificates for her “model behavior”....
Read Moretaking back authority over 7yo
Posted on 8/12/2018
I recently discovered Mr. Rosemond's books. My husband and I are now implementing his ideas with our 7 year old son who gets easily frustrated when he doesn't get his way, ignores our demands,...
Read MoreOverwhelmed Mom wants to take back her authority, but can't stop yelling
Posted on 8/7/2018
My son is extremely defiant and NOTHING we have tried thus far has made a difference. Spanking him has to be done several times over, and is always accompanied by screaming, blaming, back-talk,...
Read MoreThree year old adapting to changes
Posted on 7/25/2018
Our daughter turned 3 in May and it was around that time that we became aware of John Rosemond's books. We learnt that we were not authoritative in our parenting style nor did we use alpha speech,...
Read MoreHow to effectively delay consequences for 5,6 yros
Posted on 7/7/2018
I’m struggling to understand how to enact delayed consequences as described in The “Nipping” Principle and could use some suggestions. It’s easy enough to do while on errands as both my 5 and...
Read MoreLeadership is always Plan A!
Posted on 6/15/2018
For the past couple of years, my husband and I have been using "charts" with our two kids, now ages 7 (girl) and 9 (boy). The charts were used primarily for when the kids "forgot" to do their...
Read More5 year old in boring bedroom is enough
Posted on 6/13/2018
I've recently read "The Well-Behaved Child" and have decided to implement the ticket system with both my 5 and 6 yo. I was doing a watered down version of this system already with what I called...
Read MoreTattling
Posted on 6/12/2018
We are still using the ticket system with our children (ages 10, 13, 13, 15) even though we want to eventually move away from it and begin to think along the lines of parenting teens. For now, do...
Read MoreTable Manners Matter
Posted on 5/18/2018
Our 8 year old daughter has poor table manners. What is your suggestion on improving them? We have tried nagging (obviously unsuccessful), working on one thing at a time (worked for the first...
Read Morewhat do I focus on for my 2yro
Posted on 5/7/2018
Our son is 21 months older and we’ve come up with a game plan for focusing on certain behaviors where we want to make progress. We’re focusing on our top three and we’re working on a plan for...
Read MoreTantrumming 5 year old
Posted on 4/14/2018
My 5-year-old, who is an otherwise happy, well-behaved child, cries at the drop of a hat if she perceives something has gone wrong or may go wrong soon (especially if she can't find something)....
Read MoreWhen to Start the Ticket Method
Posted on 4/8/2018
Hello. Our daughter is turning three this week. She is starting to show some resistance to my and my husband's authority. Usually this noncompliance involves refusing to pick up toys before bed,...
Read MoreJohn's Books Available in Spanish
Posted on 4/7/2018
We have 2 children, 5 years old and 2.5 years old. Both kids have had the same nanny since our oldest was 6 months old. She is wonderful and caring, loves the kids and is very dependable and good...
Read MoreDitch the Guilt!
Posted on 4/2/2018
This week I had a friend of mine and her child come to stay at my home from out of town. My 3 year old son and her son are the same age, and they have been enjoying playing together. On the third...
Read MoreIt's Only a Phase!
Posted on 3/21/2018
My 3 year old child started the ticket system with 5 tickets in October of 2017. By January of 2018 we had a changed child on our hands and we were able to put away the ticket system. All of...
Read MoreShare Tickets for Fighting Siblings
Posted on 3/14/2018
I'm not sure how to handle a conflict between my two toddler boys. The younger one has a life mission of provoking the older to get into trouble or start a fight with him and will then play the...
Read MoreSticky Fingers
Posted on 3/10/2018
Our 5 year old has been having a problem with thinking he can take things that belong to others in the house. Recently we found a pack of gum that we do not remember purchasing. We are pretty...
Read MoreTickets: is "doing what you're told" too vague?
Posted on 3/8/2018
I'm preparing using the tickets system with my son who will be 4 years old in 2 months. He is very defiant, so I would like his 1 misbehavior that we focus on first to be Doing What He's Told. But...
Read MoreSolitary confinement
Posted on 2/23/2018
What do I do when I kick my kids (6, 5, and 4) out of the garden and the LIKE it!! All three of my girls are upstairs in their room laughing and jumping on their beds. I took their bed frames...
Read MoreTumultuous Trio
Posted on 2/23/2018
Where do we start? We have 3 girls age 6, 5, and 4. They are ALL out of control. Reading through the Well Behaved Child I'm overwhelmed with all the methods. My husband and I have started...
Read MoreContinued problems with son
Posted on 2/14/2018
HI there, it's been a month since we have systematically and authoritatively addressed my son's misbehaviours. We decided to address hitting and disobedience. We have him on a 14 day chart for...
Read More13 yo Not Responding to Effective Discipline
Posted on 2/12/2018
13 year old daughter seems to not care about anything at all. we have grounded her according to John's book, we have done "tickets", she is extremely moody, mean and nasty to family and calls her...
Read More9 yo Chart Questions
Posted on 2/3/2018
I'm planning to use a weekly chart with my 9yo son. One of the target behaviors is "Refusing to do what your parents tell you to". So if I ask him to empty the dishwasher and he says he doesn't...
Read MoreTWBC Charts
Posted on 1/31/2018
In the "Well-Behaved Child" book there is a caution with the Weekly Charts that very HM may be better to start with Daily Charts. I'm wondering if I start with Weekly Charts and find that my 9yo...
Read More9YO Won't Stay In Room
Posted on 1/31/2018
I've read "The Well-Behaved Child" and am starting to use some of the tools with my HM 9yo son. My problem is that when my son is sent to his bedroom for the day as a consequence he often comes...
Read MoreMom was right to override tickets
Posted on 1/24/2018
HI there, Thank you for your prompt responses on my questions including taking back control and being a parent-centred family. The children have misbehaved so much (during the holidays) that I...
Read MoreMom lost in daughter's orbit
Posted on 1/23/2018
My daughter is five years old and while she has many wonderful qualities. She bright, articulate, and funny. There are certain behaviors however that drive me crazy! I have read the Well Behaved...
Read MoreHow to Create a Parent-Centered Home with Young Children
Posted on 1/19/2018
I'm needing clarification on what it means to be a parent-centred home, rather than a child-centred home when we have youngish child of 3.5 and 6.5. Could you direct me to resources for guidance...
Read MoreTicket System Questions
Posted on 1/12/2018
We are using the ticket system with our four year old son. Right now we are working on him being obedient and doing what we say to do when we say to do it. We run into problems when there is a...
Read MorePre-Schooler Stuck in Season 1
Posted on 1/1/2018
Hi there, i have a little 3.5 year old who is completely out of control. I admit we have let him run the house a little bit as he is a little spitfire and makes things unpleasant(ie screams as...
Read MoreLetting toddlers play alone?
Posted on 12/23/2017
My daughter is 2 years old and recently I noticed that she doesn't play on her own very much anymore and is often looking for me and my wife to entertain her. I set up her room with a few things...
Read MorePunishment for all?
Posted on 12/22/2017
I have a question about do not disturb the family peace. I want to start this with my 2 boys age 11 and 12 because they are always fighting. My 8 year old daughter generally stays out of all...
Read MoreChanging up the Chart System
Posted on 12/4/2017
We do the Strike System with our 9 and 7 year olds and it is working pretty well. However, there is still a big, stressful issue when it comes to us telling the 9 year old to clean up her room or...
Read MoreTime Out With Tickets?
Posted on 11/28/2017
We just started the ticket system with our three-year-old and five-year-old. We have done this with our five-year-old in the past and we appreciate how it works and how effective it can be....
Read More3 year old and Ticket System
Posted on 11/14/2017
I have a 3 year old son who has been on the ticket system for 6 weeks, and I feel extremely discouraged. Today during his check-up at the doctors office he refused to let the nurse weigh him or...
Read MoreFollow up about Disobedient 5 y/o
Posted on 11/13/2017
I am referring to my previous question about a 5 years old student in my preschool. The boy is not my son. I don't think that he has ADHD or Autism. When I spoke to the mother, she told me that...
Read More8 Year Old Disruptive in Time Out
Posted on 11/10/2017
We have nearly 8-year-old boy/girl twins, a 3-year-old daughter, and a new baby girl due any day now. We started daily charts with our twins recently and are having some big struggles with our...
Read MoreCreate Daily Reports with Meaningful Consequences
Posted on 11/7/2017
My 10-year-old son, who is in fifth grade, is having some trouble at school. At this parent-teacher conference, his teacher expressed he is too talkative, rushing his work, and has poor...
Read More3 year old boy should keep his lovie
Posted on 10/15/2017
I have read "The Well Behaved Child" and I have been implementing the ticket system for three days with my three year old son. Today he lost all of his tickets after a complete melt-down at...
Read MoreBedtime Horseplay
Posted on 10/4/2017
I have twin 9 year olds and a 6 year old girl that share a bed room. A few years ago when the 6 year old had her own room she pretty much went to bed as told with the exception of getting up a few...
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