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Distraught dad of tweens

Posted on 12/30/2016

Please help - i am the father of a 12 year old girl and a 10 year old boy. They are both spoilt brats who only care about their enjoyment. 1)They are very rude and dont listen. 2)They dont...

19 yo Telling Parents Off

Posted on 12/20/2016

Same daughter - More issues. This is related to the daughter that I have asked about in previous posts. She continues to be distant in her relationship. She will never return a "I love you" and...

Angst update

Posted on 12/18/2016

Teenage girl and her angst I spoke to her later that day and let her know that I would be going to her game. The, "I am done listening to you" continues. I agree with the alarm. she has...

Teenage girl and her angst

Posted on 12/9/2016

I have a 16 yr old daughter, who tells me, when I start to give her information about something in general," I don't want to listen to you." She gets up, walks to her room closes the door." This...

Parenting Adult Children, Follow Up

Posted on 12/1/2016

To follow up on my last question (Parenting Adult Children). When my son admitted he started smoking cigarettes about 2 months ago and says he does not do it very often, my husband told him he...

Three year old won't cooperate

Posted on 10/31/2016

My daughter is 3 years old; she will turn 4 in January 2017. Every morning she throws an all out fit about getting dressed and putting on her socks and shoes. We pick her clothes out the night...

Forgetfulness or defiance.

Posted on 10/26/2016

HI there, I have a question regarding my very imaginative 5 year old who is sometimes very much in her head that she doesn't hear certain instructions. We have taken care of the defiance issue for...

5 y/o son "hates" soccer

Posted on 10/22/2016

My husband enrolled our just-turned 5 year old son in fall soccer. I know John's stance on organized sports, but husband really wanted to do this. Anyway, as it turns out, son hates it. I am...

12-yo Rude, Lazy, Disrespectful

Posted on 10/6/2016

12yr old son-7th grade-Goes to Christian school-Last week got detention for disrupting class,this week got another detention for talking back to teacher-he's VERY lazy with homework (barely...

Too Late

Posted on 10/5/2016

Our daughter recently graduated from college and did well and has a good paying job. She lives with us ( 1.5 months now) but is actively looking for her own place closer to work. She has never...

Husband and Wife Disagree on Allowance Tied to Chores

Posted on 9/7/2016

My husband and I cannot seem to agree on an issue concerning our children. It involves not tying their allowance to their chores. I have read numerous articles of Rosemond's articles/books that...

Passive-Aggressive Teen

Posted on 8/17/2016

How do we deal with passive aggressive behavior in an older teen? She will verbally comply with a request but then not follow through like "bring the trash down when you head downstairs," or "come...

15 Year Old More Focused on Self Than Family

Posted on 8/15/2016

My question-Should I hold off on the talent nurturing (train up a child the way), I think I need to do one activity per child. Encouraging talent in my teen 15 years 2morrw 08/16/2016 (he loves...

Completing chores can be difficult....

Posted on 7/26/2016

We are having a very difficult time with a certain 7 year old young lady who has been getting very sulky, cranky, and whiny about her chores. These are chores that generally take about 15 min...

Dawdling

Posted on 6/8/2016

My son (4.5 years old) is on behavior tickets. On of his behaviors is "refusing to do what you are told". He does fairly well EXCEPT... I feel like he frequently takes too long to comply...

Autistic child and chores.

Posted on 6/8/2016

My son 9 yo who has autism shows big tantrum when I ask him to do the recycling. It's hard for him to break down the boxes. He says it's not fair that he has to do it. I tell him that it is his...

Tween has Violent Outbursts

Posted on 6/3/2016

I am single mom. My 11 year-old son gets very angry about situations with his friends that he can't control and instead of working things out with his peers tries to shove me around and destroy...

6 yo Not Practicing Violin

Posted on 5/24/2016

My six year old daughter does not play her violin during her practice time. Her teacher made her a stack of flashcards with different songs and exercises for her to work through. My daughter...

13 yo Boredom

Posted on 4/2/2016

We have a very bored 13 year old on our hands. It is now the school holidays and he is bored, bored,bored. It is not the boredom itself that we are worried about. It is the fact that he shows no...

teen boys leave out wet towels

Posted on 3/14/2016

Hang up your towel....for crying out loud! Seriously--I can't be the only parent at my wits end about kids not hanging up a towel after bathing/drying off. I know this isn't HUGE as far as...

3 yo Dawdling

Posted on 2/7/2016

My 3 year (and 9 month) old daughter dawdles when instructed to get out of bed, when told to make her bed, and when using the bathroom. She lays in her bed awake with her blanket when it's time...

What Chores Can My Kids Do?

Posted on 2/7/2016

I have four children: 7, 5 (and 10 months), 3 (and 9 months) and 2 years old. They have some chores at this time, all or some of the older three empty dishwasher, clear table, make beds, and...

Chore Refusals

Posted on 2/4/2016

What is the best approach for when a child refuses to do their assigned chore? My husband and I use the chart system for our 5-year-old and 7-year-old. When one of our children doesn't do their...

17 and won't take responsibility

Posted on 1/21/2016

My almost 17 year old son is a Junior in high school. We need help parenting him. And I feel the hourglass is quickly running out--he's supposedly 18 months from graduation/launching into...

How do I help my college kid manage spending money?

Posted on 12/21/2015

As we prepare to have our first child enter college, do you have any advice on how to handle her discretionary spending money? Assuming room and board are paid for, we were thinking about putting...

14 yo Won't Go to School

Posted on 11/19/2015

Hi, We have a 14 y.o. son who has not once made it a full week on time for school this year. He is in a private school with very long hours and he clams it's 'too hard'.. I agree the schedule is...

13 year old Lazy About Chores

Posted on 11/17/2015

My 13 year old daughter chooses not to clean her room or do chores unless specifically reminded. What are some consequences that are age-appropriate that would likely motivate her to take the...

Switching from tickets to charts.

Posted on 11/12/2015

My husband and I are switching from the "tickets" system to the "charts" system for our children, ages 5 and 7. I understand that the consequences for lost boxes are not to carry over to the next...

More Help with Chores

Posted on 11/5/2015

2nd Follow-Up for Trinity Thank you again, Trinity. Your advice is very helpful! 1. The reason I allowed my five-year-old daughter a couple of toys is because John suggested that in his...

9 year old loses belongings

Posted on 11/5/2015

How do I get my 9yo son to take responsibility for his belongings? He took his swim shirt off in the ocean and lost it. Not the first time he has lost an article of clothing. He has lost flip...

Chart clarification

Posted on 11/2/2015

Follow-Up for Trinity Trinity, Thank you for your wonderful response! I will definitely start using the Charts system instead. I do have follow-up questions for you: 1. While doing...

Chore Struggles

Posted on 11/1/2015

My five-year-old daughter and seven-year-old son each have a chore chart in their bedroom. Once they do each chore, they flip the card over. The chart is well-organized and the chores are...

Underage Drinking by College Daughter

Posted on 10/17/2015

Dear Parent Guru, It's been a year since I have written! I dug up my favorite book Power of the Praying Parent by Stormie O'Martin and praying has calmed me having a daughter in her 2nd year...

Tween won't do chores!

Posted on 10/14/2015

Our 11-year-old son is resists everything we tell him to do. Example: he has to walk the dogs in the morning, and hates to do it. He feels that his sister, who is 7-years-old, has much less...

Chores done right the first time

Posted on 10/14/2015

I just read one of your books last weekend and we started invoking the ticket system for chores with our 9 year old daughter this week. Usually she whines, makes excuses or ignores us when we ask...

8 yo Disobedience and Defiance

Posted on 10/13/2015

Please help us to discipline our 8 year old son. He doesn't do what he is asked until we shout. He is often rude and disrespectful. He doesn't help around the house. I just ordered the well...

5 year old is compliant but grumpy!

Posted on 10/13/2015

My five year old daughter generally "obeys" but not cheerfully. If she doesn't like what she is told to do, she may comply with a very long face and dropping shoulders. Her morning duties...

11 yo Bad Manners

Posted on 10/8/2015

I get irritated when I watch my son not using his manners like opening the door for people, if he is about to enter a store he doesn't wait for the person in front of him, or he won't say thank...

17 yo Independence, Hang in There!

Posted on 9/3/2015

Okay. I am really trying to follow through with your advice, so I am making sure I am understanding my part. My fear is I do not want to contribute to her being irresponsible. I will let you...

17 yo Independence, Part 3

Posted on 8/31/2015

I am a little confused. What is the difference between an ipod and a cellphone? They are both ways of communicating with friends and other people. She isn't doing any of the responsibilities we...

6 year old Learning Responsibility

Posted on 8/3/2015

My six year old has not taken responsibility for doing what she is supposed to do daily. I have to ask her to do things that she should be doing on her own. Examples are as follows: clean up her...

9 yo Lack of Empathy

Posted on 7/6/2015

We feel that our grandson lacks empathy. He is 9 yrs old and doesn't 't seem to care about others feelings. How do you teach empathy?

Family Out of Control

Posted on 6/30/2015

Hi please can you give us some advice, we just don't know where to start. Our family is a real mess. We have 2 children aged 11 and 8. They are very selfish, the don't help around the house, they...

8 yr old stained underwear

Posted on 6/27/2015

I have a question about my son and his "streak marks". His underwear have poop streaks in them almost daily. We have talked with him to see why, he said he just waits too long or "doesn't know...

11 yo Lazinesss

Posted on 5/4/2015

For the last year my 11 year old daughter seems to have, there is no nice way to say this, gone significantly down in intelligence. Any chore, job, task, question, or assignment (given by us, not...

Don't Nag

Posted on 4/28/2015

Every morning I'm having to remind my 6.5 year old to do everything - make bed, unload silverware, put on clothes, get his backpack, etc. If I don't remind him he ends up wandering around the...

13 yo Money for Chores?

Posted on 4/22/2015

I have a 13 year old stepdaughter who is with us every other week and I am wondering if an allowance would encourage her to do her chores with less of an attitude. She has not asked for an...

Chores for School Aged Children

Posted on 4/16/2015

we read in Johns book about how in season 2 the child should be doing just as much if not more for the parent in terms of helping out around the house. We've really dropped the ball with...

Don't Forget...

Posted on 4/15/2015

Hi, We have an 8 year old daughter, she is great. We've noticed a new trend with her that we would like to nip in the bud. She is "forgetting" or not paying attention to some basic...

Don't Forget...

Posted on 4/15/2015

Hi We have an 8.5 year old daughter who is a really good girl. We've noticed a new trend with her that when something happens that she doesn't like, she starts to cry. Sometimes these are big...

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