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Blending Family

Posted on 5/7/2015

We are blending a family with three children ages 9,11, and 12. The 9 and 11 year old are siblings (a boy and a girl). The 11 and 12 year olds are boys. The boys often do not get along and we...

8 year old, 4 year old Not Sleeping

Posted on 5/6/2015

My daughter is almost 9 and my son is 4 years old. They were sharing a room until recently. I separated them because my son would not go to sleep. He kept doing things to make her laugh and they...

I Want That!

Posted on 5/3/2015

how do you handle when the kids are playing and the 3 year old wants the red marker and the 6 year old opens and bag and starts using it first. I never know how to handle these...

Sibling Rivalry

Posted on 4/15/2015

Hello, I read the response to "4-Year-Old Agressive Toward 30-Month-Old Sibling". We are in a similar situation with our 4 1/2 YO and our 2 1/2 YO. A follow up question: how do we handle the...

No Hitting Allowed...

Posted on 3/27/2015

I have 2 children. One is an 8 year old daughter and the other is a 3 1/2 year old son. Recently my 3 1/2 year old has taken to hitting his older sister when he is frustrated with her, or if...

Sibling Conflict, Revisited

Posted on 3/24/2015

What to do a about boys pulling on certain body parts of their siblings making the sibling cry? We have talked/given consequences to our oldest about it, all the while telling the younger to...

3 Year Old Aggressive With Younger Sib

Posted on 3/17/2015

Hi, We have an almost 3 year old and an 11 month old. The 3 year old does not seem to understand how to interact with his brother in a gentle and acceptable manner. He bites, pinches, hits,...

10 year old Too Aggressive?

Posted on 3/10/2015

Hello.I wanted to ask about my son who is 10 who wrestles and plays with his siblings who are younger. He has been mildly aggressive being much older. He has mildly choked, smothered with pillows,...

8 yo, 10 yo Disobedience, Defiance, Sibling Conflict

Posted on 2/19/2015

To clarify from my previous questions, no they are not being seen or treated by anyone. I did the round of tests and evals they suggested and tried the med 2 years ago and found that it only added...

8, 10 yo ADHD

Posted on 2/18/2015

I have 3 boys, ages 10 and 8 yo twins. They all three have been given the diagnosis of ADHD and I refuse to medicate. They are loud and consistently fight and argue with each other. They do not...

Keep the Peace

Posted on 2/8/2015

My boys are 8 years and 34 months old. I need to establish a plan to keep the family peace. Their age gap is wide and the youngest is almost 3, so I need some direction please! My 8 yo picks...

3 1/2 Year Old Resentful of Baby Brother

Posted on 1/27/2015

HI there, I need advice on handling a 3.5 year old who gets resentful over the attention her 6.5 month old brother gets from me (I am full time at home with both of them). Also resents that he...

5 Boys "Working Things Out"

Posted on 1/14/2015

What is your opinion on letting kids "work things out" among themselves? I have five boys (two bio, three foster-to-adopt); the youngest is 1.5 years and the oldest will be four this week (they...

Follow-Up to 13 yo Saying Mean Things

Posted on 1/7/2015

This is a follow up question to the advice given to me about my 12 year old saying mean things to her siblings. You suggested I use the "Do Not Disturb the Family Peace" plan. While I understand...

13 yo Saying Mean Things

Posted on 1/7/2015

I have a daughter who will be 13 next month, so she's not a teenager yet. She can have a tendency to be very mean and cruel with her words. She has name-calling on her list for misbehaviors,...

4 yo Bothering Baby

Posted on 12/28/2014

Our daughter is 4 years old and our son is a year old. About half the time when the children are playing, our daughter becomes possessive with the toys and prevents her brother from accessing...

Sibling Rivalry

Posted on 12/26/2014

I have a 6-year old girl, a 7-year old boy, an 8-year old girl and a 12-year old boy. The 12-year old is bullying his younger siblings, especially his younger brother. He does things like turn off...

Merging Bio Family with Adoptive Family

Posted on 12/10/2014

My husband and I have two biological sons, ages 3.5 and 1.5. Six weeks ago, we added three foster-to-adopt boys, ages 1, 2, and 3 (the age order works out to be "every other one," if that makes...

11 yo and 4 yo Sibling Conflict, Continued

Posted on 11/3/2014

From what I understand Disturbing the Peace in your previous posts and what I've read on your website, all children are to be in trouble unless someone is out of the house. We homeschool. During...

Sibling Conflict Stuff Guidelines

Posted on 11/3/2014

Also, to go along with the sibling conflict, a big conflict between them (especially my older son and the triplet four-year-olds) is that they touch his things sometimes they are damaged. Do you...

Stepsons and Chaos

Posted on 10/28/2014

I have two stepsons ages 8 and 5, who have behavioral problems. When they visit our home it is total chaos. They say they don't want to be at our house and just want to go back to their moms....

11 yo and 4 yo Sibling Conflict

Posted on 10/24/2014

For Do Not Disturb the Peace, all 5 children get a 30 min. time out for the first strike and the second strike but at the third strike they are in their room the rest of the day. We have only 2...

Sibling Rivalry w/Multiples, follow-up part 2

Posted on 10/21/2014

To follow up on our sibling rivalry and curbing the meanness between the twins and triplets; you mentioned in the last message something about using tickets but in the first message just a 15...

3 yo Aggressive to Baby

Posted on 10/6/2014

Our 3 yo grandson is often, actually very often, mean to his 1 yo brother. My daughter in law is at her wits end as to how to handle this. Help.

discipline issues in 2 daughter family

Posted on 10/6/2014

Son has 2 daughters. Is Christian. Threatens but does not carry out! Daughter in law very much disciplined 1 st overly at young age in family setting with lots of unneeded time outs...second not...

6 yo and 3 yo Sibling Conflict

Posted on 10/3/2014

I have a 6 yo son and a 3 yo daughter (who I homeschool). They fight and argue and pester... a lot! It is driving me crazy. I have been separating them but not only do they just pick back up with...

8 year old Peace Breaker

Posted on 9/26/2014

We have implemented many of your methods, most recently, keeping the family peace. Oh, my 8 year old REALLY hates it, since he thinks he is innocent in almost all the scuffles with his 5 year old...

5 yo Aggression, Sibling Conflict

Posted on 9/15/2014

I have a spirited, very loud five year old and a two year old. The five year old is constantly trying to play with or pick up or hug or kiss her sister etcetera. Her sister often times enjoys the...

11 yo and 8 yo Sibling Conflict

Posted on 8/27/2014

Simply put, my 11 yo son is not nice to my 8 yo daughter. He makes snide comments about most anything she says, puts her down a lot and generally spends a lot of time pushing her buttons, which...

Sniping Kids

Posted on 7/25/2014

My 7 year old son and 4 year old daughter have been arguing and picking at each other lately. It feels almost nonstop. I do my best to leave them alone to work it out themselves, but today my son...

Twins versus Triplets Rivalry

Posted on 7/3/2014

I have boy/girl twins who are 11 and boy/girl/boy triplets who are 4. The twins have become increasingly resentful of the triplets as our whole world changed so much when they were born, they took...

Follow-Up to 11 yo Sibling Conflict

Posted on 6/19/2014

Clarity to 11 y.o. sibling conflict: I get the "Don't Disturb the Peace" advice...can do that. But, how do I handle episodes when I have given permission for the Singing Sister...SS... to sing...

11 yo sibling conflict

Posted on 6/18/2014

We have 11 y.o. twin girls who share a room. In the last 2 months, one child completely melts-down when her sister sings, hums, or whistles. Yelling and shouting, she demands her sister stop...

Total Melt Down

Posted on 6/7/2014

Our almost 5 year old daughter has been hitting, scratching, kicking us and her 9 yr old twin siblings ruthlessly all the while screaming at the top of her lungs. It occurs when she is frustrated...

Lower the Boom

Posted on 6/3/2014

I feel as though i'm being held hostage by my 13 yo daughter. The most recent behavior/disipline action was her taking her older sister's clothes without asking when she went away on a 3 day...

8 year old/older brother Part 2

Posted on 6/2/2014

Re: 8 year old doesn't listen to older brother Thank you for your advice. It's been a problem for years. I talked to my son and he said he was upset with her. He has done everything he could...

8 year old doesn't listen to older brother

Posted on 5/31/2014

My daughter (8 yo) is obedient to me and my husband, but she doesn't listen to her older brother (12 yo) at all. Example: My son was replacing broken door knob for me, he said to my daughter,...

3 yo and 2 yo sibling conflict

Posted on 5/29/2014

Hello! My son and daughter are 16 months apart. He is 3.5 years and she is almost 2.5 years old. They, inevitably, have sibling conflict on a daily basis. As you have suggested, I have tried ...

5 yo and 7 yo sibling conflict

Posted on 5/22/2014

I have two children 5(girl) 7(boy). The will argue verbally about "whatever" but sometimes heightens to physical fighting. Can you offer suggestions on how to handle this. I know sibling rivalry...

6 yo daughter is acting out

Posted on 5/15/2014

My soon to be six year old daughter (birthday in a week) has been acting out in the morning with meltdowns and tantrums. She is almost done with kindergarten and should not be acting this way! We...

14 yo older sibling with bad attitude

Posted on 5/11/2014

My wife and I have two adopted children from India. Our oldest is a 14 year old, from India and our second is an 11 year girl, also from India. Our son is mean to his sister and always...

10 yo disrespectful behaviors

Posted on 5/7/2014

My ten year old daughter has started to exhibit behaviors that I am not sure how to deal with. Eye rolling, criticism towards sibling, huffing about being asked to do something. I have been...

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