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5 year old : 5 year old girl has screaming fits when something doesn't go her way the first try

Posted on 7/2/2012

My 5 year old granddaughter has melt downs when things don't go her way. ex. She could not tie her shoe and went into a screaming tantrum that lasted 30 minutes. Her parents do not give in to her...

4 year old : Discipline when a Grandparent is babysitting

Posted on 6/13/2012

I have a wonderful mother-in-law who helps watch my children twice a week so I can work in our home office, etc. Kids are a 4.5 yo boy and 2 girls: 3.5, and 2. Overall, the kids are very well...

3 year old : Daycare Agression

Posted on 5/10/2012

My husband and I are raising our grandson, who is now 3-1/2. He is quite a handful, and has recently (within past few months) began to show aggression at daycare. I need to nip this in the bud...

8 year old : Grandparenting

Posted on 5/10/2012

What if any is the grandmother's role in disciplining 8 yr. old of a single father regarding extreme back talking in grandma presence?

2 year old : Too permissive with bedtime and clothing?

Posted on 4/20/2012

My confidence is a bit shaken after a recent critique of my husband's and my rules.Our daughter, 33 mos, is allowed to wear whatever she wants in the house. We pick clothes for going out. Bedtime...

7 year old : lying 3

Posted on 2/3/2012

I'm not sure how to handle my 7 yo GD's accusation to her Mom that I put my hand over her mouth in an attempt to quiet her in her school library. This is untrue. She apparently didn't like the...

7 year old : Morning hassle

Posted on 1/27/2012

I help Son, his wife filed for divorce 7 mo ago, w/ two girls 1 afternoon and morning a week, also some every other wkend. 7 yo is angry, defiant, uncooperative and very slow in the morning, but...

6 year old : What can I do as a grandmother?

Posted on 1/10/2012

My daughter and the father of her six year old son are divorced. My grandson has regular visits with his father and has mentioned the violent video games that they play together. My daughter has...

4 year old : Too much grandparent involvement?

Posted on 1/3/2012

My husband and I have three happy children (ages 4,3,and 1). We try very hard to not have a child centered family but run into problems with our parents, who insist on going to every preschool...

8 year old : Doing battle against video games

Posted on 10/5/2011

My husband and I despise video games My mother has always known this yet keeps trying to put our kids in front of a screen of some sort. The last time she visited she allowed the boys to play 3+...

6 year old : difficult questions

Posted on 8/14/2011

My husband and I have had permanent custody of a granddaughter for a year. Her Mother is a recovering drug addict and her father is in prison. We have taken her ,to a "talking' doctor a few times...

3 year old : How do I answer my grandchild about his father?

Posted on 8/11/2011

My 3-year-old grandson lives with his grandmother and me. He calls me "poppa" and his grandmother "nanna." He sees and speaks to his mother on the phone only occasionally. His birth father has...

8 year old : pullng eyelashes

Posted on 7/19/2011

My beloved 8 yr old grandson has decided to pull out all of his beautiful eyelashes; we are so concerned about what might be causing this. He has older parents who love him dearly (52 and 59)and...

Godparents and Grandparents spoiling

Posted on 5/13/2011

I have read, understand, and for the most part agree with, your opinion about allowing grandparents to "spoil" their grandchildren. However, my daughter's grandmother and her godparents idea of...

grandma is giving kids ammo

Posted on 2/22/2011

I have 5 year old twin girls (I'll rename Alisa and Ally). My mother in law obviously favors Alisa over Ally. Although she adamantly denies it, she is always helicoptering and fussing over Alisa...

Character Building

Posted on 1/25/2011

My daughter is seven and our only child. Infancy through 5 we lived with my Wife's parents. We made the mistake of focusing too much on work. Grandparents raised our child. Our daughter was raised...

Question about Grandparents Column?

Posted on 12/7/2010

Your latest column, the one about the kids running amok in the grandparents' house...how do you know that this isn't a situation they have facilitated for years by being typical indulgent...

Grandparents are ignored

Posted on 11/29/2010

My significant other has 16 and 20 year olds that do not keep in contact with their grandparents. The grandparents email can leave messages but they do not return the calls or emails. Not even a...

Grandma at 80

Posted on 10/22/2010

Just a comment--when my grandmother was in her 80's, her son, in his 60's and a grandfather too, showed up at her house having had a few too many. My grandmother scolded him for having such little...

Vacation misbehavior with grandparents

Posted on 8/13/2008

My kids spent 8 nights with grandparents last week while my husband and I went on vacation! Reports are that my 6 year old son was very difficult throughout the week...not listening, arguing,...

Should grandma sit the kids?

Posted on 8/5/2008

I stopped babysitting my two granchildren ages 9 and 8, two months ago because I could not bear to see the way things were handled in the family. I just found out that one of the sitters and her...

Appropriate consequence for 9 YO

Posted on 8/4/2008

I have two grown children each with two children. Daughter had problem with her 9-yr-old responding with a very disrespectful tone of voice. She immediately dealt with her - and informed her she...

Tickets and family over

Posted on 7/31/2008

I plan to start the ticket system because my 3.5 yo son is getting out of hand: back talk, telling me "I don't want to", not doing what I say right away... My question is: when he is grounded to...

Moving with grandparents

Posted on 7/14/2008

My husband and I are considering moving in with my parents to unload a house in a bad neighborhood and clear ourselves of some credit card debt that may haunt us for years to come otherwise. We...

Family interference with disclipline dining out.

Posted on 7/13/2008

I have a slightly different question in regards to family interference with disclipline. My husband and I avoid taking our very active (i.e. wild) 3-year old son to restaurants. It never turns...

Family member interfering with discipline

Posted on 7/11/2008

I'm having a problem having with my great aunt. She can't stand to see my son(3) get in trouble for being the little criminal he is. Whenever such a problem arises, she makes excuses for...

Grandmother visiting

Posted on 7/10/2008

My daughter is 33 months old and has been potty trained for a year now. She is now tall enough to do everything herself without any assistance, short of wiping herself after pooping (When do I go...

Expecting respect vs. expecting affection

Posted on 7/10/2008

I expect my son (will be 3 soon) to show me respect but not necessarily affection. If I am saying goodbye or goodnight, I offer him a hug and a kiss, and then ask him if he would like to give...

Grandma pays for jobs

Posted on 6/17/2008

my mother lives with us in an in-law suite. my son is always asking her if he can do jobs for money for her, since mom and dad don't pay him for jobs done around our part of the house. she tends...

Grandpa wants hyperactivity treated

Posted on 4/23/2008

Took 28 mo daughter to physician yesterday for routine physical required by insurance. My dad today asked what the dr. said to do about her "hyperactivity". While I have occasionally looked at...

Paternity test mishandled

Posted on 1/12/2008

my granddaughter is being submitted to a paternity test for reasons that her mother has identified. Not sure this is necessary for granddaugher who is in my custody. Mother writes directly by...

4 1/2 YO Nephew: Should I interfere?

Posted on 8/15/2007

RE: My 4.5yo nephew, whose parents believe in "positive discipline." When "Ben" was younger, everyone oohed and aahhhed about how advanced he was and how well he talked, etc. He's now 4.5 and...

Grandparents and electronic gifts

Posted on 6/25/2007

Q. The kids just saw Grandma and Grandpa for the first time since school got out. Grandpa started asking questions to the oldest; Are you going to go to computer camp? Learning camp? Going to...

babysit or not.

Posted on 12/19/2006

I am wondering if I should continue to babysit when I have no discipline reinforcement from the parents.The family has multiple problems. The father has given up on his wife and I certainly...

7 yo brat

Posted on 12/15/2006

what do you think of a seven year old boy who says to his grandma [while babysitting him]after having a lolipop removed from his mouth because supper was near: I hate you, you stupid dumb a.. The...

How long for a 2-year old to bond adoptive fa

Posted on 12/14/2006

I have a daughter who is 21 years old and got pregnant by a 27-year-old married man with children, when she was 18. Of course he went back to his wife and family and my daughter was left with the...

Children not sleeping in their own bed

Posted on 10/11/2006

My husband and I are raising our 5 year old deaf granddaughter, she is put to sleep in her bed each night with instructions to stay in her bed but she ends up in our bed - we went the route of...

Problem with grandfather

Posted on 10/8/2006

My father has taken up smoking cigars, and I can't stand the smell. I've recently given birth to his first grandchild, a daughter. My sister is expecting her first child any day now. Neither of us...

ADD Symtoms Still a Problem!!

Posted on 8/25/2006

What if you have been reading and applying Rosemond's parenting techniques since the birth of your first child, followed all the tv and behavior rules, and your child still exhibits...

Re: ADD

Posted on 8/25/2006

The grandfather connection deals more with the other behaviors than with the anxiety, such as impulsiveness, fidgeting, restlessness, insomnia. My daughter's anxiety (I am told) is stemming from...

Guilt-free parenting after father dies

Posted on 8/19/2006

My first husband died of a heartattack while bathing our 2 year old daughter, he was only 26, so as you can imagine, unexpectedly tragic. Nonetheless, I turned to my parents for much needed...

Bedwetting

Posted on 8/19/2006

I've read the archives on boys, night-time accidents, wet-stop alarm, etc, and I understand them. However, when I speak to my mother....definitely Grandma......she seems to feel that I should have...

My mother is ruining our kids!

Posted on 8/9/2006

Should I prevent my mom from giving my three preschool kids presents every single day when she is visiting? She is usually here once a month for about a week and every morning she hands out small...

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