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Paying for College?

Posted on 9/4/2016

After graduating from high school we could tell our son was not really ready for college. When looking and applying for schools it was all about the location (New York, Chigaco etc and finding...

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Pot-Smoking 19 Year Old Unemployed and Living at Home

Posted on 8/17/2016

My 19 year old son lives at home, smokes pot, is currently unemployed. He struggled all through school- we didn't know until the last week of school whether he was graduating or not (I don't think...

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21 year old moves back home

Posted on 7/20/2016

My daughter Larisa was born almost 21 years ago. Her father just disappeared when he found out I was pregnant. I wanted to abort her but by Gods grace he spoke to my heart and changed my mind. I...

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18-Year-Old Being Inconsiderate

Posted on 6/22/2016

Should we expect any structure in the home when our 18-year-old returns weekends from a summer job? She usually heads straight to her boyfriend's family home and rolls in around 3 a.m. both...

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Dad Rewards Freshman College Student

Posted on 6/7/2016

Our son just finished his first year of college and earned a 3.8 GPA. My husband and I pay for all his college expenses and he lives at home with us year round. He works a part time job on the...

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19 yo Narcissist

Posted on 5/22/2016

More drama with our daughter - Followup I thought they maybe we were making some headway until tonight. We met as a family for ice cream and she expressed her concern about some choices that...

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18 Year Old Bank Account

Posted on 3/19/2016

Our 18 (soon to be 19) year old son lives at home with us, attends university full time and earns stellar grades has a part time job and a few friends but spends most of his free time at home. We...

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17 and won't take responsibility

Posted on 1/21/2016

My almost 17 year old son is a Junior in high school. We need help parenting him. And I feel the hourglass is quickly running out--he's supposedly 18 months from graduation/launching into...

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Mom wants teens to reach out to grandparents

Posted on 1/6/2016

Once in awhile I will ask my teen daughters to write a short note or give a call to their grandparents or aunt. Usually the letters are when they are thanking them for gifts and otherwise, they...

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19 Year Old Home for the Holidays, follow up

Posted on 1/3/2016

Okay - I took your advice because I feel like it was good advice. However, it didn't end with "sunshine and roses". When I asked about what I could do to make things right, she said that it was a...

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19 Year Old Home For the Holidays

Posted on 12/22/2015

This is another question concerning our daughter (just turned 19). She is home for the holidays as she continues to attend a Bible College. She has seemed to continue to be "distant" - not coming...

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How do I help my college kid manage spending money?

Posted on 12/21/2015

As we prepare to have our first child enter college, do you have any advice on how to handle her discretionary spending money? Assuming room and board are paid for, we were thinking about putting...

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Advice for Mom of 20-year-old

Posted on 11/29/2015

We have a son that is a 20-year-old middle child. He will graduate college in May. He is a very smart young man, has a wonderful work ethic, pays for many of his college expenses, gifted in the...

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Underage Drinking by College Daughter

Posted on 10/17/2015

Dear Parent Guru, It's been a year since I have written! I dug up my favorite book Power of the Praying Parent by Stormie O'Martin and praying has calmed me having a daughter in her 2nd year...

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College Responsibilities

Posted on 7/10/2015

My 19 year old son is home for the summer after his freshman year of college. His first year seemed promising with lots of dreams. He did not join the party scene and managed the major change in...

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Adult Child Living at Home

Posted on 7/6/2015

Hi ParentGuru team, I am back again! John (or whoever), I have a few questions for you: 1) What is your advice for allowing adult children (age 22 in my case) to live with you temporarily (or not...

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House Rules for Adult Children?

Posted on 6/29/2015

Our 20-year old son is returning home from College for his summer break. We know that you advise that we respect that he is an adult and therefore not put the same restrictions on him that we did...

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18 year old Home for the Summer

Posted on 5/15/2015

This is a follow-up to a question regarding my 18 year old daughter. She has finished her first year of college. It has been a good year for her, but she still seems to be very distant in her...

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22 yr old video game addiction

Posted on 5/13/2015

My 22 year old son games all the time. What do you say or do with this age of kid to help him end his addiction? His life is falling away from him.

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Teen has no empathy

Posted on 4/12/2015

Our teen is quick to criticize other's reactions instead of just taking care of the matter at hand. Here is a prime example: she accidentally knocks an item off the shelf. I let out a gasp with...

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18 Year Old Emancipation

Posted on 1/18/2015

Our daughter moved to a different city at 18 to be a member of a ballet company. This venture was completely at our expense. After a year she decided she wanted to go to school full time, but...

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18 Year Old Fails First College Semester

Posted on 1/7/2015

18 yr old twin daughter affected by her wayward twin sister-as in my last posts one twin daughter ran off living in sin with boyfriend & being financially supported by who knows who-heard she's...

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19 year old Home From College

Posted on 12/16/2014

My 19 year old daughter is home from her freshman year of college. The school is 4 hours away, and she has been living in the dorms and has been as you know unsupervised! Her grades are excellent,...

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18 Year Old Visit after Boot Camp

Posted on 11/11/2014

What is the best way to communicate "visiting the home" rules to a young adult who fought every rule when he lived here? Dad feels that it should just be a direct "Here are the rules for adults...

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Wayward College Kid

Posted on 10/27/2014

Our 19yo daughter is sophomore in college at an expensive school in a very distant state. We pay all expenses, as well as rent, cell phone, utilities. She has a small loan. She was awarded an...

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College Freshman's 1st visit home

Posted on 10/13/2014

Dear Parent Guru, My 18 year old daughter will be coming home for fall break with 5 friends.. What are reasonable expectations we should have? What would you tell your daughter before she...

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18 year old Family Chaos

Posted on 9/25/2014

(see Previous posts)As you know my twin 18yr daughter went off to live w boyfriend on 8/10/14 I do NOT support that (I completely cut her off financially).she was raised in Christian home..my...

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19 year old With Tattoos

Posted on 9/22/2014

Our 19 year old daughter has now gotten her third tattoo, we made it very clear how we felt about them. I wished my husband and I could have been on the same page in regards to laying down the law...

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College Student Isn't Calling

Posted on 8/23/2014

Dear Parent Guru, My oldest daughter is now in college. Monday before she were leaving she ruptured her appendix and bounced back pretty fast. We left that same Friday and helped her set up her...

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21 year old lacks responsibility

Posted on 6/13/2014

I am extremely frustrated with my 21 year old son that is living at home and will be getting married in 7 months. In many ways, he has been and continues to be a good kid. However, he has been and...

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19 year old not following parental values

Posted on 6/6/2014

Our 19 year old son has completed his first year of college and we have recently found he has been making lifestyle choices totally against what we have taught him. His phone life is where we...

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Young Adult, Drug Use Suspected at Home

Posted on 5/4/2014

I recently discovered a homemade bong in a guest room where my son's friend slept over. I certainly suspect that it is my son's. He is home for the summer. We pay for his education, room and...

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Emancipation problems in this generation of kids

Posted on 3/18/2014

My question is for John Rosemond: Do you plan to write more about the emancipation process? I am reading lots about the 20 somethings (Millennials) who are having such a difficult time reaching...

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Locking the Computer for College Kid

Posted on 2/28/2014

Our son attends a local community college and commutes from home. Obviously the computer is a necessity, however, my observation is more time is spent playing war games. My question is twofold....

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Follow Up: Adult Daughter is Abusive

Posted on 2/16/2014

This is for Susan Eppley. Thank you for your advice for my friend and her daughter, and I did pass that on to my friend. I have a couple follow-up questions from the counsel you gave: a) Do...

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Adult Daughter is Abusive

Posted on 2/10/2014

Thanks Susan for my question about counsel for a friend. This friend wants help, so here it is: my friend has an adult daughter (24) who is back living with her/my friend. This daughter was...

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New Question

Posted on 1/27/2014

Our nineteen year old son is in his second semester of a local community college. Having made good grades in high school he is continuing to do the same in college. The problem is a habit of...

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18 yr old defies parental values

Posted on 1/21/2014

My child is an 18 year old girl. (soon to turn 19) She has experienced a good deal of trauma within the past 2 years. (friends backstabbing, watching her grandmother pass away-they were very close...

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College education (with followup question)

Posted on 1/10/2014

My 19 year old daughter has a hard time understanding the importance of a college education. She has completed one semester and just wants out to work at a local restaurant. She does have a very...

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19 yo nail biter

Posted on 1/6/2014

What can be done to stop a nineteen year old from biting his finger nails? This has been an on going habit from early childhood and to the point of damage to his fingers. Maybe even his teeth. All...

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17 and 20 year old kids want to attend a different church

Posted on 11/4/2013

We had an issue over the weekend with two of our children - our daughter is 17 and our son is 20. They came to our room late Saturday night and stated that they were going to go check out a...

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How Old is Too Old to Gain Insight?

Posted on 10/17/2013

I have a friend who is thinking of joining but has an adult child. What is the age limit on advice from your website?

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18 year old abusing the privilege of living at home

Posted on 10/7/2013

I'm interested in hearing your recommendations for boundaries for college aged (and beyond) children who live at home? Do we have a curfew? Should they be required to spend time with the family...

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Teenager : Do House Rules still apply to a College Teen?

Posted on 10/3/2013

Our 18yo son is at college out of town. When he comes home for Christmas and Summer Breaks, can all house rules still apply? He will still do chores (& get a job), but what about our limits...

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Teenager : video games vs. television

Posted on 8/6/2013

My 18 yr old son says it is unfair to restrict him doing internet video games when his 20 yr old sister watches a lot of television, ie Netflix episodes, etc. They are both on break from school....

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Teenager : Excessive / Compulsive Lying - Teen Son

Posted on 3/16/2013

Our almost 18yo son lies to us seemingly about everything - from the smallest to the very serious. From his texts that we've seen, it appears that he lies to his friends most of the time, too,...

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Teenager : Handling Adult Children?

Posted on 2/21/2013

We have a 21-yr old daughter from my husband's 1st marriage. She was suspended from college after 2 yrs of going and is waiting to be eligible to go back. in the meantime, we let her help with my...

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Teenager : missing classes

Posted on 12/5/2012

My daughter is 19 and in college and has missed a lot of classes this semester. Her first year she did well but this year she complains that she is tired of school. She goes to bed late and gets...

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Teenager : Supporting Adult Children?

Posted on 11/26/2012

We have an adult child that doesn't want to grow up. She quit college after 2 years and moved to California. We don't think we should have to support her other than making sure she has health...

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Teenager : step parenting

Posted on 10/24/2012

What is the role of a step parent in parenting teenage step children? My step son moved in with us and March and is disrupting our marriage. He does what he wants , when he wants and there are no...

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