John's Articles
Buying a Car for a 16-Year-Old
Posted on 9/6/2005
The other popular subject: "Should I buy a car for my 16-year-old?" In the hands of a teenager, a car is a potential weapon. The only teens who should be allowed to put the lives of others at...
Read MoreDefiant 14-Year-Old
Posted on 5/10/2005
TEEN'S DEFIANCE NOT A REASON TO LIGHTEN TASTE OF REAL WORLD Q: The punishments I give my 14-year-old daughter - mostly for blatant defiance of the rules - seem to make her even more defiant....
Read MoreParent Should Focus More on Manners Than Reading for 4-Year-Old
Posted on 3/1/2005
ABCS? PARENTS SHOULD FOCUS MORE ON P'S AND Q'S Through my Web site (www.rosemond.com), a mother recently asked my opinion of teaching her 4-year-old son to read. The child had not expressed...
Read MoreMarriage Occupies Center Stage
Posted on 12/7/2004
TODAY'S CHILDREN-CENTRIC MARRIAGES DON'T BODE WELL FOR FUTURE A journalist recently asked: "When they become adults, what will be the biggest problem facing today's kids?" I answered: "That...
Read MoreChildren Interrupting Adult Conversations
Posted on 11/2/2004
HOLDING PRACTICE SESSIONS CAN HELP A CHILD IMPROVE MANNERS Judging from reader response, my recent column on children interrupting conversations - or I should say, parents letting children...
Read More4-Year-Old Misbehaving in Public
Posted on 9/21/2004
HERE'S TICKET TO REDUCING 4-YEAR-OLD'S MISBEHAVIOR Q: Inevitably, when we take our 4-year-old into a store or restaurant, he begins misbehaving. How do you discipline a child when the eyes of...
Read MoreChildren Interrupting Adult Conversations
Posted on 9/20/2004
PLEASE, TEACH YOUR CHILD NOT TO INTERRUPT ADULT CONVERSATIONS LEARNING TO WAIT RESPECTFULLY IS VITAL TO GOOD MANNERS EDITOR'S NOTE: For space reasons, John Rosemond's column did not run in...
Read MoreSmaller Classes Does Not Equal Better Learning
Posted on 6/8/2004
SMALL CLASSES AREN'T A CURE-ALL On his radio talk show, the liberal pundit intoned, "No thinking person would argue that smaller classrooms do not make for better learning." Call me an...
Read MoreNo Longer Husband and Wife, but Still Father and Mother
Posted on 9/16/2003
TEAMWORK OFTEN KEY IN DISCIPLINE Q: I am the single mother of a 9-year-old boy. I feel like I'm a fairly good disciplinarian, but I occasionally ask my ex-husband, from whom I've been divorced...
Read MoreMost Effective Consequence for 28-Month-Old
Posted on 6/3/2003
Q: I have a friend who puts her 28-month-old son in his room for several hours if he does something really bad, such as bite her. When he's put there, he cries for a while, then plays. She uses a...
Read MoreGrandparents Should Give Time and Attention, Not Many Gifts, to Grandchildren
Posted on 2/11/2003
GRANDPARENTS CAN SPOIL KIDS, TOO As I write this column, our 2-year-old grandson, Thomas, is in residence at our N.C. home. His mom, en route from San Francisco to Raleigh, dropped him off for...
Read More20- and 32-Month Old Playtime
Posted on 1/21/2003
PLAYTIME DOES NOT NEED 'STRUCTURE' Q: I have two toddlers, 20 and 32 months. Beyond 30 minutes of reading and snuggling before bed, how much time each day should I spend involved in activities...
Read MoreDad Doesn't Wear Much Clothing around 3- and 5-Year-Old
Posted on 12/10/2002
KIDS SEEING TOO MUCH OF THIS DAD Q: We have two children, a 3-year-old girl and a 5-year-old boy. My husband daily goes around the house dressed in nothing more than underwear, if anything....
Read More6-Year-Old is Selfish and Inconsiderate
Posted on 11/26/2002
SELF-CENTERED AUNT IS NO ROLE MODEL Q:My husband's sister is attractive, highly intelligent and successful. Unfortunately, she is thoroughly self-absorbed. Almost every conversation with her...
Read More8-Year-Old Has No Interest in Making Friends
Posted on 7/30/2002
INTROVERSION ISN'T NECESSARILY A PROBLEM Q: Our 8-year-old daughter has almost no interest in making friends. Her behaviors are not anti-social, but she seems perfectly content to play by...
Read More3-Year-Old Toilet Training
Posted on 7/16/2002
MOM TO EXPERTS: GO TAKE A HIKE! A mother writes that she heeded the advice of a certain nationally known pediatrician (who is also a spokesperson for a manufacturer of disposable diapers) and...
Read MoreUnorganized 8-Year-Old Has Difficulty Completing School Assignments
Posted on 6/18/2002
TO TEACH ORGANIZATION, BE PREPARED Q: My 8-year-old daughter had an overall B average in third grade, but she has had difficulty completing assignments since the first grade. Mostly this is due...
Read MoreWorking Moms - Part 2
Posted on 4/16/2002
MANY DODGE DIALOGUE ABOUT 2-INCOME FAMILY A few weeks ago, I forgot what time it is, but now I remember. We live in the postmodern era, in which there is no Ultimate Truth and all "lifestyle"...
Read MoreAdoptive Parents Refused to Give Up on Stubborn 2 1/2-Year-Old
Posted on 4/2/2002
MOM'S HAPPY SHE PUT FOOT DOWN Like most people, I love a good story that ends happily. Such is the story I am about to relate. In November, a mom wrote asking for help with her 2...
Read MoreUnited Nations Convention on the Rights of the Child
Posted on 3/12/2002
<i>See my article on the Convention here: </i> http://bit.ly/2ewuzbI In February 1993, President Clinton signed an international treaty known as the United Nations Convention on the Rights of...
Read MoreWorking Moms - Part 1
Posted on 3/5/2002
IS MEDIA AVOIDING BIG STORY ABOUT TWO-INCOME FAMILIES? Bernard Goldberg's new book, "Bias: A CBS Insider Exposes How the Media Distort the News," deserves to be a best seller. It's eye-opening,...
Read MoreDiscipine is a Matter of Leadership
Posted on 10/30/2001
DISCIPLINE IS MATTER OF RULE, NOT RULES As you might have guessed, parents frequently ask me for advice concerning discipline problems they are having with their children. Almost as...
Read More2nd Grader's Teacher Uses Reward System for Good Behavior
Posted on 9/4/2001
DISCIPLINE WORKS BETTER THAN REWARDS Q. My son's second-grade teacher is using a reward system to encourage good classroom behavior. Children earn tickets for behaving properly and can cash...
Read MoreHusband Slanders Ex-Wife When 5- and 8-Year-Old Come To Visit
Posted on 8/21/2001
JUST LET EX-SPOUSE'S SLANDER SLIDE AWAY Q. My two children, ages 8 and 5, visit my ex-husband every other weekend. Invariably, they come home with tales of nasty things he has said and lies he...
Read MoreGovernment Issues about Medicating Children, Playing Tag, and Psychological Problems
Posted on 8/7/2001
CONNECTICUT TAKES A STAND ON MEDICATING 'PROBLEM' CHILDREN As a new school year begins, there is good news and there is, well, news. The Good News: The Connecticut legislature unanimously...
Read MoreParent Should Not Be Homework Buddy
Posted on 7/24/2001
LIMIT HELPING WITH HOMEWORK TO ENCOURAGE RESPONSIBLE CHILDREN Q: Is it possible to get today's children to do their own homework? At the school our daughter attends, the teachers believe...
Read MoreGovernment Interference with Breast-Feeding Case
Posted on 12/19/2000
BREAST-FEEDING CASE IS WHERE GOVERNMENT DOESN'T BELONG The late Justice Louis Brandeis (1856-1941) wrote, "Experience should teach us to be most on our guard to protect liberty when the...
Read MoreSpanking
Posted on 11/21/2000
ADVOCATE OF SPANKING IS AS WRONG AS CRITICS More evidence that America is lacking a substantial middle ground where any contentious issue is concerned came to the fore in Eau Claire, Wis., in...
Read More4-Year-Old Wants Mom to Quit Working - Part 1
Posted on 7/18/2000
WHAT DO YOU TELL A CHILD WHO BEGS YOU TO QUIT YOUR JOB? Q. Of the 40 mothers represented in my 4-year-old son's pre-K program, I am one of only three who work outside the home. I do so not for...
Read MoreAfter-School Activities
Posted on 1/25/2000
BEST AFTER-SCHOOL ACTIVITIES TAKE PLACE AT HOME Q. I read the recent column in which you called on parents to take their kids out of all after-school activities. I couldn't help but wonder...
Read More4-Year-Old Smart Comments, Glaring Looks, and Deliberate Disobedience
Posted on 12/7/1999
OBNOXIOUS BEHAVIOR GETS HIM A TICKET Q. Our son, who turns 4 soon, has been going through a personality change. His once-sunny disposition has turned sour, and I don't know how to turn it back...
Read MoreToo Many After-School Activities
Posted on 10/26/1999
ONE OUTSIDE ACTIVITY PER CHILD IS ENOUGH Q. We have three daughters, ages 8, 6 and 2. Our concern is whether we are scheduling too many extracurricular activities for the two older children....
Read MoreEmployers are Looking for People with Good Character and Responsibility
Posted on 10/12/1999
YOUR GOAL IS TO RAISE A RESPONSIBLE ADULT, NOT A PERPETUAL CHILD I don't often print an entire letter from a reader of this column, but every once in a while someone else says it better than I...
Read MoreTeach Children Not to Interrupt Adult Conversations
Posted on 9/14/1999
TEACHING KIDS NOT TO INTERRUPT TEACHES THEM MANNERS, PATIENCE, RESPECT I ended last week's column, which dealt with the importance of teaching children good manners, with a promise to do a...
Read MoreTeach Children Good Manners
Posted on 9/7/1999
TEACHING MANNERS BENEFITS A PARENT AS WELL AS A CHILD Q. I heard you in a recent radio interview talk about the importance of teaching children manners, but they didn't give you time to be...
Read MoreEmployers Want People Who Are Honest, Cooperative, Follows Directions, Positive Attitude
Posted on 8/24/1999
MOST OF ALL, EMPLOYERS SAY THEY SEARCH FOR CHARACTER I've had a particular piece of mail on my desk for two years now, and my sincere apologies go to the thoughtful person who sent it. It...
Read More4-Year-Old Misbehaves in Public Places
Posted on 5/11/1999
GIVE TICKETS TO PUT AN END TO ACTING UP Q. Almost every time we take our 4-year-old into a store, he begins misbehaving. How do you discipline a child when the eyes of the world are upon you?...
Read MoreParenting Philosophy
Posted on 3/16/1999
CHILD LEARNS BEST WHEN HE SUFFERS FOR HIS MISTAKES Several journalists have recently asked me to describe my parenting philosophy, so I thought I'd share my answer with my readers. Where...
Read MoreAdoptive 4-Year-Old Steals From Parents - Part 1
Posted on 2/16/1999
TRY THIS TO DEAL WITH YOUR YOUNG DAUGHTER'S STEALING Q. Two years ago, we adopted an intelligent, creative, outgoing 4-year-old girl whose birth parents had been neglectful and often homeless....
Read MoreChild-Rearing and Family Life - Part 1
Posted on 12/29/1998
MUSINGS ON FAMILY LIFE IN '99 CONSIDER THIS ON MONEY, SCHOOL, GUILT A few musings: * A family financial counselor tells me that two parents who both work outside the home are usually...
Read More3 Step Plan To Get Kids To Do What They Are Told To Do
Posted on 8/11/1998
3-STEP PLAN WILL GET KIDS TO DO WHAT THEY'RE TOLD "How can I get my children to do what they're told?'' More people ask me this question than any other. The answer is a relatively simple...
Read MoreADD is Real
Posted on 6/2/1998
ADD IS REAL, BUT RETHINK CAUSES AND TREATMENT In a May 10 commentary, Andrea Brunais, editorial page editor for The Tallahassee Democrat, says I don't believe in attention deficit disorder. Oh...
Read MoreBest Parents Take Good Care of Themselves So They Can Take Care of Children
Posted on 3/24/1998
WHAT SPOCK REALLY SAID MADE SENSE, AND STILL DOES Dr. Benjamin Spock, pediatrician to America's baby boomers, has passed. He will be remembered fondly, I'm sure, by my mother - for whom...
Read MoreSingle Most Important Thing a Preschool Child Can Learn
Posted on 3/17/1998
ABOVE ALL, YOUR KINDERGARTNER SHOULD KNOW WHAT TO DO WITH TIME Many school systems across America send parents of upcoming kindergarten students a laundry list of things those children are...
Read MoreConsequences for 6-Year-Old who is Testing Parent
Posted on 2/3/1998
TO GET CHILD'S ATTENTION, TRY SOME ENFORCEMENT WHEN IT'S LEAST EXPECTED Q. My 6-year-old daughter has started to test me at every possible opportunity. Every time I tell her to do something,...
Read MoreShare Skills and Values with Children Instead of Materialistic Goods
Posted on 8/5/1997
A LITTLE DEPRIVATION WOULD DO TODAY'S KIDS A LOT OF GOOD When I was 9 or so, my bicycle broke and, unable to fix it, I asked my stepfather if he'd buy me a new one. Several days later, we were...
Read More3 Eternal Rules For Children
Posted on 7/15/1997
BOOMERS IGNORE ETERNAL RULES OF RAISING CHILDREN During the first two years of a child's life, the responsible parent pays a lot of attention to and does a lot for the child. In effect, the...
Read MoreStill the Best Choice: Children Sleep in Own Beds
Posted on 6/10/1997
Q. In one of your books you say young children, even babies, should sleep in their own beds. What law or reason, other than "society,'' demands that children sleep alone? You are obviously unaware...
Read MoreHurdles of a Step-Family
Posted on 4/15/1997
STEP FAMILY SHOULD FOCUS ON MARRIAGE, AUTHORITY 1. I am a single mother with a 9-year-old son. Robbie's father sees him on a regular basis, and they have a good relationship. I've recently...
Read More2-Year-Old Asks "Why" All The Time
Posted on 1/9/1997
SON'S WHY?' NEEDS REPLY, BUT KEEP IT SIMPLE Q. Our 2-year-old son has started asking "Why?'' about almost everything. He'll ask a question like, "What's this?'' while pointing to something....
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