John's Articles

Cure for Kid Who Hits

Posted on 10/26/2021

A 4-year-old – I’ll call him Popeye – had a habit of hitting other children in his preschool program. His teachers tried various approaches, including rewarding him with a treat on days when he...

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Here's a Real Head Banger Issue

Posted on 7/14/2020

Q: When my two-year-old gets angry, he sometimes gets down and bangs his head on the floor. This happens two or three times a week, generally speaking. He’s not bruised himself, yet, but I don’t...

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What to Do About an Aggressive 3-Year-Old

Posted on 4/21/2020

Q: My three-year-old son tends to react physically when he's mad at a preschool classmate instead of talking it out and letting the teachers intervene. We have encouraged him to use words when...

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Playing War Games Not Unusual for Young Boys

Posted on 10/22/2019

Q: My normally happy 6-year-old son has recently started incorporating death and war-like games into his imaginative play. He isn't and has never been a mean-spirited child, but his dad and I just...

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Custody Issue: Teen Acts Aggressively Towards Mother

Posted on 1/12/2016

Q: My ex-husband and I have pretty much fifty-fifty custody of our 15-year-old son, who has become infected with his father’s disrespect for me. When he’s with me, he makes it very clear that he...

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Jealous Sibling and Words of Wisdom for Toddler's Parents

Posted on 6/23/2015

Living with Children John Rosemond Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: My 24-month-old is constantly wanting to be in her newborn baby brother’s face, poking and touching him. How can...

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Roadblocks to Success in Classroom Discipline

Posted on 10/14/2014

A first-grade teacher asks what she can do about a girl in her class who is completely undisciplined. After nearly two months of this teacher’s best efforts, the child’s behavior is no better. She...

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Defiant behavior at school

Posted on 5/13/2014

Q: For the past few months, our usually compliant 4-year-old son has been having problems with defiant behavior at school. He often refuses to do what he is told by the teacher. What concerns us...

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Explaining School Shootings

Posted on 10/29/2013

A radio talk show recently called to ask how parents should explain school shootings to their kids. My answer: It depends. I prefer, for the most part, for parents to say nothing unless their...

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Kicking Out of the Garden of Eden [Explained]

Posted on 10/6/2013

Kicking the child out of the Garden of Eden John's "Garden of Eden" statement: Other Q and A or articles about this method may be searched by using the keyword "Garden" Below is detailed...

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Yelling - Not Good for Parent or Child

Posted on 7/16/2013

"I'm a yeller," she said, she being the mother of three young children. "No," I replied, "you're not. There is no genetic predisposition toward yelling, and no biochemical or...

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7 year old twins fighting

Posted on 1/8/2013

Q: How can we help our 7-year-old twin girls stop fighting? They constantly provoke and antagonize each other. We thought this was just normal sibling conflict, but it seems to be developing into...

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Boys goofing around

Posted on 1/1/2013

Q: Our son is in Kindergarten at a small private school. Most of the children in his class are boys. From the beginning, he's been somewhat of a behavior problem. Each time we get a notice from...

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One Year Old Slapping Parents and Screaming

Posted on 11/8/2011

Punishment may fail with toddlers, but try a firm 'no' Q: My 1-year-old has started slapping us. He also screams a lot, often for no reason, or at least we can't figure out the reason. He won't...

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3-Year-Old Girl Biting Brother

Posted on 8/30/2011

What to do when a toddler bites a sibling Q. Our 36-month-old daughter has started biting her 22-month-old brother, usually over toys. My husband says I should put her in her room until he gets...

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6-Year-Old Boys Being Rambunctious

Posted on 7/26/2011

Q. I have 6-year-old twin boys who tend to get rambunctious when playing with other boys. How can I teach them to control their behavior when around other 'wild' kids? Recently, one of my boys and...

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Wild Boys

Posted on 7/25/2011

Q: I have 6-year-old twin boys who tend to get rambunctious when playing with other boys. How can I teach them to control their behavior when around other 'wild' kids? Recently, one of my boys...

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32-Month-Old Girl Hits, Screams and Throws Things

Posted on 4/26/2011

Brother's response to surly sister stokes more outbursts Q: Our 7-year-old son and 32-month-old daughter squabble with each other constantly, mostly over taking and playing with each other's...

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Kids Hitting Parents

Posted on 2/22/2011

A hidden abuse problem: Kids who assault parents One of the more heartbreaking consequences of the "psychological" parenting philosophy and style that American parents began adopting in the...

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2-Year-Old Boy Throws Items at Others

Posted on 7/27/2010

Got a 2-year-old who throws? Give him the gate Q. Our son is a month from being 2. We're concerned about his throwing. During a recent dinner out, he threw a fork that whizzed by a lady's head,...

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4-Year-Old Boy Hitting Others at Preschool

Posted on 11/18/2008

KIDS WHO HURT OTHERS NEED TO BE STOPPED Q. Our 4-year-old son is hitting others at preschool and has to spend the afternoon in his room for this. In soccer, he's pushing kids down and tripping...

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3-Year-Old Boy is Rough with 10-Month-Old Baby

Posted on 1/29/2008

Separate 3-year-old from baby Q. Our 3-year-old son is very tall and strong for his age. When he tries to "play" with his 10-month-old sister, he often ends up on top of her, putting her in a...

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6-Year-Old Boy Throwing Wild Tantrums

Posted on 10/30/2007

ARE BRAIN CHEMICALS TO BLAME FOR 6-YEAR-OLD'S BAD BEHAVIOR? Recently the parents of a 6-year-old boy asked my advice concerning his daily, sometimes violent tantrums which had been ongoing...

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5-Year-Old Girl Throwing Tantrums

Posted on 8/7/2007

SENSE OF HUMOR IS ESSENTIAL FOR HANDLING REBELLIOUS CHILD Q. Our middle child, 5, is aggressive, loud and disrespectful when anyone dares to deny her or make her do something she doesn't...

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Aggressvie Children

Posted on 4/24/2007

STOP AGGRESSION WITH SIR METHOD Last week I promised to provide a tried-and-true solution to a problem that is increasing in both frequency and magnitude: children who are aggressive toward...

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Cannot Talk an Aggressive Child out of Misbehaving

Posted on 4/17/2007

YADA-YADA DISCIPLINE DOESN'T WORK WITH AGGRESSIVE CHILDREN In a recent article on co-sleeping - the peculiar practice of sleeping with one's child or children to facilitate "bonding" - I made...

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4-Year-Old Agressive toward Younger Sibling

Posted on 1/24/2006

PARENT NEEDS TO ACT DECISIVELY TO END OLDER BROTHER'S ATTACKS Q: My 4-year-old is very aggressive toward his 30-month-old brother. I don't think he's completely to blame for their conflicts,...

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Agressive 3-Year-Old

Posted on 12/6/2005

AGGRESSIVE 3-YEAR-OLD LEAVES OLDER PAL IN TEARS Q: Our 5-year-old daughter and our next-door-neighbor's 3-year-old daughter play together a good amount of time. The problem is that their child...

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Boys' Gun Games Usually Harmless

Posted on 11/29/2005

BOYS' GUN GAMES USUALLY HARMLESS Q: A while back, the boys from next door (ages 6 and 8) began inviting my 5-year-old son to play good guys/bad guys and "war" with them. Initially the games...

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Effective Way to Teach Children to Share

Posted on 11/8/2005

Q: What's the most effective way to get young children, ages 2 and 3, to share, and what should I do when not sharing escalates into violence? I work in a day-care center and this is my biggest...

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2-Year-Old Biting People

Posted on 8/2/2005

TO STOP TODDLER'S BITING, DISCIPLINE MUST BE POWERFUL Q: My live-in, 2-year-old grandson started biting people, usually for no reason, about six months ago. We're not talking about love...

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29-Month-Old Outbursts

Posted on 5/24/2005

IGNORE TODDLER'S HARMLESS OUTBURSTS TOO MUCH ATTENTION TO MINI-TANTRUMS COULD LEAD TO ESCALATION Q: Our 29-month-old son is mostly well-behaved. But when he doesn't get his way or becomes...

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Agressive 6-Year-Old

Posted on 10/5/2004

PLAYMATE'S AGGRESSION IS NOT TYPICAL Q: My 6-year-old son's best friend deliberately hurts him when on play dates at either house. It happens too often to be anything but purposeful. He's hit...

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2 1/2-Year-Old Becomes Aggressive After Mom Starts Daycare

Posted on 2/24/2004

Q: My son will be 2 1/2 next month. I recently started a family day care at my home. I took in a 3-year-old boy and a 16-month-old girl. My son is not handling this change well. He has become...

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Does Time-Out Work with Agressive 2-Year-Old?

Posted on 7/22/2003

Q: Is it OK to use timeout with a child who's barely 2? While I was watching church nursery today, a 2-year-old boy started pushing and hitting the other children. I put him in a chair every time...

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5-Year-Old Being Aggressive with 10-Month-Old

Posted on 4/1/2003

GO EASY ON BIG BROTHER Q: When my husband and I realized we were guilty of having created a child-centered home, we began cracking down on our spoiled 5-year-old and began "centering" our...

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Moms Micromanaging Children

Posted on 3/4/2003

PSYCHO-BABBLE CAN CLOUD YOUR VISION Q: I am a teacher of 3-year-olds at a church preschool. Most of the boys in the class have a lot of energy, but one boy in particular has some developmental...

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Adoptive Parents Refused to Give Up on Stubborn 2 1/2-Year-Old

Posted on 4/2/2002

MOM'S HAPPY SHE PUT FOOT DOWN Like most people, I love a good story that ends happily. Such is the story I am about to relate. In November, a mom wrote asking for help with her 2...

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Mom-Care is Generally Better Than Daycare

Posted on 5/22/2001

CLOSED MINDS SHUT OUT VITAL RESEARCH ON DAY CARE We live in the postmodern age, which is characterized by a rampant anti-intellectualism. It matters not, for example, that objective evidence...

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Posted on 5/15/2001

LET'S HOLD THE BULLIES RESPONSIBLE Bullying has become the issue du jour in America. Not a day has gone by in the past few months that I have not read an article, opened an e-mail, or heard...

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People with High Self-Esteem Tend to be More Agressive

Posted on 4/17/2001

UNEARNED SELF ESTEEM SENDS KIDS CAREENING OUT OF CONTROL Who had higher self esteem: Mahatma Ghandi or Adolf Hitler? Columbine High School's 1999 valedictorian or the two CHS students who,...

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4-Year-Old Agressive and Disrespectful

Posted on 3/6/2001

Happy Ending File: A good buddy pediatrician tells me he recently saw a 4-year-old who had suddenly become aggressive, disrespectful, and emotionally explosive after several major transitions,...

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Guidelines for Teaching Toddlers to Share

Posted on 8/29/2000

STOP 'NONSHARING' WITH SWIFT ACTION Last week, after answering a question from the mother of a 5-year-old who was being abused by a 3-year-old playmate, I promised to follow up with guidelines...

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3-Year-Old Being Aggressive with 5-Year-Old

Posted on 8/22/2000

POLITELY 'SUSPEND' PLAYTIME WITH A CHILD WHO KICKS, BITES Q. Our 5-year-old daughter and our next-door neighbor's 3-year-old daughter play together a good amount. The problem is that their...

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2-Year-Old Biting Others

Posted on 8/8/2000

2-YEAR-OLD'S BITING NEEDS TO BE PUT TO A STOP NOW Q. My brother and his wife have a big problem with their son, Axel, who recently turned 2. For the past 6 months or so, he has been biting...

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4-Year-Old Hitting Others

Posted on 6/13/2000

4-YEAR-OLD WHO HITS OTHER KIDS NEEDS IMPULSE SENT TO HIS ROOM Here's an interesting tale: A 4-year-old - I'll call him Bluto - has a habit of hitting other children in his preschool program....

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4-Year-Old Agressive Toward 30-Month-Old Sibling

Posted on 11/16/1999

4-YEAR-OLD MUST PAY FOR HITTING BROTHER Q. My 4 year-old is very aggressive, sometimes even violent, toward his younger brother, age 30 months. I don't think he's completely to blame for their...

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Moms Want to Know What to do When Children Hit Them

Posted on 11/3/1998

MOTHERS, DON'T PUT UP WITH ABUSIVE KIDS ONE MORE DAY Today's women are a paradoxical bunch. They are rightfully proud of the professional and political inroads they've made, yet they too often...

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2-Year-Old is Aggressive with Babies

Posted on 3/3/1998

TODDLERS DON'T REALIZE YET THAT BABIES CAN BE HURT Q. Two days a week, my 2-year-old son attends a mother's morning out program that includes children as young as 8 months. At present, he is...

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15-Month-Old Biting Other Children

Posted on 2/1/1996

NO ONE KNOWS WHAT MAKES SOME TODDLERS BITE HOW TO HANDLE 15-MONTH-OLD'S FORCEFUL TEETHING' Q. Our 15-month-old son has recently started biting other children, usually when there's some...

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