"As children grow older, parents must give them greater freedom, including greater freedom to make mistakes. "

Consequences/Punishment

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When Good Kids Go Bad

Posted 2 weeks ago

I'll never forget the morning of July 5 several years ago. A police car was parked outside my neighbor's house, and the crackling radio sounds pierced the quiet air. Someone, my neighbor said, had...

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Be Consistent in Attitude and Unpredictable With Consequences

Posted on 11/8/2016

One of the disadvantages of this job is that I rarely have enough space in which to say all that I’d like to say. Take last week’s column in which I said “Consequences should be employed whether...

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Restoring Peace to the Family Dinner Table

Posted on 10/11/2016

Q: Dinner with our three kids always, and I mean ALWAYS, turns into a disaster. Typically, the oldest, 11, begins to needle the youngest, 6, and then, when the middle one, 9, figures out which of...

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Parenting Experts

Posted on 11/24/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond The subject of today’s lesson is so-called experts who don’t know what they’re talking about. As the reader might already have...

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Puberty and Teenage Girls

Posted on 11/17/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond A recent caller to my syndicated radio show (Saturdays, 6 pm EST, American Family Radio) objected to advice I dispensed concerning a teenage girl...

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Lowering the Boom

Posted on 7/7/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond One of the most common of complaints from today’s parents is “we’ve tried everything.” They refer, of course, to having tried numerous approaches...

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8-year-old Manipulates, Whines

Posted on 6/16/2015

Living with Children John Rosemond Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our 8-year-old daughter tries to manipulate us and her siblings (she is the youngest of three) with emotional...

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14-year-old Anger Issues

Posted on 6/2/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our 14-year-old daughter has difficulty controlling her anger. She has extreme outbursts fairly frequently here at home—screaming, cursing, and even...

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Punishment Shouldn't Fit the Crime

Posted on 5/12/2015

Copyright 2015 John K. Rosemond Q: Why is it that no consequence seems to work for long, if at all, with my very strong-willed 7-year-old daughter? I have tried everything I’ve ever...

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Using Consequences

Posted on 4/14/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Why is it that no consequence seems to work for long, if at all, with my very strong-willed 7-year-old daughter? I have tried everything I’ve ever...

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Recent Questions

Teen Meltdown

Posted 4 days ago

I read on here to take a time out before engaging with a teen and making a decision. Then once giving your decision, being a 'robot' when responding. We have an intelligent, 6ft, almost 15 yr old...

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The doctor says...

Posted 1 week ago

Hello, I have a 6 (7 in May) year-old daughter who is the oldest girl of three. She's very bright, articulate, caring, giving...you get the drift. As she's gotten older, she has started to...

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16 yo thief needs strong response

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have read teen proofing once and am in the process of reading it again. But I do not know what to do about our teenage daughter. This afternoon after church I found my extra set of car keys in...

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Teenaged son not making the grade

Posted 2 weeks ago

My 13 year old son is bright but very lazy when it comes to school work and grades. Even though he tested as gifted, he does not want to put the time or effort in that is required to do well. We...

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Troubled Young Teen?

Posted 3 weeks ago

This question is in reference to the October 2016 question regarding my 13 year old's act of vandalism. Fast forward 8 months later. He has completed his punishment, but not without having to...

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Toddler Throws Food

Posted on 1/29/2017

We love your advice and have been following the "Turning the Terrible Twos Terrific" with our 19 month old son however we have a food thrower. We feed him before we eat, he's at his own toddler...

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Don't Ask, Do Tell!

Posted on 1/29/2017

I have a 13 year old who has always been defiant. She is bright, and a fantastic kid, but when she is asked to do something she doesn't wan, the fight is on. She will not do what I ask, or will...

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6 yr-old stealing candy

Posted on 1/26/2017

6 yr old son stealing candy or food from everywhere. Every store we go in to, School, Friends lunches, computer class, etc. Every punishment known and nothing works. Spanking, time out, time...

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Setting up the garden in your home.

Posted on 1/22/2017

Hi my question is regarding the kicking out of the garden . If the child's room is stripped of all but what is needed, all toys are taken away as well as tv and any activities outside of the...

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Ask them no questions...

Posted on 1/21/2017

My 15 year old has been lying. Last month it was about getting homework done after a busy weekend of chorus performances when she actually was planning on asking a pushover teacher for an...

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