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Consequences/Punishment

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When Good Kids Go Bad

Posted on 2/7/2017

I'll never forget the morning of July 5 several years ago. A police car was parked outside my neighbor's house, and the crackling radio sounds pierced the quiet air. Someone, my neighbor said, had...

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Be Consistent in Attitude and Unpredictable With Consequences

Posted on 11/8/2016

One of the disadvantages of this job is that I rarely have enough space in which to say all that I’d like to say. Take last week’s column in which I said “Consequences should be employed whether...

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Restoring Peace to the Family Dinner Table

Posted on 10/11/2016

Q: Dinner with our three kids always, and I mean ALWAYS, turns into a disaster. Typically, the oldest, 11, begins to needle the youngest, 6, and then, when the middle one, 9, figures out which of...

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Parenting Experts

Posted on 11/24/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond The subject of today’s lesson is so-called experts who don’t know what they’re talking about. As the reader might already have...

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Puberty and Teenage Girls

Posted on 11/17/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond A recent caller to my syndicated radio show (Saturdays, 6 pm EST, American Family Radio) objected to advice I dispensed concerning a teenage girl...

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Lowering the Boom

Posted on 7/7/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond One of the most common of complaints from today’s parents is “we’ve tried everything.” They refer, of course, to having tried numerous approaches...

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8-year-old Manipulates, Whines

Posted on 6/16/2015

Living with Children John Rosemond Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our 8-year-old daughter tries to manipulate us and her siblings (she is the youngest of three) with emotional...

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14-year-old Anger Issues

Posted on 6/2/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our 14-year-old daughter has difficulty controlling her anger. She has extreme outbursts fairly frequently here at home—screaming, cursing, and even...

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Punishment Shouldn't Fit the Crime

Posted on 5/12/2015

Copyright 2015 John K. Rosemond Q: Why is it that no consequence seems to work for long, if at all, with my very strong-willed 7-year-old daughter? I have tried everything I’ve ever...

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Using Consequences

Posted on 4/14/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Why is it that no consequence seems to work for long, if at all, with my very strong-willed 7-year-old daughter? I have tried everything I’ve ever...

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Recent Questions

Split personality of a 4 y/o

Posted today

4 year old girl who is disobedient and throws tantrums. She has privileges taken but that has no effect. At school she behaves perfectly.

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Special Place vs. Timeout

Posted 5 days ago

Can you explain to me the difference between a "special place" [ex. for screaming] and a time out, as well as how one enforces the child staying in said place?

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Half-Hearted 14-year-old student

Posted 2 weeks ago

We have a 14 year old son that is a freshmen in high school. We have been long followers of John Rosemond and have done our best not to mircromanage our son, especially when it comes to school and...

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What's a School Counselor to Do?

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hi John, I'm a K-12 School Counselor and schools today have many challenges. One of them involves working with kids in junior high and high school who are failing, school is not working for...

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7 year old Slacker

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have a 7 yr old son. He will do anything to get out of work. He has fallen asleep in the Kitchen while everyone went to bed because he didn't want to sweep and mop the kitchen floor (which is...

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No, No, No!

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have a two and half year old and 13 month old. My concern is I always feel like I am correcting the oldest, no yelling no hitting no throwing etc and I am beginning to feel like I fuss all the...

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5 and 3 1/2 yo boys over the top silly

Posted 3 weeks ago

I have a five year old son and 3 1/2 year old son. I am very familiar with and have read several of Rosemond's books, most recently, The Well Behaved Child. I use the ticket system with both...

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7 yo Son and Overwhelmed Mom

Posted 3 weeks ago

I discovered John Rosemond about a month ago. I'm afraid I have fallen victim to psychological parenting and all the mommy “requirements” that dictate my day. I am currently reading two of his...

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Shocking Discovery

Posted 3 weeks ago

I recently found marijuana paraphernalia in my 18 year old daughter's room. She is a senior in high school and, up until this point, a very responsible and trustworthy child. She is an excellent...

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Sticky Fingers

Posted 3 weeks ago

Our five year old (foster) son has begun stealing things from other children's book bags (or toys that are left out) at his after-school program. He's a curious little fellow and has a hard time...

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