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Parental Anxiety

Posted on 8/12/2014

On one of my websites I, along with a team of certified parent coaches, answer questions submitted by parents. In the last two days, 67 percent of the questions have concerned toilet...

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Diapers at night

Posted on 7/22/2014

Q: Using your advice, I successfully toilet-trained my daughter by age 16 months. It is now three months later and we are still using diapers at naps and nighttime. At her nap, which lasts...

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150 Word Toilet Training Program

Posted on 12/10/2013

Q: My 18-month-old kicks me and hits me when I try to change his diaper. He doesn't do this for his father or grandparents. Should I hold his legs down until he gives up or will this worsen...

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Toilet Training Without Tantrums Note

Posted on 10/25/2013

Editor's Comment: John gets so many questions about toilet training. I am reprinting a column from two years ago; with an additional note. Almost every question received about toilet training has...

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18-Month-Old is a Table Terror!

Posted on 2/26/2013

Q: Our 18 month old is a table terror! While I'm preparing dinner, she walks around acting like she's starving, but as soon as we sit her in her highchair she takes a few bites and then wants...

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One Year Old Slapping Parents and Screaming

Posted on 11/8/2011

Punishment may fail with toddlers, but try a firm 'no' Q: My 1-year-old has started slapping us. He also screams a lot, often for no reason, or at least we can't figure out the reason. He won't...

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16-Month-Old Son - Read to Child When Ready

Posted on 6/14/2011

Read to toddlers when they're ready Q: In your book on 2-year-olds, you recommend reading to a child from early on. My problem is that every time I attempt to read to my 16-month-old son he...

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10-Month-Old Boy Bangs Head

Posted on 1/25/2011

Parents should roll with baby's rocking Q: Our first child, a 10-month-old boy, bangs his head on the headboard of his crib when we put him to bed. He doesn't cry or exhibit any distress, but...

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Preschool Education Programs

Posted on 10/12/2010

Preschool without shame? What a pity The National Association for the Education of Young Children and I don't see eye to eye on many things - maybe anything. We don't even agree on a definition...

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14-Month-Old Boy Bath-Time Fear

Posted on 3/30/2010

Quelling bath-time fear Q. My 14-month-old was taking baths just fine until about a month ago when he became enraged because I wouldn't let him stand up in the sink. Ever since, he becomes...

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Recent Questions

No, No, No!

Posted on 3/10/2017

I have a two and half year old and 13 month old. My concern is I always feel like I am correcting the oldest, no yelling no hitting no throwing etc and I am beginning to feel like I fuss all the...

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YMCA child care ok for 1 yo?

Posted on 2/16/2017

What are your thoughts on letting kids stay in child care at local YMCA for one to two hours a day. I stay at home with them. They are 1 and 2. I am worried that may be to much time away from me...

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To potty train or not.

Posted on 2/8/2017

Would you please help me clarify some reasonable expectations for our potty-training journey? We're three days in with an 18-month-old boy. I'm realizing that this is going to be a long process,...

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Traveling and Potty Training

Posted on 2/6/2017

We're starting potty-training with my 18-month-old son. I've tried to block off this month as much as possible, but I'm realizing that we're going to have to make some trips (store, church, a...

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18 mo Won't Stay on Potty

Posted on 2/6/2017

I'm potty-training my 18-month-old son, and I'm a little confused about what to do if he doesn't want to sit on the potty. I've read TTWT and a lot of the QAs on this site, but I still don't...

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One Little Monkey on the Bed

Posted on 12/18/2016

Hello... We have two daughters...one turned two in September and our youngest will be one in February...within the past couple of days, our two year old has stopped listening to us.. After telling...

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4 1/2 mo Waking at Night

Posted on 11/28/2016

I need some guidance on how to get my 4 1/2 month old to sleep better during the night. I have been using the baby wise method of eat, wake, sleep during the day and trying to get him to have...

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Fussy Infant

Posted on 11/22/2016

Greetings: We have a fussy 1 month old. He has gained 2 lbs since birth....now weighs 10 lbs. Screams and acts uncomfortable all day and most of night. Breast and bottle feeding, but doesn't...

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16 mo Tantrums

Posted on 10/4/2016

At what age do you recommend starting the tantrum place? My son is 16 months old and has a bad habit of screaming when he doesn't get his way, which happens 10+ times a day. I'm not sure whether...

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Jealous 16-Month-Old

Posted on 8/3/2016

My husband and I have a jealous 16 month old. She is the 4th child. The oldest are (twins) 4.5 yrs and one who is 3.5 yrs. Whenever I am holding one of the other children she begins pulling at...

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