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Pre-Preschool (3 Year Old)

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Rescue Yourself and Your Child With Bedtime Routine

Posted on 5/11/2016

Q: My daughter, who just turned three, has a surge of energy after dinner and can take hours to fall asleep. I try putting her down around 8 o’clock, but there are nights when she doesn’t fall...

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Occasional Tantrums Don't Indicate Bipolar Disorder

Posted on 1/27/2016

Q: Our 3-year-old son is very sweet, loving, and generally well-behaved. Occasionally, however, he breaks into a huge tantrum during which he becomes uncontrollable. The word “possessed” comes to...

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3-year-old Preschool Issues

Posted on 11/10/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: My just-turned 3-year-old daughter has started biting other children in her preschool program. I put her in for three mornings a week thinking she...

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3 year-old Tantrums

Posted on 9/8/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our first, a girl, just turned three and has suddenly started throwing tantrums. She can begin a tantrum when she’s alone in her room if something...

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Newly Academic Nature of Most Preschools

Posted on 11/25/2014

Courtesy of my friend and parent coach Janet Carter (www.ourchildishways.com), comes an interesting story: The parents of a 4-year-old girl went to a preschool parent conference to...

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"The Doctor" Makes House Calls

Posted on 4/28/2014

Shortly after I finished graduate school, a friend of mine shared with me a book called Indirect Hypnosis, written by Milton Erickson, a most unorthodox psychiatrist if ever there was one....

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Who cleans up?

Posted on 2/4/2014

Q: I have 3 kids ages 8, 6, and 4. I need help solving the "pick up the playroom" dilemma. When an area in which they've been playing needs to be picked up and straightened, the 8-year-old always...

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Toddlers in Restaurants?

Posted on 6/25/2013

Q: Help! We find it almost impossible to finish a restaurant meal when our 18-month-old twins are along, which is always. We give them toys to keep them busy, and they do well for about 30 minutes...

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Posted on 5/28/2013

Q: My 3-year-old started preschool 3 days a week (private sitter other two days) about 2 months ago. He did great. However, this week he began being defiant, not following directions then kicked,...

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3 Year Old has bedtime problems

Posted on 1/22/2013

Q: For the past several weeks, our just-turned 3-year-old has been waking up and coming into our room at all hours of the night with the usual excuses. He's scared, hungry, thirsty, lonely, can't...

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3 Year Old Mouthing Off

Posted 2 weeks ago

My son who just turned 3 puts everything/anything in his mouth. It's been going on for about a year but it's become an obsession lately. When we're outside it's rocks, sticks, dirt, acorns. Inside...

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Jekyll and Hyde almost 4 y/o boy

Posted 3 weeks ago

Please help. My son is 3 years old and will be 4 in three weeks. His behavior is getting out of hand. He doesn't behave like this anywhere else but home. He has three older sisters and he hits...

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A Blustering 3-Year-Old and the Ticket System

Posted 3 weeks ago

We have four children. Our third child is a 3.5 year old boy. He is our most "spirited" child and has the vocabulary of a 6 year old. Our 2 older children (6 & 8) are more reserved. He is so...

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Ending a soothing bad habit

Posted 3 weeks ago

My son has had a habit of chewing on his knuckle fairly regularly (and has a big callus on his middle finger to show for it), but recently it's become more frequently and has extended to other...

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The 3 year old is in charge.

Posted 3 weeks ago

We have an almost 3 year old whom we are having trouble with tantrums and defiance recently. I dread bringing him out because in a moment's notice, he will be screaming and kicking when told no he...

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Toilet Training Together aka "Potty Brothers!"

Posted on 3/24/2017

My older son, almost 3, has been potty trained for about 3 weeks now. One week ago I started potty training my younger son, age 2. Since that time my older son seems to be regressing while...

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Curing a 3-Year-Old Picky Eater

Posted on 3/9/2017

I've recently started the Tablespoon method for my very "picky" 3 year old boy. After a few tries, he's had one successful meal where he's eaten all three foods and gone on to get seconds....

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5 and 3 1/2 yo boys over the top silly

Posted on 3/8/2017

I have a five year old son and 3 1/2 year old son. I am very familiar with and have read several of Rosemond's books, most recently, The Well Behaved Child. I use the ticket system with both...

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Mouthy 3-year-old

Posted on 3/4/2017

Recently my 3 and a half -year-old has started negating various statements his dad and I make. Mostly this happens when he doesn't want to do something (It is bedtime/it is NOT bedtime), but also...

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Ignoring Bad Habits

Posted on 3/4/2017

My 3 and a half-year old boy has a habit of biting, sucking, or chewing his knuckle while thinking, when upset, worried, etc. It's been growing in frequency and I'd like to stop the habit before...

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