"A child who can't take "no" for an answer always has parents who can't say it and mean it. "

Anxieties, Fears

John's Most Recent Articles

Use Godfather Principle to Nip Fear of Doctor in the Bud

Posted on 9/20/2016

Q: Over the past year or so, our 5-year-old has developed an extreme fear of going to the doctor or dentist. This came on suddenly, without a precipitating incident. The crying begins when we...

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Have a Game Plan for Daughter's Anxiety

Posted on 6/28/2016

Q: My 8-year-old daughter is having anxiety issues that seem to border on obsessive-compulsive disorder. She wants me to repeat certain things back to her and has a set routine of things I must...

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Don't Turn Bedtime Fears Into a Disciplinary Issue

Posted on 4/5/2016

Q: My 6-year-old daughter watched too many episodes of a certain TV show when she was sick and now she doesn't want to go to sleep at night because she is having scary thoughts related to the...

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Bedtime Fears

Posted on 3/10/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: About six months ago, our four-year old daughter began complaining of being afraid to be alone at bedtime. Upon questioning, she told us she was...

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Anxiety in 13-year-old

Posted on 2/24/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: My 13-year-old son has developed overwhelming anxiety about going to school. This began a year ago, but has gotten steadily worse since then. At this...

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Pulling Her Hair Out

Posted on 7/15/2014

Q: Since our daughter, now 2 years old, was born we have lived with my parents. Being the first and only grandchild she has been the center of attention. Several months ago, our son was...

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Head Banging

Posted on 7/1/2014

Q: When he throws a tantrum, which happens several times a day, my 20-month-old often gets down on the floor and starts banging his head. Worried that he may hurt himself, I pick him up and...

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Don't laugh!

Posted on 3/25/2014

Q: Our 4-year-old daughter has a huge problem with being laughed at. She loves to be goofy and do funny things but as soon as someone, including one of us, laughs at her she becomes upset. She...

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Good Advice From 1951

Posted on 3/18/2014

I recently came across a 1951 article my late mother saved from the Charleston (SC) News and Courier. Titled "Agency Offers Pointers on How Parents Can Guide Their Child's Emotional...

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Biting Finger Nails: What to do?

Posted on 1/21/2014

Q: What can be done to stop a nineteen year old from biting his finger nails? This has been an ongoing habit from early childhood. He's obviously damaging his fingers and maybe even his teeth....

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Recent Questions

Diet is a 4 letter word

Posted 1 week ago

I wrote before about my 7 year old son asking if he’s fat and complaining about his thighs. While I agree that it’s a teaching moment about treating others kindly, the truth is he probably does...

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9 yo Worry Wart

Posted 3 weeks ago

Our 9 year old daughter is worrying about everything! This started a few months ago. She worries about liking boys, wrong thoughts about other people's race or weight, thoughts about kissing or...

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11-yr-old tummy troubles or just seeking attention?

Posted on 6/17/2017

Our 11 year old daughter began expressing stomach discomfort in early spring (i.e. VERY frequent complaining). In the absence of obvious illness (diarrhea, pain in night w/disrupted sleep, etc..),...

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7 year old trying not to be mean

Posted on 6/15/2017

What do you suggest to help a 7 year old girl to resist "mean girl" behavior when that's what she's seeing among her peers? Mean girl meaning whispering, sassy talk, exclusion, etc. We encourage...

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Separation Anxiety for 3yo

Posted on 6/4/2017

To piggyback on my previous question, I need any advice on how to approach separation problems for my 3 (almost 4) year old son. My husband and I teach his Sunday School class every other week,...

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Losing Grandpa

Posted on 5/24/2017

It is difficult to type this but I find myself in a situation I have never had to face. My husband and I have been parents to out Grandchild since his mom left about 20 months ago. During her...

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11 yo, Depressed, Won't Do School Work

Posted on 5/15/2017

We read him the riot act and lowered the boom. It's the first time our son (11) has been grounded. He has been refusing to do his school work. He sits and stares at his math book for hours, even...

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4 yo Doesn't Want to Go to School

Posted on 4/23/2017

Hi Gurus, Our 4-year-old has been very upset about going to school (pre-k) lately - tonight she was crying and saying she doesn't want to go to school, ever ever ever. She attends an after-school...

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6 year old's disturbing comments

Posted on 3/31/2017

Our fairly happy 6 year (almost) 7 year old has said a few disturbing things recently. About a week ago out of the blue he told me that he has thoughts of hurting/killing someone with a knife. ...

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Ignoring Bad Habits

Posted on 3/4/2017

My 3 and a half-year old boy has a habit of biting, sucking, or chewing his knuckle while thinking, when upset, worried, etc. It's been growing in frequency and I'd like to stop the habit before...

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