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Anxieties, Fears

John's Most Recent Articles

Use Godfather Principle to Nip Fear of Doctor in the Bud

Posted on 9/20/2016

Q: Over the past year or so, our 5-year-old has developed an extreme fear of going to the doctor or dentist. This came on suddenly, without a precipitating incident. The crying begins when we...

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Have a Game Plan for Daughter's Anxiety

Posted on 6/28/2016

Q: My 8-year-old daughter is having anxiety issues that seem to border on obsessive-compulsive disorder. She wants me to repeat certain things back to her and has a set routine of things I must...

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Don't Turn Bedtime Fears Into a Disciplinary Issue

Posted on 4/5/2016

Q: My 6-year-old daughter watched too many episodes of a certain TV show when she was sick and now she doesn't want to go to sleep at night because she is having scary thoughts related to the...

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Bedtime Fears

Posted on 3/10/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: About six months ago, our four-year old daughter began complaining of being afraid to be alone at bedtime. Upon questioning, she told us she was...

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Anxiety in 13-year-old

Posted on 2/24/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: My 13-year-old son has developed overwhelming anxiety about going to school. This began a year ago, but has gotten steadily worse since then. At this...

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Pulling Her Hair Out

Posted on 7/15/2014

Q: Since our daughter, now 2 years old, was born we have lived with my parents. Being the first and only grandchild she has been the center of attention. Several months ago, our son was...

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Head Banging

Posted on 7/1/2014

Q: When he throws a tantrum, which happens several times a day, my 20-month-old often gets down on the floor and starts banging his head. Worried that he may hurt himself, I pick him up and...

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Don't laugh!

Posted on 3/25/2014

Q: Our 4-year-old daughter has a huge problem with being laughed at. She loves to be goofy and do funny things but as soon as someone, including one of us, laughs at her she becomes upset. She...

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Good Advice From 1951

Posted on 3/18/2014

I recently came across a 1951 article my late mother saved from the Charleston (SC) News and Courier. Titled "Agency Offers Pointers on How Parents Can Guide Their Child's Emotional...

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Biting Finger Nails: What to do?

Posted on 1/21/2014

Q: What can be done to stop a nineteen year old from biting his finger nails? This has been an ongoing habit from early childhood. He's obviously damaging his fingers and maybe even his teeth....

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Recent Questions

10 yo Autistic Trouble with Abstract School Assigments.

Posted 4 days ago

My son is in 5th grade. He has autism. It's really hard for him to talk about him and to express ideas when come to write ideas and team work. It's more and more hard at school. They have to...

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2 Year Old Pacifier Attachment

Posted 2 weeks ago

Suggestions for taking away pacifier for 2 year old that is VERY attached? She also has a blankie, which she associates with her paci..

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Toddlers and resilience

Posted 2 weeks ago

I resigned my job to stay home with my 26 month old son and will soon have a baby end of April. When I resigned we had to give up the work daycare he was in 2.5 days a week. He seemed to miss the...

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frustrated 3 yo won't talk

Posted 3 weeks ago

When my 3 year old daughter gets frustrated she will 'lock up' - not speak or express what's wrong. This usually happens instantaneously when we do something that she wants to do but we do it...

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8 Year Old and Pokemon

Posted on 1/13/2017

Thank you for the content of ParentGuru. We find it affirming and encouraging as we raise our 6 children. I've seen John's answers to Pokémon questions before, but this is a little different...

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Three-Year-Old Has "Trouble" Falling Asleep

Posted on 1/11/2017

When my now 3-year old son was sleeping in the crib, I'd sleep with him on his twin bed at nap time. Once we got rid of the crib (after he started jumping out), he expected - and still does - us...

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Routines for Toddlers

Posted on 12/3/2016

Almost 3 years old. Month of October was in Indiana. Now in California for 7 days. No naps, no food but fries basically, and now meltdown. Could you please explain about routines to follow at this...

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Ten year old with multiple issues

Posted on 10/1/2016

Adopted Female child age 10; neglect and multiple traumas, sexual abuse. She is in complete safety for 4+ years now, yet she is Hypersensitive, intense, social issues, cannot get along with...

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Toddler Separation Anxiety

Posted on 9/29/2016

I have a 19 month old with separation anxiety. He throws tantrums when I leave. He will persist for more than an hour or until I come to get him. I am leaving the country for nine days in October...

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New Preschool Problems

Posted on 9/23/2016

We transferred our 35 month old daughter to a new pre-school this week and she does not seem to be adjusting well there. Cries a lot when we leave her there in the morning, whines throughout the...

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