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Obedience: It's All in How You Ask for It

Posted on 3/1/2017

I’ve said it many times, but it bears repeating: A child’s natural response to the proper presentation of authority is obedience; as in, the first time the child is told to do something, he does...

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Paradoxical Parenting Principle

Posted on 9/15/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond One of the problems I occasionally struggle with is that of giving unsatisfactory answers to people’s questions. By that, I mean answers I know are...

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Parents Need to Act Now for Son

Posted on 8/11/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our 17-year-old has completely fallen apart! In less than a year, he’s gone from being an outstanding honors student, athlete, and well-mannered...

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Lowering the Boom

Posted on 7/7/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond One of the most common of complaints from today’s parents is “we’ve tried everything.” They refer, of course, to having tried numerous approaches...

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Nicotine Use

Posted on 6/30/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: We just discovered that our 17-year-old is using nicotine. He tells us he’s been using for the past several months, smoking two to four cigarettes a...

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Jealous Sibling and Words of Wisdom for Toddler's Parents

Posted on 6/23/2015

Living with Children John Rosemond Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: My 24-month-old is constantly wanting to be in her newborn baby brother’s face, poking and touching him. How can...

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8-year-old Manipulates, Whines

Posted on 6/16/2015

Living with Children John Rosemond Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our 8-year-old daughter tries to manipulate us and her siblings (she is the youngest of three) with emotional...

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14-year-old Anger Issues

Posted on 6/2/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our 14-year-old daughter has difficulty controlling her anger. She has extreme outbursts fairly frequently here at home—screaming, cursing, and even...

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Punishment Shouldn't Fit the Crime

Posted on 5/12/2015

Copyright 2015 John K. Rosemond Q: Why is it that no consequence seems to work for long, if at all, with my very strong-willed 7-year-old daughter? I have tried everything I’ve ever...

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Use Proper Authority with Teens

Posted on 4/21/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our son is going to be 13 next year and we’re trying to be proactive about the coming storm. He’s been a good kid and relatively easy to raise to...

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Recent Questions

Time to throw out the "time-out"

Posted 2 days ago

What approach is best when a 27 month old gets up and giggles when put in a time out chair? I have put him back in, but he keeps laughing.... I'm only putting him in time out for a very short...

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How Much Attention?

Posted 4 days ago

Love your radio program and love your philosophy. But I'm concerned about something you said. It is that parents don't have to and shouldn't focus their attention on their child but on each other...

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3 Year Old Mouthing Off

Posted 2 weeks ago

My son who just turned 3 puts everything/anything in his mouth. It's been going on for about a year but it's become an obsession lately. When we're outside it's rocks, sticks, dirt, acorns. Inside...

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A Blustering 3-Year-Old and the Ticket System

Posted 3 weeks ago

We have four children. Our third child is a 3.5 year old boy. He is our most "spirited" child and has the vocabulary of a 6 year old. Our 2 older children (6 & 8) are more reserved. He is so...

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16 yo Wants Hormone Therapy to Change Sex

Posted on 3/22/2017

What is your take on transgender teenagers who want to undergo hormone therapy. Beautiful 16 year old, highly intelligent girl wants to take testosterone to become a boy before going to college...

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7 yo Micromanaging Allergies?

Posted on 3/18/2017

Concerning my previous question, I tried to talk to my husband about removing the toys from my 7 year old's bedroom for acts of violence. But my husband will not allow this and still dismisses my...

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What to do with a busy 8 year old.

Posted on 3/13/2017

My daughter is 8yo. She always move, always interrupt people can't stay sit. When she does homework, it's long, she does't sit, she side track, go and do something else. I have to tell her to...

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Siblings and borrowing.

Posted on 3/12/2017

Our teenaged daughters know they are not to borrow clothes from one another without asking. The college daughter continually violates this, taking things without asking back to her dorm and even...

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5 and 3 1/2 yo boys over the top silly

Posted on 3/8/2017

I have a five year old son and 3 1/2 year old son. I am very familiar with and have read several of Rosemond's books, most recently, The Well Behaved Child. I use the ticket system with both...

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Disobedience or Addiction?

Posted on 3/1/2017

Dear John, Our almost-15-yr-old son has been disobeying our rule of no Xbox on school nights but last week was a doozy. When we were away for the weekend, he got his 16-yr-old sister to drive...

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