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Disobedience/Defiance

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Medicine Doesn't Cure Misbehavior

Posted on 7/26/2016

Q: Our son is a rising second-grader at a private school. Last year, his behavior was often disruptive and sometimes even downright defiant—problems his first grade teacher did not have with him....

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Custody Issue: Teen Acts Aggressively Towards Mother

Posted on 1/12/2016

Q: My ex-husband and I have pretty much fifty-fifty custody of our 15-year-old son, who has become infected with his father’s disrespect for me. When he’s with me, he makes it very clear that he...

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Use Proper Authority with Teens

Posted on 4/21/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our son is going to be 13 next year and we’re trying to be proactive about the coming storm. He’s been a good kid and relatively easy to raise to...

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Alarming Trends

Posted on 3/3/2015

Copyright 2015 John K. Rosemond In the 1960s, child and teen mental health and behavior problems began an alarming rise that has continued to the present. In 1970, one of my grad school...

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"The Doctor" Makes House Calls

Posted on 4/28/2014

Shortly after I finished graduate school, a friend of mine shared with me a book called Indirect Hypnosis, written by Milton Erickson, a most unorthodox psychiatrist if ever there was one....

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The "Hang in There Principle"

Posted on 11/26/2013

Q: My 11-year-old son cuts corners on everything. If he does a chore, he'll leave the cleaning products behind. If his bed his hard to make he hides the sheet in the closet and throws the blanket...

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Kicking Out of the Garden of Eden [Explained]

Posted on 10/6/2013

Kicking the child out of the Garden of Eden John's "Garden of Eden" statement: Other Q and A or articles about this method may be searched by using the keyword "Garden" Below is detailed...

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Discipline Problems

Posted on 10/1/2013

Most parents describe discipline problems as if they are "coming out" of their kids, that the problems in question reveal facets of their kids' personalities-things like "strong-willed."...

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Last Chance for Major Change

Posted on 2/5/2013

Q: Our 17-year-old is a highly spoiled underachiever. As a junior in high school, he's failing two classes and borderline in the rest. We know that his problems are largely due to our parenting...

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Nine year old Refuses to go to her room

Posted on 1/15/2013

Q: What should I do when my 9-year-old daughter loses all of her privileges because of her misbehavior but refuses to go to her room? I tried to physically force her, but she put up too much of a...

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Recent Questions

Split personality of a 4 y/o

Posted today

4 year old girl who is disobedient and throws tantrums. She has privileges taken but that has no effect. At school she behaves perfectly.

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Special Place vs. Timeout

Posted 5 days ago

Can you explain to me the difference between a "special place" [ex. for screaming] and a time out, as well as how one enforces the child staying in said place?

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Teenagers and Tone

Posted 1 week ago

I have 2 children a 15 year old boy (soon to be 16) and a 13 year old girl (soon to be 14). How do you handle the "tone" in their voice? I'm not good at being quick or creative with my...

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Truth and consequences.

Posted 2 weeks ago

Last night my 10 year old confessed to having known the password for our tablet for a while and that is why he's been able to get more time on it to finish games. For months we've assumed it's...

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5 Year Old Mood Swings

Posted 2 weeks ago

I would love it if Sarah Hamaker has time to answer this one since she gave me such a fabulous answer for my daughter's pooping-in-pants issue (almost instant cure, thanks). My daughter has just...

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2 Year Old Won't Listen

Posted 2 weeks ago

Errr! I'm so frustrated. I can't get my 2 1/2 year old to listen. I can here Rosemond saying, "That's not a child problem. That's a parent problem." And I agree. I just need to figure out what's...

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7 year old Slacker

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have a 7 yr old son. He will do anything to get out of work. He has fallen asleep in the Kitchen while everyone went to bed because he didn't want to sweep and mop the kitchen floor (which is...

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Micromanaging 3 1/2 Year Old?

Posted 3 weeks ago

Every so often, when my 3 and a half- year-old boy gets in trouble and is disciplined, it seems the discipline escalates his behavior and he tries to do something even worse than what he was...

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The princess isn't in charge.

Posted 3 weeks ago

HI there, Need help with a particular scenario here. My almost 6 year old (6 in may) has started school about 5 weeks ago. She has been very tired, and emotional from being away all day...

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Disobedience or Addiction?

Posted 4 weeks ago

Dear John, Our almost-15-yr-old son has been disobeying our rule of no Xbox on school nights but last week was a doozy. When we were away for the weekend, he got his 16-yr-old sister to drive...

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