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Disobedience/Defiance

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Stay the Course With Rebellious Teen

Posted 6 days ago

Q: Our 18-year-old daughter is a month away from high school graduation and she is failing nearly every class! About six months ago, she took up with a group of young adults who are less than...

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Kids Are Happiest When Obedient

Posted on 4/25/2017

Q: I’ve read enough of your writings to know that you believe children should be obedient, that they should do what they are told. I want my children to think for themselves and to question...

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Medicine Doesn't Cure Misbehavior

Posted on 7/26/2016

Q: Our son is a rising second-grader at a private school. Last year, his behavior was often disruptive and sometimes even downright defiant—problems his first grade teacher did not have with him....

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Custody Issue: Teen Acts Aggressively Towards Mother

Posted on 1/12/2016

Q: My ex-husband and I have pretty much fifty-fifty custody of our 15-year-old son, who has become infected with his father’s disrespect for me. When he’s with me, he makes it very clear that he...

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Use Proper Authority with Teens

Posted on 4/21/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our son is going to be 13 next year and we’re trying to be proactive about the coming storm. He’s been a good kid and relatively easy to raise to...

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Alarming Trends

Posted on 3/3/2015

Copyright 2015 John K. Rosemond In the 1960s, child and teen mental health and behavior problems began an alarming rise that has continued to the present. In 1970, one of my grad school...

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"The Doctor" Makes House Calls

Posted on 4/28/2014

Shortly after I finished graduate school, a friend of mine shared with me a book called Indirect Hypnosis, written by Milton Erickson, a most unorthodox psychiatrist if ever there was one....

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The "Hang in There Principle"

Posted on 11/26/2013

Q: My 11-year-old son cuts corners on everything. If he does a chore, he'll leave the cleaning products behind. If his bed his hard to make he hides the sheet in the closet and throws the blanket...

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Kicking Out of the Garden of Eden [Explained]

Posted on 10/6/2013

Kicking the child out of the Garden of Eden John's "Garden of Eden" statement: Other Q and A or articles about this method may be searched by using the keyword "Garden" Below is detailed...

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Discipline Problems

Posted on 10/1/2013

Most parents describe discipline problems as if they are "coming out" of their kids, that the problems in question reveal facets of their kids' personalities-things like "strong-willed."...

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Recent Questions

3 yr old hitting Grandma

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have a 3 year old Grandson my husband and I are "parents" of. He just turned 3 and within the last month he has started wanting to "hit". Not real sure where this behavior has come from other...

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8 y/o Containment?

Posted 2 weeks ago

We've restricted our 8 yr old son to his room with only essentials and early bedtime until he has 15 consecutive days without hitting or pushing anyone. How exactly do we keep him in his room?...

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Argumentative 10 Year Old

Posted 2 weeks ago

We have been attempting to correct our 10 year old son's attitude. He argues with EVERYTHING, is so disrespectful, and always has to have the last word. He is also rude to his sister. We have...

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School Problems for a 7 year old

Posted 3 weeks ago

7 year old son smacked a classmate's hand while walking by their desk. When asked why by the vice principal his response was he "thought it was funny". Need to nip this in the bud, this is his 3rd...

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Dressing an Alligator Toddler

Posted 1 month ago

Do you have any advice for parents when trying to dress a toddler starts to resemble gator wrestling?

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Time to Throw out The "Time-Out"

Posted on 4/27/2017

What approach is best when a 27 month old gets up and giggles when put in a time out chair? I have put him back in, but he keeps laughing.... I'm only putting him in time out for a very short...

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14 yo Out of Control

Posted on 4/22/2017

Four years ago I adopted an older child who is now almost 14 yrs. old. I am a single mother. He can be a delightful person, but I am seeing less and less of this. I keep him busy in a variety of...

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Authority Issues with a 12 year old

Posted on 4/19/2017

My 12 year old girl has a real issue with her authority, she talks back when asked to do anything that she does not want to do. My mother-in-law, My husband and I are continually having to talk...

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9 yo boy needs boom lowered

Posted on 4/13/2017

My youngest son is 9 years old. He has an older brother who is 11 years old. My 9 year has always had a temper/anger problem when things don't go his way. He reacts by having a tantrum. He has...

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Brilliant with a high IQ but out of control.

Posted on 4/7/2017

My 10 year old daughter has a 160 IQ and she is brilliantly capable of extreme manipulation. She has recently been asked to leave her soccer team, she has been in and out of the principal's office...

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