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3-Year-Old Girl Missing Dad

Posted on 8/2/2011

Tot's distress isn't about missing dad Q. My daughter will be 3 years old soon. Her father was primary caretaker until she was around 20 months, then he left and she hasn't seen him since. I...

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Single Parent with Boyfriend/Girlfriend

Posted on 7/5/2011

Single parent with a boyfriend: Drama is silly "When is the right time to introduce my girlfriend/boyfriend to my kids?" is a question single parents frequently ask. "Why is this even an...

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15 Resolutions For Parents

Posted on 1/4/2011

15 resolutions for parents Given that this is the first column of a new year, I'm proposing a number of parenting New Year's Resolutions for my readers to consider. The list is by no means...

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Boys Need Fathers, Not Friends

Posted on 11/17/2009

TODAY'S MALES NEED FATHERS, NOT FRIENDS I recently spent some time with a friend who has three children. My buddy is a college-educated responsible guy who has never failed to do right by his...

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Children Adapt to Differing Discipline Styles

Posted on 11/3/2009

CHILDREN ADAPT TO DIFFERING RULES Q. I am a full-time nanny living with a single dad and his four young sons. The dad has given me free rein to deal with the kids and discipline them as I see...

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Mom Disciplines 15-Year-Old Daughter, But Ex Does Not Follow Through

Posted on 10/13/2009

MOM DISCIPLINES DAUGHTER, THEN DIVORCED DAD IGNORES IT Q. My 15-year-old daughter's grades have dropped this year, and I have taken away most of her privileges. But she spends a few nights a...

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A Family is a Family

Posted on 3/20/2007

FORGET ADJECTIVES; ANY CHILD IS A CHILD, ANY FAMILY IS A FAMILY Parents frequently ask if I have written books on adjective-children (e.g. adopted children) or adjective-families (e.g. blended...

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Single Parenting

Posted on 12/14/2004

SINGLE PARENTS: LEARN FROM MY MOM "So what about single parents, John?" asks a single mom. She was responding to last week's column in which I proposed (I will dare to say proved) that it is in...

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No Longer Husband and Wife, but Still Father and Mother

Posted on 9/16/2003

TEAMWORK OFTEN KEY IN DISCIPLINE Q: I am the single mother of a 9-year-old boy. I feel like I'm a fairly good disciplinarian, but I occasionally ask my ex-husband, from whom I've been divorced...

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14-Year-Old is Disrespectful and Hostile Toward Mom

Posted on 11/10/1998

DON'T LET YOUR HOSTILE SON TURN YOU INTO HIS TARGET Q. I'm a single mother with custody of my 14-year-old son. His father, whom he sees infrequently, has mental problems stemming from battle...

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Recent Questions

15 yo Slacker

Posted on 5/1/2017

My son (15) will be 16 in August; I'm a single mom he has 2 other brothers, 8,13; I juggle extracurricular activities for the 2 (15 & 12) with others peoples help; acquaintances, friends helping...

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12 yo Rage Out of Control

Posted on 2/13/2017

My 12 year old son has occasional anger issues and when he gets spun up (usually after I say no to him about something unreasonable) he gets into an extreme almost rage type anger. He has...

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Is it the divorce or parenting?

Posted on 12/29/2016

I believe my 16 yo daughter needs to see a therapist. Recently divorced, we split we she was 13. She never really processed the divorce. She keeps everything inside. Very stoic, says she is...

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13 yo Doesn't Like Divorced Mom Dating

Posted on 11/14/2016

Divorced about 3 years. Dating my boyfriend for 1 1/2years. I haven't push the relationship Ive given my 13 year old boy space. He doesn't like my boyfriends daughters. My moms bd was last...

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Homeschool to Public School for Lonely Preteen

Posted on 10/13/2016

I have been homeschooling my daughter since she was 6. She is now 12. My health is failing me and I haven't been able to drive her out to co-op or sports weekly, but only occasionally. She is a...

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Tween has Violent Outbursts

Posted on 6/3/2016

I am single mom. My 11 year-old son gets very angry about situations with his friends that he can't control and instead of working things out with his peers tries to shove me around and destroy...

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Dating Again

Posted on 10/29/2014

I am a divorced father of a 5 year old girl. I have had primary custody of our daughter for 1 ½ years- however the actual divorce judgment was signed a mere 2 months ago. (My daughter doesn't...

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7/10 YO Boys and Mornings

Posted on 4/28/2014

I have two boys, ages 7 and 10. Mornings are really rough and usually end up in tears. As a single mom, I am so tired of having such bad morning. Today, they are at home because I waited in the...

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New Question

Posted on 2/1/2014

How do I know if I'm doing a good job as a parent? I get very discouraged at times. I have two sons ages 12 and 10. My 7th grade son seems very self-centered. I'm afraid he will never get over...

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Grandmother raising 14 yo behavior problems

Posted on 1/2/2014

I am guardian of my 14 year old granddaughter who was abandoned by her emotionally abusive birth mother. Recently my granddaughter began to "hate all mothers" and has been unresponsive to me as...

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