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3 year-old Tantrums

Posted on 9/8/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our first, a girl, just turned three and has suddenly started throwing tantrums. She can begin a tantrum when she’s alone in her room if something...

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Losing Tickets on the Ticket System

Posted on 12/16/2014

Q: I’ve been trying for two months with little to no success to get your “ticket” system to work on my 4-year-old daughter. The target behaviors are ignoring me when I tell her to do...

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Strikes

Posted on 4/28/2014

"Strikes" is a variation on Tickets for children six and older. You still need a short list of target misbehaviors, posted on the refrigerator or bulletin board (see the description and example of...

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Daily and Weekly Report Cards (for School Problems)

Posted on 4/28/2014

Daily and Weekly Report Cards are a variation on Daily and Weekly Charts, the difference being that they target school misbehavior and performance. Daily Report Cards are generally suitable for...

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"The Doctor" Makes House Calls

Posted on 4/28/2014

Shortly after I finished graduate school, a friend of mine shared with me a book called Indirect Hypnosis, written by Milton Erickson, a most unorthodox psychiatrist if ever there was one....

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Piling On

Posted on 4/28/2014

In football, "piling on" occurs when defensive players continue to fall on top of an offensive player after he's been tackled. Because it's unnecessary as well as dangerous, piling on is...

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Out of the Garden

Posted on 4/28/2014

Occasionally a behavior problem is so BIG that nothing short of what I call "nuclear discipline" will do. Your great-grandparents called it "lowering the boom." Regardless of terminology, the...

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The Ticket System for Corrective Discipline

Posted on 4/28/2014

I developed "Tickets" in response to the observation that time-out only works with children who are already fairly well behaved. (Then again, just about any demonstration of parental disapproval...

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Recent Questions

Time to throw out the "time-out"

Posted 2 days ago

What approach is best when a 27 month old gets up and giggles when put in a time out chair? I have put him back in, but he keeps laughing.... I'm only putting him in time out for a very short...

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Half-Hearted 14-year-old student

Posted on 3/16/2017

We have a 14 year old son that is a freshmen in high school. We have been long followers of John Rosemond and have done our best not to mircromanage our son, especially when it comes to school and...

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Four yo temper tantrums

Posted on 3/15/2017

Our son turned 4 in December. He has proven that he is able to behave appropriately-no problems in preschool and generally people who know him think he is very "well-behaved and polite". But at...

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7 yo Son and Overwhelmed Mom

Posted on 3/6/2017

I discovered John Rosemond about a month ago. I'm afraid I have fallen victim to psychological parenting and all the mommy “requirements” that dictate my day. I am currently reading two of his...

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Disobedience or Addiction?

Posted on 3/1/2017

Dear John, Our almost-15-yr-old son has been disobeying our rule of no Xbox on school nights but last week was a doozy. When we were away for the weekend, he got his 16-yr-old sister to drive...

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3 1/2 yo doesn't mind spending the day in her room

Posted on 2/10/2017

We have been using the ticket system to target our 3 1/2 year old daughter's disobedience. On the occasions that she has lost all 5 tickets and is sent to her minimally entertaining room, it does...

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8 yo general discipline

Posted on 2/9/2017

We have an almost 8 (turns 8 in 10 days) year old boy who is very difficult. He whines and throws fits and is very often just negative. He is super smart, but extremely lazy. He plays well by...

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Error: No Chart

Posted on 1/25/2017

Hi! Where is the chart for timeout mentioned in the Ticket article? "3. (Optional) A time-out of five to fifteen minutes can also be enforced (see chart...

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Ask them no questions...

Posted on 1/21/2017

My 15 year old has been lying. Last month it was about getting homework done after a busy weekend of chorus performances when she actually was planning on asking a pushover teacher for an...

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6 yo Won't Stay in His Room

Posted on 1/11/2017

We are having problems knowing how to deal with our 6yo foster son (1 of 4 foster children) who has tantrums (yelling, throwing things, kicking, defiant and sometimes laughing as he disobeys,...

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