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Why Kids Need Hobbies

Posted 3 weeks ago

Not long ago, speaking to a large midwestern audience, I asked, "How many of you, when you were children, had a hobby?" Nearly everyone raised a hand. I then asked them to keep their hands in the...

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If I Were the Little League Czar

Posted on 3/27/2017

It has been 78 years since the first Little League baseball game was played in Williamsport, Pa. Last year, nearly 3 million kids participated in more than 6,500 chartered Little League programs...

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'No' Is Best Answer When Mom and Dad Disagree on Parenting Issue

Posted on 3/15/2016

Q: Is three hours of one sport once a week too much for a 7-year-old? This sport meets from 6 - 9 PM. It is nearly 10 PM before child is in bed (as opposed to usual 8:30 bedtime). My husband...

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Make Chores a Priority

Posted on 5/5/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond A major US newspaper recently ran a piece detailing all the ways children benefit from doing chores. Well, not all the ways. They failed to mention...

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Kicking Out of the Garden of Eden [Explained]

Posted on 10/6/2013

Kicking the child out of the Garden of Eden John's "Garden of Eden" statement: Other Q and A or articles about this method may be searched by using the keyword "Garden" Below is detailed...

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16-Year-Old Girl Sports Issue

Posted on 12/6/2011

Teen backs out on sports role Q: Our 16-year-old daughter has said three times over the past two years that she wants to play on the traveling soccer team. The coaches have actually asked her...

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15 Resolutions For Parents

Posted on 1/4/2011

15 resolutions for parents Given that this is the first column of a new year, I'm proposing a number of parenting New Year's Resolutions for my readers to consider. The list is by no means...

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Children Taking Music Lessons

Posted on 11/23/2010

Should kids stick with hated piano lessons? Through my website, a parent recently asked if children who don't want to continue piano lessons should be forced to stay the course regardless. I...

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Growing Up in the 1950s

Posted on 8/31/2010

What today's kids are missing What do today's children seriously lack that children in the 1950s and before enjoyed in abundance? To assist the reader in figuring out the answer before it is...

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Kids Who Are Picked Last

Posted on 7/13/2010

Kids who are picked last Q: A bunch of the parents in our community have decided to keep our kids out of organized sports and let them organize their own games. It's working out wonderfully,...

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Recent Questions

5 y/o son "hates" soccer

Posted on 10/22/2016

My husband enrolled our just-turned 5 year old son in fall soccer. I know John's stance on organized sports, but husband really wanted to do this. Anyway, as it turns out, son hates it. I am...

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Four year old reluctant to learn

Posted on 6/26/2016

Our four year old daughter is usually confident and independent. However, she tends to shut down and give very little effort when we try to teach her big new skills, like riding a bike or...

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6 yr. old cries going to camp

Posted on 6/15/2016

I have a six year old son who is going to a local day camp this week. He knows a few other children there. He chose to go, but has been hesitant since the camp started. Each day is getting...

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Swimming lessions.

Posted on 6/9/2016

My son is now 4.5 years old. It is a priority to me that he learns how to swim for safety reasons. We had him in lessons for about 6 months when he was 2, and most of the time he liked it. There...

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Disrespect in front of friends...

Posted on 4/25/2016

My 10 year old daughter is disrespectful to me whenever she has friends over. Unless I remind her to treat me properly before her friends come over, she almost always finds a way to be...

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How Much is Too Much Extracurricular Activities?

Posted on 3/9/2016

Is 3 hours of one sport once a week too much for a 7 (almost 8) year old? This sport meets from 6-9 pm (there are additional practices child does not always make it to due to other obligations. ...

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To Trick/Treat or Not

Posted on 10/27/2015

My husband and I are having difficulty knowing how to handle a oroblem. We don't believe we as Christians should celabrate Halloween. Our three and a half year old grandson has been the teachers...

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Missing out on Extracurricular Activities

Posted on 10/15/2015

I thought that you said when they are grounded to their room for the day that it meant no extracurricular activities either, i.e. soccer practice, dance, piano lessons, etc. We don't force our...

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15 yo Allow to Quit Boy Scouts?

Posted on 9/9/2015

Please help! My son is 15 and wants to quit Boy Scouts. My husband and I have tried to encourage him to stay with it. I feel Scouts is a great way to learn life skills and character building...

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Social Life of a 2 Year Old

Posted on 6/5/2015

Our 2.5 yo daughter is an only child but extremely mature, talkative and social. She loves other kids and is dying to go to school. We go to story time at the library, but other than that we...

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