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Parent Leadership and Authority

John's Most Recent Articles

Children Need Adults Who Are Worthy of Being Paid Attention

Posted 2 days ago

Once again, a reader proves that parenting must be added to religion and politics as verboten subjects for polite conversation. A column I published back in December of 2016 went viral...

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It Is Not a Parent's Job to Solve All of a Child's Problems

Posted on 3/29/2016

Q: We have a 7-year-old son and two girls ages 9 and 6. The girls are gifted academically and athletically. He simply can’t keep up with them. They’re even better at bike-riding. As a result, he...

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Authority Is About Unequivocal Expectations, Not Persuasion

Posted on 3/8/2016

Actress Charlize Theron recently caused a media stir when she wrestled her adopted four-year-old son Jackson to the ground when he began throwing a public tantrum. For this, Theron was labeled a...

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Children Have the Right to a Steady Balance of Love and Leadership

Posted on 2/17/2016

“Do children have any rights?” is the question of the week, submitted by a 30-something reader. Yes, children have rights. First and foremost, there is their right to be loved...

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Parenting Experts Part III

Posted on 12/8/2015

This is the third and final installment of my “Wrong Things Experts Have Said (and Still Say)” series. Thus far: I’ve debunked the myth that a consequence must be delivered immediately in order...

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It's the Little Things That Count

Posted on 10/27/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond It’s the little things that count…always That’s true when it comes to being a citizen, an employee, and a spouse. It’s also true of being a...

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Act Like An Authority Figure

Posted on 9/22/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond The following statement is true: A child’s natural response to the proper presentation of authority is obedience. The following...

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Four Attributes of Authority

Posted on 12/30/2014

Who are the happier campers in a workplace setting: the employees who (a) obey the rules, follow the procedures, and voice any complaints respectfully, such that the entire workplace is not...

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Parental Speech

Posted on 8/26/2014

As the old parenting point of view fell out of fashion beginning in the late 1960s, the vernacular that accompanied it all but completely disappeared. Today’s parents don’t say to...

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Parental Anxiety

Posted on 8/12/2014

On one of my websites I, along with a team of certified parent coaches, answer questions submitted by parents. In the last two days, 67 percent of the questions have concerned toilet...

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Recent Questions

What's a School Counselor to Do?

Posted 1 week ago

Hi John, I'm a K-12 School Counselor and schools today have many challenges. One of them involves working with kids in junior high and high school who are failing, school is not working for...

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No, No, No!

Posted 1 week ago

I have a two and half year old and 13 month old. My concern is I always feel like I am correcting the oldest, no yelling no hitting no throwing etc and I am beginning to feel like I fuss all the...

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5 and 3 1/2 yo boys over the top silly

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have a five year old son and 3 1/2 year old son. I am very familiar with and have read several of Rosemond's books, most recently, The Well Behaved Child. I use the ticket system with both...

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Shocking Discovery

Posted 2 weeks ago

I recently found marijuana paraphernalia in my 18 year old daughter's room. She is a senior in high school and, up until this point, a very responsible and trustworthy child. She is an excellent...

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Sticky Fingers

Posted 2 weeks ago

Our five year old (foster) son has begun stealing things from other children's book bags (or toys that are left out) at his after-school program. He's a curious little fellow and has a hard time...

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Disobedience or Addiction?

Posted 3 weeks ago

Dear John, Our almost-15-yr-old son has been disobeying our rule of no Xbox on school nights but last week was a doozy. When we were away for the weekend, he got his 16-yr-old sister to drive...

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Please?

Posted 3 weeks ago

Can you give me your advice on the use of the word "please" when addressing our children? Should we be avoiding this word when issuing instructions to the children, but otherwise it is fine? ...

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Playing with children - this mom gets it.

Posted 1 month, 1 day ago

My daughters (currently 5 and 7) ask me to play with toys with them (specifically) every few days. I have told them that they don’t need me to play and I have things I need to get done around the...

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Note to self - don't leave this 5 year old alone with friends.

Posted on 2/16/2017

I have a 5yo boy who is not respectful of other people's things. During a party at a friend's house with lots of children, he tore the thumbs off of oversized "Hulk hands". At his sister's...

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The doctor says...

Posted on 2/14/2017

Hello, I have a 6 (7 in May) year-old daughter who is the oldest girl of three. She's very bright, articulate, caring, giving...you get the drift. As she's gotten older, she has started to...

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Audio

Setting The Gate

Posted on 5/16/2014

Boundaries establish leadership.

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Assuming the Power of Parenthood Audio File

Posted on 1/1/2011

This is one of John's most dynamic talks to date. If it's time for you to assume the power of parenthood in your life, this is the Audio to listen to!

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Videos

Parenting Retreat

Posted on 5/17/2014

What do past attendees say about John Rosemond's Parenting Retreats. For the next Retreat see Upcoming Events

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