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Send Toddler to Designated Tantrum Spot

Posted on 3/14/2017

Q: My 30-month-old has started throwing tantrums when I do not give her or do for her what she wants. During her fits, she cries, screams, tries to hit and even bite me, and then, if I prevent her...

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Authority Is About Unequivocal Expectations, Not Persuasion

Posted on 3/8/2016

Actress Charlize Theron recently caused a media stir when she wrestled her adopted four-year-old son Jackson to the ground when he began throwing a public tantrum. For this, Theron was labeled a...

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Occasional Tantrums Don't Indicate Bipolar Disorder

Posted on 1/27/2016

Q: Our 3-year-old son is very sweet, loving, and generally well-behaved. Occasionally, however, he breaks into a huge tantrum during which he becomes uncontrollable. The word “possessed” comes to...

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3 year-old Tantrums

Posted on 9/8/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our first, a girl, just turned three and has suddenly started throwing tantrums. She can begin a tantrum when she’s alone in her room if something...

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Head Banging

Posted on 7/1/2014

Q: When he throws a tantrum, which happens several times a day, my 20-month-old often gets down on the floor and starts banging his head. Worried that he may hurt himself, I pick him up and...

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Aggression and the Ticket System

Posted 1 week ago

My son will be 4 next month. The 2s and 3s were fairly uneventful for us- nothing beyond your typical discipline issues that were quickly nipped. Several weeks ago, however, he began getting angry...

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New baby=tantrums for Big Sister!

Posted on 5/22/2017

We just brought the new baby home and it's full-blown, almost constant tantrums from our 30-month old. We used our 'tantrum place', but her tantrums are 15-20 minute, full-on bloodcurdling scream...

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Angry Outbursts from a 3-year-old

Posted on 5/21/2017

Every time I tell my 3 1/2 year old to do something (ex: put your cup up on the table more instead of on the edge, don't jump around in the kitchen, etc.) she crosses her arms and grunts. Or she...

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Toddler Tantrums

Posted on 5/17/2017

I have a 2.5 year old and a 13 month old. My 2 year old has started to throw tantrums in public if things don't go his way. He will start crying and throw himself on the floor. How should I handle...

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Teaching your child who is the boss.

Posted on 5/13/2017

My almost 3 year old daughter has developed the habit of using my breasts as a soothing tool. She was weaned well over a year ago, yet I still can't seem to get her to stop touching, cuddling and...

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The Twos, Doubled

Posted on 5/10/2017

I have boy/girl twins that will be two years old in 2 weeks. We are experiencing an increase in several behavior issues that seem to be compounded by a very recent move (last week) and also...

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Who is really in control?

Posted on 5/9/2017

My daughter turns 4 next week and has been using the potty since she was 23 months old. However, she loves to pee her pants about 4-5/wk. This is either done out of spite (her way of throwing a...

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5 yo Tantrums

Posted on 4/23/2017

Good Afternoon, Our five year old has changed since starting school this year. He used to be for the most part a quiet, compliant and cheerful soul to have around. If behaviour got out of hand,...

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2 yo Tantrums While Shopping

Posted on 4/22/2017

What should I do when I am out shopping alone with my 2 year old and he decides "he wants out of the buggy" and starts to throw a terrible fit?

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Here Come the Terrible Terrific Twos!

Posted on 4/19/2017

My usually pleasant almost 2 year old daughter just started throwing violent fits this week, kicking, screaming, and trying and sometimes succeeding in banging her head into my face. A few times...

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