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Tantrums

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Send Toddler to Designated Tantrum Spot

Posted on 3/14/2017

Q: My 30-month-old has started throwing tantrums when I do not give her or do for her what she wants. During her fits, she cries, screams, tries to hit and even bite me, and then, if I prevent her...

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Authority Is About Unequivocal Expectations, Not Persuasion

Posted on 3/8/2016

Actress Charlize Theron recently caused a media stir when she wrestled her adopted four-year-old son Jackson to the ground when he began throwing a public tantrum. For this, Theron was labeled a...

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Occasional Tantrums Don't Indicate Bipolar Disorder

Posted on 1/27/2016

Q: Our 3-year-old son is very sweet, loving, and generally well-behaved. Occasionally, however, he breaks into a huge tantrum during which he becomes uncontrollable. The word “possessed” comes to...

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3 year-old Tantrums

Posted on 9/8/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our first, a girl, just turned three and has suddenly started throwing tantrums. She can begin a tantrum when she’s alone in her room if something...

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Head Banging

Posted on 7/1/2014

Q: When he throws a tantrum, which happens several times a day, my 20-month-old often gets down on the floor and starts banging his head. Worried that he may hurt himself, I pick him up and...

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Recent Questions

5 yo Tantrums

Posted 6 days ago

Good Afternoon, Our five year old has changed since starting school this year. He used to be for the most part a quiet, compliant and cheerful soul to have around. If behaviour got out of hand,...

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2 yo Tantrums While Shopping

Posted 1 week ago

What should I do when I am out shopping alone with my 2 year old and he decides "he wants out of the buggy" and starts to throw a terrible fit?

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Here Come the Terrible Terrific Twos!

Posted 1 week ago

My usually pleasant almost 2 year old daughter just started throwing violent fits this week, kicking, screaming, and trying and sometimes succeeding in banging her head into my face. A few times...

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9 yo boy needs boom lowered

Posted 2 weeks ago

My youngest son is 9 years old. He has an older brother who is 11 years old. My 9 year has always had a temper/anger problem when things don't go his way. He reacts by having a tantrum. He has...

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A Blustering 3-Year-Old and the Ticket System

Posted 3 weeks ago

We have four children. Our third child is a 3.5 year old boy. He is our most "spirited" child and has the vocabulary of a 6 year old. Our 2 older children (6 & 8) are more reserved. He is so...

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Split personality of a 4 y/o

Posted on 3/30/2017

4 year old girl who is disobedient and throws tantrums. She has privileges taken but that has no effect. At school she behaves perfectly.

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Whiny tantrums.

Posted on 2/9/2017

I feel kind of ridiculous asking a question now when I thought I had the Rosemond-style discipline stuff nailed. At the moment, my kids are upstairs in their rooms for the remainder of the day...

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2 yo Screamer

Posted on 2/9/2017

Recently our 2 year old daughter has been screaming No at us when we tell her she cannot have something or generally not give her what she wants... we have tried simply ignoring, time out, and...

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Help With Ongoing Tantrums

Posted on 1/21/2017

Our 9-year old daughter has been prone to tantrums all of her life. The trigger is usually not getting her way--not getting to do what she wants, wear what she wants, etc...and these have usually...

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6 yo Won't Stay in His Room

Posted on 1/11/2017

We are having problems knowing how to deal with our 6yo foster son (1 of 4 foster children) who has tantrums (yelling, throwing things, kicking, defiant and sometimes laughing as he disobeys,...

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