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Preschool (4-5 years)

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Comfort, Not Counseling, Is the Treatment for Nightmares

Posted on 12/21/2016

Q: Our 5-year-old has suddenly started waking up with nightmares. He's not able to describe them with any clarity, however, so we don't know what the content of them is. The most he's able to...

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Use Godfather Principle to Nip Fear of Doctor in the Bud

Posted on 9/20/2016

Q: Over the past year or so, our 5-year-old has developed an extreme fear of going to the doctor or dentist. This came on suddenly, without a precipitating incident. The crying begins when we...

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Selecting the Right Private School

Posted on 8/16/2016

Q: We are looking for a private school for our 4-year-old. Regardless of the school we ultimately choose, we want to keep him there through eighth grade at least. We live in an suburban area so...

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Approaches to Dinner with 4-year-old

Posted on 7/14/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our 4-year-old daughter will not eat dinner, no matter what. At most, she takes a few bites of what I fix and then says she doesn’t like it. This has...

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Bedtime Fears

Posted on 3/10/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: About six months ago, our four-year old daughter began complaining of being afraid to be alone at bedtime. Upon questioning, she told us she was...

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Losing Tickets on the Ticket System

Posted on 12/16/2014

Q: I’ve been trying for two months with little to no success to get your “ticket” system to work on my 4-year-old daughter. The target behaviors are ignoring me when I tell her to do...

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Newly Academic Nature of Most Preschools

Posted on 11/25/2014

Courtesy of my friend and parent coach Janet Carter (www.ourchildishways.com), comes an interesting story: The parents of a 4-year-old girl went to a preschool parent conference to...

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Simple Curiosity?

Posted on 8/19/2014

Q: Our 5-year-old grandson sees his 5-year-old female first cousin from time to time. After they play for a while, he tells her he wants to “touch” her. This has happened twice in recent...

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Sassy Children

Posted on 7/8/2014

Q: The "sassiness" that I have heard so much about from my friends started a few months ago with my 5-year-old daughter. She will say things to me that I actually find myself tongue-tied on how or...

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To Help or Not To Help?

Posted on 6/3/2014

I recently asked a group of 50 teachers: “Raise your hand if you agree that when a child comes to an adult asking for help with an academic problem, the adult should help.” ...

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Recent Questions

Brothers don't have to be friends

Posted 3 days ago

I have a 7 year old boy and a 4 year old boy. They complain/compare: 'he got more apple juice than me', 'how come he got to watch t.v while he was home sick and I had to go to school?' They...

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4 yo Doesn't Want to Go to School

Posted 6 days ago

Hi Gurus, Our 4-year-old has been very upset about going to school (pre-k) lately - tonight she was crying and saying she doesn't want to go to school, ever ever ever. She attends an after-school...

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5 yo Tantrums

Posted 6 days ago

Good Afternoon, Our five year old has changed since starting school this year. He used to be for the most part a quiet, compliant and cheerful soul to have around. If behaviour got out of hand,...

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8 and 5 yo siblings fight constantly

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have a 8yo girl and 5 yo boy that fight constantly. Usually involves a lot of yelling. And sometimes gets physical. I'm at a loss on how to properly handle this. Nothing I'm doing is working. Help!

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Jekyll and Hyde almost 4 y/o boy

Posted 3 weeks ago

Please help. My son is 3 years old and will be 4 in three weeks. His behavior is getting out of hand. He doesn't behave like this anywhere else but home. He has three older sisters and he hits...

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Heavy Sleeper & Bedwetting 5-year-old

Posted 3 weeks ago

My, now 5 1/2 year old, son was successfully potty trained at 21 months. Basically ever since, we have been trying to night train him but to no avail. He wears a pull up, which he hates doing...

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Split personality of a 4 y/o

Posted on 3/30/2017

4 year old girl who is disobedient and throws tantrums. She has privileges taken but that has no effect. At school she behaves perfectly.

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Four yo temper tantrums

Posted on 3/15/2017

Our son turned 4 in December. He has proven that he is able to behave appropriately-no problems in preschool and generally people who know him think he is very "well-behaved and polite". But at...

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5 Year Old Mood Swings

Posted on 3/14/2017

I would love it if Sarah Hamaker has time to answer this one since she gave me such a fabulous answer for my daughter's pooping-in-pants issue (almost instant cure, thanks). My daughter has just...

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5 and 3 1/2 yo boys over the top silly

Posted on 3/8/2017

I have a five year old son and 3 1/2 year old son. I am very familiar with and have read several of Rosemond's books, most recently, The Well Behaved Child. I use the ticket system with both...

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