"The ultimate goal of raising children is to help them out of our lives and into successful lives of their own. "

Preschool (4-5 years)

John's Most Recent Articles

Comfort, Not Counseling, Is the Treatment for Nightmares

Posted on 12/21/2016

Q: Our 5-year-old has suddenly started waking up with nightmares. He's not able to describe them with any clarity, however, so we don't know what the content of them is. The most he's able to...

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Use Godfather Principle to Nip Fear of Doctor in the Bud

Posted on 9/20/2016

Q: Over the past year or so, our 5-year-old has developed an extreme fear of going to the doctor or dentist. This came on suddenly, without a precipitating incident. The crying begins when we...

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Selecting the Right Private School

Posted on 8/16/2016

Q: We are looking for a private school for our 4-year-old. Regardless of the school we ultimately choose, we want to keep him there through eighth grade at least. We live in an suburban area so...

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Approaches to Dinner with 4-year-old

Posted on 7/14/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our 4-year-old daughter will not eat dinner, no matter what. At most, she takes a few bites of what I fix and then says she doesn’t like it. This has...

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Bedtime Fears

Posted on 3/10/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: About six months ago, our four-year old daughter began complaining of being afraid to be alone at bedtime. Upon questioning, she told us she was...

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Losing Tickets on the Ticket System

Posted on 12/16/2014

Q: I’ve been trying for two months with little to no success to get your “ticket” system to work on my 4-year-old daughter. The target behaviors are ignoring me when I tell her to do...

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Newly Academic Nature of Most Preschools

Posted on 11/25/2014

Courtesy of my friend and parent coach Janet Carter (www.ourchildishways.com), comes an interesting story: The parents of a 4-year-old girl went to a preschool parent conference to...

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Simple Curiosity?

Posted on 8/19/2014

Q: Our 5-year-old grandson sees his 5-year-old female first cousin from time to time. After they play for a while, he tells her he wants to “touch” her. This has happened twice in recent...

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Sassy Children

Posted on 7/8/2014

Q: The "sassiness" that I have heard so much about from my friends started a few months ago with my 5-year-old daughter. She will say things to me that I actually find myself tongue-tied on how or...

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To Help or Not To Help?

Posted on 6/3/2014

I recently asked a group of 50 teachers: “Raise your hand if you agree that when a child comes to an adult asking for help with an academic problem, the adult should help.” ...

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Recent Questions

Four yo temper tantrums

Posted 1 week ago

Our son turned 4 in December. He has proven that he is able to behave appropriately-no problems in preschool and generally people who know him think he is very "well-behaved and polite". But at...

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5 Year Old Mood Swings

Posted 1 week ago

I would love it if Sarah Hamaker has time to answer this one since she gave me such a fabulous answer for my daughter's pooping-in-pants issue (almost instant cure, thanks). My daughter has just...

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5 and 3 1/2 yo boys over the top silly

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have a five year old son and 3 1/2 year old son. I am very familiar with and have read several of Rosemond's books, most recently, The Well Behaved Child. I use the ticket system with both...

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Sticky Fingers

Posted 2 weeks ago

Our five year old (foster) son has begun stealing things from other children's book bags (or toys that are left out) at his after-school program. He's a curious little fellow and has a hard time...

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The princess isn't in charge.

Posted 2 weeks ago

HI there, Need help with a particular scenario here. My almost 6 year old (6 in may) has started school about 5 weeks ago. She has been very tired, and emotional from being away all day...

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Interesting Moms are the Best!

Posted 3 weeks ago

I am struggling with how to balance my interests and being good wife/mother. I have 2 kids, one just turned 4 and a 21 month old. I always wanted to be a stay-at-home mom, but I had other things...

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Unsupervised Backyard Play?

Posted on 2/17/2017

I was a child of the Eighties and was allowed to play outside in our front yard (without a fence) without supervision starting at about age 5 or 6. I was often outside playing with the neighbor...

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Note to self - don't leave this 5 year old alone with friends.

Posted on 2/16/2017

I have a 5yo boy who is not respectful of other people's things. During a party at a friend's house with lots of children, he tore the thumbs off of oversized "Hulk hands". At his sister's...

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How to remove Grandpa from son's life

Posted on 2/15/2017

Hello, I would like some advice regarding a difficult conversation with my 4 year old (recently turned 4) . It has become clear to my husband and I through a string of events that we should...

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4 y/o Bedtime Monster

Posted on 2/14/2017

Our 4 year old great-grandson has been living with us for almost 8 months. He is fairly good during the day (unless he has not had a nap). He goes to preschool 3 days a week. And went to the...

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