"As children grow older, parents must give them greater freedom, including greater freedom to make mistakes. "

Preschool (4-5 years)

John's Most Recent Articles

Comfort, Not Counseling, Is the Treatment for Nightmares

Posted on 12/21/2016

Q: Our 5-year-old has suddenly started waking up with nightmares. He's not able to describe them with any clarity, however, so we don't know what the content of them is. The most he's able to...

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Use Godfather Principle to Nip Fear of Doctor in the Bud

Posted on 9/20/2016

Q: Over the past year or so, our 5-year-old has developed an extreme fear of going to the doctor or dentist. This came on suddenly, without a precipitating incident. The crying begins when we...

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Selecting the Right Private School

Posted on 8/16/2016

Q: We are looking for a private school for our 4-year-old. Regardless of the school we ultimately choose, we want to keep him there through eighth grade at least. We live in an suburban area so...

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Approaches to Dinner with 4-year-old

Posted on 7/14/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: Our 4-year-old daughter will not eat dinner, no matter what. At most, she takes a few bites of what I fix and then says she doesn’t like it. This has...

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Bedtime Fears

Posted on 3/10/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: About six months ago, our four-year old daughter began complaining of being afraid to be alone at bedtime. Upon questioning, she told us she was...

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Losing Tickets on the Ticket System

Posted on 12/16/2014

Q: I’ve been trying for two months with little to no success to get your “ticket” system to work on my 4-year-old daughter. The target behaviors are ignoring me when I tell her to do...

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Newly Academic Nature of Most Preschools

Posted on 11/25/2014

Courtesy of my friend and parent coach Janet Carter (www.ourchildishways.com), comes an interesting story: The parents of a 4-year-old girl went to a preschool parent conference to...

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Simple Curiosity?

Posted on 8/19/2014

Q: Our 5-year-old grandson sees his 5-year-old female first cousin from time to time. After they play for a while, he tells her he wants to “touch” her. This has happened twice in recent...

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Sassy Children

Posted on 7/8/2014

Q: The "sassiness" that I have heard so much about from my friends started a few months ago with my 5-year-old daughter. She will say things to me that I actually find myself tongue-tied on how or...

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To Help or Not To Help?

Posted on 6/3/2014

I recently asked a group of 50 teachers: “Raise your hand if you agree that when a child comes to an adult asking for help with an academic problem, the adult should help.” ...

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Recent Questions

Unsupervised Backyard Play?

Posted 1 week ago

I was a child of the Eighties and was allowed to play outside in our front yard (without a fence) without supervision starting at about age 5 or 6. I was often outside playing with the neighbor...

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Note to self - don't leave this 5 year old alone with friends.

Posted 1 week ago

I have a 5yo boy who is not respectful of other people's things. During a party at a friend's house with lots of children, he tore the thumbs off of oversized "Hulk hands". At his sister's...

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How to remove Grandpa from son's life

Posted 1 week ago

Hello, I would like some advice regarding a difficult conversation with my 4 year old (recently turned 4) . It has become clear to my husband and I through a string of events that we should...

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4 y/o Bedtime Monster

Posted 1 week ago

Our 4 year old great-grandson has been living with us for almost 8 months. He is fairly good during the day (unless he has not had a nap). He goes to preschool 3 days a week. And went to the...

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5 Year Old Poop "Accidents"

Posted 2 weeks ago

My little girl just turned 5 a few days ago. For the last year, she has been been occasionally pooping in the bathtub. She claims she can't feel it coming. After talking and trying many methods, I...

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5 Year Old Ticket Question

Posted 2 weeks ago

If our 5 year old loses all of his tickets and is sent to his room for the rest of the day, he will usually fall asleep on his bed. When bedtime rolls around, putting him to bed an hour early is a...

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5 Year Old Wets the Bed

Posted on 1/21/2017

We potty trained my now 5 year old son when he was 4. He went a year without wetting the bed through the night but now at 5 (almost 6) he is soaking the bed every night. I make him clean up the...

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What's a Nanny To Do?

Posted on 1/11/2017

I am a nanny for two children, ages 4 1/5 (girl) & 8 1/5 (boy). They are brother and sister. The boy approaches the girl and rubs his private part against her. I told the parents and they said...

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Different ages playing together

Posted on 1/9/2017

I have a close friend, and our combined 6 kids play together often 1-2x a week at least. Each kid has a partner 2 6 year olds, 1 4 year old (November) 1 3 year old (June bday) two 1 year olds. ...

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On Being a Grandparent.

Posted on 1/5/2017

I appreciate your newspaper columns, and joined in order to ask you a question. I was very disappointed that the American Academy of Pediatrics watered down its expectations of parents in regard...

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