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Bedtime/Sleep

John's Most Recent Articles

Comfort, Not Counseling, Is the Treatment for Nightmares

Posted on 12/21/2016

Q: Our 5-year-old has suddenly started waking up with nightmares. He's not able to describe them with any clarity, however, so we don't know what the content of them is. The most he's able to...

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Rescue Yourself and Your Child With Bedtime Routine

Posted on 5/11/2016

Q: My daughter, who just turned three, has a surge of energy after dinner and can take hours to fall asleep. I try putting her down around 8 o’clock, but there are nights when she doesn’t fall...

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More on Attachment Parenting

Posted on 8/18/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond In a recent column, I referred to “attachment parenting babble,” which is to say, I called a spade a spade. The column in question concerned...

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Making a Change

Posted on 8/4/2015

This is a story about how quickly parents, if they are determined enough, can make significant change in parenting policy. The family in question consists of two boys, ages 9 and 8,...

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Bedtime Fears

Posted on 3/10/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Q: About six months ago, our four-year old daughter began complaining of being afraid to be alone at bedtime. Upon questioning, she told us she was...

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Teens & Sleep

Posted on 9/2/2014

New research finds that teens whose school days begin later than the national norm of approximately eight o’clock achieve at higher levels than teens who start school earlier. The researchers in...

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"The Doctor" Makes House Calls

Posted on 4/28/2014

Shortly after I finished graduate school, a friend of mine shared with me a book called Indirect Hypnosis, written by Milton Erickson, a most unorthodox psychiatrist if ever there was one....

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Too Old to Cuddle?

Posted on 4/15/2014

Q: My 11-year old son, an only child, continues to ask me to "snuggle" with him and scratch his back at bed time. This is a time for us to read aloud, chat about concerns or questions, and say...

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3 Year Old has bedtime problems

Posted on 1/22/2013

Q: For the past several weeks, our just-turned 3-year-old has been waking up and coming into our room at all hours of the night with the usual excuses. He's scared, hungry, thirsty, lonely, can't...

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3-Year-Old Boys Bedtime Issues

Posted on 10/18/2011

How to quiet down boys' bedtime antics Q: My twin boys will be 3 next month. They sleep in the same room. They've recently taken to getting out of their beds (together, although one seems to be...

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Recent Questions

Bedtime woes

Posted 1 week ago

My older son will be 5 next month and shares a room with my middle child, who is 3.5 years old this month. My almost-5 year old has started having nighttime fears and is coming out of his room a...

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15-year-old doesn't like being "un-hinged!"

Posted 2 weeks ago

We have an adopted son, almost 16 yo, who has been with us for 2 1/2 years. He spent most of his earlier life in an over-crowded orphanage, with very little male influence and little supervision....

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4 Year Old Bedwetting Trials

Posted 2 weeks ago

Our 4.5 year old son has been day time potty trained since 22 months but has NEVER been night time dry. He had his tonsils and adenoids out a few months ago and our pediatrician said that may help...

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Sleepng arragements that got out of hand.

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have 3yo twin boys. We are dealing with terrible sleep issues. They used to sleep through the night from 12 months to 2.5 years. We did have to do "cry it out" method at 12 months for one of...

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2-yo instigator needs the Doctor's orders

Posted on 7/16/2017

This is a follow up question to Toddler Bedtime Bedlam. We've been following the advise to calmly tell our 3 and 2 year old they must stay in bed every night, sometimes we go in up to 7 times a...

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Morning Mealtime Meltdowns: Four-Year-Old Edition

Posted on 7/11/2017

I'm afraid we've created a mealtime monster. My daughter just turned 4. She is not a morning person. She's also a suspected hypoglycemic. This has not been medically confirmed because when I...

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Adjusting to Toddler Bed

Posted on 7/10/2017

Hello, my 22 month old is now sleeping in his toddler bed. Of course, he is getting up frequently. We have a baby gate at his doorway. My question is- what do you do when he gets out of his bed?...

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Bedtime solution requires consistency.

Posted on 7/5/2017

My 9 year old daughter is afraid to sleep in her own room. She has comes to us numerous times before falling asleep. She will often have nightmares and come to us in the middle of the night. She...

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Breaking habit of 5yo sleeping with mom

Posted on 6/27/2017

For a variety of reasons, my 5 year old and I have been sleeping in the same bed for the last 7 months. We recently moved fro a 3 bedroom, 2.5 bathroom house to a 2 bedroom, 1 bathroom condo. I...

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Toddler Bedtime Bedlam

Posted on 6/20/2017

My boys ages 3 and 2 have started sharing a bedroom. The older boy was always a good sleeper and would stay in bed when he had his own room. Now however the younger boy who just transitioned from...

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