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Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out)

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Stay the Course With Rebellious Teen

Posted on 5/23/2017

Q: Our 18-year-old daughter is a month away from high school graduation and she is failing nearly every class! About six months ago, she took up with a group of young adults who are less than...

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Lowering the Boom

Posted on 7/7/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond One of the most common of complaints from today’s parents is “we’ve tried everything.” They refer, of course, to having tried numerous approaches...

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The Very Essence of Effective Discipline

Posted on 6/9/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Two months ago, I conducted a two-day small-group “parent retreat” during which I talked about, among other things, the legitimacy and power of...

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To Spank or Not to Spank?

Posted on 10/28/2014

It’s time once again for me to clarify my position on spanking. I arrived at this reluctant conclusion because twice in the last week, I’ve been informed that I believe in it, which is...

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Roadblocks to Success in Classroom Discipline

Posted on 10/14/2014

A first-grade teacher asks what she can do about a girl in her class who is completely undisciplined. After nearly two months of this teacher’s best efforts, the child’s behavior is no...

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Sassy Children

Posted on 7/8/2014

Q: The "sassiness" that I have heard so much about from my friends started a few months ago with my 5-year-old daughter. She will say things to me that I actually find myself tongue-tied on how or...

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The Ticket System for Corrective Discipline

Posted on 4/28/2014

I developed "Tickets" in response to the observation that time-out only works with children who are already fairly well behaved. (Then again, just about any demonstration of parental disapproval...

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"Boy" Behavior

Posted on 3/11/2014

Q: My 6-year-old son is a bright and friendly kindergartner. Each day a color coded chart is sent home about his behavior. This year he's gone through several spells during which he will have a...

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Daughter does not "Measure Up."

Posted on 2/11/2014

Q: My 5-year-old is the youngest of my 3 children. Her older boy/girl twin siblings clearly outshine her athletically. They're already very skilled at wakeboarding and snow skiing, for example. I...

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Who cleans up?

Posted on 2/4/2014

Q: I have 3 kids ages 8, 6, and 4. I need help solving the "pick up the playroom" dilemma. When an area in which they've been playing needs to be picked up and straightened, the 8-year-old always...

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Recent Questions

5 yo refuses to stay in room

Posted 4 days ago

Sort of follow up on last question/sort of a new question - for my almost 5-year old - I have been doing the pass system at night for 3 weeks and it's not going well. He ends up spending several...

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Bullying or Belittling?

Posted 1 week ago

Sibling Bullying vs. Belittling Our 12 and 10 ½ year old sons are very different kids. We call the oldest “the lawyer.” He’s an over-achiever, good in sports, and highly...

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Terrible Transition to Three

Posted 2 weeks ago

My 3 year old is a bully. She is starting 1st pre-school soon, Picks on 2 year old sister (sleep in same room, in cribs but climbs out) uncontrollable screaming when not going her way, snatches...

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Consequences when Room Sharing

Posted 3 weeks ago

We are using the ticket system with great success! It is really helping. Thankfully we have not had to send any kids to their rooms for a super long period of time but I want to be prepared for...

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Cry Baby 3 year old

Posted 3 weeks ago

Hi, I have a 3 and a half year old boy that I need help with. He has always been more sensitive than your average child (I also have a 5 and 2 year old girls so I do have a comparison of what...

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Too young for consequences?

Posted on 7/18/2017

My 20 month old son is doing typical 2 year old behaviors testing limits. More and more often he completely ignores my instructions. The past few days I have put him in his tantrum spot, his old...

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How to Stop Mommy-Hitting Toddler

Posted on 7/18/2017

Hi there, my 22 month old likes to slap/hit me when he's upset. At home I've started using timeout, which helps. What do I do when I do when he does it in public? I've read Making the Terrible...

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Toddlers and Tickets?

Posted on 7/17/2017

Firstly, thanks for your response about the difficulties with potty training. I had discussed using stickers as an incentive for pooping in the potty, and I am seeing the light of not using...

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Never argue with a 5 year old.

Posted on 7/16/2017

My one and only gives the vibe she is superior to her classmates by contradicting them, telling them they are wrong or having show off behaviour. I'm afraid she will not have any friends, but am...

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Dangerous 2 year old behavior

Posted on 7/8/2017

My 28-month-old regularly loosens his car seat straps by pushing the button between his legs and using the weight of his shoulders to loosen the straps. I tried making the straps very tight, but...

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