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Discipline Methods (e.g. time-out)

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Lowering the Boom

Posted on 7/7/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond One of the most common of complaints from today’s parents is “we’ve tried everything.” They refer, of course, to having tried numerous approaches...

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The Very Essence of Effective Discipline

Posted on 6/9/2015

Copyright 2015, John K. Rosemond Two months ago, I conducted a two-day small-group “parent retreat” during which I talked about, among other things, the legitimacy and power of...

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To Spank or Not to Spank?

Posted on 10/28/2014

It’s time once again for me to clarify my position on spanking. I arrived at this reluctant conclusion because twice in the last week, I’ve been informed that I believe in it, which is...

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Roadblocks to Success in Classroom Discipline

Posted on 10/14/2014

A first-grade teacher asks what she can do about a girl in her class who is completely undisciplined. After nearly two months of this teacher’s best efforts, the child’s behavior is no...

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Sassy Children

Posted on 7/8/2014

Q: The "sassiness" that I have heard so much about from my friends started a few months ago with my 5-year-old daughter. She will say things to me that I actually find myself tongue-tied on how or...

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The Ticket System for Corrective Discipline

Posted on 4/28/2014

I developed "Tickets" in response to the observation that time-out only works with children who are already fairly well behaved. (Then again, just about any demonstration of parental disapproval...

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"Boy" Behavior

Posted on 3/11/2014

Q: My 6-year-old son is a bright and friendly kindergartner. Each day a color coded chart is sent home about his behavior. This year he's gone through several spells during which he will have a...

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Daughter does not "Measure Up."

Posted on 2/11/2014

Q: My 5-year-old is the youngest of my 3 children. Her older boy/girl twin siblings clearly outshine her athletically. They're already very skilled at wakeboarding and snow skiing, for example. I...

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Who cleans up?

Posted on 2/4/2014

Q: I have 3 kids ages 8, 6, and 4. I need help solving the "pick up the playroom" dilemma. When an area in which they've been playing needs to be picked up and straightened, the 8-year-old always...

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Keep a Sharp Eye on Electronics

Posted on 1/28/2014

Q: Our 13-year-old son has had an iPod for the last 3 years. We've always made use of the parental restrictions to make sure that he could only access "clean" music, movies, and websites. When I...

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Recent Questions

Authority Issues with a 12 year old

Posted 1 week ago

My 12 year old girl has a real issue with her authority, she talks back when asked to do anything that she does not want to do. My mother-in-law, My husband and I are continually having to talk...

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Jekyll and Hyde almost 4 y/o boy

Posted 3 weeks ago

Please help. My son is 3 years old and will be 4 in three weeks. His behavior is getting out of hand. He doesn't behave like this anywhere else but home. He has three older sisters and he hits...

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A Blustering 3-Year-Old and the Ticket System

Posted 3 weeks ago

We have four children. Our third child is a 3.5 year old boy. He is our most "spirited" child and has the vocabulary of a 6 year old. Our 2 older children (6 & 8) are more reserved. He is so...

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Squabbling Sisters

Posted 3 weeks ago

Hello. I have 9 and 11-YO daughters. I was so excited to have two girls and envisioned them being best friends growing up together. Not the case. They fight all the time and my 11-YO has become...

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Split personality of a 4 y/o

Posted 4 weeks ago

4 year old girl who is disobedient and throws tantrums. She has privileges taken but that has no effect. At school she behaves perfectly.

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Special Place vs. Timeout

Posted on 3/25/2017

Can you explain to me the difference between a "special place" [ex. for screaming] and a time out, as well as how one enforces the child staying in said place?

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7 year old Slacker

Posted on 3/13/2017

I have a 7 yr old son. He will do anything to get out of work. He has fallen asleep in the Kitchen while everyone went to bed because he didn't want to sweep and mop the kitchen floor (which is...

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No, No, No!

Posted on 3/10/2017

I have a two and half year old and 13 month old. My concern is I always feel like I am correcting the oldest, no yelling no hitting no throwing etc and I am beginning to feel like I fuss all the...

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Shocking Discovery

Posted on 3/5/2017

I recently found marijuana paraphernalia in my 18 year old daughter's room. She is a senior in high school and, up until this point, a very responsible and trustworthy child. She is an excellent...

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Sticky Fingers

Posted on 3/4/2017

Our five year old (foster) son has begun stealing things from other children's book bags (or toys that are left out) at his after-school program. He's a curious little fellow and has a hard time...

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