"A child who can't take "no" for an answer always has parents who can't say it and mean it. "

School Age (6-10 years)

John's Most Recent Articles

Put a Lid on Materialistic Excess for Kid With Sticky Fingers

Posted 1 week ago

Q: We’ve just been informed that our 7-year-old son has been effectively “expelled” from the private school he attended last year because of repeated instances of stealing small items from...

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Do Your Homework Before Choosing a School

Posted on 5/30/2017

Q: We have just moved and are seeking a new school for our two children – 6- and 8-year-old boys. They are smart, respectful of adults, and creative. We know that sounds like typical bragging, but...

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Do Classroom Reward Systems Undermine Parental Authority?

Posted on 5/18/2017

<b>Q. My daughter's kindergarten teacher is using a reward system to manage classroom behavior. Children earn smiley faces for good behavior and can trade them in for prizes at the end of the...

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What to Do About a Poor Report Card

Posted on 1/24/2017

<i><b>How to transform bad grades into a learning experience -- and into better results.</b></i> When your child brings home disappointing grades, don't panic, and don't lose your cool. Studies...

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Comfort, Not Counseling, Is the Treatment for Nightmares

Posted on 12/21/2016

Q: Our 5-year-old has suddenly started waking up with nightmares. He's not able to describe them with any clarity, however, so we don't know what the content of them is. The most he's able to...

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Parent Help With Homework Is a Generally Bad Thing

Posted on 9/13/2016

Amanda Johnson, a second-grade teacher in Laramie, Wyoming, has caused quite a stir both among her colleagues and constituents and—because her educational incorrectness was covered by national...

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Selecting the Right Private School

Posted on 8/16/2016

Q: We are looking for a private school for our 4-year-old. Regardless of the school we ultimately choose, we want to keep him there through eighth grade at least. We live in an suburban area so...

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Medicine Doesn't Cure Misbehavior

Posted on 7/26/2016

Q: Our son is a rising second-grader at a private school. Last year, his behavior was often disruptive and sometimes even downright defiant—problems his first grade teacher did not have with him....

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Have a Game Plan for Daughter's Anxiety

Posted on 6/28/2016

Q: My 8-year-old daughter is having anxiety issues that seem to border on obsessive-compulsive disorder. She wants me to repeat certain things back to her and has a set routine of things I must...

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Don't Micromanage Homeschooled Children

Posted on 5/17/2016

Q: I homeschool my three children, ages are 8, 6, and 5. The older two have a very poor attitude about doing school, especially math, and the younger one is starting to pick up on it. Their poor...

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Recent Questions

Sibling Conflict

Posted 4 days ago

Our 13-year-old son teases his eight year old sister to no end. She reacts dramatically to the teasing (he loves getting a rise out of her, so I'm sure her reaction is his reward). She'll scream...

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Diet is a 4 letter word

Posted 1 week ago

I wrote before about my 7 year old son asking if he’s fat and complaining about his thighs. While I agree that it’s a teaching moment about treating others kindly, the truth is he probably does...

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Diagnosis and parenting.

Posted 1 week ago

Our 8-year old daughter was psychologically evaluated upon a request from her school and pediatrician. This was done for a determination of possible ADHD or Autism Spectrum issues. The results of...

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8 yro hurting others using ticket system

Posted 2 weeks ago

Our 8 year old son has had some instances of badly hurting others. He's aggressively hurt kids at school twice and the school has intervened. In both instances, we have punished him at home as...

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Bedtime solution requires consistency.

Posted 3 weeks ago

My 9 year old daughter is afraid to sleep in her own room. She has comes to us numerous times before falling asleep. She will often have nightmares and come to us in the middle of the night. She...

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9 yo Worry Wart

Posted 3 weeks ago

Our 9 year old daughter is worrying about everything! This started a few months ago. She worries about liking boys, wrong thoughts about other people's race or weight, thoughts about kissing or...

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7 year old trying not to be mean

Posted on 6/15/2017

What do you suggest to help a 7 year old girl to resist "mean girl" behavior when that's what she's seeing among her peers? Mean girl meaning whispering, sassy talk, exclusion, etc. We encourage...

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Tweens Disrespectful Brats

Posted on 6/12/2017

It is the first day of summer vacation. I have a 9 and 11 year old boy. I work part time from home. My plan for the summer was to brainstorm a summer bucket list with them and then schedule some...

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A Habit to Break?

Posted on 6/11/2017

My 7 year old grandson had developed a habit of wiggling his hands when he gets excited, such as during soccer games or while playing or during an exciting part of a movie. I don't think he is...

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9 Year Old Learning Self-Control?

Posted on 6/9/2017

I am totally convinced my 9yr old son can learn self control through the methods talked about here. He does relatively well at school and when he is separate from his twin younger siblings (5yr...

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