my daughters, age 5 and 2, constantly fight. I agree siblings need to settle their own quarrels; however, my 2 year old is still physically agressive (pulling hair, hitting), and sometimes I witness it but sometimes my 5 year old is reporting it. My 5 year old has become addicted to "the victim role," and I honestly believe she instigates many of their conflicts but plays innocent/victim to me. Many conflicts occur out of my vision (I'm usually tending to a 4 month old baby); so while I agree I need to stay out of the conflict, if my 2 year old is physically aggressive, and I didn't witness the entire event, I really feel at a loss at how effectively to manage these multiple daily occurrances. I'm praying very hard, and am feeling extremely inadequate and drained.