Question
My 15 year old daughter has a boyfriend who is her first and also a real punk. We had a great relationship with her until this boy came along and now all has changed. She has a soft heart and he likes to play the victim with her and it works. He started out as portraying himself as the nice guy who was raised in a bad family environment. When we let our rules known for dating our daughter he began to break them one by one telling my daughter how stupid we were and how we had no clue how to parent. We then told her she was not allowed to see him outside of our home. We made an exception for homecoming and they did it again. While punishing her the boyfriend decided to let us know what he thought about us and my husband lost it. She is no longer allowed to see him. We have noticed some changes in her. She dyed her hair a mousy brown, quit wearing makeup, never dresses up and quit some extracurricular activities. We have just discovered that he has been sending her rather pornographic letters. My husband wants to go to the boys mother and show them to her and possibly make my daughter switch high schools. Are we micromanaging or protecting her from someone who might be abusive and controlling? This is serious to me and I am having trouble deciding if laying down the law and forbidding the relationship just won't make things worse. Help! T.G.
