Question
We have a 9 year old girl, 6 year old boy, and 4.5 year old girl. I've read Parenting by The Book twice and The Well Behaved Child twice in the past month. Our 9 year old is the biggest challenge, currently battling lying, defiance, disobedience, writing on walls, not doing what is asked the first time. We started the chart system with all three kids four weeks ago with a list of three target behaviors: No lying, do what your told the first time, and no means no. An example of the lying is that our oldest will skip items on her chore list and say she has done them. She has also scribbled on the walls three times in the past two weeks. I'm mentally drained and don't know what to do.
