I have a 4 year old and a 15 month old. About 6 months ago he was misbehaving and we did the card system. It worked well. He is very good at school (just preschool 3 mornings a week) and with our babysitter. I am trying to get him to be more independent. He always wants help to go potty, put on shoes, swing on swings, etc. I recently learned he did those things himself at school and with the babysitter.
I know there are no argumentative childten, just argumentative parents. So I tell him to just try and then I will help… and he says he’s tired and then I argue with him