My 3.5 year old thinks he is running the show. He is bossy, and doing insubordination and attention seeking behaviors. I read your books and he was an easy toddler. But dad I forgot to use alpha speech. When our 8 month old was born I “involved him” and he became very bossy. He constantly wants someone to hold his hand. Dad is the preferred parent and he gets upset when he’s holding our daughter. He is well behaved in all our outside activities. How do we do a reset? He treats mom like a servant. We also watch tv and he has too many toys.