Can you talk a little about shaming children, and how not to? I'm afraid I have done this too often recently, and can see the hurt in his eyes, but it's too late by then to pull back. On top of it, some of the behavior is quite incredulous, which leads to the words in the first place. Said child is 9 years old. For example, I'll say "How could you possibly think it was a good idea to throw the football near the fireplace. You can see there is fire in it." Or, "You know better than to ___. Why?" I know I have other, perhaps better examples, but I didn't want to wait to ask. Thank you.