48 year old male, married 18 years with 2 children 6 and 4. I have been reading your books and using your methods for over 15 years. I love your beliefs and methods. I am very happy and proud of how well the kids are doing. They are leaders in their classes and I get compliments from adults almost every day on both their intelligence and their behavior. The problem is my wife gets very little pleasure from either myself or from the children she has no faith in your methods and undermines me constantly. As you often say she seems to be one that believes difficulties are a badge of honor. What can I do ?