Question
I am a divorced/re-married mom of an 8-yr-old son. My ex also has remarried and has 2 daughters with his current wife. We share 50/50 custody. I battled infertility issues and so my son is adopted from South Korea. This makes it very difficult for me to lose out on the time he is with his dad, the new wife, and their 2 daughters. I understand your stance on step parents having full parental authority in families, and I agree with the marital relationship coming first over the parental relationship. My husband is very strict with my son, and it has caused some arguments between he and I when I can see my son pulling away from our family and voicing things such as, "I miss my dad. I get to be back with him Wednesday, right?" or whatever the case may be. Lately, I'm hearing more and more of these statements.
My questions - can you give me some different way to look at this situation that might help me mentally and emotionally come to terms with my son preferring his dad's household over mine? Also, is it appropriate for me to sit down and talk to my son about how it hurts my feelings when his actions and words tell me he can't wait to be with his dad again? I'd like to enforce when he's with me and his step dad, he's with us. When he's with his dad and that family, he's with them. And we don't need to hear that he misses or wants to be with the other parent during that time. I know my son loves me. This is just heart breaking.
