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Should Grandma allow visits from absent parents?

Posted on 3/30/2018

Have custody of 4 yr old Grandson. Mother nor father have matured to the point where he would live with them. As time has progressed, the time between visits has increased. Last visit from...

No Clear Cut Answer for When to Blend a Family

Posted on 3/27/2018

hi there I have been dating my BF for about a year. I have never been around his kids yet although they do know of me and our children used to be friends before they moved away. My bf has spent a...

Self Control?

Posted on 3/12/2018

Thank you for answering my question from earlier in the week. I appreciate Parent Guru & the role of the doctor in my life. My sons 3 qtr report came home on Thursday of course I knew he had...

Two out of Three

Posted on 3/5/2018

My 9+ year old talks back to teachers and classmates, calls other students names, won't follow directions of teachers and refuses to do what he's been told (one teacher captured it perfectly...

Reconciling Lost Relationship with Teen

Posted on 3/1/2018

My husbands 15 yo daughter has cut off all communication with him. She was living with us but moved to her moms full time for the past year and a half, he has been blocked from texting, messaging,...

Never too late to become a leader.

Posted on 2/20/2018

I have a 16-year-old son whom I have custody of 50% of the time. His father is very permissive and expects no chores. I am not and have expectations of household help. He consistently refuses,...

9 YO Girl Resistant To Visits With Dad

Posted on 2/18/2018

I have a 9 year old daughter. Her mom and I split when she was 3-1/2 years old. We have a court ordered shared parenting plan. I have visitation 1 day/night each week and every other weekend...

Daughter choosing Dad

Posted on 1/13/2018

Now my daughter is with her biological father who rented an extended stay for himself and her close to school, so she can finish school now. It's her last year and she needs to start applying for...

Angry daughter needs dose of reality.

Posted on 1/8/2018

Good day, we have tried lots of different things,this is the way she is now, alway angry, I dont know what to do except her bio dad to be with her now. What would be your recommendation for me, in...

Parental Rights and Decisions

Posted on 1/8/2018

I had a big fight with my daughter, she snapped and started hitting me. My husband, who's her stepdad, was trying to stop her by grabbing her hands and pulling her away. I called the police...

4 yo girl defiant/disrespectful

Posted on 10/27/2017

In the last few months especially, my four year old daughter has escalated the frequency of disrespectful and defiant behavior. She has had a stubborn streak since age 2, and has a tendency for...

Symptoms of shared custody?

Posted on 10/27/2017

Can you please speak to the symptoms of when a shared custody situation is tougher on a young child or leading to "acting out" for a child? My 4-year old daughter is on a 2-2-3 custody schedule,...

Co-parenting woes.

Posted on 10/27/2017

Tonight I spoke with my ex-husband about disciplining our 4-year old daughter, of whom we share 50/50 custody. That's another question for another message. He said that in the midst of the...

Teen Prefers to Live with Daily Pot Smoking Dad

Posted on 10/9/2017

My just turned 13 year old son wants to see what living with Dad would be like after living with me and Stepdad (and visiting Dad and StepMom) over his childhood. Dad has a stable career and nice...

Consult a parent coach.

Posted on 9/25/2017

I am a single divorced mother of three year old twins. I have a home. My ex-husband, the Twins' father, lives with his parents. We have split custody. While at my home about six months ago one...

Two home dilemma.

Posted on 9/13/2017

My 14 year old son is having a difficult time with me getting remarried. We have given him space and even dated for 2 years before we married. He is mad and I have mistakenly let him get away...

Thriving at four - between two families.

Posted on 8/21/2017

Our soon to be 4 grandson now has a parenting contract between our son and the child's mother. They were never married. The contract was made by the biological mother and my son's new wife, who...

Bullying or Belittling?

Posted on 8/10/2017

Sibling Bullying vs. Belittling Our 12 and 10 ½ year old sons are very different kids. We call the oldest “the lawyer.” He’s an over-achiever, good in sports, and highly...

Challenges of the two parent home.

Posted on 7/24/2017

Hello, I have 2 boys, 14 and 16 years old. I am divorced from their father. Their father and I have a civil relationship regarding the boys. We have always disagreed in the general rearing of the...

Separation and Time with Children

Posted on 5/30/2017

My husband is a covert narcissist. After many years of a bad marriage we have "separated". (I cannot divorce him for fear a judge will give him alone time with our children) He is very immature...

Post divorce parenting struggles.

Posted on 4/21/2017

I have a son (14) and daughter (16) who I share custody (40%) with my ex wife (60%). We have been divorced 5 years. We live about a mile apart. Daughter has decided now that she’s 16, she doesn’t...

11 yo Father Wants 50/50 Custody

Posted on 10/5/2016

I really need an answer quickly. I am not the parent in this case..........my daughter is. She and her husband are divorced and have one 11 year old daughter. The custody arrangement settled on...

4-yr-old struggling with divorce/custody situation

Posted on 8/1/2016

Our youngest son is going to be five in October. He splits his time between our house and his mother's house. Our households have totally different parenting styles, to say the least. All summer,...

Not a "Real" Grandma?

Posted on 7/13/2016

My stepdaughter and my 7.5 year old granddaughter lived in another state and moved in with us 1 year ago . My granddaughter's father is an alcoholic, became physically abusive to her Mom and...

Update on 4 Year Old Parents Divorcing

Posted on 4/15/2016

UPDATE for Sarah: Thanks for your last answer. It is incredibly helpful every single time you give me feedback. The update is that my son's dad and I have now physically separated. I'm very...

No Game

Posted on 4/12/2016

Recently, 3 of my 4 children participated in a "game" with their 18-year-old soon-to-be step-brother. The "game" consisted of binding the hands of the children, 1-male (8) and 2-females (6 & 5),...

18-Month-Old and Custody Issues

Posted on 3/11/2016

In an upcoming custody case, the father of my 18 month old is trying to get the baby for 7 consecutive weeks during the summer as well as other time sharing, after the father will move back to...

4 Year Old Parents Divorcing

Posted on 1/30/2016

Hi... My husband and I are finally splitting up. I am planning on a divorce. Our son is now 4. Husband is generally pissed at the world all the time, and a Terrible role model. He can't see...

17 yo Smoking Pot

Posted on 1/28/2016

17 year old son was caught smoking pot for the third time. Set down a set of consequences that frankly were not that tough but he doesn't want to live by. Went into a rage and left home. Now says...

Joint Custody Issue

Posted on 1/25/2016

We have joint custody, one week with me, one week with mom. Mom insists that the girls ages 13 and 11 call her every night on my week. I don't mind, but the calls become a gossip session or 20...

Nighttime Potty Training 8 and 5 year old

Posted on 1/18/2016

Hello, I have two boys ages 8 and 5. Their mother and I separated 17 months ago and are now divorced. Since July, I have had 50% custody (alternating weeks) based on the recommendation of an...

10 yo Boys and Custody Issues

Posted on 1/8/2016

dad has custody, mom has visitation. Recently divorced and twin 10 year old boys want to live with mom and are resentful towards father. Should visitation orders, of every other weekend be...

4 yo tantrums

Posted on 12/12/2015

My grandson is almost 5 and his parents are going through a divorce, separating 7 months ago. The parents are not handling it well. He is living with his father at my house. According to his...

Discipline by Divorced Dad

Posted on 10/14/2015

I have been divorced from my wife for 3 years, we were separated for 2 years prior to the divorce. for the 2 years of separation, we split custody 50/50 completely even. I still have 50/50...

2 yo Doesn't Want Daddy

Posted on 9/10/2015

My soon-to-be-ex-husband (who has narcissistic and borderline traits) and I share a 3-2-2-3 (50%) custody relationship of our 2.25 year old daughter. We have been separated since she was 10 months...

50/50 Custody in the Teen Years

Posted on 8/10/2015

Follow up to previous question: Answer appreciated and understood. But how many times should we permit said stepdaughter to go back and forth between homes? Legally our custody is 50/50. My...

Parent Alienation

Posted on 7/7/2015

What is your opinion on severe parent alienation? The child seems brainwashed! How can a child have a loving relationship with his mother and grandmother and all of a sudden show fear of them...

Custody Battle

Posted on 6/20/2015

I am considering relinquishing my rights to my son for the fact that I can not continue with the father micromanaging my life and the LIES and deceit he brings to court and I feel so RELIEVED TO...

7 yo Tattling

Posted on 6/16/2015

I have a very bright 7-year old step-grandson, "Jake," whose parents have been divorced since he was 2. After every visitation with his dad, his mom grills him to determine whether her ex has done...

8 Year Old Prefers Dad

Posted on 5/28/2015

I am a divorced/re-married mom of an 8-yr-old son. My ex also has remarried and has 2 daughters with his current wife. We share 50/50 custody. I battled infertility issues and so my son is adopted...

17 year old Drinking

Posted on 3/9/2015

My husband and I are seeking advice concerning our 17 year old son (my step son). My husband and his mom are divorced and my step son goes back and forth staying with us and his mother. However,...

Kids Aren't Ping Pong Balls

Posted on 3/5/2015

I have a daughter going through a divorce and the husband just wants a 4-3-34 split so he can have equity (he suffers from Narcissistic personality disorder. I have been to your lectures ,once as...

Divorced Parents on Opposite Ends of Discipline Spectrum

Posted on 1/28/2015

3.5 yr old with "Rosemond" mom/boyfriend and "Chaos" dad/girlfriend. Our grandson spends every other weekend with his dad and will soon spend every other week this summer. Dad has not been a...

14 year old wants to live with his father

Posted on 12/26/2014

I’ve been remarried for 3 years to my husband who has 2 other children. My 14 year old son spends 50/50 time with us and my husband’s two kids see us every other weekend. His father has since...

10 year old visiting bio mom

Posted on 12/19/2014

My ten-year-old's biological mother has not visited or attempted to make contact in more than five years. I have always been his mom; his friends and teachers don't even know that I'm "not". Said...

Divorced Parents don't agree on when to toilet train

Posted on 12/19/2014

My husband's three-year-old son lives with his mother visiting us regularly in evenings and overnight on weekends. His third birthday was in October and as of today, he has not even started toilet...

Dating Again

Posted on 10/29/2014

I am a divorced father of a 5 year old girl. I have had primary custody of our daughter for 1 ½ years- however the actual divorce judgment was signed a mere 2 months ago. (My daughter doesn't...

Stepsons and Chaos

Posted on 10/28/2014

I have two stepsons ages 8 and 5, who have behavioral problems. When they visit our home it is total chaos. They say they don't want to be at our house and just want to go back to their moms....

1 yo Divorce/Custody Issues

Posted on 10/24/2014

Dear Dr. Rosemond, I have an 18 month old daughter who is a normal, happy toddler. My soon-to-be-ex husband is my concern. He was never good with change, but the birth of our daughter catalyzed...

14 yo Custody Issues

Posted on 10/22/2014

Situation is divorce with 14 year old girl who is in mother's custody, has moved with Mom, new school, involved in lots of activities, wants social life. But Dad lives in another town and insists...

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