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Adjusting to a New Pre School Can Be Hard
Posted on 9/25/2020
We are struggling with our 3-year-old at school. She started in PK-3 this year at a new school. The past 3 years she has been in daycare/pre-school. Where to begin... and by the way all of these...
Read MoreToddler Tantrums and Disrespect
Posted on 7/23/2020
My three-year-old is extremely disrespectful, yells, "Noooooo!" says, "I can't," when told to clean up toys, and will kick and bang on the back of his bedroom door when placed in time out. I...
Read MorePre-Teen: A Lingering Fever
Posted on 3/24/2020
We are having some trouble with our 12 year old son. I can see how things have progressed and how we haven't quite followed the Rosemond plan. He is very rude with his sisters, he talks back a lot...
Read More6 Strikes in 1 At-bat
Posted on 3/15/2020
Hi John, my 9yr old daughter has taken to raising her voice, screaming, arguing, sarcasm and just downright disrespect when things aren't going her way. We have a target misbehavior chart and she...
Read MoreThe Truth Is, 2-Year-Olds Have Tantrums
Posted on 2/11/2020
My 2 1/2-year-old daughter throws a tantrum while in public - not at home (or at least less severe at home). As an example, we spend time on Sunday mornings encouraging her to behave during Mass...
Read MoreToo Much To-Do From a Toddler
Posted on 11/14/2019
My daughter is 21 months. She constantly wants me to hold her when we are home. I cannot keep it up. If I don’t hold her when she wants, she cries and cries. Help! What should I do? Also, she’s...
Read MoreToddler Tests the Limits
Posted on 11/13/2019
My son is 11 months old today. When I tell him not to touch something, he will almost immediately touch the item. When he does, i remove the item from his hand and tell him that he is not allowed...
Read MoreMom looking for Plan B to make Toddlerhood easier
Posted on 11/3/2019
I have a perhaps unusual question. We are about to embark on toddlerhood and toilet training, and want to be prepared in case things don't go smoothly. I think we will need an alternative to...
Read MoreResetting The Dial Can Be Best Bet
Posted on 10/21/2019
What are the suggested number of target behaviors and daily tickets for children of the following ages: 1) boy age 5 - generally a low-misbehaver, main problem is tantrums, sometimes disobeys or...
Read MoreBe the Alpha Female
Posted on 10/10/2019
Our 5 yo son is very well-behaved at school (he just started kindergarten 6 weeks ago) but his behavior has worsened by extremes at home. Especially at bedtime, if I don't snuggle him in his bed...
Read MoreTeach Tweenager How to Manage Anger
Posted on 10/8/2019
Hi There, My daughter will be 11 yo on February, she is such a sweet/sensetive girl who likes to please others, but when she becomes angry she can not control it , she melts down for a while then...
Read MoreToo Many Expectations for 9-Year-Old
Posted on 9/25/2019
My daughter is 9, she is very respectful (although disobeying and arguing are not respectful) and has great manners ("yes ma'am", "yes, sir"). She has given me a run for my money her whole life...
Read MoreOdd Behavior is Normal
Posted on 9/22/2019
Hi there, our son just turned 4 in August. Recently, when we scold him, he begins to slap himself. He does this in public too. Is there anything we can do about this? Thank you!
Read MoreDon't give up!
Posted on 9/7/2019
Few days ago, I posted a question regarding my 23 month old who is strongly refusing to sleep on her own, and Kaye Wilson answered my question under the 2-yo Bedtime Tyrant title. I have been...
Read More"Doctor" Makes House Call for 5 YO Preschooler
Posted on 9/7/2019
My 5 year old girl is strong willed, defiant and disobedient. She throws frequent tantrums when not getting her way. At school she is fine but anywhere else she acts out (screams, rages, scowls,...
Read MoreWrestle Mania
Posted on 9/3/2019
We started the ticket system with our 3 year old a few weeks ago (along with working on changing our language to Alpha language). I think he gets it. He can verbalize the basics of the system and...
Read MoreNo Toddlers Allowed!!
Posted on 8/29/2019
I am currently reading Making the "Terrible" Twos Terrific and in Q&A section of Chapter 3, a mom asks about her son who throws things, even in restaurants. In his response to the mother, Dr....
Read MoreTantrum Thrower Wants Her Way
Posted on 8/29/2019
My daughter is close to 19 months and she has been doing tantrums when she doesn't get her ways for the last three months now. Lately, it has been getting worse. She does the back arching,...
Read MoreWild Child
Posted on 8/17/2019
We recently started he ticket system with our 3 and 5 year old children. It has worked well with our 5 year old but our three year old has lost all his tickets multiple times. Often, the loss of...
Read MoreTrouble with Transitions at Preschool
Posted on 7/10/2019
A follow up to my previous question... we have had several informal conferences with the director of my 3 y/o son’s preschool. It seems like everything is fine until he is asked to do something...
Read MoreAdjusting to Preschool Can Be Tough
Posted on 7/4/2019
My almost 3-year-old son has been attending the same Montessori-based preschool for the past year. 90-95% of the AM drop-offs have been difficult for him resulting in a meltdown. His teacher...
Read More4 and 5 year old brothers tag team Mom
Posted on 6/12/2019
My older boy, age 5 has been on the ticket system for about 9 months. He starts the day with 3 tickets and his misbehaviors are screaming at us and not obeying us. My younger boy, 4 has recently...
Read More2.5 year old won't share Grandma
Posted on 6/11/2019
2.5 year old only wants Grandma when she is around. Grandma lives out of state, so when we see her we are together for day/night at least a week. 2.5 yo only wants Grandma to take care of, play,...
Read MoreWill the Terror Ever Stop?
Posted on 5/30/2019
Our son who is almost 5 went back to throwing tantrums and have started hitting on a few occasions again. We're wondering if he'll ever stop. We have put him back on the 30 sticker program with a...
Read MoreStrike a Balance
Posted on 3/26/2019
I’m having a difficult time with my nearly 6 year old son. It feels like we are butting heads all of the time. He has become increasingly more sensitive lately. Throwing huge tantrums, crying over...
Read MoreBattle Weary
Posted on 3/21/2019
I have 18 month old twins, a boy and a girl. They haven't yet developed verbal skills; they don't recognize "no", or even their own names. I've been told that this is common among twins at this...
Read MorePut Tantrums In Their Place
Posted on 3/2/2019
We have a 3 year old who throws temper tantrums but we can’t send him to his room because he won’t stay and goes on & on with no way to keeping him put. How do you deal with such high emotions and...
Read MoreTransition From Servant to Teacher
Posted on 2/20/2019
Three year old temper tantrums, what is the resolution? When he doesn't get what he wants or disobeys, he goes off on a tangent only to calm down when he gets what he wants or is distracted.
Read Morechildren not listening
Posted on 12/23/2018
Hello. A tiny bit about us: I had 5 children in 4.5 years: 3 girls then twin boys, now 6, 4.5, 3, & 18 mos (x2). I stay at home and do not work. The 6 yr old is in Kinder and other two girls...
Read MoreDoctor Makes House Call for 5 yo
Posted on 12/3/2018
My 5 year old son Dane is currently enrolled in Pre-K at a Catholic elementary school. He loves school once he gets there and has great behavior in the classroom, High praises from his teacher,...
Read MoreFOMO=NOMO
Posted on 12/3/2018
4 year old boy with FOMO (fear of missing out) Our 4 year old son melts down any time it’s time to leave somewhere fun (school, tennis, friends house, etc) is there anything I can do to nip this...
Read MoreLonging for a peaceful home
Posted on 11/23/2018
What is your advice for a child who refuses to stay in their room? Up until recently we had been locking our daughter’s door when she had lost all her tickets on the ticket system. This last...
Read More6 year old's Target Misbehaviors must be concrete and specific
Posted on 10/29/2018
We have been doing the chart system for a week now with our 6 year old son targeting disrespect/defiance and disobedience. We started out with 8 squares a day. There have only been a few days when...
Read MoreOut of Control 7yr old
Posted on 10/27/2018
Hi, my husband and I would appreciate some advice on our situation with our 7 year old daughter. Her medication has become ineffective recently and we are at our wits end with what to do with...
Read More5 yro tantrums
Posted on 10/7/2018
Hi there. We have an almost 6 year old girl who has horrific tantrums. They occur about once every two weeks. Is this normal? Our other kids tantrums were never this awful (even worse than the...
Read More5 year old boy behaves better at school than at home
Posted on 10/4/2018
My 5 year old son is in preschool, and we are working very hard on his behavior and manners. He still has tantrums which I am working hard to end. Lately, when he has a tantrum or is disrespectful...
Read MoreUse John's ABC or DRC Method for Issues at School?
Posted on 9/24/2018
My son is currently in the 4th grade. At the beginning of the school year, we implemented the "ABC's of Effective Homework Management" and as expected, our son has been slacking on his homework...
Read MoreTantrums in 4 YO boy
Posted on 8/27/2018
I’ve read many of the tantrums questions - how to deal when the child is 4-5. My child is 4 and throws multiple tantrums with plenty of disrepect - and demands that he needs to pee, he’s scared,...
Read More6 yo Throwing Wits Ending Tantrums
Posted on 8/17/2018
I am at my wit’s end. My 6 year old is making life miserable for our household. She is very strong willed and gets very angry easily. At school she gets certificates for her “model behavior”....
Read Moretaking back authority over 7yo
Posted on 8/12/2018
I recently discovered Mr. Rosemond's books. My husband and I are now implementing his ideas with our 7 year old son who gets easily frustrated when he doesn't get his way, ignores our demands,...
Read MorePreschooler with an Attitude
Posted on 8/8/2018
Our 4, almost 5 year old has developed a very strong attitude problem lately. Everything that my husband or I tell her turns into her talking back. We have always told her “because I said so,” but...
Read MoreOverwhelmed Mom wants to take back her authority, but can't stop yelling
Posted on 8/7/2018
My son is extremely defiant and NOTHING we have tried thus far has made a difference. Spanking him has to be done several times over, and is always accompanied by screaming, blaming, back-talk,...
Read More4 yo behavior more important than emotions
Posted on 8/1/2018
I regularly read your newsletter, books and read QandA's on your website. You often talk about expecting our kiddos to control their emotions. I totally agree!! I regular tell my kids that if THEY...
Read MoreThree year old adapting to changes
Posted on 7/25/2018
Our daughter turned 3 in May and it was around that time that we became aware of John Rosemond's books. We learnt that we were not authoritative in our parenting style nor did we use alpha speech,...
Read More9 YO Daughter In Need Of Wake Up Call
Posted on 7/14/2018
My 9 year old daughter is defiant and refuses to go to her room when disciplined. She is too big and strong for me to carry her and she won’t stay even if I manage to get her there. She feels...
Read MoreHow to effectively delay consequences for 5,6 yros
Posted on 7/7/2018
I’m struggling to understand how to enact delayed consequences as described in The “Nipping” Principle and could use some suggestions. It’s easy enough to do while on errands as both my 5 and...
Read MoreScreaming, and Crying and Tantrums, Oh, My!
Posted on 6/23/2018
4 year old daughter suddenly having 30-45 mins tantrums when she doesn’t want to do something. Kicks, screams bloody murder, throws herself around to the point of hurting herself or me, will not...
Read MoreToddler tantrums at the store
Posted on 6/18/2018
Hi there, how do I tell my 33 month old no at the store. Is there a way to avoid a tantrum? Do I just snatch the item away and exit the store as quickly as I can? It has been a lot more difficult...
Read More6yro pouts
Posted on 6/18/2018
My 6 year old son is generally well-behaved. He does have one behavior that I‘m at a lost to correct. He pouts when he is disciplined – by pouting I mean the skin around his eyes turns red, he...
Read MoreThe Terrible Three's
Posted on 6/15/2018
My 33 month old has recently begun yelling all of his responses. He gets frustrated very easily and says, “Stop! Stop it, mommy!” and “Goooosh!” "No!" is his favorite word, and now he yells it....
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