"As children grow older, parents must give them greater freedom, including greater freedom to make mistakes. "

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Adult children continue to be parented.

Posted 4 days ago

Do you have any advise on how to recconect with an estranged adult child who is in their 30's? And yes, I made all the "giving your child self-esteem" mistakes in the 1980-2000 that you speak...

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10 yo Autistic Trouble with Abstract School Assigments.

Posted 4 days ago

My son is in 5th grade. He has autism. It's really hard for him to talk about him and to express ideas when come to write ideas and team work. It's more and more hard at school. They have to...

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Playing with children - this mom gets it.

Posted 4 days ago

My daughters (currently 5 and 7) ask me to play with toys with them (specifically) every few days. I have told them that they don’t need me to play and I have things I need to get done around the...

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Toilet Training at daycare

Posted 4 days ago

I am a full-time working mother. When my oldest daughter (now 3) was 19 months old, I gave birth to her little sister (now 20 months). I had read your toilet training book and knew that I wanted...

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2 1/2 year old help with wiping?

Posted 4 days ago

Good evening! My toddler is able to complete all tasks when using the potty except wiping her bottom after a bowel movement. She is not yet 2 1/2, but she's motivated to do this. I am wondering...

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Teen Meltdown

Posted 4 days ago

I read on here to take a time out before engaging with a teen and making a decision. Then once giving your decision, being a 'robot' when responding. We have an intelligent, 6ft, almost 15 yr old...

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31 Month Old Holding "Himself"

Posted 5 days ago

My 31 month old son started potty training about 5 days ago. Things are going wonderfully! I could not be more pleased with plan from TTWT! The problem we have run into though is my son seems to...

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26 month old Toilet Training Troubles

Posted 1 week ago

We are on day two of potty training our 26 month old. She had a little leaking but successfully peed twice and pooped once the morning of day 1. Since then, when she has to go, she starts...

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Unsupervised Backyard Play?

Posted 1 week ago

I was a child of the Eighties and was allowed to play outside in our front yard (without a fence) without supervision starting at about age 5 or 6. I was often outside playing with the neighbor...

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Discouraging Sexual Activity

Posted 1 week ago

We have a 15 year old daughter who continues to lie. She currently is grounded for a month, no social events, technology, etc. per the Rosemond Method. She appears to be feeling the pain of this...

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Motivating Better Grades

Posted 1 week ago

Hi! I am working on consequences that will "motivate" my 13 year old son to put in more effort at school. I am ready to take away everything (cell phone, electronics, tv, time with friends, etc)...

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Note to self - don't leave this 5 year old alone with friends.

Posted 1 week ago

I have a 5yo boy who is not respectful of other people's things. During a party at a friend's house with lots of children, he tore the thumbs off of oversized "Hulk hands". At his sister's...

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YMCA child care ok for 1 yo?

Posted 1 week ago

What are your thoughts on letting kids stay in child care at local YMCA for one to two hours a day. I stay at home with them. They are 1 and 2. I am worried that may be to much time away from me...

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How to remove Grandpa from son's life

Posted 1 week ago

Hello, I would like some advice regarding a difficult conversation with my 4 year old (recently turned 4) . It has become clear to my husband and I through a string of events that we should...

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Does Grandma make toddlers unruly?

Posted 1 week ago

How much time is too much time away from home? I stay at home with our two little ones and have grandparents right down the road....the issue is they don't make our kids mind so we dread their...

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How Much Time Away From Home?

Posted 1 week ago

I asked this earlier and got a great response but wanted to ask a different way....how much time is too much time away from home? Is one day a week, three times a week? What would be the...

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The doctor says...

Posted 1 week ago

Hello, I have a 6 (7 in May) year-old daughter who is the oldest girl of three. She's very bright, articulate, caring, giving...you get the drift. As she's gotten older, she has started to...

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4 y/o Bedtime Monster

Posted 1 week ago

Our 4 year old great-grandson has been living with us for almost 8 months. He is fairly good during the day (unless he has not had a nap). He goes to preschool 3 days a week. And went to the...

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12 yo Social Life Taking Over Grades

Posted 1 week ago

My 12 yo daughter has gone from straight A's in elementary school to C's & D's in middle school. It's not because she can't do the work, she chooses not to. Her friends and social life seem to be...

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12 yo Rage Out of Control

Posted 1 week ago

My 12 year old son has occasional anger issues and when he gets spun up (usually after I say no to him about something unreasonable) he gets into an extreme almost rage type anger. He has...

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16 yo thief needs strong response

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have read teen proofing once and am in the process of reading it again. But I do not know what to do about our teenage daughter. This afternoon after church I found my extra set of car keys in...

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Appropriate Age for Cell Phone

Posted 2 weeks ago

You do not recommend teens have cell phones At what point, do you think it is ok for a person to have one? When they can work and pay for it themselves?

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Take a Deep Breath, Don't Micromanage Potty Training

Posted 2 weeks ago

We're on day 5 of potty-training our 18-month-old son according to Toilet Training Without Tears (which I've read several times now), and I'm wondering if I'm micromanaging. I think I have this...

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3 1/2 yo doesn't mind spending the day in her room

Posted 2 weeks ago

We have been using the ticket system to target our 3 1/2 year old daughter's disobedience. On the occasions that she has lost all 5 tickets and is sent to her minimally entertaining room, it does...

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6 year old's friendships

Posted 2 weeks ago

How can I make my 6yr old (only child) understand he can have many friends and not just one? He tends to become obsessive about a friend that he really is keen about. We had a problem last year at...

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Aggressive Kindergartener

Posted 2 weeks ago

Hi, My son is 6-years old and is in kindergarten. He's been having a hard time controlling his temper. We are able to help him at home but at school he's been getting into trouble. He gets so...

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2 yo Screamer

Posted 2 weeks ago

Recently our 2 year old daughter has been screaming No at us when we tell her she cannot have something or generally not give her what she wants... we have tried simply ignoring, time out, and...

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2 Year Old Pacifier Attachment

Posted 2 weeks ago

Suggestions for taking away pacifier for 2 year old that is VERY attached? She also has a blankie, which she associates with her paci..

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Whiny tantrums.

Posted 2 weeks ago

I feel kind of ridiculous asking a question now when I thought I had the Rosemond-style discipline stuff nailed. At the moment, my kids are upstairs in their rooms for the remainder of the day...

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Toddlers and resilience

Posted 2 weeks ago

I resigned my job to stay home with my 26 month old son and will soon have a baby end of April. When I resigned we had to give up the work daycare he was in 2.5 days a week. He seemed to miss the...

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8 yo general discipline

Posted 2 weeks ago

We have an almost 8 (turns 8 in 10 days) year old boy who is very difficult. He whines and throws fits and is very often just negative. He is super smart, but extremely lazy. He plays well by...

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Stir crazy hotel living with preschoolers

Posted 2 weeks ago

We just moved to Germany from the us. We have been living in a hotel for over 45 days. I have two boys ages 3 and 5. This move has been tough on everyone. We are currently doing the ticket...

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To potty train or not.

Posted 2 weeks ago

Would you please help me clarify some reasonable expectations for our potty-training journey? We're three days in with an 18-month-old boy. I'm realizing that this is going to be a long process,...

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5 Year Old Ticket Question

Posted 2 weeks ago

If our 5 year old loses all of his tickets and is sent to his room for the rest of the day, he will usually fall asleep on his bed. When bedtime rolls around, putting him to bed an hour early is a...

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5 Year Old Poop "Accidents"

Posted 2 weeks ago

My little girl just turned 5 a few days ago. For the last year, she has been been occasionally pooping in the bathtub. She claims she can't feel it coming. After talking and trying many methods, I...

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Teenaged son not making the grade

Posted 2 weeks ago

My 13 year old son is bright but very lazy when it comes to school work and grades. Even though he tested as gifted, he does not want to put the time or effort in that is required to do well. We...

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Teen sex.

Posted 2 weeks ago

our 16 year old son has become sexually active with his girlfriend. This began last summer, they broke up for 4 months, but have resumed their relationship this past week. They were both virgins...

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Website Policy

Posted 2 weeks ago

So the saga with my DS continues. It has been 2.5 months of consequences & he has not gotten his act together with handing school work in on time & he has lost his precious phone & social...

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Traveling and Potty Training

Posted 2 weeks ago

We're starting potty-training with my 18-month-old son. I've tried to block off this month as much as possible, but I'm realizing that we're going to have to make some trips (store, church, a...

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18 mo Won't Stay on Potty

Posted 2 weeks ago

I'm potty-training my 18-month-old son, and I'm a little confused about what to do if he doesn't want to sit on the potty. I've read TTWT and a lot of the QAs on this site, but I still don't...

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Explaining to 8 yo about Transgender Classmate

Posted 2 weeks ago

The elementary school where my 8 year old 3rd grader attends, just sent home a letter stating that a classmate has chosen to come out as transgender. The letter further states that the school will...

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Troubled Young Teen?

Posted 3 weeks ago

This question is in reference to the October 2016 question regarding my 13 year old's act of vandalism. Fast forward 8 months later. He has completed his punishment, but not without having to...

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What to Do When Older Sister Is Mean to Younger Sister

Posted 3 weeks ago

Our older daughter continues to be a source of hurt to her younger sister. They are three years apart and both teens. They are both well liked in the community, praised by teachers, active in...

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A 3 year old with power.

Posted 3 weeks ago

Three questions! FIRST: Our 3.5-year old daughter is very independent, smart, and stubborn (best and worst qualities of the two of us!). She started preschool in the fall. She has two twin...

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frustrated 3 yo won't talk

Posted 3 weeks ago

When my 3 year old daughter gets frustrated she will 'lock up' - not speak or express what's wrong. This usually happens instantaneously when we do something that she wants to do but we do it...

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Don't Ask, Do Tell!

Posted on 1/29/2017

I have a 13 year old who has always been defiant. She is bright, and a fantastic kid, but when she is asked to do something she doesn't wan, the fight is on. She will not do what I ask, or will...

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Toddler Throws Food

Posted on 1/29/2017

We love your advice and have been following the "Turning the Terrible Twos Terrific" with our 19 month old son however we have a food thrower. We feed him before we eat, he's at his own toddler...

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What I said...

Posted on 1/27/2017

My seven year old daughter has been correcting me lately. I'll tell her something like " I need you to bring your toys to your bedroom." And she will respond with "You mean stuffed animals." She...

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2 yr old screams during the night

Posted on 1/26/2017

Hello, My just-turned-two year old daughter sleeps through the night and has done so since she was at least six months. That being said, every so often, she wakes in the night and just screams...

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6 yr-old stealing candy

Posted on 1/26/2017

6 yr old son stealing candy or food from everywhere. Every store we go in to, School, Friends lunches, computer class, etc. Every punishment known and nothing works. Spanking, time out, time...

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