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Don't talk so much

Posted 4 weeks ago

My 4 year old daughter has been having problems listening and following directions, particularly at her after school program. She gets written up at least once a week and has been suspended from...

Challenges to challenging behaviors.

Posted on 3/20/2024

Our 5.5 year old boy consistently whines, cries or throws mild tantrums at disappointments. We recognize this is inappropriate, but have struggled to have victory in this area. Typically, when...

Not Listening the First Time

Posted on 3/20/2024

We believe in the necessity of our children obeying the first time they are told-without challenge, delay or excuse. However, we also wish to walk the tightrope of a loving, nourishing home,...

Upping the Ante Not Working with Misbehaving 5YO

Posted on 3/17/2024

We have a 5 year old who continues to disobey. We tell her “go upstairs it’s time to brush your teeth.” Or “It’s time to clean up your legos.” And she’ll say, “No!” If we up the ante and say,...

Choices for Children?

Posted on 2/28/2024

Hello, listening to John's podcast. Great stuff. When is it permissible to allow a child a choice? I understand John speaks against 'democratic' parenting but would be good to hear a podcast...

Grandparent's observation.

Posted on 2/27/2024

My almost 4 year old(in one month) Grand Daughter vigorously fights her parents over many things. In the morning, she fights over the choice of clothes and getting dressed(30-45 mins). She often...

Disruptive Diner

Posted on 2/21/2024

Our youngest child is 5 and was adopted as an infant (not a newborn). He has strong food preferences. Our other boys (biological) eat well; they can be picky at times, but we don't fix special...

Require Independent Play

Posted on 2/17/2024

We are trying to promote our kids to be more independent with regards to their play. They are all boys ages 9, 7 and 5. They can play independently, but still want me to play with them and often...

Child Sneaking out of Room for Snacks

Posted on 2/17/2024

When using the Doctor Method and sending your kids to bed early, what do you do when your kid is then so well rested, wakes up before everyone else, and rummages through the kitchen? My 5-year-old...

Teaching Manners to a Five-Year-Old

Posted on 2/7/2024

During a recent visit to a private school we are considering sending our daughter to, I found it difficult to have a conversation with the school staff due to my daughter's constant whining and...

How to use charts/tickets with 3 kids

Posted on 1/13/2024

How to decide to use chart or ticket system for 3 kids? 11 y/o and 9 y/o sons would have same misbehaviors #1 Do things 1st time asked #2 Clean up after yourself #3 Aggravating sibling (Sibling...

Time for a Visit From the Doctor

Posted on 12/29/2023

I'm at a loss for direction. I tried lumping my kids together with a chart just to find how different they are. My 4 y/o loves to relentlessly antagonize my 5 y/o whiner, and my 7 y/o loves to...

FOUR YEAR OLD PEE ISSUES

Posted on 12/7/2023

Lately our 4 year old seems to have some issues surrounding going to the bathroom. He will say things like “I saw the picture and it made me have to pee.” Or he sees something “girly” and it...

Strut and Fret your Hour upon the Stage--when dealing with a 5-year old NAG

Posted on 12/3/2023

When my son (5) gets sent to his room for time out, he goes into his room and begins throwing demonic-style tantrums. He hits the door and screams at the top of his lungs. When he’s done, he comes...

Turn to Tickets for Sibling Conflicts

Posted on 11/23/2023

I have 3 children (7, 5 & 4) who play very well together. They don't always get along well, and I'd like to do the chart system for them for the same behaviors (whining/tantrums, misusing...

Perfectionism and Kids

Posted on 11/7/2023

I have a 4-year-old son, 6-year-old daughter and 4-month-old. We are part of a homeschool co-op group that meets once a week. It isn’t a drop off co-op, so all parents stay the whole time. My...

Tickets. I’ve got your tickets!

Posted on 11/4/2023

Hello - we have been using some form of the ticketing system with our 5 year old daughter for about a year now. It doesn’t seem like we have made much progress. She is still consistently...

4 year old confessions

Posted on 10/28/2023

Lately my 4 year old son seems plagued by his thoughts. He will keep coming up to us and say things like “My brain keeps saying a bad word” (which is usually the word “stupid”) or “My brain keeps...

It's Her Problem

Posted on 10/26/2023

Hello, My 5.5 year old daughter is praised for her behavior by all caregivers outside the home. At home, when I give her a command like “go brush your hair,” she will dawdle, say “not yet” or...

When Bedwetting Returns

Posted on 10/19/2023

Our 4-year-old daughter has been potty trained for quite some time. We were successful with no accidents at nighttime wearing underwear. When we went on a few vacations this past summer, we used...

Character over emotions for 5yo

Posted on 10/16/2023

Our 5 year old shows signs of anxiety, and especially separation anxiety. It started when he was two, we moved 5 homes in 6 months (transitioning from the mission field) Bedtimes can be...

5yo being a 5 yo

Posted on 10/3/2023

Our 5 year old son is extremely emotional, and has no governor on his emotions. We don't expect him to have control over his emotions at this age, but we also do not know what is age-appropriate,...

5YO Testing the Limits

Posted on 9/25/2023

Our 5 year old is incredibly contrary; at times he argues or complains about everything. He'll say he doesn't like what's for dinner before he knows what it is, for example. His tantrums have...

To Lie or Not to Lie...

Posted on 9/18/2023

Our 5-year-old son has been telling lies. Most of the time he admits to them when we are questioning him. How do we punish him for lying without dissuading him to confess the truth as he has been?

3/4 yr old hitting/scratching

Posted on 9/8/2023

My (just turned) 4 year old has been hitting and scratching for a while now. It first began when she was at a day care that we think she may have had some physical/verbal abuse, but we're not sure...

Cannot serve two masters

Posted on 8/30/2023

Things are going better and God is helping us. I want to continue to stay on top of things and be a good leader for my kids. The issue is after a while, because of how life goes, I start letting...

How to Implement Chores With Young Children

Posted on 8/28/2023

Do you have any recommendations on what tasks that my 3 and 5-year-old can do and how to implement the routine of doing these tasks efficiently? I think they are old enough to start doing small,...

Chores, chores YES

Posted on 8/25/2023

I'm not good at consistently requiring my son's aged 5 and 3 to do any chores around the house. I think they are old enough to start doing regular small tasks but I'm not good at holding them to...

How to Purge the Toys

Posted on 8/25/2023

I have 2 boys aged 5 and 3 and a 1-year-old girl. We are trying to reduce the number of toys we have by gifting the toys we don't need anymore. However, I am finding it difficult to decide which...

5 yo girl obsessed with sweets

Posted on 7/23/2023

Sugar/Candy Crazy! My daughter is 5 and she is fixated with sweets. It’s all she talks about (donuts, cakes, cookies, candy anything) and she’s old enough that we talk to her about healthy food...

Not Always Smooth Sailing for 2 and 4YO

Posted on 7/13/2023

I am trying to determine age-appropriate behavioral expectations for a 4.5 year old. He is obedient and does small chores. He knows there are behaviors completely unacceptable (hitting, throwing...

Change happens with commitment

Posted on 7/10/2023

Our 4.5 year old daughter has started having intense meltdowns - screaming and crying with most things bathroom: washing hands, brushing teeth, raising up or putting down toilet lid, flushing...

LITTLE ONE TELLS DAD "I DON'T LOVE YOU"

Posted on 5/26/2023

Grandson tells Dad. "I don't Love you" He doesn't say that to mom or grandmom . or even me. dad & mom work crazy shifts so they are ships passing in the night. Dad is home most nights and is a...

Teaching bedroom privacy

Posted on 5/15/2023

Hello, thank you for the parenting resources you have provided. We have 7 and 4 year old daughters. I am trying to implement Dr. Rosemond's parenting advice. My wife disagrees with things Dr....

Teaching gratitude to 4.5 yo boy

Posted on 4/15/2023

I’m struggling to teach my 4.5 year old son gratefulness. We don’t have strong behavior issues, but he will often say things like “Why doesn’t this water have ice?” Or “Why is her piece bigger...

How Do I Resolve My Daughter's Potty Training Accidents?

Posted on 4/8/2023

Our 4-year-old daughter continues to have pee “accidents.” I’m putting that word in quotation because I don’t know why she pees herself, because she’s been potty trained since she was 25 months...

How Do I Teach My Children Manners?

Posted on 3/23/2023

Hello! I have three girls, ages (almost) 5, 7, and 9. I'd love to follow Mr. Rosemond's advice on teaching them one manner per week. How do you suggest I do this in practice? For example, one week...

Remedy for Irritating Language

Posted on 3/12/2023

My son will be five in two months. He often says inappropriate things like "poo poo bum" or "I'm going to chop your leg off" or "I'm going to kill you“. He says them in response to not getting his...

Making Tickets Work

Posted on 3/2/2023

Hello - My wife and I have loved "The Well-Behaved Child". We implemented the ticketing for a 4 year old daughter and have noticed some improvements but there is more work to do. The consistent...

Unsolicited Advice?

Posted on 2/26/2023

Our son and daughter in law were telling us their 4 year old son (our grandson) hits his mom when he gets angry. She said she puts him in his room and he kicks and screams and throws a fit and...

Time to Turn the Tables on 4-Year-Old

Posted on 2/5/2023

My husband and I own and operate a private preschool. Our son is 4 1/2 years old is currently has been enrolled in our school since September 2021. Over the course of his enrollment, our son...

A TYRANT IN THE MAKING

Posted on 1/23/2023

Any suggestions to tactfully tell your adult parenting children that they are making a monster out of their 4 year old by trying to coddle him at every snag in his day. They are using some...

Attention-Getting Antics Working for 4YO

Posted on 1/12/2023

Our question is about punishment for our 4½ year old girl. Usually we ask her to stand in a circle on the floor, or we send her to her room for the rest of the night, or a fixed amount of time, no...

4 year old crying episodes

Posted on 1/11/2023

My grandson is 4 to be 5 in May of this year 2023. He is in a pre K public school and has been since September of 2022. He has been , we think, behind in his personal growth. During the birth he...

mom worried 4 yo boy is lying

Posted on 12/30/2022

When do children know/understand what lies are? I have a 4 year old, who sometimes tells fantastical stories that I truly believe he thinks are real. But I know that he is malevolently lying about...

Does Chicken Little Make You a Little Chicken? A Four-Year Old's Tantrumizing

Posted on 12/29/2022

Constant power struggle with 4-year old. Our 4 year old son’s behavior has done a complete 180 within the last couple of weeks only at home. Preschool and daycare is constantly telling us he’s...

Who's in Charge?

Posted on 12/29/2022

I have a 4 year old and a 15 month old. About 6 months ago he was misbehaving and we did the card system. It worked well. He is very good at school (just preschool 3 mornings a week) and with our...

Fears, Five Year Olds, and the Doctor

Posted on 12/12/2022

My daughter, age 5 1/2 recently started acting irrational. She refuses to get in the car and will unbuckle herself and jump out. This behavior started a week ago when she refused to sleep in her...

5 yo disrupts bedtime for sibling

Posted on 12/9/2022

My two oldest share a room, unfortunately that is our only option at this time, my son is 6 and my daughter is 5. Every single night our son lays down quietly, stays in bed and does his best to go...

The Doctor is In

Posted on 11/29/2022

Help! Our daughter is 5 and has become defiant and disobedient. For example she will come to us and say "I know I'm not supposed to (enter action) but I did." She said she's being truthful by...

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