We have a soon to be 12 year old daughter who we adopted at 6 years old. She was abandoned by her mother at a year and a half and was with one foster family before us. She has always been defiant. My husband and I are trying the kicking out of the Garden of Eden. It's off to a very rough start. What do we do when she does not go to her room at the end of the day after receiving multiple strikes and runs out of the house? As well as looking for luggage to pack a bag?