I am the parent of a new, 18-year-old adult, the oldest of my 4 children. What are your thoughts on parents giving children unsolicited advice and unsolicited help? At what age of the child should a parent start NOT doing this? I am thinking at 18, if not before, and the only thing appropriate are enforcing house rules when he is home from college, and having boundaries/limits around the things we financially support, like car insurance and tuition. I am working hard to remove "you should" and "you need" from my vocabulary.