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Fitting In

Posted 4 days ago

Hi have a soon to be 13 year old. He is in a new school, his old school was a Christian school. It has been somewhat of a struggle in middle school. From being the new student and being exposed to...

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To Share or Not To Share

Posted 2 weeks ago

I have two daughters. Ages 34 months and 4. I am seeing a trend with my four year old not wanting to play independently. She tries to take over whatever the youngest is playing with and wants the...

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Role Reversal Questions

Posted 3 weeks ago

What are your thoughts regarding a wife being the bread winner and a husband staying home with the children. I make significantly more money than my husband so it appears to make sense financially...

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Fifteen-Month-Old Not Sleeping Through Night

Posted on 10/25/2018

Hello! Our youngest daughter is now almost 15 months. I came across John Rosemond's books almost 6 months ago, and realized that I needed to change the way I approached her sleep (she was...

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Tickets Explained

Posted on 10/8/2018

Hi. I'm not quite sure how the ticket system works. I have a 10yo boy who pesters like crazy if he doesn't get his way. He also talks very sassy to his parents and grandparents. I desperately need...

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Preschool Potty Troubles

Posted on 10/5/2018

My 3 yr old boy knows when he needs to use the potty, but he won’t tell me. I’ve tried taking toys & TV he doesn’t seem to care. Thanks, This is very typical for a preschool boy. I have two boys...

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Withholding Birthday From 7 Year Old

Posted on 9/19/2018

Hi, My 7 year old daughter has a perfect word that describes her actions towards her home school and chores, and that word is lollygag. I have frustrations with this and have for awhile. I had to...

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6 Year Fearful of Being Alone

Posted on 9/19/2018

I’m looking for some feedback on how to handle our 6 year old boy’s fear of being alone. It started about a year ago and seemed to have lessened after a few months but has resurfaced recently with...

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Helping a Preschooler Go Potty Without Mom

Posted on 9/14/2018

Hi! I have a boy who will be 5 next month and he won't go to the bathroom by himself. I thought it was kind of cute when he always wanted to go with me and now I recognize the error of my ways. I...

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Toilet Training on the Run

Posted on 9/14/2018

We are following N75 with our 23-month-old. It is only day four, so I know I need to be patient. We are still having more accidents than successes, but are sticking with it as I know it's still...

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Parenting Teen on Autism Spectrum

Posted on 9/7/2018

Currently raising 5th 13 year old, other children’s ages 18-31, have read Teen Proofing several times and purchased book for friends. What Teen Proofing publication can John recommend to help me...

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What to Tackle First?

Posted on 8/9/2018

I am a recovering-yeller, and do not even have a 30-day chip under my belt. I have always been quick to anger and highly impulsive in my parenting "technique'. My son (9) is one of those...

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Aggressive Preschooler

Posted on 8/8/2018

My 3.5yr old son shows signs of aggression/not being able to control emotions/feeling when he doesn't get his way; it's mostly when I say the word 'No.' So this happens a lot. It is usually him...

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When discipline doesn't work

Posted on 8/8/2018

My son doesn't respond to most of the punishments we give because they have been given repeatedly. I have never sent him to bed without dinner, though there have been many times the situation was...

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When does a parent need to intervene with siblings?

Posted on 8/1/2018

I regularly read your newsletter and have read several of your books. I've heard you discuss the importance of kids being responsible for keeping the family peace and using a ticket type system to...

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Gating Answer to Child's Toilet Fears

Posted on 7/24/2018

We started potty training our daughter 5 months ago at 26 months and everything was going fine. She has not worn diapers during the day this whole time. About a month or so after she started...

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Daughter Not Eating Packed Lunch

Posted on 7/19/2018

Hello, I have a follow up question to my last. My daughters teacher keeps informing me daily that my daughter “ didn’t like her lunch” (which is everyday now for a few weeks). I did learn a few...

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Managing One-on-One Time

Posted on 6/27/2018

My 4 children are 6, 4, 2, and 6 months. I am kept pretty busy during the day with just feeding and naps and taking care of the house. My children ask for me to play with them often, or to spend...

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Screaming, and Crying and Tantrums, Oh, My!

Posted on 6/23/2018

4 year old daughter suddenly having 30-45 mins tantrums when she doesn’t want to do something. Kicks, screams bloody murder, throws herself around to the point of hurting herself or me, will not...

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When a Child's Frustration Spills Over

Posted on 6/23/2018

My 7yo son was doing a worksheet at school and made a mistake that he could still see after trying to erase it, so he asked for another worksheet. Since there was a substitute teacher, and there...

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When to Use the Chair of Wisdom

Posted on 6/4/2018

We have our 6 block daily charts set up for our 9 year old son. Since he is constantly defiant we decided that it is more than enough to just target disobedience as his one target misbehavior. A...

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How to Start Chores

Posted on 5/25/2018

My children are 3, 5, and 7 years old and until now I have done everything around the house - chores, cleaning, laundry, you name it. Why?? Because I stay at home and thought it was my job to make...

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The Witching Hour

Posted on 5/14/2018

ParentGuru, What can my wife and I do to help the children to be obedient and pleasing to be around during the hours of 6-8 PM? The children are ages 3-11. We find that at the end of the day...

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Teaching Modesty

Posted on 5/8/2018

What is the best way to teach modesty? Our son is six and much too curious. He has very little filter and is much need of guidance we really do not k ow the best way go give. Thank you for your...

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Chore In-completion

Posted on 5/7/2018

Our son will not complete any chore he asked to do. He will start a chore, (cleaning fish tanks and cleaning horse stalls) after being told many times but he doesn't complete it thoroughly after...

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Appropriate Response to Inappropriate Video Games?

Posted on 5/6/2018

Our 8-year-old son is seeing kids play graphic video games on portable gaming units. The most recent title was “Call of Duty,” with which we are familiar. We talked about the violence and realism...

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A Toddler Bucket of Sass

Posted on 4/30/2018

My 16 month old shook her finger and said no no in a sassy way after my husband told her no when touching something she shouldn’t. How do I correct the sass back at this age appropriately? My...

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Reforming Picky Eaters

Posted on 4/17/2018

We adopted 2 girls (ages 8 and 10 at the time) almost 5 years ago from an African country. They were incredibly picky eaters and refused to try new foods. I have been customizing our meals to...

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The Extracurricular Activities Freight Train

Posted on 4/17/2018

I'm trying to put a slow down on the extracurricular activities by asking them to choose one or two. How much input should they be allowed in deciding which ones? For example, I think they need...

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Teen Depressed or Just a Normal Teen?

Posted on 4/2/2018

My 17yo daughter claims to be anxious and depressed due to lack of best friends. She was homeschooled until junior year, when she enrolled in the local community college full time. She's getting...

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Should you spank a preschooler?

Posted on 3/29/2018

When is spanking appropriate with a 3yo? When my second child (a daughter) was around 3, we began punishing her for disobedience. As with her older sister, spanking was in our discipline...

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Mom's in Charge...Even Outside Home

Posted on 3/26/2018

We took charge and had to move on from N75 to the last chapter in Dr. Rosemond's book. We put them in separate bathroom and told them to tell us when they went. They did. Then when they had an...

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Lights Out for 16 Year Old?

Posted on 3/19/2018

Is it unreasonable to tell a 16-year-old boy he should have 'lights out' by 10:00? He works hard on school, despite not liking it, but often stays up until 1 or 2 a.m. doing homework or reading. ...

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Share Tickets for Fighting Siblings

Posted on 3/14/2018

I'm not sure how to handle a conflict between my two toddler boys. The younger one has a life mission of provoking the older to get into trouble or start a fight with him and will then play the...

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8 Year Old Too "Curious"

Posted on 3/13/2018

When my son was 5, he tried to search for "girls pee pee" and other related terms on his tablet, which luckily was on the child setting. We talked to him the best we could even though he denied it...

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Who's in Charge?

Posted on 3/12/2018

We started potty training our girl twins who are a little over three years old and 4 months (yes, we tried before and it wasn't successful and should have gone with my intuition and trained them...

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Early Riser, Fearful Playtime

Posted on 3/11/2018

Our almost 6 year old is an early riser. He is to stay in his room until 6 am and is then allowed to come down and play quietly. Lately he has been coming down and waking up mom and dad because...

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An Anxious Third Grader, Follow up

Posted on 2/21/2018

I'm replying to "Anxious Third Grader" that Sarah Hamaker wrote in response to my initial question. Hello Sarah, Thank you so much for your thoughtful response! I really appreciate it. I...

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An Anxious Third Grader

Posted on 2/15/2018

My nine-year-old son is experiencing anxiety and anger. My husband and I follow a traditional style of parenting and we are firm, have high standards for behavior, and are very loving. I believe...

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Disobedient, Defiant Sixth Grader

Posted on 2/7/2018

We have an 11-yr-old son who is disobedient and defiant. He simply won't do what he is told to do. He is chronically late getting ready for school, often telling us he isn't going (6th grade...

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Three Angry Teens, One Frazzled Mom

Posted on 2/6/2018

I have a 17 year old, a 15 year old and a 13 year old all whom believe life completely and utterly revolves around them. the 17 year old boy refuses to look for work, he has let his learners...

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How much screen time?

Posted on 2/1/2018

My husband and I disagree on how much video time the children can have. I don't think its appropriate on school nights, even if they get their chores/homework done. My husband thinks it has been a...

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Boys Will Be Boys?

Posted on 1/16/2018

We have two boys. One just turned 4 and the other is turning 3 this month. They wrestle, fight, hit each other, push each other, etc half of the time happily and the other half angrily. We know...

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Boys Will be Boys?

Posted on 1/12/2018

We have two boys. One just turned 4 and the other is turning 3 this month. They wrestle, fight, hit each other, push each other, etc half of the time happily and the other half angrily. We know...

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Toilet Training in the Great Outdoors

Posted on 1/9/2018

We started toilet training our 21 month old today and plan to stay close to home for the remainder of the week as he gets the hang of things. These next few days are predicted to be perfect for...

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Appropriate Chores for Preschooler

Posted on 1/5/2018

What chores are appropriate for a four-year-old to start doing on a regular basis? This is a great question because it shows that you realize your four-year-old can--and should--contribute to...

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17 month old Picky Eater

Posted on 12/18/2017

I have a 17month old son who is very uninterested in eating most of the time. I am still nursing but I would like to start weening in the next month but I’m concerned because he doesn’t seem to...

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21 Month Old Potty Training Hangup

Posted on 12/12/2017

I am potty training my 21 mo daughter, I followed N$75 for my son and it worked well, he was pretty well potty trained in 6 weeks, I started him at 23 months. We started my daughter almost 1...

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Preschoolers Early Risers

Posted on 12/6/2017

Our two older children, ages 4 and nearly 3, share a bedroom. In the mornings they like to get up very early (5am) and play together. My husband and I usually get up multiple times to tell them to...

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A 27-month-old Hitter, Pusher

Posted on 11/20/2017

Our 27 month old son who goes to a child care center in a bible study once per week is hitting and pushing other babies in the class. He specifically hits the younger kids either with a toy or...

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