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Field Trip

Posted 4 days ago

My son is 13. He is in 8th grade. The school he is attending goes on an intercession trip once a year. We did not allow him to go last year because of immaturity and he has stomach issues and has...

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Instilling Your Values

Posted 6 days ago

I'm looking for some guidance on how to talk to my young children about gay marriage. My kids are 9 and 6 years old. They just informed me that their art teacher is a girl who just married a girl....

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Toddler Trouble

Posted 2 weeks ago

What do I do to toddler sister who pushes down sister who is learning to sit and stand? Keep a closer watch over the sisters. Seriously, there's not much training beyond removing the temptation...

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Motivating the Morning Dawdler

Posted on 7/20/2019

How do I get my 5-year-old to do his morning routine - get dressed, make the bed, and brush teeth - without being told? We have put up pictures of what needs to be done, but he plays instead of...

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Slaying the Whiny Monster

Posted on 7/16/2019

We have 4 children: a 9 year old boy, twin boys who are 6, and a 3 year old girl. This question is about one of the 6 year old twins. He whines, complains constantly, and falls...

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A Morning Dawdler

Posted on 7/16/2019

Hi there, How do I get my 5 year old to do his morning routine - is get dressed, make bed and brush teeth without being told? We have put up pictures of what needs to be done but he plays...

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Siblings and Summer

Posted on 6/18/2019

Hi! I have an 8 year old daughter and boy/girl twin 6 year olds. I am writting in because my kids have been fighting a lot and gotten physical; pushing, hair grabbing, kicking sometimes even...

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Ending the Blame Game

Posted on 6/17/2019

My 5 year old son regularly blames others for his own mistakes, and for anything that he doesn't want to do. For example, this morning when I told him to help me with the dishes he pitched a...

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To Adopt or Not Adopt

Posted on 6/12/2019

Hello, We are considering adopting a child who was addicted to methamphetamine in the womb. He also was exposed to marijuana and cigarettes. We have compassion for him, and we know it is not...

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Miserable Meal Times

Posted on 6/6/2019

Our son makes mealtime miserable by yelling, complaining, and making a huge production out of eating what we serve. He also whines, begs, and screams about wanting us to "help him" eat his dinner...

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Will the Terror Ever Stop?

Posted on 5/30/2019

Our son who is almost 5 went back to throwing tantrums and have started hitting on a few occasions again. We're wondering if he'll ever stop. We have put him back on the 30 sticker program with a...

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Word of the Moment

Posted on 5/21/2019

My 4 year old child has learned the word “kill”. He tells me he is going to kill me and his one year old sister. I don’t think he knows what he’s saying. I tried to explain it but he won’t stop. I...

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Will Tablet Contribute to Budding Addiction?

Posted on 5/12/2019

My 11-year-old son wants a tablet. He gets great grades and we let him play some video games on his Wii. We notice he seems to be addicted. When we tell him to stop, he does what we say and...

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Time Management for Busy Moms

Posted on 4/19/2019

For a stay-at-home mom who is having difficulty with time management, what is a good balance between housekeeping/cooking duties, working from home, spending time with husband, and spending time...

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Get Off the Repeating Merry-go-round

Posted on 4/4/2019

When I am telling my children to do smth, or not to do, I have to repeat it many times. I have to raise my voice, but I hate to scream. Or when I tell my son to do smth, he would repeat after me...

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Potty Refusals

Posted on 4/1/2019

I am entering my 2nd month of potty training my 23 month old. He started off great, and we had a lot of success. However, I have noticed in the past two weeks, he has been EXTREMELY stubborn and...

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How Coaching Works

Posted on 3/27/2019

Thank you for the response and I’m so sorry for your loss. Can you clarify how the private parenting coaches work and how much it is and for what amount of time? I’ve been reading The Well Behaved...

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Homeschool Blues

Posted on 3/19/2019

I homeschool my 13 year old son. We are fairly new to our current city and have recently made friends by joining a local co-op. My son was asked, by his new friends, to join an additional co-op....

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Grumble Troubles

Posted on 3/19/2019

Our son is 5.5 yo and has often had a negative attitude, but in the past few weeks has taken a turn for the worse. He regularly grumbles and complains throughout the day and when given routine...

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Teaching Values to Teenagers

Posted on 3/18/2019

Good morning, How do I address a difference in values with my 18 year old son? He will graduate in 2 months so still lives at home. He is materialistic and very focused on brands and "image". He...

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Early Bird Turns Cranky

Posted on 2/12/2019

Good Evening, Our seven year old son has always been up with the birds (in WA that is anywhere between 4.30am-5.00am). On the plus side, he goes to sleep at 6.30pm without any trouble. We have...

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Why Should Children Listen?

Posted on 2/11/2019

I received a response from Sarah Hamaker, thank you. I'm writing in response to your response. As I said in my 1st note, this situation has been going on since our 14 year old was probably about...

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Children Ruling the Roost

Posted on 2/7/2019

Dear Dr. John Rosemond, My husband found out about your profession, while listening to one of your broadcasts. We have purchased several of your books about how to raise & disciplines children. I...

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Adult Daughter Troubles

Posted on 2/3/2019

Hi John, Thank you for your many books and tapes. I've listened to and read almost all of them. My daughter is adopted from Ukraine. We brought her home 2 days before her first birthday. ...

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3 Year Old Terror at Bedtime

Posted on 1/4/2019

My 3 year old is a terror at bedtime! She used to go down great, then 1 night everything changed. I lay with her in bed, if I get up before she is asleep she screams and gets out of bed. While I'm...

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Should You Worry About a Shy Kid?

Posted on 1/3/2019

My 10 year old daughter is shy and has trouble making friends. She can handle one on one situations, but she shuts down in a group. (and one on one is rarely the case as she has two sisters near...

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Outside Influences

Posted on 1/1/2019

I have 5 kids ranging from 3mo to 7 years old. Both sets of grandparents live local and are involved. One set is often I overreaching. They hold some Christian beliefs. They recently told our...

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Consequences

Posted on 12/19/2018

OK, I have a question concerning consequences using the system Dr. Rosemond has advocated for decades and that we used successfully with our oldest two (now delightful and responsible older...

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Communication

Posted on 12/18/2018

The John Rosemond books and this site have been helpful to me in regards to how I interact with my children. I would like to make our home a marriage centered home, but my husband and I have a...

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Preschooler Craves Attention

Posted on 12/12/2018

Hello. I am happy to report that following the advice I’ve received my four year old is now playing independently most of the day or happily with her younger sister. My issue is that when we have...

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Fitting In

Posted on 12/5/2018

Hi have a soon to be 13 year old. He is in a new school, his old school was a Christian school. It has been somewhat of a struggle in middle school. From being the new student and being exposed to...

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To Share or Not To Share

Posted on 11/23/2018

I have two daughters. Ages 34 months and 4. I am seeing a trend with my four year old not wanting to play independently. She tries to take over whatever the youngest is playing with and wants the...

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Role Reversal Questions

Posted on 11/16/2018

What are your thoughts regarding a wife being the bread winner and a husband staying home with the children. I make significantly more money than my husband so it appears to make sense financially...

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Fifteen-Month-Old Not Sleeping Through Night

Posted on 10/25/2018

Hello! Our youngest daughter is now almost 15 months. I came across John Rosemond's books almost 6 months ago, and realized that I needed to change the way I approached her sleep (she was...

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Tickets Explained

Posted on 10/8/2018

Hi. I'm not quite sure how the ticket system works. I have a 10yo boy who pesters like crazy if he doesn't get his way. He also talks very sassy to his parents and grandparents. I desperately need...

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Preschool Potty Troubles

Posted on 10/5/2018

My 3 yr old boy knows when he needs to use the potty, but he won’t tell me. I’ve tried taking toys & TV he doesn’t seem to care. Thanks, This is very typical for a preschool boy. I have two boys...

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Withholding Birthday From 7 Year Old

Posted on 9/19/2018

Hi, My 7 year old daughter has a perfect word that describes her actions towards her home school and chores, and that word is lollygag. I have frustrations with this and have for awhile. I had to...

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6 Year Fearful of Being Alone

Posted on 9/19/2018

I’m looking for some feedback on how to handle our 6 year old boy’s fear of being alone. It started about a year ago and seemed to have lessened after a few months but has resurfaced recently with...

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Helping a Preschooler Go Potty Without Mom

Posted on 9/14/2018

Hi! I have a boy who will be 5 next month and he won't go to the bathroom by himself. I thought it was kind of cute when he always wanted to go with me and now I recognize the error of my ways. I...

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Toilet Training on the Run

Posted on 9/14/2018

We are following N75 with our 23-month-old. It is only day four, so I know I need to be patient. We are still having more accidents than successes, but are sticking with it as I know it's still...

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Parenting Teen on Autism Spectrum

Posted on 9/7/2018

Currently raising 5th 13 year old, other children’s ages 18-31, have read Teen Proofing several times and purchased book for friends. What Teen Proofing publication can John recommend to help me...

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What to Tackle First?

Posted on 8/9/2018

I am a recovering-yeller, and do not even have a 30-day chip under my belt. I have always been quick to anger and highly impulsive in my parenting "technique'. My son (9) is one of those...

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Aggressive Preschooler

Posted on 8/8/2018

My 3.5yr old son shows signs of aggression/not being able to control emotions/feeling when he doesn't get his way; it's mostly when I say the word 'No.' So this happens a lot. It is usually him...

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When discipline doesn't work

Posted on 8/8/2018

My son doesn't respond to most of the punishments we give because they have been given repeatedly. I have never sent him to bed without dinner, though there have been many times the situation was...

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When does a parent need to intervene with siblings?

Posted on 8/1/2018

I regularly read your newsletter and have read several of your books. I've heard you discuss the importance of kids being responsible for keeping the family peace and using a ticket type system to...

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Gating Answer to Child's Toilet Fears

Posted on 7/24/2018

We started potty training our daughter 5 months ago at 26 months and everything was going fine. She has not worn diapers during the day this whole time. About a month or so after she started...

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Daughter Not Eating Packed Lunch

Posted on 7/19/2018

Hello, I have a follow up question to my last. My daughters teacher keeps informing me daily that my daughter “ didn’t like her lunch” (which is everyday now for a few weeks). I did learn a few...

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Managing One-on-One Time

Posted on 6/27/2018

My 4 children are 6, 4, 2, and 6 months. I am kept pretty busy during the day with just feeding and naps and taking care of the house. My children ask for me to play with them often, or to spend...

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Screaming, and Crying and Tantrums, Oh, My!

Posted on 6/23/2018

4 year old daughter suddenly having 30-45 mins tantrums when she doesn’t want to do something. Kicks, screams bloody murder, throws herself around to the point of hurting herself or me, will not...

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When a Child's Frustration Spills Over

Posted on 6/23/2018

My 7yo son was doing a worksheet at school and made a mistake that he could still see after trying to erase it, so he asked for another worksheet. Since there was a substitute teacher, and there...

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