Uninvolved Birth Father


I am a single mother with a 5yr old daughter. Her father is English and we were looking in to getting his green card and getting married, yet because certain things were becoming challenging, he chose to leave 3 days before she was born to return to England. We have only spoken 1 time since her birth and he said during that conversation that he was not in the position to be a hands on father, but wanted to send bday & Christmas cards until she started asking to meet him. Long story short, my daughter is very intuitive & intelligent and has begun asking very detailed questions over the last few months which I believe has stemmed from her friends at school asking why she doesn't have a father & who is her father & who she looks like, ect...I want to do what is emotionally & psychologically best for my daughter, and with me being an adoptee, I feel as if it is her right to know who her father is, but not sure how to go about it. I have said very simple, general (and nice) things about her father & that he lives very far away, but she is still wanting to meet him. When is the appropriate time to potentially do something like this. I had a very positive experience meeting my birth family and have a very good relationship with them, and I want the same for her as it relates to her paternal side of the family, but not sure how to go about it. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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